I am going to turn into a crying mess with all these babies coming!!! I cannot wait to meet my little one and seeing these others is making me a pile of mush. Good Luck @Cowboycorgi!
@Cowboycorgi Good luck! I'm starting to feel like I'm going to be the last March mom to deliver since my due date isn't until the end of March. I'm so excited for all you mamas meeting your babies, and a little jealous too!
@Cowboycorgi Wow! Good luck! Can't wait to read your announcement!
@DDRRT1982 Yeah, actually 2 of our March MoMs are admitted to the hospital now and hoping to delay their births. Thinking of you guys @mnddnvn and @momma6angels11
All of this is getting very real! It seems like many of us March'ers will deliver in February. I'm grateful none of us so far have had super early premies--Was a bit worried about that in December and early January, but it seems we're mostly passed that zone now. Whew!
I called myself being a nice wife to DH and bringing him dinner as he has to work overnight. I'm currently waiting on roadside assistance outside our hospital because my vehicle won't start. Y'all. Why?!
@Cowboycorgi - gah!!!! Good luck to you! Praying for a smooth and healthy experience!
@sarahhedger7 - solidarity, sister. I hear you on being at the end of the month. March 30 here and both of my other kids came late. This could be an April baby.
@missnc77 For me it's partially timing dependent. If I make it the full 38 weeks my mom will be here, so giving MH time off will not be a huge deal. But if I go earlier, we're all alone. My mom has a medical thing and can't fly in earlier. So no family here at all, no friends who are close enough to be around at that kind of time. Also we live 30 min away from the hospital in no traffic/an hour in traffic. My hospital reaallllly pushes the rooming in thing so I don't know about the nursery. And the twins factor might play in--I'm a FTM so we're going from zero to two and I completely don't know what I'm doing with just one so I'm not sure I want him to run off so early on! Especially if I'm really out of it. We'll see though. I'm open to the possibility that I will feel differently when the time comes, but as of now, knowing myself, I want him to be available and in the room as much as possible.
ETA Oh the rice! In the birth class I took the doula running it was super into this rice sock thing where you put rice in a sock and microwave it and use it as a back massager during labor. She basically talked about it like it was the best thing ever, so figured it couldn't hurt.
Our hospital also pushes rooming in, but I was told that if DH is out and I need a shower or a nap to not hesitate to call the nurses. They'll either come in and baby sit or take LO(s) to the nursery just for an hour or two. Don't be afraid to push back and ask for what you need! You (and/or your insurance) are paying gobs of money to be there, so make them earn it. lol (I know nurses and doctors work hard. Don't mean for that to sound like a jab, just saying this is our time to get our needs met.)
My doula also talked about the rice sock as if it were a religious relic.
In the hospital I delivered my son & daughter the only option was rooming in unless the baby went to the NICU. It will be the same at this hospital as well. I didn’t realize hospitals still had newborn nurseries.
Just had an appointment today and baby is measuring right on track. Also found out that I get another ultrasound at my next appointment! Yay for getting to see Little Bear one more time before his big debut!
@fatstagnation Very good point! And this rice sock thing better blow my mind! I was willing to try without, but MH apparently was very convinced about it from the birth class and he insisted on it and kind of took the initiative with it. I thought it was sweet of him so even if I don't really like it I'll probably pretend I did.
@mmom3 Yeah I'm not sure mine has a full on nursery either--I remember being confused about that in our tour. It looked like they had a small room for babies who needed monitoring... like not a full on NICU, but not exactly a nursery either? Looking back I wish I would have asked about that, but it was awhile ago and the tour was very crowded relative to the size of our hospital since the 3 or 4 before had been cancelled due to wildfires. I wonder how common traditional nurseries are in hospitals these days...
@vflux33 when I gave birth to my first, they no longer had a nursery but the nurses would take him in his Rolling bassinet to the nurses station for a few hours if I needed them too. I think most places will do that for you.
@mdfarmchick same with our hospital. We let him hang with the nurses at the nurses station a couple times, and they just brought him back when he needed to eat.
Mine has a nursery, but they only use it for physician assessment. The hospital I work for has a nice big nursery that is empty bc of rooming in. We use it for overflow for the NICU now.
When I had my first, I showered while my husband was there to keep an eye on our daughter. Then he left for a bit to shower and take care of our pets. However, she was sleeping and I asked the nurse if they could take her for a bit so I didn’t wake her while I was blow drying my hair. The nurse gave me a hard time saying they don’t do that and their policy is room in only about it and she stayed with me. I didn’t think anything about it but they sent a social worker to see me about the “issue.” It was ridiculous - I just didn’t want to wake my sleeping baby as she was up all night. I was a first time mom and she was just barely 24 hours old. I had no clue and didn’t know any better that it was a huge deal but my sister who’s a nurse said it gets flagged in your chart as “bonding” is assessed amongst basic care. Since I requested the baby to leave me it went into the chart and flaggede to be evaluated.
@mmom3 interesting. Our nurses offered that to us even though my husband pretty much stayed with me the whole time. Maybe something to ask your OB or L&D
@mmom3 um, that is honestly a bizarre response to you just not wanting to wake your baby, especially considering you were a FTM. I would be pissed if they did that to me.
wow, nursery as a no-no never occurred to me! We didn't get to see the nursery at our hospital but it couldn't have been very large. It was right behind the nurses station. The nurse giving the tour emphasized that LO should not be left unattended, so if you need a shower or something call and nurse and someone will either stay in the room to watch baby or take it to the nursery if the floor is busy and the nurse can't be spared... She def said it would be for like, an hour, not an extended thing. But I would think drying your hair for 10 minutes would be ok. Calling a case worker seems quite extreme. mom-shaming within 24 hours - awesome!
