Did you place a child for adoption? Is your child in a foster home? If so, please tell us more about you and your experiences.
-Are you the birth mother or birth father?
-At what age was your child placed for adoption? or in a foster home?
-Do you have contact with your child or the family that adopted them or is fostering them?
-What kind of contact?
-How did you handle knowing you were placing a child?
-Any tips from your experience?
-What was your experience, overall?
-Anything else to add?
Re: December - Birth Parents
My daughter was in adopted pretty much at birth. I was in jail.
I have lots of contact with my daughter. She was adopted by someone I went to school with. I recently went and celebrated her 3rd birthday with her. That was the first time I had met her since we left the hospital. She is amazing. I know i made the right decision.
I miss her. I wish I could be the one raising her. But I keep a journal for her for when she's older to explain why I made the decision i made.
I recently read a book called The Open Hearted Way to Open Adoption. It was eye-opening as to what it looks like when you welcome your birth mother into the family as well. Something I hope to experience myself when I'm matched with my birth mother.
Good luck with everything.
I trust my birth family, however... How do I cope with the idea that they will name it something else? Was it easy for you to let that go? IM the one carrying it around shouldn't I have a say in what her name is???
I am waiting to be matched to a birth mother. However, I cannot tell you how much heartache we went through when we discovered we would not be able to have our own child. Now we have hope again since we signed on with our agency.
I imagine that it can sometimes feel overwhelming to be carrying a child for another family. You are a true and precious gift to those people - make no mistake. Good luck with everything!
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
MC 4/15
BFP 10/10/16
@singlemommanbean I hope that you are able to find the resources to parent if that's what you decide is the best option. The hopeful adoptive parents will no doubt be heartbroken, but they will find their baby eventually. There are lots of places where you can get free counseling, I would highly recommend seeking that out for your past trauma.
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021