S+TM Check in / Chat Week of 2/12

ecwk · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?

Ages of other child(ren)?

How are you feeling?

Rants/Raves?

Questions?

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?

7425cait · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?
13 weeks. Size of a lemon.

Ages of other child(ren)?
2.5 DD

How are you feeling?
Mostly ok. Pretty bloated and easily full.

Rants/Raves?
DD and I fell on ice leaving a restaurant the other day. She hit her head hard on the cement stair, and I fell on my butt. We both went to the ER to get checked out and also as documentation in case any complications occur. While I was nervous for me and my baby, DD had me bawling my eyes out. I was so worried about her.

Questions?

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
Besides all of the holiday stuff, I'm excited to create family Halloween costumes and go to the zoo with LO.

lakesideknitter · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?
14 weeks, size of a peach or a troll doll!
Ages of other child(ren)?
2
How are you feeling?
Feeling mostly better, but the exhaustion hit me hard over the weekend. Hoping this week is better, because I have a lot going on at work.
Rants/Raves?
Currently loving fruits and veggies again, so I'm hoping that sticks.
DS hit a sleep regression last week, which I think we've finally gotten past. DH will have to travel for work one week out of each month until May or June, so I'm hoping the regression wasn't related to him being gone the week before last.
Questions?
Anyone else carrying totally different this time around? I was showing WAY more at this point with DS, even as a FTM. I'm trying not to worry about it, but it's always in the back of my head, especially since my symptoms are slowly improving. I get super nervous whenever other STMs (here and IRL) talk about showing sooner.
GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
Not really, other than Christmas and 4th of July being big celebrations on my side. I'm excited to hear about all yours!
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melprop · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby? 14w, the size of a lemon I think.

Ages of other child(ren)? DS 7yo

How are you feeling? Slightly better today, but I’m still getting nauseous & gagging.

Rants/Raves? Cleaning the house, even just picking up the house is getting harder. I feel like the house gets trashed as soon as I pick it up, and DH is pretty often the culprit. I took today off in part to clean the house and catch up on laundry.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? I wouldn’t say traditions really, but there’s lots of things we like to do as a family that I hope LO will like too. We usually do fun things on summer weekends, like tent camping, hiking, kayaking, and exploring state and national parks.

aj1327 · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?

15 weeks. I think a peach?

Ages of other child(ren?)

2.5 years (son)

How are you feeling?

I’m just still feeling tired. I’m not sure if I can blame recovering from the flu or if this pregnancy just has me exhausted. Also, my doctor told me to try to stop taking Diclegis because my nausea should be getting better. I felt pretty sick last night but I didn’t throw up, so that’s better I guess.

Rants/Raves?

DH has been awesome. He’s always hands on but he’s really stepping up with DS in the evenings because he knows I’m exhausted.

Questions?
Stupid question alert: it’s normal not to feel the baby regularly at this point right? I’ve felt him a couple of times and now I’m worried because I feel like I haven’t really felt him this past weekend but realistically I know he probably just moved positions.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?

Not really! I guess we should make some! I just can’t wait for those sweet newborn snuggles.

lakesideknitter · February 2018

@amac12999 I'm right there with you when it comes to movement. I feel like I haven't felt anything in about a week, and I'm really trying not to freak out about it. I really wish I had an at-home doppler!

melprop · February 2018

@amac12999 @lakesideknitter I’m with you both on the movement. I’ve felt what I think is LO moving around, but I’m not completely sure. I’m getting nervous because I haven’t heard the heartbeat since my dating u/s on 1/3.

I had an anterior placenta with DS, and being a FTM I didn’t really feel him until he was full-on kicking me. So with this one I’m never sure if it’s the baby I’m feeling, or if it’s just gas.

lalala2004 · February 2018

@7425cait ouch, I’m sorry y’all fell

@lakesideknitter I think there are a lot of factors in how you show that can change in each pregnancy like the placement of the placenta or uterus. For instance, you uterus could have changed shape in your last pregnancy and grow in a different way.

@amac12999 I don’t think it’s in the normal range to feel any movement rigjt
now, so I certainly would worry. They don’t even have you do kick counts until 3rd Tri. I’m actually really shocked so many people have felt anything yet. I didn’t even feel quickening until 17 weeks last time. I did have an anterior placenta, though.

How far along are you? How big is baby?
13 weeks for one more day, so lemon!
Ages of other child(ren)?
DS is 21 months
How are you feeling?
Still nauseous, but better. Stopped taking as much diclegis/unisom b6 and I think that has me less tired. I have a really sore tailbone, but I’m going to the chiropractor on Thursday, thankfully!
Rants/Raves?
DS is super fun right now, but he’s kind of regressed in sleep. I really don’t want to be cosleeping with two kids. But I know there’s still time...
Questions? -

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? We cut down a real tree for Christmas, so this baby will be coming along, too!

ecwk · February 2018

@7425cait Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! That's so worrying! Glad you guys are ok. That was one of my fears last time being heavily pregnant in the winter!

@lakesideknitter I wouldn't worry. I definitely look bigger this time but that's just mostly leftover from having DS. I don't necessarily think my actual bump is much bigger!

@melprop I know what you mean! Trying to keep the place tidy with a toddler running around is impossible. I get tidying done at the weekend but by Friday everything is sooo hard to keep in order!

@amac12999 sorry you are feeling crappy still! Hope you feel better soon. I wouldn't worry about the movement...I know you are further along than I am but I have only felt baby (or what I believe to be baby) 2 or 3 times at this point. I don't think it is expected to feel constant (if any) movement just yet at this point!

How far along are you? How big is baby? 13 + 4 - Lemon!

Ages of other child(ren)? DS will be 2 next month!

How are you feeling? Pretty good!

Rants/Raves?
DH said (mostly jokingly) that first tri fatigue is not a thing. I wanted to stab him.

Questions?
We have lots of friends with kids the same age as DS. One of the little girls has an astonishingly large vocabulary and her speech is absolutely amazing! DH watched a video of her on FB yesterday and was getting so worried as our DS is not any where near as good as she is at speaking. I know they say the bench mark is 50 words at 2 years old, he still has over a month to go until his birthday and has only 30+ words, he understands everything, can point out pictures in books, point at his body parts etc. so I am mostly not concerned but will bring it up at his 2 year appointment. Anyone have experience with EI for speech? Thanks!

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
We typically go to Ireland several times a year, and always at Christmas which I can't wait to do with baby #2 but I don't think we are going to manage going this year, I think it might be too difficult which makes me sad!

Secretstapler · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?
13 and 3. A lemon.

Ages of other child(ren)?
DS is 2.

How are you feeling?
Better? Not all the way, but I've been able to go longer without eating, eat more at a time, and stand and walk for longer periods. I'm irrationally picturing hitting 14 weeks on Friday and magically having everything else disappear.

Rants/Raves?
DS has started saying "love you Mom" at bedtime. It might be the best thing ever. He refuses to say it to his dad so far, which makes me feel a little bad, but I kind of feel like I've earned it, doing most of the hard work for the last three years.

Questions?
Anyone know any good books to prepare kids for a new baby? Either for me or for DS? I'm starting to worry about how he'll react to a tiny baby who won't leave and sucks up all of Mom's attention. (He'll be 2 years 8 months when the baby is due.)

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
Hmm... I can't really think of any traditions. DS is loving the Olympics, and he likes to sit between us on the couch and cuddle under a blanket. I love the thought of adding a new little one to that set up.

ecwk · February 2018

@Secretstapler
I found a few books like that at the library, I didn't check them out but that might be an idea? Then you could have a few different ones! Hearing "love you" is the best. DS says it like "huv hoo" and I just melt!

lalala2004 · February 2018

@ecwk aww man, I was keeping track of DS’s words before he was 18 months because I was worried, but I’ve since stopped since he seemed to pick up a lot..... All that to say, is sometimes they have a language explosion right before the perceived “cut off” day. And I know it’s hard not to compare to other kids, but they really do just learn at different rates, but it mostly levels out. By kindergarten I doubt you’ll see much difference. It never hurts to get an evaluation, though, especially since they don’t cost.

melprop · February 2018

@ecwk Which state do you live in? I have some experience with EI speech on the teaching side. In PA, and I assume most other states, you can set up a consultation with the EI program and have DS tested. If he meets a certain threshold on speech, you can get him into a program with a speech therapist through Early Intervention.

Keep in in mind that boys often are later to talk and take longer to develop a large vocabulary than girls. It’s just a regular development thing. If you want to work with him at home, the best thing you can do right now is read to him and work on names of things. For example, instead of him saying “snack,” try teaching him the names of various snacks and encourage him to tell you which snack he wants.

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?
15 weeks this week.
Ages of other child(ren)?
4 yr old DS
How are you feeling?
Alright I guess. My pubic symphysis from 3rd tri in my last pregnancy seems to be flaring up ALREADY. Hurts to lunge, squat, get up out of a seated position, walk a bit. UGH.

Rants/Raves?
Still annoyed DH is gone LOL He's in TX right now so 2 hours behind and he got distracted last night and forgot about skyping DS until he was already asleep so that pissed me off. Shouldn't be hard to remember the time difference and our schedule.

Questions?

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby
Probably Christmas. We're big Christmas people, well at least my mom is and it's come down to me. We do a big Christmas Eve appetizer party and then Christmas day. Last 2 years I missed it because this past year I was so nauseous I couldn't enjoy and the year before I had a stomach bug.

To those worried about not feeling baby, I feel like that too. I'll feel him every few days and then obsess until I feel again. Besides the rounding belly, I don't feel entirely pregnant or like it's even real yet.

Firemanswife11 · February 2018

@lakesideknitter @amac12999I haven't felt the baby in about a week, either. But I do have a doppler and I can hear the baby moving a bunch when I use it. Just can't feel it. I know a doppler isn't the best judge of determining whether all is going okay in there, but it gives me a little peace of mind I guess.

7425cait scary! Head injuries always freak me out with kids!! Glad y'all are ok. FWIW, I got into a car accident when I was pregnant with DS and all was fine. Baby is really cushioned in there!

How far along are you? How big is baby? 13w3d, size of a lemon

Ages of other child(ren)? DS turned 3 in October

How are you feeling? Starting to have some growing pains! Also I had a crazy nose bleed in the middle of the night.

Rants/Raves?
Rant: I feel fat. I do not feel pregnant. Just like my own planet. It's driving me nuts. Since I lost 100 pounds before I met DH and kept it off, except for when I was pregnant with DS, I have a hard time with weight gain. I know it happens no matter what. And some women gain more than others, no matter what. But it's hard for me, mentally, regardless. I do tend to be on the "don't worry about it" team when I talk to others, though. Lol.

Questions?
@ecwk I'll answer your question here. So, DS is a little "behind," I guess in the speech area, but IMO, not enough to need EI. Boys tend to be a little slower than girls in the speech department, anyway. If you're concerned, bring it up to the doctor, but it sounds like he is on track. With DS, our concern is more pronunciation, but he CAN and WILL say things correctly when prompted.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
We love doing a special thing the day after DS' birthday, with just our immediate family. Our family tends to be incredibly overbearing with our kids (giving too much gifts, spoiling in other ways, being way too involved with our personal business). So, the day after DS' first birthday when we said we were going to take him to the zoo for the first time, we were met with quite a few "butthurt" reactions. But now everyone expects that we go do something with just us to get away from the obnoxiousness that is our kid's birthday party, and it's really nice and relaxing. So far, we have done the zoo, the aquarium, and this last year we went to this cool outdoor dinosaur exhibit. So much fun.

delujm0 · February 2018

@ecwk my nephew didn't talk much at 2. SIL was really worried and had him evaluated, but they just said he understands and will talk when he's ready, he is fine. By 2.5 he was talking up a storm. I think part of it was his brother being born shortly after he turned 2....suddenly he HAD to talk to get SIL's attention because she wasn't focused 100% on him anymore (she's a SAHM). His brother talks more than he did at 2, but still not in full sentences or anything. She's always shocked by DD1 who has an insane vocabulary and was speaking in full sentences by 18 months.

I'm worried that since DD1 is so advanced in language that I'm going to think something is wrong with DD2 or this baby, even though they'll probably be totally normal. We were pretty spoiled with DD1 but I like to think it was my reward for dealing with her when she had GERD and colic and literally screamed at me 24/7 for almost 4 months. Also, because everything evens out eventually, she can tell you the entire plot of Moana for 20 straight minutes but refuses to use a toilet, so. That's awesome.

How far along are you? How big is baby? 11+5, lime I think

Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 and 8 months

How are you feeling? fine

Rants/Raves? I'm probably about a month from pulling the plug on pumping, my supply is a disaster. DD2 is getting about 50/50 formula and breastmilk right now but I may have to increase the formula if I want my stash to survive long enough that she's able to get some breastmilk every day until her birthday. She still nurses to sleep at night and doesn't seem mad about the supply so either my body is making enough at that time or she's full enough from the rest of the day that dry nursing doesn't bother her.

Questions? nah

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? we live on a lake and do a lot of boating but this baby will probably be too little for that this year. I may bring it to some college football games in the fall though!

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby? 13+3

Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 1.5 and DSS is 12

How are you feeling? Tired and so moody! The smallest thing happens and I want to fly off the handle. I'm blaming the lack of sleep on that one. I've been falling asleep consistently by 9/ 930 but I'm up every night 2-3 times for about an hour each. I might as well have a newborn in the house!

Rants/Raves? Just the lack of sleep making me cranky. Pity party table for 1 please. Oh also after the NT scan last week I realized I wouldn't see Jellybean for a while and had DH on Amazon looking for at-home ultrasound machines. Because that's not at all crazy and/or overkill. Plus I'm sure I could learn how to use one by watching youtube videos. I'm rolling my eyes so hard at myself you guys.

Questions? *TMI alert!* Is anyone experiencing an increase in discharge? I didn't have this last time and of course Google says totally normal but I thought this came later? I'm to the point where a daily liner is necessary

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? We go pretty all-out for Christmas for the kids so that's going to be fun. Plus I love having my kids in the kitchen with me while I cook. DSS learned how to make an over-easy this weekend and DS learned that banging measuring cups on a muffin tin makes a LOT of noise lol!

@7425cait oh my goodness how scary! How is DD doing? How are you feeling? I hope you both got lots of rest. So glad you went and got checked out! Hugs!
@lakesideknitter I'm carrying totally different, I can already tell. Last time I was really low and this time I'm higher. But I'm gaining weight all over too which last time it was all belly and thighs.
@melprop I really hope the nausea ends soon!
@amac12999 - I think 20-24 weeks is standard for consistent movement? I'm trying to remember what the OB said last time. I've had an anterior placenta both pregnancies so I got my first that-was-a-for-sure-kick last time around 18 weeks and consistent movement by about 22 weeks.
@lalala2004 so happy the nausea is starting to let up for you!
@ecwk That is a tough topic. I know that all kids develop at different paces. I think you're spot on to bring up any concerns with your pediatrician but it sounds like your DS is super close to their benchmark!
@Secretstapler my heart melted at your DS saying I love you! I'm also eyeing that magical 14 week time thinking that everything from that point on will be fairy dust and unicorns. Until the whole birthing process...

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

@mrsbubbles-2
To the discharge, yes! OMG I don't remember this before or as bad. I have to use a liner and this is probably better for TMI Tuesday but I feel like I can smell myself and I am so paranoid others can smell me too LOL

Firemanswife11 · February 2018

@mrsbubbles-2 Oh yeah, I'll join the discharge party...Lol.

lalala2004 · February 2018

@mrsbubbles-2 oh yeah, it seems like more than last time. It’s so out of control, (TMI) sometimes it somehow ends up on my thigh when I wipe. I don’t remember quite as much so early last time, either.

alinafed · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby? 15w5d - size of avocado last week

Ages of other child(ren)? 4 and 2

How are you feeling? Not bad! I was sick last week but now that that's over I am really relieved (I was worried it was just my new normal level of fatigue but it seemed to be from the random mystery sickness). My piriformis syndrome is already flaring so I should really go to the physiotherapist, but otherwise can't complain.

Rants/Raves? I am loving purging some of our boy toys and clothes now that I know we are having a girl. I save too much so it is nice having an excuse to make way for new girly things instead of handing things down to a 3rd kid.

Questions? Any tips for super clingy mama's boys/girls? My 2nd is SO obsessed with me - Daddy is not allowed to so much as brush his teeth, everything has to be mama. For some things we force it, like if daddy can't get your water you just won't have water, but for example for bedtime he will cry the whole 20 minutes of his routine so it's just not worth it. I am worried about how he will be when daddy HAS to be the one doing things because Mama is busy with baby - should I try to get him used to it now or should I just wait because it will be more natural to explain why I can't when I have a baby? It is something I worry about, and I also get upset sometimes because I get less time with my oldest because I have to be with the little guy always. And for reference he is over 2 so it's not like he is still a baby or anything. DS1 was way more self-sufficient and fine with Daddy doing everything so it can be nice but also frustrating.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? Nothing specific comes to mind. There are things I do for all the babies like a photobook of their first year etc. I am excited she will be around for lots of fall stuff like pumpkin picking, Halloween etc - I love Halloween a lot so I can't wait to have 3 kids to dress up this year!

melissaf22 · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?

12+1 plum

Ages of other child(ren)?

DD is 4 in 11 days

How are you feeling?

Ok, still exhausted and having bad reflux

Rants/Raves?

I can’t sleep straight through and it’s making me super cranky!! I have to work at 6 am and today I woke up at 2 and couldn’t go back to sleep so right now I feel like a zombie!

Questions?

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?

just the usual holiday traditions, maybe it’s time to start making some lol

juliebird6 · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?
13w5d

Ages of other child(ren)?
DD is 1

How are you feeling?
Maybe getting a tiny bit better? I definitely still feel nauseous but I can go a little bit longer in between meals, so that's an improvement. Also, I actually cooked chicken and squash yesterday for dinner, which is a huge improvement over the garbage we have been eating.

Rants/Raves?
Rant: Pity party alert. I think I'm getting sick again. I was sick for literally a month in December/early January, but then I had a good stretch of no cold, no flu. Unfortunately, that stretch was when my nausea peaked. Now, the nausea is getting slightly better, and I think I'm getting sick again. FML. When I dropped DD off at daycare, there was a sign that kids were sent home last week for Influenza B, so now I'm just waiting for the full on flu to hit our house.

Rave: We went to a college basketball game over the weekend. We're huge fans of our school and have season football tickets, but generally don't go to the basketball games (tickets are so expensive, even for the crappy seats, and they play on all sorts of crazy days). Some friends have company tickets and invited us to the game (for free!!) this weekend, and it was so fun. It was such a good game and I'm so glad we went. We don't get out much anymore and it was so nice to do something with just adults.

Questions?
Wondering if anyone else is thinking about transitioning kid rooms? We have 4 bedrooms in our house, so I was totally planning to move DD to a different room when baby #2 is ready to go in the crib. However, my mom made me feel really weird about moving DD out of "her" room. Then I started feeling sad about moving her out of her space, and now I'm wondering if we should just make one of our other rooms into a new nursery for the new baby. Then all we'd have to do is swap the crib and the twin bed. I expect that DD will be around 2 when we are ready to make the moves. Thoughts on what we should do?

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
Definitely excited to take our babies to tailgate/football games on Saturdays. Last year, we didn't take DD to any, but I'm hoping this year we'll be able to figure it out. Also excited to bake Christmas cookies with her this year. I didn't do any baking at all last year because I was so sick. And we used to camp in the summer. We haven't been in a while, but I'm looking forward to starting that back up when our kids are a bit older. I can't even imagine going camping at 30+ weeks pregnant this summer. Definitely not happening.

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

@alinafed - I know it's a lot but can you start with doing the bedtime routine with both you and DH? Like you read the bedtime story then DH tucks DS in. Then you have DH start doing more of it? This will tie you both up but it might make the transition easier on your DS

@melissaf22 - girl yes to the no sleep. Team zombie today as well

delujm0 · February 2018

@juliebird6 our nursery is just a nursery - it isn't a separate bedroom, it's a room within our master suite (previous owners used it as a gym, which is what it will be again when we're done with kids down there). The other bedrooms are upstairs. We moved DD1 out of the nursery right into a twin bed in her upstairs bedroom at 23 months (about a month before DD2 was born). We had been telling her for a long time that that was going to be her big girl bedroom, and she didn't fight the move at all.

We'll have to move DD2 around 13 months, so we're borrowing the crib from my in laws house for a few months until she's ready for her twin bed, but she will be in her upstairs bedroom at that point. She probably will be young enough to not really know the difference or remember that the nursery used to be her room.

melprop · February 2018

@alinafed Start leaving the house once or twice a week before bedtime. We had this issue when DS was 2.5 and I went back to college. Before that, DH often was at work for bedtime, so DS got used to me. When I had evening classes, DS had to get used to DH doing bedtime routines and just caring for him in general. They managed, and he didn’t put up as much of a fight since I wasn’t there.

@juliebird6 Could you get DD excited about a “big girl room?” I know she’s young, but you could give her choices to help decorate the new bedroom. For example, would she like this bedding or that bedding for her big girl bed? If you play it off as a growing up, big kid thing she’ll probably be excited about it instead of sad. Plus if she helps choose the decorations, she’ll be more likely to want to be in the new room.

LC12261012 · February 2018

@alinafed my DD is the same way, but with daddy. If daddy is home, he has to do it all. It gets frustrating, especially in the mornings when we’re rushing, and sometimes I will just let DH handle whatever it is she wants if that makes things easier (basically avoiding a meltdown). If DH is doing something else I will explain to her we don’t always get what we want and daddy is busy so mommy is going to do it, and if she cries then so be it.

I definitely go days between feeling movement and do find myself worrying a bit, but I always remind myself movement at this point is normal to be few and far between and baby is more than likely just fine.

How far along are you? How big is baby?
15w, size of an orange?

Ages of other children?
4 and 1.

How are you feeling?
Hungry. Lots of snacking going on around here.

Rants/Raves?
So done with sickness! DD was sick all last week, DS is now sick and DH thinks he’s getting sick. I’m constantly washing my hands and going through Clorox wipes like crazy.

Questions?
Nope.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
Not really, we don’t go big for holidays or birthdays.

proudparent2b · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby? 14 weeks

Ages of other child? Nearly 2 years!

How are you feeling? It depends on the day. Some days I have energy and no m/s, other days it’s the reverse.

Rants/Raves? DS just moved up to his toddler bed! I’m loving how much easier it is to get him in/out of it!

Questions? Does anyone else have to take an early glucose test (15 weeks)? I think the OB is making me because my starting weight was higher, but due to m/s, I’m actually at the same weight I was last time around this point.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? Not yet. DS is still young enough that we haven’t established many real family traditions yet.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@ecwk My other group is talking about the speech development thing a lot as our kids are approaching 15m and the measurement is "3 words with meaning". Our kids are all over the place- some have a huge vocabulary but aren't walking yet. Some are running and climbing but have no words. A few different people have or are taking their kids to EI. My attitude is- it can't hurt right? I'm always open to learning new things and it might teach me something. DS has words for a while and then forgets them, even when I try to keep him using those words. So I don't really think he has 3 with meaning yet. But he definitely understands what I'm saying. I have another month until our Ped appt and I'll decide then whether I want to take him to EI.

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby?
14 weeks, size of a donut or troll doll

Ages of other child(ren)?
DS turned 3 last week! His half birthday is my due date.

How are you feeling?
Feeling pretty good. I've had an increase in nausea and food aversions, which was strange, but that's usually just around dinner time. I've been a little more motivated to clean my disaster of a house, but after only 30-45 minutes, I was exhausted.

Rants/Raves?
Annoyed with the communication between my OB and the high risk doctor he wants me to see. I guess he sent in the wrong code for what he wants them to do, so there was a ton of confusion on what they needed to schedule me for, and then of course it all has to go through insurance because I'm on an HMO. It's so annoying. I just want to get in and have a good ultrasound again! - Edit because they called right as I was about to post this and scheduled me for the anatomy scan on 3/22! Not looking forward to waiting more than a month haha. With DS I was spoiled because my OB would do ultrasounds nearly every appointment since I was high risk. I've changed doctors this time to a non-asshole, though, so that's the only thing I miss.

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby?
Not really, besides Christmas and birthdays. Some are things I've started, but man I can't wait to see these two together on Christmas morning!

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+1 on an increase in discharge! I had some really gooey ovulation type stuff yesterday and was not expecting that at all

@ecwk We dealt with the same thing with DS. He had maybe 30-40 words around his 2nd birthday, and as he was already in PT for preemie issues, I asked to have a speech evaluation. By the time we actually did that though, his speech had completely exploded and he didn't end up needing it. Girls do develop language skills first, and I've noticed with DS and a lot of friends his age is that they have a few words here and there and then one day something in their brain clicks and they're talking up a storm. Now he's more verbal than majority of the 3 year olds I know, so it's been a complete turnaround in a year. Hopefully there's nothing to worry about! The therapist told us that if he has a few words and can also point to body parts and objects, that's a good sign.

@juliebird6 I would probably have mixed emotions too. We only have a 2 bedroom house so we need to move soon, but even then I'm a little emotional because that's the room that we created just for him and where we've made a lot of memories. I think you could make it a big event though, and design a new "big girl" room for her and make it a really exciting event instead of a sad one. Then just switch up the nursery a little to make it personal to this one.

@alinafed It's a phase. DS has been like that on and off. Now he is ALL about Daddy when Daddy is home and wants absolutely nothing to do with me at that point. Then he freaks out when DH goes to work and Mondays are usually terrible for us because of it. I think by the time your baby comes, he will be out of that phase, but just in case maybe start going out alone for a few hours on a weekend and go get a pedicure, to Target, meet a friend for lunch, etc. Since I started doing that it's helped I think. Plus self care is important!

7425cait · February 2018

@ewck DD is not speech delayed at all, but she does have difficulty with many consonant sounds. I was looking into EI for that.

@Secretstapler if you go on the PBS website, Daniel tiger has some virtual books, and one is on helping his parents with their new baby. It's cute.

@mrsbubbles-2 thanks for asking! We are both ok. Thank goodness. And yes to the dicharge. My problem is the swamp crotch though! Especially at night. I've been getting so hot at night and I'll wake up so sweaty down there. It's gross and uncomfortable.

@Juliebird8307 I got the same thing from my sister. We we're going to move DD, but now I think we are moving the furniture. She'll stay in her room.

calimom2524 · February 2018

How far along are you? How big is baby? 13w3d size of a lemon, I think.

Ages of other child(ren)? DS1 is 5, DS2 is 3

How are you feeling? Sciatica is really my only complaint. I can't really do anything throughout the day without paying for it later.

Rants/Raves? I'm currently ragey with the school system. I chose last summer to not put DS in kindergarten because of the emotional trauma we had all been through with my abusive ex husband and I didn't feel he was emotionally ready to start such a rigorous school year. I toured schools in the area and knew that he was not ready to start their kindergarten programs so I chose to put him in Montessori school for this school year. He is thriving and doing amazing in school so I've been looking into where to send him for kindergarten this year. Well none of the public schools will let him come in as a kindergartner because he will be 6 at the start of the school year. I don't really know what to do at this point as he is not ready for first grade and I do not want him to miss out on kindergarten, I think it's an experience every child needs. So of course now I'm questioning my decisions as a mother and dealing with all of the guilt associated.

Sorry for that all of text!

Questions? Nope!

GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? Not really? I guess most of ours revolve around holidays. Christmas is huge in my house so I'm excited for that. DS2's birthday sometimes falls on Thanksgiving so sometimes our Thanksgivings are bigger than normal as well.

Ok time to read everyone else's and catch up. Usually I have so much time in the office but this morning has been INSANE.

redheadbride15 · February 2018

@lakesideknitter I think every body is different, and every pregnancy too. I don't have a body type that "shows" early at all - I was 20 weeks before I had anything that remotely resembled a bump with my first pregnancy, and this one seems to be following a similar trend. I'm not overweight either (well, not much...) - it's more that baby seems to nestle in whatever space is already in there.

@ecwk I had my DS evaluated by EI at 18 months because he wasn't saying many words. He didn't qualify for services. Now at 20 months he's starting to go through that language "explosion" that I saw so many of his peers went through at or before 18 months and sent me into a panic. It's hard because language development in particular is so variable, and as was pointed out boys do tend to be slower. Try to resist the urge to compare him with other kids that you see. Talk to your pediatrician about it and it definitely can't hurt to do the evaluation.

How far along are you? How big is baby?
12w2d, an apricot
Ages of other child(ren)?
DS is 20 months
How are you feeling?
I feel pretty good - not many complaints other than wanting winter to be OVER already.
Rants/Raves?
I had my NT scan this morning and "met" baby for the first time. He/she looked perfect and now I'm feeling all mushy and gushy. I guess it's real now! Let's do this!!!
Questions?
I'm also wondering about books for soon-to-be older siblings. I really have NO idea how to introduce the idea of a new baby to my DS in a developmentally-appropriate way. I don't think he understands the concept of future events yet.
GTKY: Do you have any family traditions that your other child(ren) is/are involved in that you’re excited to share with August baby? We're like @melprop and do lots of outdoorsy things. I want to strap both of my kids to me and hit the trails! We hike, backpack, bike, camp, and snowshoe. DS went on his first hike with us when he was 4 weeks old.

alinafed · February 2018

juliebird6 said:

Questions?
Wondering if anyone else is thinking about transitioning kid rooms? We have 4 bedrooms in our house, so I was totally planning to move DD to a different room when baby #2 is ready to go in the crib. However, my mom made me feel really weird about moving DD out of "her" room. Then I started feeling sad about moving her out of her space, and now I'm wondering if we should just make one of our other rooms into a new nursery for the new baby. Then all we'd have to do is swap the crib and the twin bed. I expect that DD will be around 2 when we are ready to make the moves. Thoughts on what we should do?

