@laurad75 I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and hoping for best case scenario for you and your sweet baby boy. Keep us updated.
Oh @laurad75 I am sitting at my desk crying for you. I'm so sorry! I obviously hope for the best scenario for you and can totally empathize with the emotions you must be feeling right now. So many hugs mama
@laurad75 OMG I can not imagine what you are feeling right now. Try and take it day by day because that type of news can be so overwhelming. Virtual hugs and if you believe in prayer I will say one for you.
@laurad75 Sending you all the creepy internet stranger hugs. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this potential complication and stress for the next month, but crossing my everythings for you and your LO that the left kidney continues to progress well and it will ultimately be just a (very stressful) blip. Please be extra nice to yourself and do whatever you can to take your mind off of it and find some moments of relaxation during this waiting period.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Thank you so much everyone and @calimom2524 please don't cry. I am choosing to stay confident that the doctor was right when she said it is likely this very common defect that won't effect our future. I will certainly update everyone along the way. Again, I don't know how I would cope without this community to lean on and share my concern.
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
@neeraja_k they both have said in so many words that they don’t want to take the risk. Just because I delivered Vaginally before they are not willing for me to do it again. I originally said I would get a third opinion, but after yesterday’s visit it was so emotionally draining I don’t want to at this point. My mom and husband both agree that after two doctors recommendations I need to just go with it. The main goal is to make sure baby and I are safe. So at this point C-section it is.
Thank you so much everyone and @calimom2524 please don't cry. I am choosing to stay confident that the doctor was right when she said it is likely this very common defect that won't effect our future. I will certainly update everyone along the way. Again, I don't know how I would cope without this community to lean on and share my concern.
Well hormones don't help anything for me but also I was just picturing how you felt yesterday and it broke my heart. I'm so happy to hear how positive you are! I would be the same way.
@laurad75 I’m
sending all the positive thoughts I have. That’s definitely scary news, but I
love your positive attitude. I think we can all benefit from remembering just
how strong and awesome we are. We can handle anything life throws at us.
@laurad75 I am so sorry you're dealing with all of the possible scenarios! I hope that the amnio comes back totally normal and that his kidney defect is a nonissue. Big hugs!
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Hard to post this on here under the circumstances, but i hope you will understand @laurad75 and know that im thinking about you.
My AS went great. Got a good look at everything and it all looked perfect. They brought in a more experienced tech when they found out that we were both physicians and didn't want to know the sex, so she did a great job of keeping away from that area until she told us to look away! Also have an anterior placenta which could explain why i have been unable to find baby's heartbeat with my stethoscope and why kicks are so weak and rare.
Thank you for your sensitivity @doctormom33 but I definitely don't want anyone tip toeing around me when there is so much good news to be shared. So glad your appointment went well and you can remain Team Green!
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
@laurad75 I can’t imagine how scary it is to get that news, but I love your positive attitude and it sounds like your doctors are being very proactive in monitoring the baby moving forward. Sending hugs!
Also, yay for all the other appointments and updates! Being due late August is a bummer because I’m living vicariously though everyone else’s A/S right now! Mine isn’t until 4/17. Had to schedule at 21 weeks because the week prior I am too swamped at work.
@laurad75 I only read this now after you mentioned it in the other thread...I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I’m so glad you are being so positive! It really does seem like you’ll have the best possible outcome and I will be keeping you and sweet baby in my thoughts. I’m glad you shared with us and I hope you continue to. We are here for you!!!! Huge hugs!!!!
@laurad75 So sorry to hear you're dealing with such scary news - Big hugs to you and your family, lady. Keep us updated with what happens with future scans and the amino.
I had my anatomy scan today at 20w2d. Boy is weighing in at 13oz and girl at 11oz. They are looking good and my placenta previa has been upgraded from complete to marginal. I'm so very thankful for that, as I was very concerned about the high chances of an extremely early birth for the twins.
TW - I had my a/s today. Overall it went well, but there were a few things that the tech wasn’t able to see well due to LO’s position. This happened with DS as well, but in DS’s case, I just came back 1-2 weeks later to try again. This time, I’m being scheduled for a more indepth scan at the hospital.
AS was today and it’s a girl! Everything looks good, they just didn’t get a good clear pic of the heart so I have to go back in a couple weeks for a follow up. They aren’t worried about anything and this exact thing happened with DS. It’s a relief all looked good.
Ha, I could have written @ladygali's post almost exactly.
AS was today and it’s a girl! Everything looks good, they just didn’t get a good clear pic of the heart so I have to go back in a couple weeks for a follow up. They aren’t worried about anything, they told us the follow up was optional.
Can’t believe how many of us are having to go back for multiple scans! @proudparent2b I am sure everything will look just fine! You are in my thoughts and prayers! Keep us posted!
@ecwk keep us posted as well! You’re in my thoughts cause I know even that tiny bit of uncertainty can be stressful. I’m sure everything will look great sometimes it seems they just don’t get a good picture right in that moment.
Sorry I’m late on this thread and rushed to catch up?
@ssthomps did you have a myomectomy? I had one last year that was done open with seven fibroids off so I will be having a repeat c-section (had one with DS too). I know how upsetting it is, I’m sorry.
@laurad75 I read this from your ticker change post and I’m so sorry it was such a scary day for you. Sending you so many hugs!
Appointment was good, baby girl gave the Doppler wand one hell of a kick lol! The NP said that vag pain could be caused by vaginal varicose veins... just when I thought pregnancy couldn’t get any more glamorous lol! I don’t think I’m gonna google this one...
