Hahahaha. That's hilarious @sliztee I noticed it doesn't take me to where I left off but I thought it was just me.
In terms of bathroom cleaning, I have been spraying cleaner and turning the fan on and I leave until the smell is gone even though that sometimes means it's dried already. Better than nothing. Scrubbing the tub is not worth the back pain later though.
Thanks @knottieamusements@spartan4life and @chopchop25 We spent 3 hours at the children’s hospital, they glued it closed so it won’t scar as badly. Getting her ready for bed now.
@jemmerjams don't be so sure! My July 16 pregnancy, the smell of secrets "Paris" Deodorant (and another I can't remember the name of at the second) gave me horrible migraines and made me crazy sick!
My bf is this "morning sickness" is bullshit! I had morning sickness last time and this isn't it! The nausea and puking doesn't stop and I've already lost 11.5 freakin pounds! And I'm only 11 weeks today. Doesn't seem like a very good start to me!
@sliztee - It is the Bump Gods’ punishment for criticizing their glorious creation. You must do penance by donating all the pickles in your house to the local food bank.
I had 4 really good days and then yesterday and today I've been miserable. I got a migraine last night and it's still not gone today. The weather in MI can't make up its mind and it's wrecking havoc on me.
I was supposed to be leaving for a tropical vacation with dh about 30 minutes ago. Instead I am laying in bed bumping and sad. I know less risk for the kid is so much better but I am still shaking my fist at Zika.
@jomama1618 yeah, I guess I do have a super nose now! Migraine did not go away overnight, so I'm going to rest/work from home today because I'm terrified to go back in to work and make it worse. It's not like I can just announce to my conference room that someone is giving me a migraine and needs to use less deodorant!!
Sorry guys, I am really late to the game here but just wanted to add a few things....
First, I TOTALLY understand the losing of independence thing. Its really hard for me to give in and ask for help with things. But heres the other side of the coin: My DH is currently training in the fire academy for our city fire department and its basically like bootcamp. Hes gone 10 hours a day, comes home and eats dinner in about 10 minutes then goes back to the office to study and is in bed by 9... I'm usually already asleep by then too. So, he has been pretty much useless around the house. He is not present enough to even help with dishes, cleaning, vacuuming... you know, the daily things and that can be really really frustrating. I am struggling energy-wise to maintain the house, dogs, work, and now the yard too. Its finally warming up here (I'm in New Mexico and spring is definitely here) so this past weekend, with my energy slowly coming back, I decided to start doing some spring cleaning and getting our yards in order. I quickly found there was a lot I could not do on my own (moving large bags of soil, messing with fertilizer for the lawn, etc.) and my husband won't be available to help until he's done with the academy in July. I don't even really have to option to ask him for help (thankfully my dad and sister came over to help me with some of those tasks) but if you have the option to get help, don't take it for granted!!! Its okay to let others help you, and always remember this is all temporary.
Sleeping and dreams. I was sleeping sooooo good in trimester 1 and now that I'm in 2, like most of you, I cannot get comfy. My low back and hips hurt and sleeping on my side feels so awkward. I still have raging heartburn too so I'm trying to prop myself up but that gets annoying. Thinking of buying the preggo U pillow.... would everyone recommend it? A certain kind???
@linssears4 I totally understand the long work hours, although not as extreme. DH is on day 9 in a row of working. He thankfully has Fri-Mon off this weekend, but only because we are going out of town. He's working anywhere from 8-12 hours a day and it changes by the day. Thankfully, the long hours will hopefully end soon, but it's been like this for about a month. I'm just reminding us both that the paycheck has been amazing.
I'm trying to give myself grace in terms of the house. Our sink has been piling up with dishes for a week now, hopefully DH will have some time to wash when I'm at my other job tonight.
Sorry for the long BF. Ultimately, I hate feeling like I'm being ignored as a patient and I hate when people can't seem to do their jobs.
I sent a message through the patient portal 6 days
ago to my OB letting her know I spoke to my insurance about NIPT and asking her to send a lab slip to
LabCorp, as they are the best priced contracted lab with my insurance. I gave her the address, phone number, fax number, and test codes. I
did all the leg work for her. I asked her to let me know when it was done so i
could schedule an appt to get the bloodwork done. They have a policy that they will "respond to all messages within 2 business days." She never responded.
