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lisa2589 · January 2018

lisa2589 · January 2018

I haven’t left my house since grocery shopping on Monday. Sometimes I think I should get out more, but then I remember that it’s flu season, and also my toddler likes to be an a hole in public sometimes.

rnielsen321 · January 2018

FFFC - I am quietly gloating to myself, over the the court win I had this week. DH was NOT supportive of the year long chase for the money I was owed while on Mat leave at my former employer.

By law, I was to be paid. By law, I was /am in the right. And frankly we could use the $XK that I rightfully earned. DH and I have fought for over a year on this, as my former employee escalated , went to mediation and screwed around, and escalated, until we were in front of a judge this week.

DH complained he had to take a vacation day, so I could go chase this.

And you know what? I won. My money plus damages for discrimination, and my lawyers fees. So there has been a happy dance punctuated by "i told you so" going around in my head for a few days. DH has simply said congrats.

Mind you, flowers and ice cream showed up yesterday, and we had a great time planning how we are going to utilize the settlement. (Debt, invest, new bed for dd and a 4 day vacation)

You watch, in about a year he will be crowing about how great it was to stand up for myself and that getting that boost really helped on this mat leave etc. Grrr... I love him. I love him. I love him.

doxiemoxie212 · January 2018

@rnielsen321 I am so incredibly proud that you stood up for yourself like that! DH is a lawyer, so he has wanted me to sue past employers multiple times (yay PR industry, in which lawsuits are reasonable at every turn! lol) for gender-based wage discrimination, etc., but I've always been too chicken isht, too scared I would look greedy or it would just make me feel worse. But YOU did the right thing! And that's wonderful!

krash_ · January 2018

@rnielsen321 you go girl! That is amazing and you should be proud. Every fight for women's rights in the workplace, big or small, is worth it! I'm sure YH will come around, he's probably just mourning the loss of being able to do an "I told you so"

becca_123 · January 2018

@rnielsen321 What a feat! You should be so proud of yourself! I'm sure deep inside YH is super proud too.

catlady1215 · January 2018

@rnielsen321 that's awesome! congrats!! and enjoy that money!

doxiemoxie212 · January 2018

@rnielsen321 also, if you feel comfortable sharing, I'd love to hear more about the process. I'm sure you don't want to share any identifying details, but just generally sort of what the process was like, were there points at which you doubted you'd done the right thing, did your employer make you feel uncomfortable or try to retaliate, etc? I feel like every time I hear real stories about these things, it makes me feel more empowered to make the right choices for myself in the future, so this is a selfish request, I know.

katelynrae86 · January 2018

So just to preface, I try not to judge other moms ("everyone is doing their best", "we all have different philosophies", "parenting is hard ish", etc etc) BUUUUT (you knew there was going to be a but, right?) a FB friend posted an adorable photo of her 6ish month old daughter today saying how happy she always is in the morning and how she always sleeps through the night. First, color me all kinds of jealous because at 6 months, DS was waking every 45 minutes and I was about to relucantly start sleep training, but that's not the point of my story. In the picture, her baby has a blanket and bumpers in her crib. And its tagged #binkiesblankiesandbumpers #judgeaway...and I kinda do.

I know its none of my business, but per our discussion in the health and safety thread and common sense, nothing in the crib with the baby! Why do people do things that are known to increase SIDS risks?

ffw0617 · January 2018

@rnielsen321 that's amazing! I LOVE winning in court. No better feeling as an attorney then taking the case to where 99% of cases will never go.

krash_ · January 2018

@katelynrae86 I was going to suggest that you PM her to politely let her know that that is not recommended but then I realized if she is putting #judgeaway then she knows that its not recommended and she doesn't care.

LaceyBee522 · January 2018

@katelynrae86 I don't even know her and I'm judging her, I'm glad she's okay with it. I hope her baby is safe and healthy.

krash_ · January 2018

my FFFC...I hate cold shoulder tops with the cutouts on the shoulders.

emiliadkay · January 2018

@rnielsen321 Yes. Yes, yes YES!!!

My FFFC is that I almost never shave both legs in a single go. Halfway through the first I get bored and annoyed at all the extra time (you know, all 30 seconds of it) required and decide I'll just even 'em up the next time.

lisa2589 · January 2018

@krashke I’m about 50/50 on that... mostly I think they look cute on other people but when put one on I feel weird about it.

lisa2589 · January 2018

My other FFFC is that I’m kind of glad DH is gone today through Sunday because now all I’ll have to help pick up after is DD (her “pick up after herself” training is going better than his has in the last 8ish years

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katelynrae86 · January 2018

krashke said:

@katelynrae86 I was going to suggest that you PM her to politely let her know that that is not recommended but then I realized if she is putting #judgeaway then she knows that its not recommended and she doesn't care.

That's exactly it! Maybe that's why it got me so riled up - she knows it dangerous and it seems like she's almost daring someone to say something.

LaceyBee522 · January 2018

@krashke Agreed! And, I don't know if this is the norm in average size clothes, but in plus size clothes cold shoulders are everywhere. Soooo annoying!

@emiliadkay OMG, that would drive me bonkers. I don't consider myself particularly OCD, but I couldn't deal with one shaved and one unshaved leg.

amys614 · January 2018

Awww dang. I love cold shoulders. Helps us girls out who aren't a fan of our flabby arms.

MoonOverGoldsboro · January 2018

Way to go, @rnielsen321!! What an awesome story.

@katelynrae86 I’m not sure I’m going articulate this well, but something that bothers me in that situation (besides the willing increase of SIDS risk) is that that mother is unbelievably lucky, and I sure would like to see her acknowledge that. Like, the reason you can post sassy little hashtags like that is because you haven’t known tragedy. I think of a mom who has experienced any kind of crib death seeing that post and just want to barf.

BurlapandLace · January 2018

Why are crib bumpers even allowed to be sold anymore?

fantasticmrsfox · January 2018

Seriously @katelynrae86 that would bother me so much. I have a friend whose daughter at 10/11 months got a thin muslin blanket completely wrapped around her head TWICE in her sleep. Thankfully she was ok but it still freaks me out. Even now at 18 months I’m hesitant to give DS a blanket

catlady1215 · January 2018

FFFC: I just paid all my medical bills.. finally. some of the service dates were back from early October

we obviously had the money, I just never had my card handy when I remembered they were due lol. Oh well, done now!

ffw0617 · January 2018

@BurlapandLace bc after 12 months babies can sleep with blankets, pillows, bumpers. And some/ if not most babies are still in cribs at 12 months and on. So I would assume its for later. Seems like a waste, they can make it that long without it

May14th2011 · January 2018

I secretly judge people who post on Facebook that they're angry with their kids. I have a friend who posts about how angry she is that her 4 month old wakes up in the night. Uh, yeah, she's 4 months. What are you going to do when she's 5 and sharpies your walls?

izza2 · January 2018

@May14th2011 - Late to the party, but I died laughing at your post!

Also, being angry your 4 month old isn't sleeping through the night? For real? Someone has unrealistic expectations. When she's not potty trained by 1 year, is she going to give up on her daughter? Ick.

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