I know this topic has been beat to death, but I am so so so sick of other people asking us when/telling us to have kids. My birthday was Saturday, and one of my aunts commented on a picture I posted on Facebook saying it's time to make my parents grandparents and our family isn't quite big enough yet, "surely I want to be the one who pushes them over the 50 member mark" and I got ENRAGED. I'm blaming hormones, but I literally had to slide my phone across the table to DH so I didn't go on a rant on Facebook. Sure, I'm approximately 5 weeks along with a pregnancy right now, but she doesn't know that because we haven't told anyone, and that's SO rude and none of her business! I know these people mean well, but I get so pissed about this. What if I, like so many others in this world, struggle with infertility? What if I lose this baby I'm carrying right now? What if I don't want kids because I'd be a horrible parent?
I really wish I could have thought of something eloquent to tell her so she'd shut her mouth, but I decided to not respond at all. Gah why can't people just think?!
Re: People commenting on your uterus
Good for you for not responding. Maybe there is a time further down the road when you can softly help her see those other considerations that she failed to contemplate.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
She still dropped lots of hints for us. So did his dad.
I seriously just stopped responding to their comments but they lit me up every time.
Honestly the one person I am SUPER excited to tell is his mom. She has never said a peep about it and I know it kills her that her relationship with my one SIL who has a 1 year old son is not great and my SIL also lives a few states away so she hasn't even really seen him. I know we can't take that pain away from her but I hope she enjoys having a sorta nearby grandchild with a son who pursues a relationship with her (complicated family drama).
I am still so grateful to my parents that they let me and my ex make our own decisions about parenthood. In retrospect, having children with him would have been a disaster.
I hated her.
We went through 6 years of fertility treatments before having our first.
But for real man that sucks. Some people need a spinny ride on a cactus.
Edited to add: @lynzev I'm sorry your family is being that way. It feels like that generation who so adamantly wants us to grow our family tree also isn't a big fan of a company paying for a maternity leave because you "made the choice to have a baby"....or maybe it's just my family
Married: 12/16/12
TTC #1: 06/15 BFP #1:07/13/15
D&C: 08/28/15
BFP #2: 09/26/15
M: 06/03/16
BFP #2: 02/12/18
L : 7/26/18 (SIUGR, micropreemie)
It def DOES NOT get better after you have one baby. In fact I found people got more aggressive. “You know you really want them to be close together.” “Your daughter deserves a sibling!!” I WANTED TO EXPLODE!
@estellegetty I agree that it gets way worse after your first one.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I can't even imagine what some of you ladies have been through. With my PCOS and my husband's reversal, I knew our chances were skewed. However, it was fairly easy. My heart goes out to those of you who have had to fight tooth and nail for your little ones.