@Amphibious22 can you ask them if they would allow you to give the sample right away- and do the check in process after? I know my hospital CAN be flexible at times with things like that.
@MissKittyDanger you are my spirit animal! @jsl82 it's one of those clinics where no one wants to be there, so not very understanding staff. I got it done though. The guy is all like, you need to get at least to this line at the bottom of the cup. I filled the damn cup.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@kmurdock925 and any others who are interested in my totally selfish apartment drama, I'm finally back at the office with an update: We did not get the apartment.
It was totally perfect and great. It had high ceilings and big windows. Even MH, who has been dragging his feet on moving, was like, "We should put an application in right?" I was like, heck yeah! Woohoo! Then, as we're literally sitting there on the little fancy iPad filling out the application, the broker comes down to say they received an application on the apartment last night and the unit is no longer available. So gutted.
I don't know if I'm really, truly upset about this or if it is pregnancy hormones, but I 100% broke down in tears on the subway. I'm so bummed, but c'est la vie, right? Life is full of disappointments - you just have to roll with it and move on.
@krashke yes, they have other three bedrooms available. The problem is every floor you go up (we were looking at the sixth floor), they raise the rent by $50 per month. So, the next unit available pushes us considerably over budget (we were already stretching our set budget to begin with).
@LaceyBee522 $50 a floor doesn't seem too bad. How far up is the next unit? I'm sure you've done all the crunching but is there anything you can get rid of in your expenses to make it work?
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
LaceyBee522 - what a bummer- I'm sorry. House/apartment hunting is probably one of THE most stressful things ever. Since it is a new building I'm going to go on a limb and make the assumption that the units that are leased are pretty new leases... Hang in there- you'll find something.
@LaceyBee522 I'm so sorry! I would have broken down on the subway in tears too. I wouldn't even say that is pregnancy tears... real estate tears are real- and they are the worst. FX that you find another apartment just as amazing.
AFM I just had my maternity leave kick off with our Maternity Specialist at work. I am tentatively scheduled to be out on leave from June 4th (cause my EDD June 5th is a Tuesday- but I'm suppose to tell the office manager that I plan on going into labor in the office just to freak him out) until September 28th. I signed the boy up for daycare with DD starting in September- I might see if I can move it back to October 1st for him and have my mom watch him that 1 day, even if I have him 2 weeks early (like I had DD) he could stay with my mom and start October 1st. It feels so far away, and yet my leave is scheduled to start in 10 weeks. She is going to submit my claim to our HR/payroll company so they can start my paperwork with Aetna. It's getting very real.
@LaceyBee522 oh no!! I was really hoping this would be it for you. Apartment hunting is the literal worst. To mimic what others have said, is there any way you could get rid of some maybe monthly subs to get the more expensive unit? I so hope you find the perfect place before your babies get here!
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
I'm sorry @laceybee522! Is there any room for negotiation on price on the other apartments?
@jsl82 my doctor actually requested my leave paperwork to sign at my 30 week appointment (EDD June 1). My HR person was surprised it was so early, but it makes sense to get everything organized now. I can't get my partner to sit down with me to discuss leave yet though, so that's frustrating.
I've hit this 'must make lists' mode. I feel like I need to make all the lists asap. I have one started on things I need to show dh 'just incase' before baby comes (I handle .. so where passwords are. bills are kept. birth certificates/ss cards are. all DS' paperwork for things). I want to start a list for each of our bags... hospital bag for me. bag for DH. the bag for DS cause he'll be grandparents for 4 days. I want to start my list of things I need here after I get home. and want to start buying travel size stuff for our bags etc.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Thanks for all the support guys! I feel so dumb being upset over this. Like, I'm not sad (maybe a little), but really frustrated. It just seemed so perfect!
Yes, we could definitely figure out how to afford the more expensive apartment. It is only the 10th floor, so we'd be looking at ~$200 more per month. The thing is, the 10th floor has lower ceilings and smaller windows, so I'm annoyed at the idea of paying more for that. The other BIG thing is, that extra $200 per month puts us into a whole new rental market. Like, if we're going to pay that much per month, we could afford something back in Manhattan. So we have to re-evaluate our whole search, if we're willing to bend the budget that much further. Does that make sense?
@LaceyBee522 ughhh I’m so bummed for you. I totally understand how you’re feeling. I imprint on apts and it’s very hard for me to detach. Feels like dreams down the toilet before they began. And searching is such a panic fest. Ugh. Sending good vibes!