I’ve been more lurking than participating lately bc of my preg anxiety. This is around the time (it was actually at the anatomy scan) that they told me my waters had broke, so I’ve bedn anxious. Just had my A/S Friday though and all looked good although my dr said the radiologist still had to read it. I think they got all of the pictures they needed although getting them wasn’t easy! I had to get up a few times to see if she’d move position. But I was so glad to hear that she’s on track and my fluid and cervix looked good! Breathing a little easier. I go back in two weeks to check fluid again
DS born 04/22/15, Pregnant again 03/01/17 however loss due to PPROM at 20+6 weeks now TTC rainbow
Sorry I’m late on this thread and rushed to catch up?
@ssthomps did you have a myomectomy? I had one last year that was done open with seven fibroids off so I will be having a repeat c-section (had one with DS too). I know how upsetting it is, I’m sorry.
Yes, that is the surgery I had. So they are not giving you the option of a VbaC because the Myomectomy was only a year ago? My myo was in 2009 and I had my daughter vaginally in 2013. I guess the part is the that is the most frustrating is, I had a vaginal deliver after the surgery. I have made piece with it though. It sounds like the C section recover isn’t as bad as the Myomectomy recover. How would you compare since you have had both?
@ssthomps no, they wouldn’t give him the option of going vaginally. They didn’t seem too concerned about the timing, more with there being so much scar tissue. How many fibroids did you have removed? The MFM doesn’t want me going into labor at all so we’ll be delivering at 36 or 37 weeks. It was upsetting to here, but I love my OB and fully trust his opinion. We had trouble getting pregnant again, hence the myomectomy, so I’ll do whatever is best for baby but it’s still hard to come to terms with a birth that’s not what you intended. Why exactly don’t they want you to go vaginally again?
I would have to say that c-section recovery was a little easier; I just felt like I was back to my normal self a little faster. In both cases I really only took ibuprofen for pain afterwards. Just make sure you wear your abdominal binder after the c-section! It helps!
@mrs_drc_rn I had one the size of my uterus and two smaller ones. Both doctors I spoke with said that I should have never had my daughter vaginally, and just because I did it once doesn’t make it safe to do again. With my daughter I went into labor and progressed so quickly, it ended up being a vaginally delivery. My doctor is also saying he doesn’t even want me to go into labor on my own, so he wants to schedule the C section at 37 weeks as well. I am a little leary because I prefer the baby stay in as long as the need vs deliver them early.
Do they provide the abdominal binder after the C section because I didn’t receive one after the Myomectomy? Also glad to hear you were ok taking Tylenol. I want to breastfeed and I know I won’t be coherent if I have to take pain pills after the C section. UGH!
@ssthomps that’s crazy that you went so quickly and ended up delivering vaginally! I’m sorry everything isn’t how you wanted this time. It took me a long time to come to terms with DS being a c-section.
I’ll be going at 36 or 37 weeks as well, so I’ll be in July. I’m nervous too because DS was early and I just want this baby to stay in as long an possible too! DS was actually an emergency c-section under general so this will be my first time getting an epidural. That freaks me out!
I was provided with a binder after my c-section. The worst pain was just the gas pain you get in your shoulder, I think that’s the only time I took the Percocet they offered. I just made sure I got up and moving as soon as I could.
@calimom2524 right?!? I was expecting it, but damn was it way worse than I imagined! With both my c-section and my myomectomy, the only time I took a Percocet was when I had that damn gas pain.
Re: Appointments w/o 3/26
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
@laurad75 I’m sending all the positive thoughts I have. That’s definitely scary news, but I love your positive attitude. I think we can all benefit from remembering just how strong and awesome we are. We can handle anything life throws at us.
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
My AS went great. Got a good look at everything and it all looked perfect. They brought in a more experienced tech when they found out that we were both physicians and didn't want to know the sex, so she did a great job of keeping away from that area until she told us to look away! Also have an anterior placenta which could explain why i have been unable to find baby's heartbeat with my stethoscope and why kicks are so weak and rare.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
AS was today and it’s a girl! Everything looks good, they just didn’t get a good clear pic of the heart so I have to go back in a couple weeks for a follow up. They aren’t worried about anything, they told us the follow up was optional.
@proudparent2b I am sure everything will look just fine! You are in my thoughts and prayers! Keep us posted!
@ssthomps did you have a myomectomy? I had one last year that was done open with seven fibroids off so I will be having a repeat c-section (had one with DS too). I know how upsetting it is, I’m sorry.
@laurad75 I read this from your ticker change post and I’m so sorry it was such a scary day for you. Sending you so many hugs!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I go back in two weeks to check fluid again
I would have to say that c-section recovery was a little easier; I just felt like I was back to my normal self a little faster. In both cases I really only took ibuprofen for pain afterwards. Just make sure you wear your abdominal binder after the c-section! It helps!
Do they provide the abdominal binder after the C section because I didn’t receive one after the Myomectomy? Also glad to hear you were ok taking Tylenol. I want to breastfeed and I know I won’t be coherent if I have to take pain pills after the C section. UGH!
I’ll be going at 36 or 37 weeks as well, so I’ll be in July. I’m nervous too because DS was early and I just want this baby to stay in as long an possible too! DS was actually an emergency c-section under general so this will be my first time getting an epidural. That freaks me out!
I was provided with a binder after my c-section. The worst pain was just the gas pain you get in your shoulder, I think that’s the only time I took the Percocet they offered. I just made sure I got up and moving as soon as I could.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers