@sjn00 are you 1000% sure about that husband policy? I find it so archaic that in today's society this is accepted. My mind is so blown by this. I want to read this policy and it had to have been crafted by a man.
@sjn00 are you 1000% sure about that husband policy? I find it so archaic that in today's society this is accepted. My mind is so blown by this. I want to read this policy and it had to have been crafted by a man.
I don’t know the situation at @sjn00’s hospital, but I remember from my sept 2012 BMB hearing women say that visitors are not allowed to stay overnight in semi-private rooms, and I think that policy makes sense. If they had that policy in private rooms? That would be some major BS.
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@sjn00 are you 1000% sure about that husband policy? I find it so archaic that in today's society this is accepted. My mind is so blown by this. I want to read this policy and it had to have been crafted by a man.
I don’t know the situation at @sjn00’s hospital, but I remember from my sept 2012 BMB hearing women say that visitors are not allowed to stay overnight in semi-private rooms, and I think that policy makes sense. If they had that policy in private rooms? That would be some major BS.
I could get behind that rational, but the whole bonding part made me SMH. I am hoping that is just their bad marketing spin and it is more for respect for those in semi-private rooms.
The hospital I work at doesn't allow overnight visitors in semi-private rooms, but I've also NEVER seen a hospital with semi-private L&D or Post-partum rooms... I live in a small rural town and even our dinky hospital doesn't have such a thing.. That sounds like the most horrible situation
Wanted to edit to add I think its CRAZY that a husband can't stay! wow... I needed SO much help after my csection I can't imagine him not there. Also, its their baby too they need to bond
@itsrandiyo this is exactly what I keep coming back to. I cannot wrap my head around a hospital making the unilateral decision that only the mother can bond with the baby the first night, completely disregarding the fact that dad needs to bond, too. Not to mention that its crazy unfair to saddle an exhausted, emotional, overwhelmed mother who has just given birth with solo parenting the very first night. There’s just so much wrong with that policy.
Yeah, I was pretty shocked too, but really appreciated it while it was happening and dont mind it for this time around. The nurses were so hands on and helpful.
@JJMNO1616 I didn't bring my pump. They have hospital grade ones. But if you are concerned I would bring it. But most areas have local breast feeding groups that answer all of those questions too
@sjn00 I actually sent my husband home the 1st night but that's because he is a big man and they only provided a recliner. But I had my mom stay and she was a big help when DS wouldn't stop crying. She ended up holding him for hours so I could get some rest.
@angiek1 I took all that stuff home too except for the blue nose thing because it didn't get in my bag. Which I regret.
Lol, they only had sitting chairs in the room, so if he were to sleep there he would be SOL. Haha! Or on the floor. But 10pm they did a sweep everyday and asked them to leave.
Wanted to edit to add I think its CRAZY that a husband can't stay! wow... I needed SO much help after my csection I can't imagine him not there. Also, its their baby too they need to bond
I agree that it’s crazy *unless* it’s not a completely private room, in which case it makes perfect sense. It would be ridiculously tough for me to not have DH stay with me, but it would be worse to have some rando dude staying overnight in my room when there’s just a curtain or something separating us.
It wasnt a private room, but I had the room to myself. It was good also because he went home and got a full nights rest and was more alert and on top of things for me during the day.
@kmalls honestly, I don't remember. I was watching the video about what she would do differently this time around when she was due with her 2nd child. I didn't pay attention to any of the "whys" just focused on what was in her bag and wrote it all down. I'd have to go back and watch the video again.
Sorry I'm stuck in the box These nursing tanks were my favorite! Except right now I'm finding this style from that brand really hard to find. When searching Target's website I don't even get all the options showing what you posted. Anyways @JJMNO1616 I bought a couple brands and size nursing tanks to begin with to find the one I like. Everyone will have their own preferences. I think I might order these for the hospital since I know I'll look pregnant at least for a few weeks until some of the weight is lost and I can fit into my normal tanks.
OMG this thread is a life savor... ok so a few questions for you ladies. What nursing tanks do y'all recommend? Do any of you suggest bringing your pump with you to the hospital? One of my friends said I should so they can help show me how to use it but I have read that you really shouldn't even use your pump the first 6 weeks you are BF?
I'm not packing anything for baby other than a pacifier, because some hospitals wont provide them anymore, and the going home outfit. The hospitals should give you everything you need for baby and lets you take everything, other than the clothes and blankets, home with you at the end of your stay, so to me it seems unnecessary to bring extra stuff and use from your own stock. Especially if your delivering close to home or not in the middle of nowhere, if there's anything you absolutely need that you don't have with you, someone can probably bring you.
As far as packing for myself goes I stick to the basics and try not to over pack. My last delivery, I lived in yoga pants and nursing tanks and a comfortable robe and slippers. The only things I didn't bring and wish I had was a travel mirror, snacks for the room and an extra duffle bag to bring all the extra stuff home in. Again, the hospital will provide you with a lot of things for yourself as well, and will let you take all of that home too.
@JJMNO1616 I didn't bring my pump with me to the hospital, but the lactation consultant recommended I pump after I feed. They have a hospital pump you can use and for sanitary purposes, they let you take all of the attachments and bottles home with you, so you can get some extra pump accessories out of it. The only part of it that stays at the hospital is the actually motor and base.
I can’t take the credit because DH just showed up with it after DD1 was born, @peppersmith22 and @ladythrice, but it proved to be invaluable. I took full advantage of an over night labor and early morning delivery with DD1 which meant I had an extra night in the hospital. I plan to “enjoy” it as a vacation again this time lol.
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As far as packing for myself goes I stick to the basics and try not to over pack. My last delivery, I lived in yoga pants and nursing tanks and a comfortable robe and slippers. The only things I didn't bring and wish I had was a travel mirror, snacks for the room and an extra duffle bag to bring all the extra stuff home in. Again, the hospital will provide you with a lot of things for yourself as well, and will let you take all of that home too.
@JJMNO1616 I didn't bring my pump with me to the hospital, but the lactation consultant recommended I pump after I feed. They have a hospital pump you can use and for sanitary purposes, they let you take all of the attachments and bottles home with you, so you can get some extra pump accessories out of it. The only part of it that stays at the hospital is the actually motor and base.
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