I really wish xanax were pregnancy safe, but infant risk (via their awesome app Mommy Meds-worth the $3 btw it gives better info than a lot of doctors on breastfeedinig safe drugs, and infant risk is the ultimate authority!) says no.
I would love to have something that is short acting, use only when I need, anti-anxiety drug. Won't even have a chance to talk this over with my regular doc though for at least a month. Because so many other appointments going on.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@ashh2018 ugh, I'm sorry your doctor wasn't willing to entertain the thought of having sertraline on board. I'd mention it again and have a frank conversation about your history of anxiety. There's definitely a fine line between best for baby and best for mom. While you may not be in a compromising place currently, there's a lot of stress that comes along with pregnancy and it's worth being in a healthy state of mind. I always advocate for self care and speaking up to your health care providers to get your best care.
@nlc8424 I agree. Previous doctor placed a lot of importance on my mental health, I will tell her we need to discuss it.
@pourmeamocktail I’ve been using twizzlers but it’s not the same. Fast acting, yes, but it doesn’t last.
Just came home from work. My dad snapped at my mom once, and I jokingly said “please let’s not be crazy tonight, I had a long day!” Then he did it again (she’s sort of a space cadet but he’ll but into our conversation and yell at her) so I fucking snapped and told him “I specifically asked you not to be a jerk. I shouldn’t have to ask that.” And now I’m in my bathroom wishing I could go back to work. Send twizzlers.
Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I’m hosting a bridal shower for my bff in a few weeks and her mom texted me asking if she could help in any way, “or pick up a fruit tray or something.” I told her I had been planning on getting a fruit tray but if she wanted to get one that would be great! And she said “maybe it’s best if you get it.” ?????? If you don’t want to help... then don’t offer?
Just found out I have weddings to attend in august, september, october and november this year. August and Nov are on the other side of the country and Sept is two days before my due date. They are all my closest girl friends so I really want to go, but damn I’m exhausted just thinking about it.
PP: repetitive annoying noises. Especially people who tap things or constantly clear their throat.
@AdmiralKitty yes to the repetitive noises! My H does this all the time and I always tell him to stop since it drives me crazy. Also that sounds exhausting attending that many weddings so many months in a row. I hope you're able to go to most!
PP- When others aren't organized. When people show up more than 15 mins late anywhere. When DH eats garlic or cheese right before bed. When I see healthy individuals sitting in the elderly/pregnant woman spot on public transportation. My in laws. When DH drives while playing on his phone. When I hear two or more noises in a room.
@smsaulino I often take public transportation to and from work because my employer pays for it, and I fully plan on taking advantage of being pregnant to get a seat in the afternoons! If I have sciatic pain like I did last time, I will NEED to sit down and I hope people are nice about it
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@embri12 my MIL does this all the time! For mother’s day last year she offered to pick up champagne and orange juice then asked DH to do it the day before (right after I had gone grocery shopping)... my parents were going to the store so I had them do it instead, because they don’t offer to be nice then make my H do it instead.
@smsaulino@southernlady07 I had terrible experiences on public transportation my last pregnancy. I’m fact, the only good thing was that I found some serious satisfaction in asking people for a seat like “excuse me, I’m 8 months pregnant and have no balance, would anyone mind giving up their seat?” And watching people shame each other. The BEST however was when someone asked ME for their seat...he was a roughly 50-60 year old man who looked like he’d had a tough life and did seem to have some physical limitations, but he was VERY RUDE about it. Basically not asking, just loudly proclaiming young people should not take the seats. And the guy next to me didn’t move...my stop was soon, so I stood up and said “I’m 8 months pregnant, but if it’s so important to you, here’s my seat”. He took it! A woman across the way ended up giving me her seat, but everyone was glaring so hard at the guy who asked rudely AND the jerk who didn’t get up.
@MandyMost Oh my gosh!!! I bet he got so many glares after that. The nerve! Thankfully, the people using this public transportation are all commuters so it is not random people; I see most of them every day! And I live in the South, so in general people are pretty nice and accommodating
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
I have a recently reminded pet peeve- when people blame pregnancy hormones for being crazy or irrational or just a beyotch. Like, yea, there are more hormones than normal, but for *most* situations you aren't gonna become a completely different psycho person. I follow a twin mom group on fb and omg these women be cray. Don't give us all a bad name for your crazy!
BFP #2 4/3/15= ectopic treated with methotrexate 5/1, YET ruptured 5/18/15= One Tube Wonder!
