Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introductions (Part 2)
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Congratulations on your pregnancy and we’re glad for you to join us!
I've been a dirty lurker for a while but now I think I have guts to post again. I'm 37, DH 36, and DS is 5. We live in central Illinois, but I'm originally from CA and DH from S. America. I used to be somewhat active in Oct 2012 BMB but I can't remember my UN, PW, or even what email address I used.
This is pregnancy #6 for me: TW*** I ended my last pregnancy because Trisomy 18. ***
In any case, I have GD and take insulin (fun), between that and AMA I have a high risk pregnancy. Thanks to placenta previa my son was born via planned c-section. It was great!
I look forward to getting to know all of you!
DS2 due: 6/2018
I am now currently 16w+6d. My husband and I are so excited to finally be getting our baby. We have been trying for 4 years with 2 losses. So us getting this far along is so amazing. I can't wait to meet my baby in June.
It is nice meeting you all!
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I’m a FTM and EDD is June 14th. MH and I are both teachers here in Texas. Hoping to finish out the school year with my kiddos before baby arrives and feeling thankful he’ll have the summer off as well! We’re not sure what the gender is yet but will be finding out in a few weeks during the AS.
Edited: spelling
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
My name is Nicole, I'm a SAHM that lives in Maryland with my husband and two kids (Addie is 3 1/2 and Levi is 20 months). New baby is due 6/22 (currently 17+1) and I think I got my bfp on 10/23. Anyway, we are very excited as this our last baby (all were surprises and totally unplanned)!
I registered on this board a while ago but never got round to posting even though I've been browsing the threads. I live in Edinburgh, UK and am going on 34. I am expecting my first child (chose not to find out whether girl or boy, I like the idea of a surprise!) in June, and starting to seriously consider shopping now as I was playing it safe. So I suspect I'll be around a fair bit! Lovely to find people to share the journey with!
Due 6/23 But most likely delivering a week prior due to RCS. DD is an O14 kid. AMA and mom with T1 Diabetes. Bring me all your GD questions.
I'm Michelle from central NJ. Nice to meet all of you! I'm a married and 31 yo. I have a 12 year old daughter and two step sons 10 & 7. Baby Shane will complete our family and he is due June 21st. I'm looking to meet some mom friends. I haven't done this in 12 years, so it's definitely been awhile! Looking forward to sharing this journey with some great ladies!
We are over the moon.
I'm looking forward to chatting with all of you in the last leg of this journey.
single momma of 8
- Aliviyah (21) - Aemilia (21) - Silas Charlie Flynn (9) - Posie Breeze (5) - Jack Archie Liam (5) -
- Caragh Imogen Gioconda - Tennessee Ruslan Pesah - Traveller Wellesley -
- you don't always need a plan. sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens -