I only ever buy cheap toilet paper. Love the stuff.
1. I can't stand the thought of spending so much money on stuff we literally flush down the drain. 2. We have a septic, so the thick stuff would only clog up the works and we'd have an actual living nightmare on our hands. 3. The thick stuff always pills up into those gross little white TP germ-worms, which are literally the grossest thing to have to clean up off the bathroom floor. :s 4. I can use as much of the cheap stuff as I please without worrying about having to pull out the plunger. Ever. Love it.
UO: I don't like the whole baby name idea where you see how it would sound with "judge" or "president" before it. Like, what if I don't want my kid to be either of those things?! That's a high stress job.
@businesswife Weirdo. But whatever floats your boat.
@stothi Also wrong. I love those mini boxes of raisins. Nom nom.
This may be the most controversial for the week and I apologize bc I’m about to post and go for several hours: I do judge Pit bulls based on personal experience and breed reputation. I’ve had multiple experiences with dogs of that breed agressing on family or my personal well-socialized and non-dominant dogs unprovoked. I’ve heard all the arguments that it is the owners not the breed, but am (and will remain) unconvinced when pits are in question. Sorry, not sorry.
I do not feel this way about all breed with reputations- Rotties are amazing and a bad rottie is an owner issue/ trauma and not a breed thing.
I know this is unpopular, and I totally get why some people are doing it, but I find it very personally disturbing seeing kids who are walking age sidling up to their mom and just chowing down on the boob. Please don’t hate me!
@SkilledSailor my son has a pretty common first name but I only call him by his nickname. I've had people ask why I didn't just name him his nickname instead of the formal version and I've always said that the formal name being his legal name was my gift to him in case he was a doctor or a lawyer or something. On the flip side of that, I've very carefully documented the crazy ways he mispronounces his name cause I swear they'd all make get stripper/burlesque/stage magician/comedian names. I just want my son to be prepared for whatever life brings him, lol!
@stothi That makes sense! I've just seen on other name threads people using the "president _____" criteria as a way to be judgy of less formal names. Not everyone has those particular aspirations for their child. Also, love that you're documenting his mispronunciations! Those can be so funny.
@spottedginger It's hard to argue with personal experience. Some of my favorite dogs have been pits and I think it really is owner determined, and probably some breeding. I.e. some people breed their pits specifically for aggressive behaviors while others do not. Meanwhile a lab mix today scared the sh*t out of me because he definitely looked like he was going to bite me. And I've been bitten by nearly every dachshund I met so those are the ones I dislike because of personal experience.
I know this is unpopular, and I totally get why some people are doing it, but I find it very personally disturbing seeing kids who are walking age sidling up to their mom and just chowing down on the boob. Please don’t hate me!
I don't hate you But I am interested to discuss why you feel that way. By walking age do you mean like a toddler? Or like 5 year old? Cause my kiddo was walking pretty good around a year old and I definitely would have still been nursing him if I could! 1 and even 2 year olds are really kinda still babies. I don't get weirded out until the kid is like 4 or 5. And I don't mind if someone breastfeeds until their kiddo is 12 if that works for them both, but I personally struggle a little passed the age of 4 or 5, with what my personal perception of "normal" is. Just because kiddos around that age really start to be aware of personal privacy and their body parts and to me that's when it can get weird. 1,2, and even 3 year olds are still in a place where a breast, a butt, genitals, an elbow, their head or their nose all have the same value. They don't really see a difference between those parts, you know? So to me it's not all weird to still bathe together, use the bathroom together, breastfeed, whatever. It's all just a part of nature with no other qualifiers put on it by the child.
I have a pit bull, a dachshund, and I nurse my 21 month old. Hm. I'm not offended by what anyone said, cuz you were all polite about it.
I have had plenty of bad dog experiences, but a ton were from supposed "family friendly" breeds. Some were from dachshunds, some rotts, some shepherds, a pit bull or two, and a ton of small annoying dogs. But a lot of labs, golden, spaniels, pointers, etc. I get having fear from personal experiences, but I haven't met one mean/aggressive dog with a reasonable handler/owner-a dog-smart person who works with them well. Pretty much all of them came from obvious idiots who either didn't think training their dog was necessary, who causeabused their dog, or who encouraged them to be "guard dogs."
I think nursing toddlers was covered previously very nicely. I can't take away the magic boob shut up trick yet.