@catlady1215 - OH THE LISTS... I have a list of stuff the needs to get done around the house before 34 weeks, thing to do for DD, thing to do for this wee one, things I would like to do (pedicure!, put away winter clothes) I have to make the lists, so I can share with DH, and he can then plan his life around getting things done. It has to be his decision on timing. And he needs to see I am not just handing him a list of to do's, like I think I am the boss or something. 9 years in, you'd think he would be over this hang up. I gave him a heads up about the "List", he asked what was on it, I was like find a doctor, winter tires off, etc. and he's like "and what are you doing?" "Would you rather sort, wash and fold tiny baby clothes?" I got a quick... no thanks.... YA, like I divide stuff up by our "strengths"... TRUST me Hubby, I am making lists.... LOTSA lists.
Mama to a wonderful DD - Sep 2015, Wife to my DH since 2011, 2 dogs, a cat, and hoping to add No. 2 in May/June 2018. Canadian. 5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD. 3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice.
@LaceyBee522 Makes total sense. And you're wise to consider all those other options and not just throw the extra money at the 10th floor apt because it's the one in front of you. Also, as everyone else has said, it is*not* dumb or silly to be so sad about the loss of the other apartment. We were outbid on our dream home a couple years ago and I cried for days after getting the call. Once you've started envisioning your life somewhere, it's a real loss!
@catlady1215 Love your story about DS' first kick! In my head, it plays out sort of like 'Charlie bit my finger' but with more joy
I have lists upon lists too. And I've already started buying things for postpartum, etc. I feel like the next 10 weeks are going to speed up dramatically and I ideally want to have everything done by 36 weeks so I can try to relax.
@catlady1215@rnelson529 I feel you ladies on the lists. Current on going lists: - groceries - meal ideas - baby room to-do - baby room needs - house to-do - dollar store needs - house needs {broken into 2 parts - do asap & can wait}
@rnielsen321 lol I hear ya! luckily dh is ok with lists. but his list is really just the baby's room... cause its unlivable at the moment. and with his work schedule, he really has time only for that. But I also have a to-do list for DS, the kid needs all new spring/summer clothes and shoes etc. So i need to sort his drawers and see what even fits first. Ugh, I honestly for got about him and what he needs for awhile there! maybe i'll tackle that this weekend cause there's consignment sales coming up.. and I love consignment sales!!
@marcus7676 I feel like the next 9 weeks will fly by also. it has to do with the time of year it is or something. I need to start checking crap off these lists.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@Austenista Thanks for pointing that out! From reading that teacher's confession and UO, I don't think I'd want her teaching my kids. That other woman seems totally un-invested in the BMB and just there to stir isht and fully out of line. But, I don't totally disagree with her. Maybe I don't get it because I'm not a teacher?
@LaceyBee522 I have some (maybe?) wild opinions about teachers and mostly it’s that I think it’s an underpaid/undervalued profession which means not everyone who becomes a teacher is best suited to be one and maybe people who really would be great teachers don’t become one. Obviously we have lots of good teachers, but we also have people who became teachers because they loved school (either learning/being a student or just really loved being IN school, like feel nostalgic about it). I know teachers deal with a ton of bullshit but sometimes it’s just like yo, maybe you shouldn’t be a teacher tho. I know I shouldn’t be a teacher! Not everyone is good at being a teacher - that’s ok!
@LaceyBee522@doxiemoxie212 agree with you both. I get having bad days at work, but she seemed not totally well suited to the profession. I definitely have some friends who are teachers who I think maybe shouldn't be. And they're miserable doing it, which makes me kinda sad.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
I struggled so hard with math, still do, and while I get the teacher's side of it, I also get the student's side. You can explain something to me multiple times and I still have troubles with it. Teachers like that are part of the reason I don't have a college degree- it's miserable feeling like a failure when you're actually really trying so hard. But also, I haven't been a teacher so maybe her attitude is normal. I hope not, because I feel bad for the students but maybe...
Any one sometimes do side by sides of their belly shots? I do randomly, don't usually see much difference but i see it today. This is 28 and 30 wks. No wonder I feel him so so low, it's pretty obvious in the pic!
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@catlady1215 consignment sales typically start here in May and I started panicking because I don’t want to go at 36 weeks. I found one this weekend a little farther away and convinced my H to go to music class with DS so I can go buy myself to buy DS’s summer clothes. I’m ridiculously excited.
@marcus7676 we have 2 JBF sales at the end of April. I'm also not happy with having to walk around that thing at 35 wks buuuut it's totally with it lol. i found a local one last night! Didn't expect much in DS' cause older kids are hard on clothes. But it was like someone unloaded a full, untouched, wardrobe. (And barely any baby stuff.. which was weird) I controlled myself cause I haven't really checked his sizes for the summer. But 30 bucks for 3 shorts, 5 shirts, and 2 baby clothings items.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@catlady1215 I have a JBF the first weekend in May. It's my first time going to one, but I figured by that point I'll know what I definitely need for LO. Hoping BRU liquidation sales and our local kids consignment store will cover most of the big stuff before then.
