@rnielsen321 that would be even more frustrating. I definitely don't think you are the bad guy for wanting a plan. It is a fine line between being supportive but also wanting to ensure the financial stability of your family.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke that is so frustrating! It sounds like YH is definitely stuck between a rock and a hard place and isn’t necessarily thinking about the bigger picture. Things change so much when a baby comes and you could use that as leverage too - it would be nice for him to know some consistency already instead of having a new baby and a new job. I will add, MH started a new job right after DD was born too. It was a complete struggle bus.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@krashke that would drive me crazy... and something mh would do 'well they might not make me pay it back'. but you don't know that! I'd really keep pushing that you only have a couple months till baby is here than you guys can reevaluate him looking. atleast then he'll get his time off after the baby. and maybe that motorcycle usage will keep him there longer.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@krashke I have worked for terrible bosses before, so I empathize with your H in that regard...but still. It's just such a bad time to switch, for the many reasons already illustrated here. Screenshot/print off all the replies from this board. What could be more compelling than internet pregnant ladies?
In all seriousness, besides making sure he can take time off, it's the flexibility that would be really important to me. Is he really going to want to be coming in late, leaving early, taking last-minute days off, etc., when he started really recently? It's so much easier to do that at a job when you've already established yourself as a reliable employee...I would HATE to do it at a new job. Fingers crossed that the motorcycle is enough!! It sounds pretty awesome to me.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
@krashke I'm sorry to hear about YH not getting the job and about his new leader. MH isn't in the exact scenario but he dreads his leadership most days because working on IT, he's very forward thinking and his boss stifle growth in an industry that should be cutting edge. Though he's talked about moving on, he knows now's not the best time given the upcoming arrival of LO. Hopefully, in time YH will settle in, and find his place again. Also, come on warm weather.... Once he has a taste of that motorcycle he may think twice about leaving! I know it's hard to think about riding on a motorcycle on a snowy day like today!
@rnielsen321 there are a lot of ppl like YH. Its either drop everything into a business or stay miserable at this job. There’s a gray area. MH is self employed entrepreneur he works from home and he’s been “getting a shop” for the last 4 years. What i do, just respond “yeah” bc at the end of the day you can’t start or stop the business for him. He knows there are steps to starting a business. You need money to start a business. My opinion as the wife of an entrepreneur instead of bugging him about the business process & plan, ask him about your family plan. Ok great start a business what are we gonna do now? Like for example save 6 months of expenses & bills so that if & when he starts this business you guys are at least good for 6 months.
I for one will never purposely get pregnant again unless i have a year’s worth of expenses saved. So much can change in those 9 months i rather be financially safe and have more than enough. We thought we were ready financially to have a baby but no even.
@krashke ugh, that is definitely frustrating. Maybe ask him to take one for the team at least until you're back at work and then tell him he is supported if he still feels the same way in 6 months. It's not that long of a time to sacrifice. Or you could take a totally different route and start posting pictures of motorcycles around your house. Just sayin...
@rnielsen321 I dont blame you at all. You are not a bad guy for wanting that information. Hope you get it hashed out and he understands where you're coming from.
So my registry discounts were all set to come through yesterday, and they did. My Target registry says "congrats 15% off!" or whatever. But then I click on it, and it expired...? So I call today, and they don't know why that has happened, but they can't fix it, so now if I want to buy anything I have to call them and have them order it for me which really is more social interaction than I'd prefer lol. Sigh.
@doxiemoxie212 ew I hate talking on the phone and especially if you have to give them your whole order. FWIW, I think the mail you one to be used in store which obvi wont help for you in NYC but maybe it has an online code on it?
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke they said both my codes were expired.............. so.... face palm. I asked if I could just make a new registry, but she told me the code wouldn't be available for 8 weeks, and I'm due in 8.5 soooooooooooo
@doxiemoxie212 I don't understand how it is that they can't just give you a new code? Like you seriously have to call customer service to place your whole order. I am going to an event this weekend with an acquaintance that is a manager of a call center at Target, not sure if it is customer service or what, but I will ask her about this because that is just ridiculous.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke I asked like 7000 different ways, and she just kept apologizing and repeating back to me what the issue was "it is expired" lol. Like, okay cool. But if you find anything out PLS REPORT BACK because I also think it is absurd.
@doxiemoxie212 That is the woooooooooooorst! I would be so pissed. Is this a situation where it is okay to use the line, "let me speak to your manager?" Because it seems totally bizzare that this can't be fixed.
@LaceyBee522 she said they literally can't do anything in the call center to generate a new code or reset the old one. I'm thinking about PMing the Target twitter account because usually the social media team has more power but... still...
@doxiemoxie212 - I'd ask to talk to that person's supervisor. Maybe she couldn't do anything, but someone there can, you just need to find the right person to make things happen. I'd be pissed.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@doxiemoxie212 that is ridiculous! Could you maybe go into the store and get it sorted out in person? I just can't believe she wasn't able to give you a solution to such a seemingly simple problem!
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 lol I said calling someone is more social interaction than I want, and your response is, "Do you want to go into the store?" lol lol no, I have no interest in that lol.