Maybe better for the UO, but I think “baby friendly” is a load of BS. The whole motivation behind it is to get more women to breastfeed. Encouraging breastfeeding is fine, but forcing it on a woman under the cover of “baby friendly” is one of the many reasons why women who can’t breastfeed develop PPD. Within the last 5 years in our military community, two women have killed themselves because of post partum psychosis that was triggered by not being able to BF. Why can’t hospitals be Mom AND baby friendly? Giving birth (vaginal or c-section) is a major ordeal and takes a major toll on our bodies. God forbid a mom ask for help while in the hospital. We’re recovering, too!
That's so odd. When we did a hospital tour, they proactively said that they don't have a nursery anymore but if we want the staff to watch the baby while we sleep, all we have to do is ask.
@fatstagnation@sarahhedger7 exactly. I was told it wouldn’t be for very long like an hour or an hour and a half but they wanted you and baby to be safe. So if you needed a nap or to shower, the nurses could watch the baby for you and then bring him back.
I really don’t understand why a hospital would ever have a policy where the mother couldn’t ask for help so she could shower or nap. Giving birth is hard. Newborns are ALOT. Do they expect you never to ask for help when you leave the hospital too? From experience, please for the love of God, ask for help if you need it. It’s not good for you or the baby if you’re running on empty, at the end of your rope, on the verge of a breakdown because you were told from the start by your HOSPITAL of all places that you can’t ask for help.
I didn’t think much of it at the time - I just didn’t want to wake her, but knew I’d have visitors later so I wanted to just dry my hair. The nurse questioned how I plan to handle this at home and told me the baby will be fine in room, which she never left in the end.
The social worker came a bit and didn’t stay long. She just sort of “questioned” why I wanted the baby out of the room and explained that baby rooms in with the mom. Once I explained, she seemed to understand and left some literature. I later shared with my sister who is also a nurse explained the nurse was a bit extreme, but mom’s are also observed caring for their babies to ensure they can do it. If anything is off, it can flag other support to help the mom/teach her how to care for her newborn.
That sounds a bit crazy @mmom3. As others said. We also need to recuperate.... i had a pretty good recovery, so getting the baby from the bassinet on my own wasn't an issue, but I've had friends who couldn't do anything while recovering. What's someone like that supposed to do? i know the hospitals in my region are all trying to get you to room in, but your not allowed anyone overnight. Spouse included. So they do take baby if you ask....
The reason I am not breastfeeding is b/c 1) I wasn't that into it in the first place 2) I have to get back on my anti anxiety meds basically right away. The hospital I'm delivering at is "baby friendly" and they will give you a hard time for not breastfeeding. It also makes me furious they mom shame and drive so many women to accidentally starve their babies and develop PPD over something that should be a personal choice.
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Good Luck @Cowboycorgi!
@DDRRT1982 Yeah, actually 2 of our March MoMs are admitted to the hospital now and hoping to delay their births. Thinking of you guys @mnddnvn and @momma6angels11
All of this is getting very real! It seems like many of us March'ers will deliver in February. I'm grateful none of us so far have had super early premies--Was a bit worried about that in December and early January, but it seems we're mostly passed that zone now. Whew!
Sending good vibes to you ladies @mnddnvn and @momma6angels11
@sarahhedger7 - solidarity, sister. I hear you on being at the end of the month. March 30 here and both of my other kids came late. This could be an April baby.
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BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
(I know nurses and doctors work hard. Don't mean for that to sound like a jab, just saying this is our time to get our needs met.)
My doula also talked about the rice sock as if it were a religious relic.
@mmom3 Yeah I'm not sure mine has a full on nursery either--I remember being confused about that in our tour. It looked like they had a small room for babies who needed monitoring... like not a full on NICU, but not exactly a nursery either? Looking back I wish I would have asked about that, but it was awhile ago and the tour was very crowded relative to the size of our hospital since the 3 or 4 before had been cancelled due to wildfires. I wonder how common traditional nurseries are in hospitals these days...
When I had my second - I never asked nor was it offered.
I will be with a different hospital with a different OB and I know it’s the same. Maybe it’s based on region?
She def said it would be for like, an hour, not an extended thing. But I would think drying your hair for 10 minutes would be ok. Calling a case worker seems quite extreme. mom-shaming within 24 hours - awesome!
edit cause spelling is hard!
Maybe better for the UO, but I think “baby friendly” is a load of BS. The whole motivation behind it is to get more women to breastfeed. Encouraging breastfeeding is fine, but forcing it on a woman under the cover of “baby friendly” is one of the many reasons why women who can’t breastfeed develop PPD. Within the last 5 years in our military community, two women have killed themselves because of post partum psychosis that was triggered by not being able to BF. Why can’t hospitals be Mom AND baby friendly? Giving birth (vaginal or c-section) is a major ordeal and takes a major toll on our bodies. God forbid a mom ask for help while in the hospital. We’re recovering, too!
I clearly have a lot of feelings on this topic.
The social worker came a bit and didn’t stay long. She just sort of “questioned” why I wanted the baby out of the room and explained that baby rooms in with the mom. Once I explained, she seemed to understand and left some literature. I later shared with my sister who is also a nurse explained the nurse was a bit extreme, but mom’s are also observed caring for their babies to ensure they can do it. If anything is off, it can flag other support to help the mom/teach her how to care for her newborn.
As others said. We also need to recuperate....
i had a pretty good recovery, so getting the baby from the bassinet on my own wasn't an issue, but I've had friends who couldn't do anything while recovering. What's someone like that supposed to do?
i know the hospitals in my region are all trying to get you to room in, but your not allowed anyone overnight. Spouse included. So they do take baby if you ask....
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