Lol - @catlady1215 it took me re-reading your sentence like five times to figure out that JBF = just between friends. I thought you were just saying, "just between friends," in like a conspiratorial way to tell me about a website. Lord...I think I need to start consuming caffeine again.
Re: Weekly Randoms (Week of 3.19)
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
@jsl82 it's one of those clinics where no one wants to be there, so not very understanding staff. I got it done though. The guy is all like, you need to get at least to this line at the bottom of the cup. I filled the damn cup.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
It was totally perfect and great. It had high ceilings and big windows. Even MH, who has been dragging his feet on moving, was like, "We should put an application in right?" I was like, heck yeah! Woohoo! Then, as we're literally sitting there on the little fancy iPad filling out the application, the broker comes down to say they received an application on the apartment last night and the unit is no longer available. So gutted.
I don't know if I'm really, truly upset about this or if it is pregnancy hormones, but I 100% broke down in tears on the subway. I'm so bummed, but c'est la vie, right? Life is full of disappointments - you just have to roll with it and move on.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke yes, they have other three bedrooms available. The problem is every floor you go up (we were looking at the sixth floor), they raise the rent by $50 per month. So, the next unit available pushes us considerably over budget (we were already stretching our set budget to begin with).
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
AFM I just had my maternity leave kick off with our Maternity Specialist at work. I am tentatively scheduled to be out on leave from June 4th (cause my EDD June 5th is a Tuesday- but I'm suppose to tell the office manager that I plan on going into labor in the office just to freak him out) until September 28th. I signed the boy up for daycare with DD starting in September- I might see if I can move it back to October 1st for him and have my mom watch him that 1 day, even if I have him 2 weeks early (like I had DD) he could stay with my mom and start October 1st. It feels so far away, and yet my leave is scheduled to start in 10 weeks. She is going to submit my claim to our HR/payroll company so they can start my paperwork with Aetna. It's getting very real.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
@jsl82 my doctor actually requested my leave paperwork to sign at my 30 week appointment (EDD June 1). My HR person was surprised it was so early, but it makes sense to get everything organized now. I can't get my partner to sit down with me to discuss leave yet though, so that's frustrating.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Yes, we could definitely figure out how to afford the more expensive apartment. It is only the 10th floor, so we'd be looking at ~$200 more per month. The thing is, the 10th floor has lower ceilings and smaller windows, so I'm annoyed at the idea of paying more for that. The other BIG thing is, that extra $200 per month puts us into a whole new rental market. Like, if we're going to pay that much per month, we could afford something back in Manhattan. So we have to re-evaluate our whole search, if we're willing to bend the budget that much further. Does that make sense?
"Would you rather sort, wash and fold tiny baby clothes?" I got a quick... no thanks.... YA, like I divide stuff up by our "strengths"... TRUST me Hubby, I am making lists.... LOTSA lists.
5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD.
3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice.
@LaceyBee522 Makes total sense. And you're wise to consider all those other options and not just throw the extra money at the 10th floor apt because it's the one in front of you. Also, as everyone else has said, it is*not* dumb or silly to be so sad about the loss of the other apartment. We were outbid on our dream home a couple years ago and I cried for days after getting the call. Once you've started envisioning your life somewhere, it's a real loss!
@catlady1215 Love your story about DS' first kick! In my head, it plays out sort of like 'Charlie bit my finger' but with more joy
Current on going lists:
- groceries
- meal ideas
- baby room to-do
- baby room needs
- house to-do
- dollar store needs
- house needs {broken into 2 parts - do asap & can wait}
But I also have a to-do list for DS, the kid needs all new spring/summer clothes and shoes etc. So i need to sort his drawers and see what even fits first. Ugh, I honestly for got about him and what he needs for awhile there! maybe i'll tackle that this weekend cause there's consignment sales coming up.. and I love consignment sales!!
@marcus7676 I feel like the next 9 weeks will fly by also. it has to do with the time of year it is or something. I need to start checking crap off these lists.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
Anyway, TL;DR, I agree.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
But also, I haven't been a teacher so maybe her attitude is normal. I hope not, because I feel bad for the students but maybe...
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
i found a local one last night! Didn't expect much in DS' cause older kids are hard on clothes. But it was like someone unloaded a full, untouched, wardrobe. (And barely any baby stuff.. which was weird) I controlled myself cause I haven't really checked his sizes for the summer. But 30 bucks for 3 shorts, 5 shirts, and 2 baby clothings items.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
@laceybee522 just between friends. Check the website and if you have any local ones coming up! They're huuuuuge (atleast ours get very very large)
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby