I blabbed to my sister immediately but she lives with us and knew everything we were going through with the meds and IUI. My bff asked me about testing since she knew about the IUI so I told her. My husbands sister had a dream I was pregnant and called him to ask (this is before I tested) and he said no...but two days later called back to say yes.
Im waiting until my first ultrasound to tell my mom and then 12 weeks to tell everyone else.
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Twins: Kaiden and Zara born 10/2018 conceived after 6 years of infertility via a medicated IUI
Ive told my two sisters and some close friends. After our first appt on 3/22, I'll feel good about telling parents and more people. My mom is super supportive but for whatever reason, I don't feel ready to tell her yet. We won't tell the kids until after our 12 week appointment. My son was sad when we lost our last baby, so i'm worried about that happening again.... but Im hoping this goes differently.
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@mempartyof3 a lot of our family totally missed it because they didn’t read DD’s shirt. She had one on that said “the best big sister.” Finally my SIL saw it after 15 minutes of her wearing it and was like “wait, does that mean something?!”
We'll probably announce Easter and the week before, when the family from each side is together. That will be after my first ultrasound. I'll only be about 8 weeks, but if I have the heartbeat I'll feel pretty good about telling close family, and it's rare to have everyone together (my sister lives across the country). Last time I waited until 17 weeks to announce, so this will be different. No social media this time, I'm not very active on it.
I told my parents right away because they are the people that I would tell if we had a loss. Other than that, we will wait until the 8-10 week ultrasound to tell the rest of our families and the end of 1st tri to announce to the world.
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We have a few people in the inner circle who know because we wanted to make sure We have some support if we need it. We've decided to tell both of our immediate families at Easter which I am super excited about. And we'll make our wider announcements at the end of April
Since both my husband and I work in mental health, and he used to work with violent offenders we have decided not to announce on Facebook. But we'll still send out private messages to friends and extended family
We are announcing at 11 wks at the end of DS's bday party. Grandparents from out of state will be in town, so we figured it's the best time to tell everyone in person.
I've got Lent throwing me a block right now 'cause I gave up drinking, but there's no way I'm keeping it from friends a second longer than 2am on Easter, when we kick off a huge week of community parties with a champagne brunch after midnight mass. Which is okay - I'd want everyone to be with me, whatever happens.
Unfortunately, family will probably have to wait till after my first ultrasound. My mom isn't in a good place emotionally and I wouldn't want to pick her up and drop her down, so that means neither side gets told until we've got a heartbeat (since I have a history of MC). They're all out-of-state, though, so it isn't yas awkward as it sounds to have friends know but family not.
Wish it were the other way round, but I'm just lucky to have really supportive friends since my immediate family is not so much!
I would have preferred waiting to spill the beans, but H decided to immediately tell DSD (7 yo) the big surprise and told her it was a secret. Wanna guess how long that secret was kept? Especially seeing as we were at a family wedding (practically a family reunion) when we found out. My mom was told withing 2.5 seconds of DSD seeing her. And then my sister overheard, so all my siblings had to be told... and my aunt. And then H thought it was unfair for my mom to know and not his parents so he told them. And I had to tell my dad and stepmom since my mom knew... So we're waiting to announce to the "rest of the world" until we're further along, but all the essential family members (which there are many) knew the same day I did If timing had been any different (not surrounded by family the day we found out) it would be very different, but oh well can't do anything about it now.
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We told our parents and I've told 2 of my friends (in addition to my Aug '16 BMB group). I don't plan on announcing to the world until maybe 16+ weeks. Last time we announced at 12. We'll see how early I show this time though! I also work in a busy ER so there may be an instance where I need to disclose to avoid exposure to something.
My close family know I got my BFP but they also are completely up to speed with my IVF transfer so they've been asking every day. To the general population I'll probably announce on FB around 10-12 weeks. After my first real ultrasound and when I have been cleared by my RE.
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This is our first pregnancy (4w5d) after a year and a half of infertility, so we are telling close friends and family. Some of them asked us directly anyway b/c they knew we were on our final IUI before pursuing adoption. It feels kind of silly and naive to tell people this soon, but it's your pregnancy--you know the risks, so you can make that call.
