@mrsbubbles-2 and @cthulu can I ask you a vape question? My BIL vapes and he’ll do it in the car and around DS and it makes me really uncomfortable. I know it’s not as bad as smoke but is there still crap in the vapor that gets released that could hurt us/DS? I need to decide if I say something to him or not
edit: stupid autocorrect again
Honestly what’s being released is mostly water vapor. Most vape oils are a type of vegetable glycerin and then nicotine. So there’s really no such thing as second hand vape smoke like there is with regular cigarettes but if you asked me not to vape around your kids I personally wouldn’t be offended. I don’t use it around my children and if hubby vapes in the car he always cracks a window first to blow out the “smoke.”
@cthulu - It's so hard - keep telling yourself that - it's for the best. So I was down to 3mg nicotine when I got my bfp this time - I was on 12mg I think for last pregnancy. Last time I let myself use it 3x a day for the first 3 days, then 1x a day and I was off it by 18 DPO-ish I think This time I swore my last time using was going to be when I was driving to buy the HPT but I had a few moments of weakness after the bfp. I think my last one was 14 DPO-ish. Between the early pregnancy hormones and quitting I was an absolute raging bitch. I think I was over the worst of the withdraw after 3 days of no vaping. I'm here if you need support! You're already doing amazing And seriously, I do still struggle a little bit every day so it's totally fine to acknowledge that you're struggling. Big hugs, girl! PM me if you want to talk it out or if you're having a bad day
I'm planning to have a bowl of Cooke Crisp for dinner tonight.
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
@hardlyhannah I rose hell at work last pregnancy because there was a guy who would vape in the building. I printed out a bunch of fact sheets and gave them to my supervisor and demanded no one vape in there. It's "not" cigarette smoke, but it's also "not safe."
FWIW, I used to be a smoker so I am not hating on people who vape but it isn't safe. I'd tell your BIL to knock it off.
Ahhh, what is all of this anti-HP talk? And I was really starting to like you ladies. Pre-kid, when a HP marathon would be on TV on a rainy or particularly cold miserable day, SO and I would just leave it on for hours. HP is the perfect staying home, doing small chores, and relaxing on a Sunday afternoon.
I'm with @Krysta6 on the sex. You guys are all totally missing out on pregnant sex, which, for some anatomical or hormonal reason, feels so much better to me than regular sex! We managed to sneak it in between me having the stomach flu last weekend and SO getting the stomach flu yesterday. Also during toddler nap time, the best time of day! Now I have to wait a few days before he's feeling better.
I'm totally a sushi during pregnant person. But it makes SO nervous, so I just get cooked rolls. Although, I did have a deli-meat hoagie yesterday for lunch and it was sooooo goood. Did the same with DS and he turned out just fine, although he's quite a picky eater.
@hardlyhannah - I don't let DH vape in the car with DS and I never did when I was using mine. I go a step further and don't let people vape in my house when DS is awake and running around. Totally true that it's mostly water vapor but I see the residue it leaves on my windows and I don't want DS to breathe it in. DH won't vape in the car with me while I'm pregnant and now he goes outside when we're at home too. Maybe an overreaction on my part, but as a quitter it doesn't make it easier on me to have him doing it right in front of me.
Anyway - I would absolutely say something to your BIL. I've made it clear to my family that vapes that when they're in my house they go outside and they totally understand.
@hardlyhannah Yes, my bff works at one of the big vape companies. Just because the evidence isn't out yet, doesn't mean it isn't just as bad. Vaping is an outdoor activity.
@juliebird6 Cereal and soup are the only things I really want to eat right now. I would be mortified if my husband found cookie crisp in the house so I have to finish the box before he gets back from his golf trip Monday morning. It shouldn't be hard.
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
I think we should start HDBD on Wednesday. If you don't want to post a pic, you can post a funny gif or pictures of your pets or something.
Flame away...
I say do it. I'll blump it up with you. People can ignore if they think it is too soon/annoying. My related FFFC is that I am mostly on board with this because I am a creeper and want to see what people look like.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
It has been 72 hours since I found out #3 is a girl and I have bought clothes for her 3 times already (in fairness, I used Gymbucks for one of the purchases and only had to pay $1 for that one).
DH is going out of town and I'm counting down the days. Not that things are bad between us, I just am really looking forward to some alone time at night! I'm already planning a TV list, and can't wait for having the bed all to myself. I'll be happy when I see him again, but a lady can savor a few nights alone, right!?
ETA: I also never got into HP. But I despise the fantasy genre in general. Game of Thrones, Lord of the Rings...ugh, ugh, ugh!
Mine: I was against sleep training when I was pregnant the first time, but I sleep trained both of my kids and even during the process it involved WAY less of them crying and being upset than life before sleep training. I don't judge any sleeping decisions anyone makes and I never bring up sleep training IRL because I think there are a lot of misperceptions of it as just leaving them to cry. I spent a month establishing good sleep routines and that made it really easy, and my kids just slept and napped SO much better right away and were happier. I felt like I was teaching them a life skill and they WANTED to figure out how to go to bed without me and get a deeper and longer sleep. It doesn't mean I didn't still get plenty of bedtime cuddles and nursing snuggles though, I still do with my 2 year old!
I should add.....I likely won't participate in HDBD until this group breaks into a private one or FB group. Cause....public forum...ewww
Me too. I promise I'm a real person, but I don't like the way the TOU reads on TB and I don't want my photos being stolen, so I usually don't post pictures here, at least not of myself or my kids.
I should add.....I likely won't participate in HDBD until this group breaks into a private one or FB group. Cause....public forum...ewww
Me too. I promise I'm a real person, but I don't like the way the TOU reads on TB and I don't want my photos being stolen, so I usually don't post pictures here, at least not of myself or my kids.
I usually just cut off my head in the frame for my HDBD pics on my last BMB.
@livinthesunnylife I’ll agree about the private groups and am already wanting to break off just because I feel like it’s easier to get to know everyone in a more intimate setting lol. I guess that’s my second confession, I’m ready for smaller groups already haha
I'm not interesting enough to be a fake person lol. But yeah, there are like 426+ people who introduced themselves as part of this group and about 40 of us actually talking. I'll keep my personal info (including my bump) private from people that are lurking around and not actually participating.
@vinerie my DH told me he’ll be gone at the end of March for a conference and I’m already looking forward to the alone time, lol. He is usually out on Friday nights and it’s a nice way to start the weekend: tv, snacks, and just me.
@vinerie@ladygali My SO has a trip planned in a few weeks also. He's going skiing with all of our friends, but I decided I prob should sit this out because of fall risk. I will totally miss him while he's gone, but right now I'm looking forward to his trip. Especially full control over the remote! Although I always look forward to having the bed to myself, I never sleep as good when he's gone. But, I love alone time and it's going to be glorious (after DS goes to bed, anyway)!
I don't get the judging about 'too soon' to promote the bump. I get that the uterus isn't technically big yet, but if someone is starting to look a little pregnant even if it's just from bloat, why doesn't that count? I totally knew a friend of mine was preg when she was about 10 weeks. She's short, less than 5', and her little bump started to pop out around 9-10 weeks with her second. And, i can tell my belly is popping out like a month or more earlier than it did with my first pregnancy. Like, not even just bloat, it feels hard and bumped. Flame away, but it's never to early to celebrate the bump!
I'll post bump pics but without my face. I don't see the harm in it. But yeah, you're not seeing what my face looks like until FB waaaaay down the line!
I am way more comfortable sharing a pic than sharing identifying info like my name, is that weird? I may blur out my face for HDBD though, I haven't decided yet.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Sorry I got caught up arguing with a knottie about sex and gender... trying not to get another warning though...
Anyway, I'll crop my face or use a sticker thing or something. I didn't so weekly pics with my first pregnancy and I really wish I did. I loved my bump and I'm so ready to celebrate all the bumps here!
@mrsbubbles-2 are some people about to be 12 weeks anyway? We aren’t too far from legit bumps. And it’s always a nice excuse to share my favorite Fiber One commercial when it gets started too early
@lalala2004 I think some ladies due in the first week are going to be 11/12 weeks soon. How cool that some of our little poppy seeds are almost the size of doughnut holes! (thank you babysizer)
@lalala2004 I think some ladies due in the first week are going to be 11/12 weeks soon. How cool that some of our little poppy seeds are almost the size of doughnut holes! (thank you babysizer)
Do we get to see the commercial?
I save it for when someone posts bumps or about showing too early. So maybe you’ll get lucky
I don't get the judging about 'too soon' to promote the bump. I get that the uterus isn't technically big yet, but if someone is starting to look a little pregnant even if it's just from bloat, why doesn't that count? I totally knew a friend of mine was preg when she was about 10 weeks. She's short, less than 5', and her little bump started to pop out around 9-10 weeks with her second. And, i can tell my belly is popping out like a month or more earlier than it did with my first pregnancy. Like, not even just bloat, it feels hard and bumped. Flame away, but it's never to early to celebrate the bump!
I don't know what is going on with me, but I definitely have a little pop, which is earlier than last time. I have also noticed it when I lie on my stomach. I think I've read that the uterus never really goes back to its size before you were pg, so the second time it just kind of pops earlier. But I'm definitely in that "are you gaining a few pounds" stage vs. obviously pg stage...
My thing is if I didn’t have a bump in the morning and I do by evening.... That doesn’t count. Or if I poop and it goes away. Given, while not pregnant, I wouldn’t be so bloated, but I ain’t posting a picture of my gut when the baby is the size of a cherry.