I like that we can have discussions about things on here ladies. Thank you. I haven't seen attacks, yay!
My UO: I'd love if this board you actually had to join and get approved by an admin to post, and that after a certain date where everyone was definitely into second trimester...no new people could join.
I feel like it would be more tight-knit and less blizzards. I mean, I don't mind everyone being able to read, and I actually appreciate some lurkers who post helpfully too, and I'm not sure how I could make that work in my Utopia board vision here, lol, but it sounds nice in my head, lol.
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I guess I’ve never taken the naming suggestion of thinking of “judge ____” or “president ____” as literal, meaning those should be your aspirations for the kid. I think it’s just a cute little suggestion that’s nicer than saying “don’t be selfish and give your kid a silly name that THEY will have to live with (not you). Remember that your cute little baby is going to grow up and be their own person; you’re naming a person who will be an adult, not just a baby”. But maybe I just read too much into that!!!
Outside of Judge Judy, I'm 90% certain all judges and presidents get called by their last names, so that's really just a silly exercise. I'd probably have even less respect if I had to call him President Donald because Duck would always be added to the end.
This may be the most controversial for the week and I apologize bc I’m about to post and go for several hours: I do judge Pit bulls based on personal experience and breed reputation. I’ve had multiple experiences with dogs of that breed agressing on family or my personal well-socialized and non-dominant dogs unprovoked. I’ve heard all the arguments that it is the owners not the breed, but am (and will remain) unconvinced when pits are in question. Sorry, not sorry.
I do not feel this way about all breed with reputations- Rotties are amazing and a bad rottie is an owner issue/ trauma and not a breed thing.
@spottedginger I am a pitbull owner, and have had had several pits. I used to have the opposite view- that it was the 100% the owner. I did, however, have an experience with a litter that was just mean. They were from two large, aggressive parents, and no amount of training would change their behavior. So I do agree that the breed can be aggressive sometimes. With that being said, I've had way more negative experiences with small dogs, and even "family" dogs. I love my pit so much. I want you and your dogs to come play. If they don't mind my pup giving them a bath..
@Redpuma119 My dogs will come play with yours. They love to be loved on. Big old messy pit party, with side of soggy dachshund.
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I worked at a pet store for a few years. I had a lab snap at my face, several tiny dogs growl at me while the owner assured me petting them would be fine, a St Bernard that bit a kid in the store (no blood, just scary), and many bully mixes that were just lovely.
Pure bred pit bull terriers are rare, absolutely bred for dog fighting, but should not be people agressive. I get annoyed when people call their bully mutt pit bull terriers. I think misidentifying dogs as pit bulls is a huge problem and gives a lot of dogs an undeserved bad reputation.
I also think breeding/genetics plays a big part in a dog's personality and bad/oblivious owners can create nervous/aggressive dogs. I wish everyone was required to take a class on dog body language.
UO: stop calling your lovely goofy mutt a pit bull
Regarding dogs... I work with trained therapy dogs at the hospital. I take them around to visit the children. You'd be surprised with no matter how much training dogs have, there will be some dogs that just don't get along well with one another. Especially our goldens. We have a golden that came from a champion line and he doesn't like a lot of the other dogs. He can only be in elevator with the other goldens.
My dog has a few dog friends and hates all others. When I was a dog trainer I tried to relate it to how you don't like every person you have ever met and aren't friends with everyone. That usually helped people understand their dog better
@eerin86 That’s a good way to put it! I don’t like when people automatically bring their dog up to mine to meet. My dog is very picky about other dogs in her space and just doesn’t like it. Will she start a fight? Probably not but let’s not find out. I may start saying the “we don’t like all people” part to help them understand.
I have a pit bull, a dachshund, and I nurse my 21 month old. Hm. I'm not offended by what anyone said, cuz you were all polite about it.
I have had plenty of bad dog experiences, but a ton were from supposed "family friendly" breeds. Some were from dachshunds, some rotts, some shepherds, a pit bull or two, and a ton of small annoying dogs. But a lot of labs, golden, spaniels, pointers, etc. I get having fear from personal experiences, but I haven't met one mean/aggressive dog with a reasonable handler/owner-a dog-smart person who works with them well. Pretty much all of them came from obvious idiots who either didn't think training their dog was necessary, who causeabused their dog, or who encouraged them to be "guard dogs."
I think nursing toddlers was covered previously very nicely. I can't take away the magic boob shut up trick yet.
I like that we can have discussions about things on here ladies. Thank you. I haven't seen attacks, yay!
My UO: I'd love if this board you actually had to join and get approved by an admin to post, and that after a certain date where everyone was definitely into second trimester...no new people could join.
I feel like it would be more tight-knit and less blizzards. I mean, I don't mind everyone being able to read, and I actually appreciate some lurkers who post helpfully too, and I'm not sure how I could make that work in my Utopia board vision here, lol, but it sounds nice in my head, lol.
@pourmeamocktail, regarding your UO, think that is why most boards move to a secret Facebook group...more private and an admin has to approve new members and the group can choose when to stop accepting new members. .
@jjess1201 totally agreed, but I also am not ready for that level of closeness yet.
My last board ended up making a members by invite only private board on the bump several months in, but still second trimester, and then most of those people moved into a Facebook group around delivery date.
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@jjess1201 totally agreed, but I also am not ready for that level of closeness yet.
My last board ended up making a members by invite only private board on the bump several months in, but still second trimester, and then most of those people moved into a Facebook group around delivery date.
That’s what my last BMB did too... private group on the bump, then secret group on Facebook (although I admit we did that a bit before delivery date).
@jjess1201 totally agreed, but I also am not ready for that level of closeness yet.
My last board ended up making a members by invite only private board on the bump several months in, but still second trimester, and then most of those people moved into a Facebook group around delivery date.
That’s what my last BMB did too... private group on the bump, then secret group on Facebook (although I admit we did that a bit before delivery date).
I didn't know the bump had private groups, interesting! I wish the bump was more mobile friendly...I never log in on a computer so I dont know if someone tags me or responds to me unless I stalk the thread....its really hindered me from being more active because I don't want to be the jerk who doesn't respond. So I'm just the jerk that doesn't participate all the time. Lol
Yeah, that's why you pretty much do just #stalkallthethreads :D @jjess1201. There's a lot going on that isn't necessarily directed at <i>ME</i>, but that's still how I get to know people and what's going on with the whole board. If it were all about me, it would be pretty boring! I pretty much exclusively mobile bump, too.
Okay, here is an UO: I don’t really like dogs! I know, I know. Don’t get me wrong, dogs are cool and cute and loving and good companions. I get it, but they all smell bad to me and they always have to touch me and lick me when I’m not expecting it. I’m a little scared of the big ones and a little unimpressed by the little ones. But, I must say, my friends just got a little puppy pit bull. The dog is very sweet and very smart. And, I just get the feeling it knows I’m pregnant. It’s extra gentle with me. But it still likes to lick my hands and it still smells like a dog! My husband LOVES dogs. He lets them like his face and it’s so gross!!! But dogs love him too and that is very sweet to watch. Needless to say, I’m very glad to live in an apartment where we are not allowed to have dogs.
Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@magnolia209 I don't mind the stink. They do stink though. At least mine does. Her breath is the worst! I can't stand to be licked so I just ask the dogs to not lick me. Usually they are cool and if they won't stop licking I tell them to get away. Stink and licking aside I like some dogs very much. Really big, really calm dogs are my favorite. Big excitable dogs kinda freak me out, but I pretend like they don't cause I want to seem cool.
@magnolia209 she's such a good girl. She's so kind and patient with my toddler and our kittens. Just the sweetest little old lady dog. I think she's 12 or 13 years old. With the stinkiest damn breath, lol! She's a little miniature poodle/mutt dog. I went to the pound looking for a puppy and this dirty shaggy 2 year old poodle mutt decided I was her person and it was a done deal. The lady at the pound went into the kennel to get the puppy we were there to see and the older dog in the kennel wouldn't let the lady anywhere near her, and ran out and sat between my feet! We took the little puppy to the meet and greet area and that puppy didn't care about us at all. When we went back I said let's try with the older dog and she wouldn't leave my side. Just wanted to sit and cuddle with me. Didn't want to leave me to go back in the kennel. Yup. She chose me and she made it obvious to everyone ever since that I'm her person. It was meant to be People that don't normally like dogs tend to like her. Her breath not so much, but the dog herself people like, lol.