I called yesterday
morning and the receptionist said she could see it was sent... to CVS instead (apparently my doctor blatantly ignored the details of my message and just sent it to my pharmacy on file, even though they don't have a lab to get blood work done there) so the receptionist said she would get it switched to LabCorp and it would be done within the hour.
I gave them a full day and called LabCorp this
morning and they still did not have anything from the practice ordering the
test.
I left a voicemail for my doctor's
medical assistant after I talked to LabCorp this morning and sent a reminder message through the patient portal asking them to please send the lab
slip and give me a call back.
It was very poor service. I feel agitated and very ignored. I know they are very busy and they never backfilled my old doctor's position and all just took on her patients, but it's been over a year since she left and either way, that's not an excuse for my current doctor to not respond to messages and voicemails.
Also, this isn't the first issue I've had with this OB, who I just started seeing in December. She is supposed to send me a letter of medical necessity so I can appeal a bill for a test she ran and insurance didn't cover (despite the fact that her medical assistant supposedly called and got preauthorization and confirmation of coverage). I have 6 months to appeal and we are in month 4 and every time I see her or manage to get her on the phone she says, "I'm going to do it today." Ugh. I hate being lied to. I think she's a very good doctor but this is part of your job (or your staff's) and you can't just ignore patients and their needs.
On the upside, after all that, I decided to send a message to the nurse practitioner who I had seen once before and explain the situation. One of her assistants called me back within a half hour. So not everyone at the practice acts this way. It seems my doctor is just too busy for the amount of patients she has and isn't great with responses so I think the best scenario
for me it to try a different doctor within the practice. And if that works and he/she is more responsive, then I will stay. And if not, then I will transfer practices. I am less ragey now haha
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
@sarahzett switching may be a good option. Alot of MDs have a much bigger patient panel. They oversee their own patients plus the NPs/PAs under them. Based of my work experience most times the messages sent online are sent to the medical assistant/nurse and only sent to the provider if they cannot do what you request, themselves. If you are comfortable switching to an NP/PA then by all means! They will consult with an MD if they need help.
@nayyohme I agree - I'm not tied to one MD. I had seen the NP before - I'm pretty much willing to see whoever is available on the days I'm looking for haha. I have seen my current doc ~3 times and so I thought she'd be my go-to but I'm not sticking with her. Luckily, it's early and there are plenty of other options at the practice. I have an appt set with a different MD for my 16 wk check and maybe I'll like him more than my current MD, or maybe I'll end up making more appts with the NP. I initially wanted to work with a midwife but it was such a bummer to find out the midwives at my practice don't deliver at the hospital I will be delivering at, just the hospital near their other location, so that's out. I'm hopeful a new doctor or the NP/PA will help alleviate the stress, as none of this would be necessary if my doctor would just communicate.
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
I know it's Tuesday but I have just one word to sum up my week so far: hemorrhoids. Fucking hemorrhoids.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
I am really starting to hate school. All these issues we had with our kids not listening and being disrespectful to us were pretty much gone by the end of spring break. They even stopped fighting constantly. They’ve been back to school for 2 days (its 3 day/week pre-K) and have done nothing but fight with each other and not listen to anything I tell them to do.
I just need to rant... to start I LOVE my job, it's great money, benefits, and really works well for me personally but it isn't for everyone.. r that being said, being away from home sucks sometimes.. I know its a huge part of my job but it puts a strain on my relationship with DH and it's like clock work.. we have a miniscule argument before I leave, it's resolved like nothing ever happened, things are great for a while, then out if nowhere he's a cranky jerk that puts everything on me... its like a light switch... He was getting a lot better since finding out were having a baby and i was really hoping this job would be the one where there is no fight, but I already feel it coming... It's always over something stupid, outside of my control, and there's nothing I can do about it over text a couple hundred miles away... sometimes they last until i get home and then he just pretends nothing ever happened and life goes on... Maybe I'm reading into it too much but I can usually see it coming and I feel its happening soon... also I have a wicked headache on top of all of this so of course I explained that to DH and that I'm really emotional and miss him and blah blah blah and I get "ok" back... i said ..night, love you.. and got off line.. so now I'm over worked up, crying (literally) to all you wonderful ladies on the internet.. my head ache is worse and just sad... I don't really expect many responses, just wanted to bitch a little and feel a bit better doing so... if you read all that, thanks and sorry it's sorta scatter brained..
@mamabearcj sorry to hear you are so upset. My opinion is that perhaps he misses you but doesn't want to be the reason why you don't do your job and travel. So subconsciously he is making it hard on you guys by having these fights but he might not even realize the real reason or doing it on purpose. Also guys are mostly short in their conversation and don't always feel the same emotions or understand their actions are affecting you. Maybe have a sit down with him and ask him straight up how he feels about you traveling all the time. For now try to breathe, put a cold towel on your head and relax a bit. Hopefully you feel better in the morning.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@mamabearcj I’m so sorry you are having to go through that. It’s really hard when they just don’t seem to understand. I hope you guys are able to talk and resolve whatever it is that is bothering him...try to relax and get some rest. Treat yourself to something nice like a good bowl of ice cream or your favorite tv show. That always helps me when I get my mind off things!
I agree with @chyvie. I agree though, traveling for work can suck. Especially when it's so long (you said 1 month, right?). I haven't had to go for more than a week at a time, and I miss DH and SS like crazy when I go.
Have you guys sat down and talked about it, when you're not fighting? Getting guys to express their emotions can be hard.
@mamabearcj so sorry you are dealing with this and hope you have found a way to relax and get some sleep tonight! Travel is so stressful for everybody, at home or away! Don’t have much to add to what the other ladies suggested, but hopefully you guys can talk it out soon, or maybe even do a single session w/ with a third party to help figure out what’s actually at the root of it all if there are potentially any underlying causes (more than the travel.) Will be thinking of you!
Just wanted to update you lovely ladies, I was totally over reacting *thanks hormones* everything is right in the world lol
Eta thank you all for your support and kind words. You're all making this pregnancy so much more enjoyable and I feel so lucky to have this sense of community!!
Re: Monday BF (4/9)
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I noticed it doesn't take me to where I left off but I thought it was just me.
In terms of bathroom cleaning, I have been spraying cleaner and turning the fan on and I leave until the smell is gone even though that sometimes means it's dried already. Better than nothing. Scrubbing the tub is not worth the back pain later though.
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
My bf is this "morning sickness" is bullshit! I had morning sickness last time and this isn't it! The nausea and puking doesn't stop and I've already lost 11.5 freakin pounds! And I'm only 11 weeks today. Doesn't seem like a very good start to me!
@jomama1618 I hope you feel better soon!!!
I had 4 really good days and then yesterday and today I've been miserable. I got a migraine last night and it's still not gone today. The weather in MI can't make up its mind and it's wrecking havoc on me.
Sorry guys, I am really late to the game here but just wanted to add a few things....
First, I TOTALLY understand the losing of independence thing. Its really hard for me to give in and ask for help with things. But heres the other side of the coin: My DH is currently training in the fire academy for our city fire department and its basically like bootcamp. Hes gone 10 hours a day, comes home and eats dinner in about 10 minutes then goes back to the office to study and is in bed by 9... I'm usually already asleep by then too. So, he has been pretty much useless around the house. He is not present enough to even help with dishes, cleaning, vacuuming... you know, the daily things and that can be really really frustrating. I am struggling energy-wise to maintain the house, dogs, work, and now the yard too. Its finally warming up here (I'm in New Mexico and spring is definitely here) so this past weekend, with my energy slowly coming back, I decided to start doing some spring cleaning and getting our yards in order. I quickly found there was a lot I could not do on my own (moving large bags of soil, messing with fertilizer for the lawn, etc.) and my husband won't be available to help until he's done with the academy in July. I don't even really have to option to ask him for help (thankfully my dad and sister came over to help me with some of those tasks) but if you have the option to get help, don't take it for granted!!! Its okay to let others help you, and always remember this is all temporary.