Whatever, STM not all that long ago....I still have a bump thank you very much. @cthulu I could not agree more! I feel like I know who the cool people are and I'm ready to go to the secret clubhouse so we can actually get to know eachother. We can always invite new people that seem cool in. And if we do it as a private group within The Bump....what's the risk other than people can eaves drop on our convos?
I would love to learn how to sleep train, if any of you ladies would be willing to share how. DD is almost 2 and I feel like we struggle with her sleep everyday. I've read the different methods, but just don't know how to make it work for us.
@ashleyandjody What are you doing now to put her to sleep? What's her crutch? Is she still in a crib? I think it's a lot harder once they are in a bed because they can get up out of bed.
The biggest thing is to create a bedtime routine and do exactly the same thing every single night. Our bedtime routine is bath, PJs, reading, milk, cuddles in the chair, we sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and then I say goodnight my baby boy, love you to the moon and back and set him down in the crib awake. Always putting them down awake is key. Depending on which method you want to use you can do something gentle like sit next to them or move the chair closer and closer to the door each night (None of this gentle stuff worked for us). Or if you want to bite the bullet and get faster results you just shut the door and let them cry. Some people do 5-10-15-20 minute checks to tell them it's ok and night-night. Some people say just shut the door and let them be done. For us I did 10 minute checks for the first night or two. By night 5 he didn't cry at all.
I'll caveat that to say it is absolutely horrible to sit and listen to your child cry. Sometimes I had to go pace the driveway because I couldn't handle it (DH was in the house). So be prepared it will not be easy. But the idea is you're teaching them to fall asleep alone and these are good habits for them to have.
I am way more comfortable sharing a pic than sharing identifying info like my name, is that weird? I may blur out my face for HDBD though, I haven't decided yet.
Re: FFFC
ETA for tag
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
FWIW, I used to be a smoker so I am not hating on people who vape but it isn't safe. I'd tell your BIL to knock it off.
Pre-kid, when a HP marathon would be on TV on a rainy or particularly cold miserable day, SO and I would just leave it on for hours. HP is the perfect staying home, doing small chores, and relaxing on a Sunday afternoon.
I'm with @Krysta6 on the sex. You guys are all totally missing out on pregnant sex, which, for some anatomical or hormonal reason, feels so much better to me than regular sex! We managed to sneak it in between me having the stomach flu last weekend and SO getting the stomach flu yesterday. Also during toddler nap time, the best time of day! Now I have to wait a few days before he's feeling better.
I'm totally a sushi during pregnant person. But it makes SO nervous, so I just get cooked rolls. Although, I did have a deli-meat hoagie yesterday for lunch and it was sooooo goood. Did the same with DS and he turned out just fine, although he's quite a picky eater.
Anyway - I would absolutely say something to your BIL. I've made it clear to my family that vapes that when they're in my house they go outside and they totally understand.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
I think we should start HDBD on Wednesday. If you don't want to post a pic, you can post a funny gif or pictures of your pets or something.
Flame away...
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I say do it. I'll blump it up with you. People can ignore if they think it is too soon/annoying. My related FFFC is that I am mostly on board with this because I am a creeper and want to see what people look like.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Plus HDBD is a great place to find out where to buy cute maternity clothes lol!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
ETA: I also never got into HP. But I despise the fantasy genre in general. Game of Thrones, Lord of the Rings...ugh, ugh, ugh!
DS: Born 5-17-16
Me too. I promise I'm a real person, but I don't like the way the TOU reads on TB and I don't want my photos being stolen, so I usually don't post pictures here, at least not of myself or my kids.
DS: Born 5-17-16
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Anyway, I'll crop my face or use a sticker thing or something. I didn't so weekly pics with my first pregnancy and I really wish I did. I loved my bump and I'm so ready to celebrate all the bumps here!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Do we get to see the commercial?
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
DS: Born 5-17-16
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
The biggest thing is to create a bedtime routine and do exactly the same thing every single night. Our bedtime routine is bath, PJs, reading, milk, cuddles in the chair, we sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and then I say goodnight my baby boy, love you to the moon and back and set him down in the crib awake. Always putting them down awake is key. Depending on which method you want to use you can do something gentle like sit next to them or move the chair closer and closer to the door each night (None of this gentle stuff worked for us). Or if you want to bite the bullet and get faster results you just shut the door and let them cry. Some people do 5-10-15-20 minute checks to tell them it's ok and night-night. Some people say just shut the door and let them be done. For us I did 10 minute checks for the first night or two. By night 5 he didn't cry at all.
I'll caveat that to say it is absolutely horrible to sit and listen to your child cry. Sometimes I had to go pace the driveway because I couldn't handle it (DH was in the house). So be prepared it will not be easy. But the idea is you're teaching them to fall asleep alone and these are good habits for them to have.
@mrsbubbles-2 where was that argument??