I feel that the way she handled her business is beyond reproach.
First, please let me say that I am glad that you are able to think this through logically rather than simply going with the reaction of keying her car. I know that this forum is a place to blow off steam, and I completely respect your emotional reaction, but I am also glad that my suggestion to talk to a lawyer was taken in the spirit that it was offered.
That said- don’t kid yourself, this was not professionally handled.
1) Your boss should not have revealed your private medical information to anyone. (I seriously had a coworker who we didn’t know was pregnant until about six weeks before she delivered- she sits three desks down from me and baby was a week late- yes, your pregnancy is private medical information.)
2) Your boss was unprofessional in communicating information about your employment via text, especially when you regularly interact otherwise. It may not be illegal, but it sure as hell is unprofessional.
I am glad that you are in a position that the income from this job isn’t critical to your household. Many women are not so lucky, which is why it is reprehensible when employers make decisions based on a woman’s pregnancy. (Sorry, that darned soap box, but the choir is lovely!)
@knottieamusements from the few weeks we’ve been on the bump together I have come to love your soapbox even when it’s not directed to me. Being able to write this down for internet strangers has been more therapeutic than any attempt to talk out loud. That and the good, ugly cry I had in the shower...
Ok I have one! My brother is a very intense individual. He is very analytical and conversations with him used to be fun. We used to have a mix of deep conversations as well as completely pointless goofy conversations. He has moved to just deep critical exhausting conversations and I have told him I miss the old him and the times we had fun when it wasn't all crazy deep conversations. He doesn't get it and still wants to try and fix everyone and make everyone's lives better when he is driving us all crazy. I love my brother and have always stood up for him against others criticism of how he lives and what he does (not him criticizing others - that is just down right annoying) but I have reached my limit because of how he is treating specifically my mom and I. We are not here for you to fix. Can we be better people? Of course! Everyone always has room for growth but back off!
Short version - used to love my brother. He now is crazy critical and I can't tolerate him. Still love him but don't like him. Wish I knew what would shake him out of this.
@SweetSweetTooth so sorry! I feel ya on the brother changing thing. It just hurts, and then I'm just tired of it... And miss the old friend that you used to have.
I don't mean to over post of these things. Y'all can tell me to shutup if ya need to. I just don't really have friends to vent to about this kinda stuff. So now my roommate is trying to blame stuff on me that I didn't do, like leaving the door wide open this morning when I locked the deadbolt. He recently broke our front door by the way. So if it did open after I locked the deadbolt, it's his fault for breaking the frame. I talked to my SO about giving him his one months notice. Im going to remind him again tomorrow. And if he doesn't in a week Im going to be doing it myself. I don't understand what the dudes trying to get at. Like is he really trying to turn my bf against the mother of his child? Like hes going to choose him over me so he can have a place to stay? No, I know that's not going to happen. His little girlfriend "loves" him enough to get their own place together, I'm not sure why she hasn't already since she clearly wants me out of the picture. And now I want both of them gone. Sorry guys this stuffs just really stressful and like I said, I don't have anyone to talk about this to.. Thanks to those that listen.
@lovelycrookedfox girl you need to get that man child out of your place! That's absolutely ridiculous that he would start blaming you for things you both know aren't true. It's too bad you have to give him a whole month and not like 2 weeks..
@mamabearcj its a law in Michigan to give people who pay bills in your house a 1 months notice before you can legally kick them to the curb.. If it were up to me I would have done barged in his room right after I saw the texts he sent my bf about the door this morning and told him to get the hell out right now. But sadly I can't. He will be gone by the end of April though and I will make sure of it. I cannot be dealing with this type of stress right now.
@lovelycrookedfox - Dude has issues- and apparently he deserves the crazy girlfriend. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this. Is there someplace you can stay for a couple of days to get away from the chaos?
I'm a single mom now. He said once I pay bills I can decide who lives in that house. So I'm deciding I won't be living there. I'm going back to my parents where I can get real support. I'm gonna stay off here for a while, I have no one and complaining about this on the internet is sad. Thanks for listening for the time being. I hope you guys never have to deal with this kind of stuff and have happy, heathly pregnancies. I'll be back when things have calmed down and I can be happy again. Much love.
@lovelycrookedfox - don’t stay holed up too long, sweet kitsune. I’m sorry your partner is being an asshole. I’m glad you have a safe place to crash while you get your feet under you.