I've done it both ways - in our last house we just made the extra room the nursery for the 2nd baby and upgraded DS1's room with a big boy bed and furniture. Whereas this time, in this house it just makes more sense to move DS2 into a bigger room which is currently a spare room, and keep the nursery for the new baby but change up the décor since this one will be a girl - it's the smallest room so it just feels very nursery-ish. I don't think there is a right or wrong way to do it, there are advantages and downsides for both. Like for DS1 we had to have him leave the house overnight to set up his new room, whereas the benefit this time for DS2 is we can set up his new room over time and then transition him in whenever it's done and he is ready. I have a feeling that DS2 will be excited for a big boy room more than attached to his current room, plus I think it will make sense to him to say, now you are big enough for a big boy bed so let's leave the crib and change table in here for baby sister. He is just over 2 so I think it would be a similar level of understanding to your DD. Good luck!

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

@lakesideknitter meant to reply to you too. This is pregnancy #4 for me and I'm actually showing about the same as my 1st. DS (pregnancy #2) I showed super early and my bump was like a basketball, where my other 3 pregnancies have been more of a watermelon shape. It's an old wives' tale that that's an indication of the baby's sex but obviously that's not scientifically proven haha.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@juliebird6I would do whatever works for you. At 2 I think kids are still pretty flexible and they'd be fine with whichever room. I'm leaving DS in his room because I don't think he's ready to be out of the crib (he'll be 21m when LO comes) and in my head that's "his room". But I know it's my head not him, he could care less.

ecwk · February 2018

Thanks for all the words of wisdom re: DS's speech. I was not in the slightest bit worried, fully aware that boys tend to be slower at it than girls and all that. Just DH was blown away by our little baby friend, I mean, she is absolutely incredible and his concern started to rub off on me. But I will share with DH all you have said and bring it up with the pedi next month. Who knows, in the meantime, maybe he will have that "explosion" everyone talks about! His enunciation is not great, but I believe that's not a concern until maybe a year from now.
Anyway, thanks for the help, it is much appreciated!

@calimom2524 I really have no words of advice, I am not at all familiar with this sort of thing...but I hope you get it sorted and I am sure you will!! Don't feel bad, you made a decision in his best interests and it sounds like he is absolutely thriving. So you did a great thing for him! Hugs!!!

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

@calimom2524 - I'm sorry, that's so frustrating! Ditto everything @ecwk said. It might not be easy, but could you ask for a waiver from the school you pick because of the circumstances? Maybe write a letter? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this!

calimom2524 · February 2018

@ecwk FWIW everyone here has given you some great words of wisdom but I thought I'd add my two cents as well. DS1 was a miracle child, walked at 9 months, spoke in full sentences at 14 months, like the kid was just blowing the milestones out of the park. DS2 on the other hand took his sweet time with everything. At his 2yo appointment I raised my concerns that he was hardly speaking, I'm talking like maybe 15 words at 2, and she almost laughed at me. She said she could see he was clearly communicating his needs and feelings even if they weren't in formed words or sentences. She said at his 3yo check up if he was still showing signs of delayed speech we could look at intervention at that point but she was not at all worried. Around 2.5- almost 3 he finally started to speak. I don't know what it was, it was almost like he just didn't feel like he needed to because his needs were being met. Some kids just take more time to develop their vocabulary and that's totally normal.

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

Question for you all...

Since the Product Spotlight Series thread hasn't been started this week I was cruising our board and July to see what could be covered this week. It seems as though we've covered the major categories of baby things (Car seat, diapers, strollers, sleep surfaces, bath time, breast pumps...)

Asking here first, does anyone have a product they want to discuss? If not, I was thinking we throw it out on the Randoms thread for people to give ideas for the Product threads for this week and in the future. That way if there's something a FTM is curious about they have a say in the threads moving forward.

Thoughts?

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@mrsbubbles-2 wow, you guys must have talked about a lot of things before I got here. I don't really feel like any of the FTMs are ready to start shopping/registering so I feel like we're overwhelming them with information they haven't even thought about yet, right?

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