@mesamyt that’s awful. I’m so sorry she did that to you. I know it’s hard when people’s well meaning gestures are hurtful and they don’t even know it. It can be very isolating. Sending support!
Thanks all. And I appreciate those creepy internet hugs I am use to people finding out before I tell them. My kids are the type to tell EVERYONE under the sun as soon as they find out. I’m pretty sure every cashier, librarian, teacher, school friend and neighbor in a 50 mile radius knows I’m expecting thanks to them. I was just taken back by it. Thank you hormones and the obscured mind fucked state I’m in right now.
Why the F!!! would you go into the ultrasound thread, where ladies are celebrating seeing their little ones and broadcast your loss?!?
I can only assume that this is some sort of special trollish behavior specifically designed to upset pregnant women, especially since the person (who I don’t recall posting before, though I could be wrong), didn’t add a trigger warning, hijacked the thread rather than starting her own (one of of the few places the introductions clearly specify that this is an appropriate standalone topic for personal concerns).
Maybe I’m just being pissy, but given that I am in that category if ladies that has not yet had an opportunity to see/hear my baby, this one seriously got under my skin.
@knottieamusements I felt the same. I wasn't expecting to see that. It's different when you're posting something like the baby being smaller than expected or in one person's situation, there being a loss of one but not both. However, that could have been it's own thread. And def. Needed a trigger warning.
@knottieamusements I definitely had a what the heck reaction, too...then deleted my response on there and just posted my condolences. I felt like if this was the case then it wasn't the time to correct her (or maybe I just wimped out - which is very likely more the case), but yeah it'd be cool if we could throw the entire post into a spoiler or something...
I realized the ONLY reason I got an Ultrasound was because I wanted to do the first tri screening. Otherwise I would have had to wait for 20 weeks?!?! Crazy!
I felt like if this was the case then it wasn't the time to correct her
Yeah, I totally agree. That's why I came over to this thread to bitch. I honestly don't mind people (even who lurk more than post) asking for support- I totally understand that it is a heartbreaking situation, but I just couldn't deal with that post. I honestly had to reread the first two paragraphs twice to understand what was being said.
It was a bit of a trigger for me. I have my first US tomorrow at 10w5d (right about what she thought she was). My biggest fear is that I'm going to go in and have that exact situation happen.
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My husband's ex went in at 8w only to find she had lost the baby at 6w and her body hadn't reacted. We are both so scared of the same thing happening.
My BF... I’m sick again for the second time in two weeks. Just another pesky cold with sore throat and headaches but it’s soooooooo annoying when I already feel sluggish and shitty. My husband has been sick twice in the same time frame so I blame him. Although I work in a hospital and it’s impossible to avoid germs. Any good recs for things to safely take to ease cold symptoms?? Grrrrr
@linssears4 - My springtime allergies just hit last Friday, but the only decongestant that works for me is on the “Do Not Take” list. So, despite my aversion to thing you stick in your nose, I tried a saline nasal mist. I am genuinely surprised at how well it worked.
I had to cancel my massage today (that I’ve been looking forward to for weeks) because my mom broke a crown and her replacement appointment was today. She watches my kids during the day when I work nights, and forgot to mention her appointment.
@knottieamusements SAME HERE! Spring allergies hit Friday and it sucks big time. I basically lived in front of my humidifier all weekend. GAME CHANGER when I actually decided to put it on the ground right in front of my face, instead of on my nightstand. I'm not actually allergic to anything, but I still get all the same symptoms, so the only meds that usually work for me are steroid nasal sprays...which probably aren't allowed and also taste disgusting. bleghhh...
@chopchop25 Did you call the company that does the screening? They deducted mine from $1100 to $300 just for taking a survey. Some of the other ladies on here have gotten it deducted to $100 or $0, depending on the company!
@chopchop25 My OB gave us a brochure with the company on it so that we could check if our insurance covered it before making a decision. The company that draws samples through the UR lab is Sequenom. Maybe call your OB office tomorrow and ask which company your lab contracts with?
DH gets so pissy after trying to help his mom with stuff that whenever she calls I get mad as I know our evening is going to be tense and he is going to be crabby.
@SweetSweetTooth ugh mh is the exact same. The annoying thing is he acts like it's nbd at first and then it becomes this huge thing every. Single. Time.
@sammierose464 - the saline spray I picked up was actually the one marketed for kids since that was the only one that was just sodium chloride and water. All the adult versions had extra stuff, and I wasn’t sure which ingredients were ok.
@chopchop25 my dr uses Sequenom too and it's a $0 cost to us according to their estimate. It kinda depends on your insurance. I have BCBS and a high deductible plan.
@sammierose464 - check with your OB on the Sudafed. The list mine gave me said no Sudafed in 1st Trimester, but a couple of other decongestants were okay.
It’s so crazy how opinions and suggestions can vary per OB. I also have a list that said Sudafed ok after 1st tri. I finally took a benedryl last night to help dry me up and sleep. Still woke up at 3 am completely congested and grumpy
Re: Monday BF (3/19)
TW - rant related to communication of loss
Why the F!!! would you go into the ultrasound thread, where ladies are celebrating seeing their little ones and broadcast your loss?!?
I can only assume that this is some sort of special trollish behavior specifically designed to upset pregnant women, especially since the person (who I don’t recall posting before, though I could be wrong), didn’t add a trigger warning, hijacked the thread rather than starting her own (one of of the few places the introductions clearly specify that this is an appropriate standalone topic for personal concerns).
Maybe I’m just being pissy, but given that I am in that category if ladies that has not yet had an opportunity to see/hear my baby, this one seriously got under my skin.
GGGRRRRRRrrrrrrr
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My husband's ex went in at 8w only to find she had lost the baby at 6w and her body hadn't reacted. We are both so scared of the same thing happening.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
ETA: it's actually Flonase and apparently is listed a "C" so I guess I shouldn't have taken it. Darn