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@lovelycrookedfox I am so sorry you have to go through this. I'm glad you have your parents for supports. Please don't feel you are alone, you have a lot of people here who care for you whether we know you irl or just on a screen. Take your time of course and do what's best for you! Can't wait for you to be back, good luck!!
@canneries I'm not gonna lie I thought you deleted this app already?? This is the second thing I've personally seen you comment in and the other one was your own post that you called ladies rude on for reminding you of the rules of the website. if you keeps saying your going to delete the app because of people being rude then why are you still commenting on things about people being rude?
@lovelycrookedfox I wonder if this is a purely financial decision for your bf? I can imagine going from 2 people paying the bills to 1 is no small thing. Not to mention trying to save up for when the baby gets here. Should he have said these things in a much nicer way? 100% but I'd talk to him about it. That being said, I'd probably still live in with my mom who could help me and then not have to deal with the drama.
@lovelycrookedfox I’m so sorry you are going through this with your BF. I really hope you guys are able to figure out what works best for both of you and the baby.
So last night my MIL went on a rant...about what you ask? Obama is a racist and Trump is going to save this country. Obama is the worst President in history and Trump will be one of the best. This was of course backed up by racist statements and no facts.
@lovelycrookedfox I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with a pain in the butt roommate and a partner who doesn't seem to be supporting you. I'd be super frustrated too. I'm glad you have your parents to help support you. Please feel free to keep venting and posting. That's what's great about an online board. You can vent away and if people don't want to see it they can scroll on by. However, as you can see from the responses, we care.
@cdepperschmidt I refuse to discuss politics with my step dad and FIL. Sometimes my mom and I can agree, but being a military wife she often gets my stepdad's paranoia prone political thoughts.
I'll talk about it, as long as it's civil. There gets to a point I just can't anymore. My step dad and I oncs argued about the US not having a national language. He couldn't believe that my college was teaching that we don't (um because we don't) and how it should be English. *Facepalm*
Re: Missing Monday BF 3/27
That said- don’t kid yourself, this was not professionally handled.
1) Your boss should not have revealed your private medical information to anyone. (I seriously had a coworker who we didn’t know was pregnant until about six weeks before she delivered- she sits three desks down from me and baby was a week late- yes, your pregnancy is private medical information.)
2) Your boss was unprofessional in communicating information about your employment via text, especially when you regularly interact otherwise. It may not be illegal, but it sure as hell is unprofessional.
I am glad that you are in a position that the income from this job isn’t critical to your household. Many women are not so lucky, which is why it is reprehensible when employers make decisions based on a woman’s pregnancy. (Sorry, that darned soap box, but the choir is lovely!)
My brother is a very intense individual. He is very analytical and conversations with him used to be fun. We used to have a mix of deep conversations as well as completely pointless goofy conversations. He has moved to just deep critical exhausting conversations and I have told him I miss the old him and the times we had fun when it wasn't all crazy deep conversations. He doesn't get it and still wants to try and fix everyone and make everyone's lives better when he is driving us all crazy.
I love my brother and have always stood up for him against others criticism of how he lives and what he does (not him criticizing others - that is just down right annoying) but I have reached my limit because of how he is treating specifically my mom and I. We are not here for you to fix. Can we be better people? Of course! Everyone always has room for growth but back off!
Short version - used to love my brother. He now is crazy critical and I can't tolerate him. Still love him but don't like him. Wish I knew what would shake him out of this.
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#4 Due 10/26/18!
So now my roommate is trying to blame stuff on me that I didn't do, like leaving the door wide open this morning when I locked the deadbolt. He recently broke our front door by the way. So if it did open after I locked the deadbolt, it's his fault for breaking the frame. I talked to my SO about giving him his one months notice. Im going to remind him again tomorrow. And if he doesn't in a week Im going to be doing it myself. I don't understand what the dudes trying to get at. Like is he really trying to turn my bf against the mother of his child? Like hes going to choose him over me so he can have a place to stay? No, I know that's not going to happen. His little girlfriend "loves" him enough to get their own place together, I'm not sure why she hasn't already since she clearly wants me out of the picture. And now I want both of them gone. Sorry guys this stuffs just really stressful and like I said, I don't have anyone to talk about this to.. Thanks to those that listen.
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