@LaceyBee522 is it mercury retrograde again? Ugh, that explains so much.
@doxiemoxie212 that is so annoying. I'm totally with you on the worst part being the social interaction required to make it work. Maybe you can add everything to your cart online, and then chat with a representative or email them with your account and they can just put the discount in that way?
@doxiemoxie212 uhhh I think that person doesn't know all the facts. maybe they couldn't generate a new code, but there HAS to be something they can do besides say 'oh call us with your order'. like maybe email you some other special 15% discount code you could use. I'd probably reach out to target on social media somewhere.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@doxiemoxie212 They can totally give you any other 15% off code. They are just being lazy. I've had crap like that happen to me before, and the cash register operator person can just manually override... so, Methinks they are liars!! How dare they frustrate a pregnant woman so close to her due date!
Ugh super frustrating @doxiemoxie212. There has to be an easy way that the right person could just get you a new code. Finding that right person though...
On the topic of registry discount, in anticipation for my amazon discount today I put everything in my cart yesterday. Only to open it up today and the one swaddle blanket I’ve been wanting for her newborn pictures is no longer available.
@2589 nooo! That has been a huge struggle for me too! Stuff I fell in love with months ago are now gone forever. I had to change my Tula carrier print and was so bummed the one I loved isn't available anymore.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@2589 that's happened to me. I wanted a specific comforter for DS. I waited to see if it would go on sale and finally ordered it. The matching pillow shipped, but then I got the dreaded "backordered" email. A few weeks later, my order was canceled because it was out of stock. I literally stalked other stores to find that comforter because I had my heart set on it and I was an irrational pregnant woman.
@meg95995 it was sent from the building manager's office which manages probably hundreds of buildings in NYC, so it included language like, "If doormen sort your mail, residents may have to sort the mail themselves during the strike." There are 500+ apts in this building, if we fall into that category I literally won't get my mail lol.
Stupid Tdap arm. As if sleeping isn't hard enough. I tried to be really proactive yesterday after I got it and use my arm a lot. Not so sure it did anything.
Prompted this conversation though: :-D
Me: I got my Tdap shot today. Dont forget to get yours here soon. BF: But you're a pharmacist. Why can't you just give it to me like you have given me vaccines in the past? Can't you just do it? Me: Well yes technically I can, but no I wont, because I dont wanna listen to you cry for a week about how *I* hurt your arm because these hurt. BF: I wouldn't cry for a week
Yeah ok. Two words. Man flu. Not walking into that trap lol
@doxiemoxie212 I talked to my doorman this morning and found out a few things. First of all, my building isn't union, so that's why we haven't heard about it. However, my doorman said the strike probably won't happen because building management hates dealing with the repercussions. The last time it actually went through was in the 90's and tenants had to sign up to take out trash, clean the common areas, do shifts at the door, etc. So, FX the union gets what it is asking for and the strike doesn't happen.
Anyone else's DH on their last nerve lately? Like don't get me wrong I love him dearly but I also feel like I could lose my isht on him a lot lately and sometimes I'm not sure if it's my hormones or his stupidity
We're still dealing with apartment drama. He said something off-hand this morning about not taking the place we found on May 15 and then walked away. I totally lost my mind.
Re: Rants {April}
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
In all seriousness, besides making sure he can take time off, it's the flexibility that would be really important to me. Is he really going to want to be coming in late, leaving early, taking last-minute days off, etc., when he started really recently? It's so much easier to do that at a job when you've already established yourself as a reliable employee...I would HATE to do it at a new job. Fingers crossed that the motorcycle is enough!! It sounds pretty awesome to me.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
I for one will never purposely get pregnant again unless i have a year’s worth of expenses saved. So much can change in those 9 months i rather be financially safe and have more than enough. We thought we were ready financially to have a baby but no even.
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
@rnielsen321 I dont blame you at all. You are not a bad guy for wanting that information. Hope you get it hashed out and he understands where you're coming from.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
@doxiemoxie212 that is so annoying. I'm totally with you on the worst part being the social interaction required to make it work. Maybe you can add everything to your cart online, and then chat with a representative or email them with your account and they can just put the discount in that way?
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
On the topic of registry discount, in anticipation for my amazon discount today I put everything in my cart yesterday. Only to open it up today and the one swaddle blanket I’ve been wanting for her newborn pictures is no longer available.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@2589 Oh no! I know it doesn’t help discount-wise but can you find the blanket anywhere else?
AFM, DH is on a conference call in the living room and the kids and I are quarantined to a bedroom. Of course, I AM STARVING!
Prompted this conversation though: :-D
Me: I got my Tdap shot today. Dont forget to get yours here soon.
BF: But you're a pharmacist. Why can't you just give it to me like you have given me vaccines in the past? Can't you just do it?
Me: Well yes technically I can, but no I wont, because I dont wanna listen to you cry for a week about how *I* hurt your arm because these hurt.
BF: I wouldn't cry for a week
Yeah ok. Two words. Man flu. Not walking into that trap lol
Edited: spelling is hard
We're still dealing with apartment drama. He said something off-hand this morning about not taking the place we found on May 15 and then walked away. I totally lost my mind.