Sleeping and dreams. I was sleeping sooooo good in trimester 1 and now that I'm in 2, like most of you, I cannot get comfy. My low back and hips hurt and sleeping on my side feels so awkward. I still have raging heartburn too so I'm trying to prop myself up but that gets annoying. Thinking of buying the preggo U pillow.... would everyone recommend it? A certain kind???
I'm trying to give myself grace in terms of the house. Our sink has been piling up with dishes for a week now, hopefully DH will have some time to wash when I'm at my other job tonight.
Sorry for the long BF. Ultimately, I hate feeling like I'm being ignored as a patient and I hate when people can't seem to do their jobs.
I sent a message through the patient portal 6 days ago to my OB letting her know I spoke to my insurance about NIPT and asking her to send a lab slip to LabCorp, as they are the best priced contracted lab with my insurance. I gave her the address, phone number, fax number, and test codes. I did all the leg work for her. I asked her to let me know when it was done so i could schedule an appt to get the bloodwork done. They have a policy that they will "respond to all messages within 2 business days." She never responded.
I called yesterday morning and the receptionist said she could see it was sent... to CVS instead (apparently my doctor blatantly ignored the details of my message and just sent it to my pharmacy on file, even though they don't have a lab to get blood work done there) so the receptionist said she would get it switched to LabCorp and it would be done within the hour.
I gave them a full day and called LabCorp this morning and they still did not have anything from the practice ordering the test.
I left a voicemail for my doctor's medical assistant after I talked to LabCorp this morning and sent a reminder message through the patient portal asking them to please send the lab slip and give me a call back.
It was very poor service. I feel agitated and very ignored. I know they are very busy and they never backfilled my old doctor's position and all just took on her patients, but it's been over a year since she left and either way, that's not an excuse for my current doctor to not respond to messages and voicemails.
Also, this isn't the first issue I've had with this OB, who I just started seeing in December. She is supposed to send me a letter of medical necessity so I can appeal a bill for a test she ran and insurance didn't cover (despite the fact that her medical assistant supposedly called and got preauthorization and confirmation of coverage). I have 6 months to appeal and we are in month 4 and every time I see her or manage to get her on the phone she says, "I'm going to do it today." Ugh. I hate being lied to. I think she's a very good doctor but this is part of your job (or your staff's) and you can't just ignore patients and their needs.
On the upside, after all that, I decided to send a message to the nurse practitioner who I had seen once before and explain the situation. One of her assistants called me back within a half hour. So not everyone at the practice acts this way. It seems my doctor is just too busy for the amount of patients she has and isn't great with responses so I think the best scenario for me it to try a different doctor within the practice. And if that works and he/she is more responsive, then I will stay. And if not, then I will transfer practices. I am less ragey now haha
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
Maybe I'm reading into it too much but I can usually see it coming and I feel its happening soon... also I have a wicked headache on top of all of this so of course I explained that to DH and that I'm really emotional and miss him and blah blah blah and I get "ok" back... i said ..night, love you.. and got off line..
so now I'm over worked up, crying (literally) to all you wonderful ladies on the internet.. my head ache is worse and just sad...
I don't really expect many responses, just wanted to bitch a little and feel a bit better doing so... if you read all that, thanks and sorry it's sorta scatter brained..
Also guys are mostly short in their conversation and don't always feel the same emotions or understand their actions are affecting you.
Maybe have a sit down with him and ask him straight up how he feels about you traveling all the time.
For now try to breathe, put a cold towel on your head and relax a bit. Hopefully you feel better in the morning.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
Have you guys sat down and talked about it, when you're not fighting? Getting guys to express their emotions can be hard.
Don’t have much to add to what the other ladies suggested, but hopefully you guys can talk it out soon, or maybe even do a single session w/ with a third party to help figure out what’s actually at the root of it all if there are potentially any underlying causes (more than the travel.)
Will be thinking of you!
Eta thank you all for your support and kind words. You're all making this pregnancy so much more enjoyable and I feel so lucky to have this sense of community!!