2 Cycles of Femara, Ovidrel, & Progesterone= BFP #3 DS born 5/17/16 TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free) BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17 BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!! DS and DD born 8/21/18
@southernlady07@smsaulino@MandyMost I’m totally enjoying the bus conversation! I live in L.A. and I don’t have a car. I take a commuter express bus to and from work every day. I know most people on the bus, but they don’t know I’m pregnant. Sometimes I have to stand and I just can’t wait to actually look pregnant so that people will offer me a seat! I don’t normally mind standing, but it’s 45 minutes and I’ve been feeling dizzy. I did it the other day and now I am promising myself - never again. I will just wait for the next bus. But it’s Los Angeles - a good amount of the people are selfish jerks. There are also lovely people here. So, it will be interesting to see what happens!
@magnolia209 I'm in Houston which is known mainly as a medical city, amongst other things. So when I ride public transportation into the hospital area for my appointments or to volunteer, I never really know if the people sitting have a hidden illness or not. It's just when I get on the rail at my stop, it's standing room only. I'm not on there long.. maybe 15 minutes or so.
Can everyone please join me in a big ‘ol “F this bitch”?
I have an old friend who was never much of a friend. More of a manipulator, sort of toxic so I cut ties when I moved. She periodically texts me, usually bc she needs something “I’m looking for a new job in ____, don’t you know someone who works at ____?”, etc. Well, I announced my pregnancy on social media yesterday (yay!) and immediately got a text from her: “Congratulations! I’m a little jealous “. Like, sorry? I texted back “Thanks!” She asked some more weird questions like “was it a surprise? Is your family happy?”
I just logged into fb to see that she updated her status to be a pic of an ultrasound of her heart (wtf?!). So now everyone is commenting “OMG congratulations!” Good lord.
I just remembered that I have a chocolate ice cream bar in the work freezer that I bought last week... then I remembered some idiot blew the breaker on Saturday and didn’t reset it, so our fridge and freezer was off for 24 hours. I’m gonna guess no more ice cream bar...
@Patience7150 right? lol I’m tempted to finally put an end to the periodic friendship by texting her to tell her that faux pregnancy announcements are in poor taste.
I feel like acknowledging it would give her some satisfaction...Like reacting in any way will let her feel like she robbed you of something, therefore building herself up. It's so freaking weird why people are the way they are, but I'd just stop acknowledging she exists and let it come to a head the next time she tries to text you. Then again, I hate giving people satisfaction when they're trying to get me to take some bait.
@ashh2018 I agree with @Patience7150. It doesn't seem like she's worth the time or effort to respond letting her know her action was in poor taste. She obviously just wants attention and by responding you'd be giving her that satisfaction!
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@fwtx5815 truly. This is the same woman who sent me a fb message when I announced my engagement that said “I’m so happy for you! And I totally understand, I’ll be happy even if I’m not invited to your wedding.” I hadn’t seen her in ten years and we rarely speak. Not to mention, I had a small, primarily family wedding with 40 guests. No, you’re not invited lol. But clearly you’re “so happy” for me haha.
@ashh2018 I have a new favorite button on Facebook to deal with that ish. It's labeled "block." I've used it a few times recently and it felt goooood. I say Facebook block and then block her number on your phone. Don't waste your time with people like that.
@ashh2018 What a weird, immature, selfish woman! I say cut ties ASAP.
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
Re: Monday Moans- Pet Peeve Edition
I would love to have something that is short acting, use only when I need, anti-anxiety drug. Won't even have a chance to talk this over with my regular doc though for at least a month. Because so many other appointments going on.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeamocktail I’ve been using twizzlers but it’s not the same. Fast acting, yes, but it doesn’t last.
Just came home from work. My dad snapped at my mom once, and I jokingly said “please let’s not be crazy tonight, I had a long day!” Then he did it again (she’s sort of a space cadet but he’ll but into our conversation and yell at her) so I fucking snapped and told him “I specifically asked you not to be a jerk. I shouldn’t have to ask that.” And now I’m in my bathroom wishing I could go back to work. Send twizzlers.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
PP: repetitive annoying noises. Especially people who tap things or constantly clear their throat.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free)
BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17
BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!!
DS and DD born 8/21/18
I have an old friend who was never much of a friend. More of a manipulator, sort of toxic so I cut ties when I moved. She periodically texts me, usually bc she needs something “I’m looking for a new job in ____, don’t you know someone who works at ____?”, etc. Well, I announced my pregnancy on social media yesterday (yay!) and immediately got a text from her: “Congratulations! I’m a little jealous “. Like, sorry? I texted back “Thanks!” She asked some more weird questions like “was it a surprise? Is your family happy?”
I just logged into fb to see that she updated her status to be a pic of an ultrasound of her heart (wtf?!). So now everyone is commenting “OMG congratulations!” Good lord.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
It feels like she just tries to insert herself into whatever important events those going on around her are experiencing.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I say Facebook block and then block her number on your phone. Don't waste your time with people like that.
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d