@stothi a similar situation happened with my parent’s cat. They went to get a kitten and the only cat who showed affection was a one year old (who had just had kittens herself) and she ended up being the best cat! She would not leave my sister’s or my dad’s side for 12 years! Meanwhile I forced my kitten to love me (now he’s 10 and only has eyes for my mom 99% of the time... and he does live with them, but he still gives me kisses on occasion).
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UO- raisins are disgusting.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I only ever buy cheap toilet paper. Love the stuff.
1. I can't stand the thought of spending so much money on stuff we literally flush down the drain.
2. We have a septic, so the thick stuff would only clog up the works and we'd have an actual living nightmare on our hands.
3. The thick stuff always pills up into those gross little white TP germ-worms, which are literally the grossest thing to have to clean up off the bathroom floor. :s
4. I can use as much of the cheap stuff as I please without worrying about having to pull out the plunger. Ever. Love it.
Wow. You went straight for a really real UO! Way to raise the bar!
*Starts slow clap*
I think that's the most controversial thing I've ever read and I mean, I've read baby shower etiquette threads, so I've seen some things, lol!
@businesswife Weirdo. But whatever floats your boat.
@stothi Also wrong. I love those mini boxes of raisins. Nom nom.
I do not feel this way about all breed with reputations- Rotties are amazing and a bad rottie is an owner issue/ trauma and not a breed thing.
@spottedginger It's hard to argue with personal experience. Some of my favorite dogs have been pits and I think it really is owner determined, and probably some breeding. I.e. some people breed their pits specifically for aggressive behaviors while others do not. Meanwhile a lab mix today scared the sh*t out of me because he definitely looked like he was going to bite me. And I've been bitten by nearly every dachshund I met so those are the ones I dislike because of personal experience.
By walking age do you mean like a toddler? Or like 5 year old? Cause my kiddo was walking pretty good around a year old and I definitely would have still been nursing him if I could! 1 and even 2 year olds are really kinda still babies. I don't get weirded out until the kid is like 4 or 5. And I don't mind if someone breastfeeds until their kiddo is 12 if that works for them both, but I personally struggle a little passed the age of 4 or 5, with what my personal perception of "normal" is. Just because kiddos around that age really start to be aware of personal privacy and their body parts and to me that's when it can get weird. 1,2, and even 3 year olds are still in a place where a breast, a butt, genitals, an elbow, their head or their nose all have the same value. They don't really see a difference between those parts, you know? So to me it's not all weird to still bathe together, use the bathroom together, breastfeed, whatever. It's all just a part of nature with no other qualifiers put on it by the child.
I have had plenty of bad dog experiences, but a ton were from supposed "family friendly" breeds. Some were from dachshunds, some rotts, some shepherds, a pit bull or two, and a ton of small annoying dogs. But a lot of labs, golden, spaniels, pointers, etc. I get having fear from personal experiences, but I haven't met one mean/aggressive dog with a reasonable handler/owner-a dog-smart person who works with them well. Pretty much all of them came from obvious idiots who either didn't think training their dog was necessary, who causeabused their dog, or who encouraged them to be "guard dogs."
I think nursing toddlers was covered previously very nicely. I can't take away the magic boob shut up trick yet.
I like that we can have discussions about things on here ladies. Thank you. I haven't seen attacks, yay!
My UO: I'd love if this board you actually had to join and get approved by an admin to post, and that after a certain date where everyone was definitely into second trimester...no new people could join.
I feel like it would be more tight-knit and less blizzards. I mean, I don't mind everyone being able to read, and I actually appreciate some lurkers who post helpfully too, and I'm not sure how I could make that work in my Utopia board vision here, lol, but it sounds nice in my head, lol.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
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DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Pure bred pit bull terriers are rare, absolutely bred for dog fighting, but should not be people agressive. I get annoyed when people call their bully mutt pit bull terriers. I think misidentifying dogs as pit bulls is a huge problem and gives a lot of dogs an undeserved bad reputation.
I also think breeding/genetics plays a big part in a dog's personality and bad/oblivious owners can create nervous/aggressive dogs. I wish everyone was required to take a class on dog body language.
UO: stop calling your lovely goofy mutt a pit bull
My dog has a few dog friends and hates all others. When I was a dog trainer I tried to relate it to how you don't like every person you have ever met and aren't friends with everyone. That usually helped people understand their dog better
My last board ended up making a members by invite only private board on the bump several months in, but still second trimester, and then most of those people moved into a Facebook group around delivery date.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@stothi That sounds like true love and acceptance!