Ultimately I agree with @PMForbie that we're only sharing with people who we would tell about a miscarriage. We've been pretty open about our struggles, so odds are we'd be open about that too.
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We typically announce publicly after my first OB appointment, which is usually at 7-8 weeks. I have a hard time waiting because I get so excited. In the past we have told our parents right away, but we are planning a surprise this time so I'm waiting for some shirts to come in. I did tell our in-home daycare provider because she is in high demand and my oldest daughter will be starting preschool this fall, so I wanted to make sure she didn't give her spot away to anyone else lol
We have told our moms and a few close friends. We are waiting to tell the kids until we have our ultrasound on april 9th (i'll be 8 weeks). We probably wont announce to the world (social media) until at least 10 weeks.
I already told some close friends who I know would be more than supportive in the event of a miscarriage. Our plan is to tell our parents on mother's day when I'll be 12 weeks but my parents are coming to visit in a few weeks and, if this pregnancy is anything like my last, morning sickness will give me away so they may find out at 8 weeks. As far as everyone else? Probably around 20 weeks. We didn't do a social media announcement until 6.5 months with my first so I'm content with waiting that long if not longer.
I announced WAY early with my first. But I'm not feeling as confident this time.
Holding off a while. We have family pics next weekend. And will probably tell our family after the 8 week viability appt. But, will wait til 12ish for the big FB announcement.
My J15 mama group already knows because I'm a terrible secret keeper. Lol
I'm 7 weeks today and heard a heartbeat.My best friends knew from the start. I think we will wait a few more weeks to announce to family. My mom and my mother in law's birthdays are in a few weeks. It sure would make a great birthday present for them. First grandchild on my side and my husbands.
Our bosses know because logistics. My parents know, my sister, and my husband's sister because she lives with us. We want to tell his dad, but his stepmom lives on Facebook and can't keep a secret, and we're not speaking to his mom because she's Toxic in how she relates to her children. I feel bad that we can't tell my FIL right away because this is his first grandchild by blood. I'm thinking that we will officially announce at 9 weeks. I'm also bad at keeping secrets and this is going to drive me nuts. I also have an aunt nearby who adores babies but her sons aren't ready to have them and she would be over the moon to know a family baby will soon be close by. My husband and I can't wait to tell her. He's also bad at keeping secrets. Let's see how long we can hold out.
My husband and I decided to tell our immediate family on Easter (that sunday i'll finish being 6 weeks pregnant) and the rest of the world at 12 weeks.
I'm going to try to wait at least 10 weeks or until the heartbeat is heard because of infertility and it was highly unlikely that I would ever become pregnant in the first place.
Family wise, we're going to tell DH's parents on Mother's Day (which is May 6th here) when I'll be about 10 weeks. For my dad, we thought it would be special to tell him on his 60th which is a couple of days later.
FB wise, we'll announce a few weeks after that when my MIL has had time to tell her side of the family.
We are waiting to tell the world when I am 12w. With DS we told at 9w, so I don't know what DH's issue is this go around. So far our parents know and 2 of his sisters know. My god brother came down this weekend and we told him, since I couldn't hide my morning sickness from him. My best friend/coworker knows, so she can cover for me when I need to step away from my desk. DH told his best friend because we asked him to be the godfather. And we are telling my cousins when I get them for Spring Break next week.
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man i just want to scream at the top of my lungs "I'M PREGNANT" to every person i see...but i've been good at restraining. Thought i might slip and tell my friend this weekend but luckily there was never a time to slip it in casually so i didn't. However, my mom and her hubs are coming to visit this weekend and we are telling them then. I wanted to buy shirts for the kids to wear (we did this last time) but my husband is like we can just tell them--party pooper--so no cute shirts were ordered over the weekend i do want to try and hold out at least until our first appointment, but we've also told the kids (for whatever they can understand/remember) and should they slip and say something NBD
@runningyogimama Yes! I had this same thought. I had been planning to tell them on Easter when I will be 8.5 weeks but I am wondering about holding off until Mother's Day weekend. I guess it will come down to how my 8-week US goes.
We got pregnant through fertility treatment (FET) and our close friends and family already knew we were trying, so all of them already know. I didn't see any reason to be coy since they are all asking all the time anyway, plus it's fun to be able to share. I won't make it "fb official" until 12+ weeks, though.
my coworker arrived for her shift and out of nowhere tells me she had a dream I was pregnant with twins, and that the last time she had a dream like that it came true. I’m pretty sure I turned blue or something cause she immediately screamed “OMG are you pregnant??”
I did did my best to lie, but I’m not a very believable liar!
So we were going to announce on Mother's day and my dad's birthday (as above somewhere) but plans have changed. Work had planned to have me working with book conservation (ie mold, dust and chemicals) so I had to announce early at work. We're also now going away to visit some of my family the weekend after Easter and my cousin is a midwife who can spot a pregnancy at 20 feet. Being a bit worried about others knowing before parents, we're announcing to our parents over Easter. We're still planning to make it FB official around Mother's day if no one spills the beans for us.
@thebobloblaw I had something similar happen. 2 days after I got my bfp, 2 diff people in my weight lifting class asked if I was ok. I almost blurted out, I'm fine I'm just pregnant
@cm716 I won’t know until April 9th! They do run in my family, my age increases the chance and my symptoms are a little more severe than pregnancies so I’d say there’s a chance!
I can’t keep a secret to save my life. With my first we told pretty much everyone right away and I later found out I was only 6 weeks at the time and now this is our second, I am 5 weeks and a few close friends, my mom, my SIL and my bosses know. I work around things and people that aren’t always safe for pregnant women so I needed to tell my bosses but I’m not a very private person so the way I see it is tell people when you want to. There’s no right time.
I've already told someone at work along with my best friends... quite a few girls at work knew about my loss and that we were moving on to IVF and one of them asked me for an update so I told her (because she's too sweet to lie to and I suck at lying). When I went up to see my friend's baby yesterday the charge nurse (I work there in the nursery) saw me and asked how my lab draw went. I was going to get CD 3 lab work drawn and centrifuged at the hospital and then sent home with me to send to my RE's office in CO. To do this I had to get the lab managers info from the charge nurse (they are friends) so I couldn't say it went fine and lie to her if they talk often... so awkward. I just said I might not need it anymore and said shhhh.
I hope not many more ask the next few weeks, because I'd really like to tell my parents before many others know!
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I'm at 7 weeks. close family and friends know. I was trying to hold off on telling my dad & his wife, but they figured it out after I turned down a glass of wine 3 times in a row, and didn't touch the oysters they ordered at dinner.
told my management at work for staffing reasons, but it's a good thing I did, b/c I know my office habits have changed and my boss would have eventually asked. what's strange, though, is when I told my boss (at 6 weeks) he asked my due date, I told him, and then he said, "so you've known for how long?" sort of implying that I should have told him sooner? and THEN said, "congratulations.... be careful what you wish for"
anyway, we are waiting until june to tell my in-laws. we want to surprise them w/ my big ol' belly when we drive out to visit them. SIL is pregnant, too, due two weeks before me, so I've also gotta be careful not to upstage her. (this is her first pregnancy)
Snip what's strange, though, is when I told my boss (at 6 weeks) he asked my due date, I told him, and then he said, "so you've known for how long?" sort of implying that I should have told him sooner? and THEN said, "congratulations.... be careful what you wish for"
@sailorosie Wow. What a complete... Yes asshat. Asshat is a good word (thank you @wannaflickone). My go to is usually douchenozzel. And that fits too!
We told my parents and sister yesterday (7w1d) and hope to tell the inlaws on Saturday. My brother and sister in law are impossible to pin down, but we will try. And we have a family gathering with his siblings next weekend so we will tell them then. Everyone else I want to wait until I see/hear a heart beat at 12 weeks. Although I'm sure people at work will figure it out.
My mom is stoked. She wants to tell everyone. My dad keeps saying "nope!" Mom says "what about so and so at work?!" "Nope!" "What about..." "nope!" Haha. I made them a Christmas ornament of a family of snowmen. They didn't notice that it said grandma and grandpa. While they were looking at it, I asked my sister if she would start knitting a new Christmas stocking (she learned from my Gran how to make our family stockings, before Gran died last year), and sister started bouncing up and down, screaming. Mom was like "wait...are you pregnant or something?!" Lmao.
I'm glad they know. But it also feels...surprisingly weird. Like our little private bubble is gone.
@argyleagain, @wannaflickone, @babybrain2018, thanks. in his defense, I'm convinced he has two feet firmly planted on the spectrum. that's not to insult or put down those ON the spectrum, but it's what I tell myself on a daily basis to excuse his lack of social awareness.
if anyone is a fan of the office, my boss is what michael scott's and dwight schrute's love child would be.
@sailorosie That makes sense, but still pretty rude. My boss is younger than me, and is anti marriage and children. I am so not looking forward to telling him because I fear he will say something similar.
For those that told your employer, did you put something in writing or just have a conversation?
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Re: When will you announce?
Im waiting until my first ultrasound to tell my mom and then 12 weeks to tell everyone else.
Two Furbabies: Mika (american eskimo) and Gypsy (wire-haired terrier, dachshund mix)
Twins: Kaiden and Zara born 10/2018 conceived after 6 years of infertility via a medicated IUI
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DD1 February 2014
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Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Since both my husband and I work in mental health, and he used to work with violent offenders we have decided not to announce on Facebook. But we'll still send out private messages to friends and extended family
Unfortunately, family will probably have to wait till after my first ultrasound. My mom isn't in a good place emotionally and I wouldn't want to pick her up and drop her down, so that means neither side gets told until we've got a heartbeat (since I have a history of MC). They're all out-of-state, though, so it isn't yas awkward as it sounds to have friends know but family not.
Wish it were the other way round, but I'm just lucky to have really supportive friends since my immediate family is not so much!
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Ultimately I agree with @PMForbie that we're only sharing with people who we would tell about a miscarriage. We've been pretty open about our struggles, so odds are we'd be open about that too.
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Holding off a while. We have family pics next weekend. And will probably tell our family after the 8 week viability appt. But, will wait til 12ish for the big FB announcement.
My J15 mama group already knows because I'm a terrible secret keeper. Lol
FB wise, we'll announce a few weeks after that when my MIL has had time to tell her side of the family.
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my coworker arrived for her shift and out of nowhere tells me she had a dream I was pregnant with twins, and that the last time she had a dream like that it came true. I’m pretty sure I turned blue or something cause she immediately screamed “OMG are you pregnant??”
I did did my best to lie, but I’m not a very believable liar!
Are you having twins?!
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I hope not many more ask the next few weeks, because I'd really like to tell my parents before many others know!
edited because too many gifs! oops!
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told my management at work for staffing reasons, but it's a good thing I did, b/c I know my office habits have changed and my boss would have eventually asked. what's strange, though, is when I told my boss (at 6 weeks) he asked my due date, I told him, and then he said, "so you've known for how long?" sort of implying that I should have told him sooner? and THEN said, "congratulations.... be careful what you wish for"
anyway, we are waiting until june to tell my in-laws. we want to surprise them w/ my big ol' belly when we drive out to visit them. SIL is pregnant, too, due two weeks before me, so I've also gotta be careful not to upstage her. (this is her first pregnancy)
Wow. What a complete... Yes asshat. Asshat is a good word (thank you @wannaflickone). My go to is usually douchenozzel. And that fits too!
We told my parents and sister yesterday (7w1d) and hope to tell the inlaws on Saturday. My brother and sister in law are impossible to pin down, but we will try. And we have a family gathering with his siblings next weekend so we will tell them then.
Everyone else I want to wait until I see/hear a heart beat at 12 weeks. Although I'm sure people at work will figure it out.
My mom is stoked. She wants to tell everyone. My dad keeps saying "nope!" Mom says "what about so and so at work?!" "Nope!" "What about..." "nope!" Haha.
I made them a Christmas ornament of a family of snowmen. They didn't notice that it said grandma and grandpa. While they were looking at it, I asked my sister if she would start knitting a new Christmas stocking (she learned from my Gran how to make our family stockings, before Gran died last year), and sister started bouncing up and down, screaming.
Mom was like "wait...are you pregnant or something?!" Lmao.
I'm glad they know. But it also feels...surprisingly weird. Like our little private bubble is gone.
if anyone is a fan of the office, my boss is what michael scott's and dwight schrute's love child would be.
For those that told your employer, did you put something in writing or just have a conversation?
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