@Sarafuss I think your feelings are totally justifiable and not at all flameworthy, especially considering your history.
@christycalifornia I have a delicious squash and zucchini recipe I was going to share with you because I assumed that was a winter vegetable, but Google tells me I am way wrong. Clearly I have no awareness of produce seasons in CA.
@runsomewhere@ckmb_knottie I see where you're coming from. But in my case, this is the annual conference for the area of law I practice in. It's an extremely specialized field, and the conference is meant to be a learning and networking event. I have been trying to plan my escape from this field of law for a while, so this might help clarify part of why I have no interest in going. Plus, my male coworker is now making a stink about not wanting to go just because he doesn't want to, and if he gets out of it while I have to haul my pregnant ass to California...
@christycalifornia my all time favorite winter veggie is brussels sprouts. Roasted with EVOO, salt, and pepper. Yum. Broccoli is really good that way too.
@Sarafuss i don't think there is anything wrong with your feelings. I have no real inclination either way this time, but I am a little worried I'm going to find out it's another boy and be somewhat disappointed deep down, at least temporarily. of course I will love him/her no matter what and be thrilled just to have a healthy baby, but this might be our last child and I always saw myself having a daughter. I think it's completely normal. Plus having a strong feeling sort of gets you feeling attached to the idea, and finding out you were wrong can be tough.
@Sarafuss I don't think they're is anything wrong with feeling that way. This is only my first and I would be lying if I didn't have a little stab of disappointment because I'm having a Boy instead of a Girl. Something special about that mother/daughter bond. However, I've gotten over it and I'm so excited to meet the little guy. I know there will be another chance at a girl down the road.
@amylu914 thank you and I almost responded to @christycalifornia to give suggestions but realized I have zero idea which veggies are winter veggies lol.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
@zande2016 yes, the strong feeling it's a girl is what is getting me. DH and I were discussing names the other day and I was only suggesting girl names. And he was like or...and suggested a boy name. I said, oh yea, it could be a boy! lol
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
@nimmle I felt that way with my first baby too (a boy). I did like the idea of having a boy first though so any girl(s) would have a big brother like I did.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
Mhmm spaghetti squash @TheQuietThings@christycalifornia I don’t have a link but I split and roast the squash with oil and s&p. Sauté onions, add garlic then tomato (and sometimes spinach) then mix it up with the spaghetti squash “noodles”. I’ll usually add more seasoning too, depending on my mood or whatever I’m making with it.
This might be better in the Freebies thread but here it goes! Check with your insurances to see if they have any pregnancy benefits (incentives). I just remembered that my insurance has a program that you sign up for and you get $150 at the end just for participating. All it is is a nurse calls you a few times to ask how your pregnancy is going and thats it! I have Cigna so not sure if others have it. Worth checking!
@Sarafuss i don't think there is anything wrong with your feelings. I have no real inclination either way this time, but I am a little worried I'm going to find out it's another boy and be somewhat disappointed deep down, at least temporarily. of course I will love him/her no matter what and be thrilled just to have a healthy baby, but this might be our last child and I always saw myself having a daughter. I think it's completely normal. Plus having a strong feeling sort of gets you feeling attached to the idea, and finding out you were wrong can be tough.
This is me exactly. With 2 boys at home, i am really hoping that this is a girl. I had hoped and prayed that #2 was a girl and when we found out it was a boy, i was honestly upset and was flamed for it majorly by some family members and friends. I think it is natural to want at least 1 of each and so this time, again, i am hoping for a girl. If it is a boy, then i know i am destined to be a boy mom as it is our last one. I, of course, just want a healthy baby over anything but am really wanting to see pink!
Married since 5/23/09
Stepdaughter-2/17/02
DS #1 born 1/25/10
DS #2 born 4/25/12 BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks Trying for #4 since 11/2015
@Sarafuss I totally understand your feelings. Life is stressful for us right now and DH is backpedaling on having a third (it briefly came up when talking about future plans). There is a distinct possibility that I will never have a girl, if this one is a boy (I have a feeling it is).
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This is made a little worse by the fact that, same as you, I had a girl and she did not survive.
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Obviously I just want a healthy baby and will love a little boy just as much. But the disappointment would be real for a bit, and I think that is natural!
I wish I had a feeling one way or the other on gender! Only about a month to go until our gender ultrasound though, so I guess I can wait.
I'm telling my boss tomorrow at 14 weeks. Last time I waited until 17, but I'm showing earlier this time! Plus, I want him to try to work with HR on getting some PTO saved for my maternity leave which should expire at the end of Q1.
@Sarafuss I have some of those feeling too. I have no inclination what this one will be, but I never had a sister and I think that it would have been awesome (hard, but awesome). And both of my closest friends are having girls.
Edited because I hit save too soon.
I wouldn’t be disappointed with a boy, not by a long shot but I will be sad for the loss of something I won’t ever have (last baby) just for a bit.
@SmashJam big hugs! Here's hoping your feeling is wrong and mine is right and we both have girls And stressful times definitely makes you feel like more kids would be crazy lol. Hopefully things calm down for you!
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
I have this crazy strong feeling it's a boy, and I went in hoping it would be a boy, but now I keep thinking of how nice it would be for my daughter to have a sister. I am overjoyed either way, but it's funny how you can flip flop on it
This is only my first and I would be lying if I didn't have a little stab of disappointment because I'm having a Boy instead of a Girl. Something special about that mother/daughter bond. However, I've gotten over it and I'm so excited to meet the little guy.
@nimmle 100% same page! Right now I just want this baby boy born healthy & to figure out motherhood!! But then mentally I’m dying for a girl too.... and wonder if I’ll have one.
OK so super random. No one at work knows I am pregnant yet. There are not a lot of other women at my job (STEM field) and only 5 of us at the age we would have kids. I thought it highly unlikely someone else would be pregnant at the same time as me (2 of the other ladies hate kids, and 1 just had a baby). So yesterday I passed the 5th lady in the bathroom and thought to myself "hmm that looks like it could be a baby bump" (and normally I am super oblivious and don't notice anything.) I let it slip my mind, but today one of the other girls (who I am super close with) came over and let me know that 5th lady was looking at cribs on her computer when she walked by and that she also noticed a bump (plus she just got married within the past year)... so I'm super excited that someone else *might* be pregnant the same time as me! I realize nothing is confirmed lol. She works in a different dept so I'm not worried about going out on mat leave at the same time. It would just be nice to have someone to bond with since our company is 90% men.
I also stalked the other boards spreadsheets looking for her but didn't find anyone I thought would be her- does this make me weird?
@zande2016 I also have a work conference in late March which I’m waffling over... it’s in Vegas (long trip from NY!). I’m flying in 1.5 weeks to SF for work, so pending that I may decide. Sorry you’re feeling pressure from the boss. (I’m fortunate I get to decide myself if I go.) ether way, do what is best for you and don’t look back!
@Sarafuss it is totally normal to feel that way! But just know that if you do have a boy, there is something very special about a mother/son relationship too. My little boy is the SWEETEST and I can't imagine life any other way. Every day, I get random kisses, he holds my hand, and he tells me that I am his "sweetest girl in the whole wide world". Totally unprovoked. Having a little boy is being loved and adored more than you ever knew possible. I know it won't last forever, but it's totally amazing while it does.
I am really excited to have a little girl this time around but there is a small part of me that is a little bit sad that I won't get to have another sweet boy.
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@4deep I made chili and rice but I only ate the rice because tomatoes are my enemy this pregnancy. The kids enjoyed it, and my husband did once he added salt and red pepper flakes. I never tasted it so I didn't realize it wasn't salty enough.
I still have to make leek and spinach dumplings before my produce goes bad. Maybe tomorrow.
And I may do beef stroganoff too. Perfect comfort food. I make mine with fresh mushrooms onions milk and flour and sour cream and ground beef, peas, and corn. Way better than canned cream of mushroom soup and not too hard.
@flockofmoosen3 lets talk about those leek and spinach dumplings!! I am intrigued. Like, dumplings filled with those things, or dumplings flavored with those things? THat sounds good! And what do you serve them with?
We went with breakfast quesadillas (kids picked because MH is working late). Basically scrambled eggs and sausage and cheese between two tortillas and grilled on the frying on. Yum
We had all the heavy, wet snow fall off our roof today, so the porch is covered (I'm slacking cuz its gonna RAIN tomorrow and I'm hoping that will help me out, lol) and so are the stairs. I went down the short flight of stairs today thinking it would be easier (only 3 stairs). I was holding DS, he was holding his waterbottle, and wearing no socks. I was holding, in my other hand, a glass container of cukes and grapes for a car snack, a pb&j not wrapped up for me. I hit that first step and fell-on top of DS! food went flying. He was fine, somehow i did not break his damn legs! I thought I escaped unscathed from all the snow but as I sit here I have some lower back pain and hip pain i am pretty sure i can attribute to that.
I just finished watching a group of videos about peopke announcing pregnancies and gender and actually cried. Not happy tears but jealous that the families of these peopke were so excited that they were expecting. I know i shouldnt fewl bad as dh and i and our kids are super excited but it still stings a bit when i think about it. Im glad that i have you all to discuss things with and experience things with. ♡
Married since 5/23/09
Stepdaughter-2/17/02
DS #1 born 1/25/10
DS #2 born 4/25/12 BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks Trying for #4 since 11/2015
Re: Weekday Randoms Pt. 1 1/8-1/9
@christycalifornia I have a delicious squash and zucchini recipe I was going to share with you because I assumed that was a winter vegetable, but Google tells me I am way wrong. Clearly I have no awareness of produce seasons in CA.
@christycalifornia my all time favorite winter veggie is brussels sprouts. Roasted with EVOO, salt, and pepper. Yum. Broccoli is really good that way too.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
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I don’t have a link but I split and roast the squash with oil and s&p. Sauté onions, add garlic then tomato (and sometimes spinach) then mix it up with the spaghetti squash “noodles”. I’ll usually add more seasoning too, depending on my mood or whatever I’m making with it.
BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks
Trying for #4 since 11/2015
@Sarafuss I totally understand your feelings. Life is stressful for us right now and DH is backpedaling on having a third (it briefly came up when talking about future plans). There is a distinct possibility that I will never have a girl, if this one is a boy (I have a feeling it is).
TW
This is made a little worse by the fact that, same as you, I had a girl and she did not survive.
End TW
Obviously I just want a healthy baby and will love a little boy just as much. But the disappointment would be real for a bit, and I think that is natural!
I'm telling my boss tomorrow at 14 weeks. Last time I waited until 17, but I'm showing earlier this time! Plus, I want him to try to work with HR on getting some PTO saved for my maternity leave which should expire at the end of Q1.
Edited because I hit save too soon.
I wouldn’t be disappointed with a boy, not by a long shot but I will be sad for the loss of something I won’t ever have (last baby) just for a bit.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
I also stalked the other boards spreadsheets looking for her but didn't find anyone I thought would be her- does this make me weird?
Sorry you’re feeling pressure from the boss. (I’m fortunate I get to decide myself if I go.) ether way, do what is best for you and don’t look back!
I am really excited to have a little girl this time around but there is a small part of me that is a little bit sad that I won't get to have another sweet boy.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
90% of my thoughts are what I’m going to eat next. Like right now I can’t wait for bed time so I can eat kit kat ice cream uninterrupted.
I still have to make leek and spinach dumplings before my produce goes bad. Maybe tomorrow.
And I may do beef stroganoff too. Perfect comfort food. I make mine with fresh mushrooms onions milk and flour and sour cream and ground beef, peas, and corn. Way better than canned cream of mushroom soup and not too hard.
BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks
Trying for #4 since 11/2015
BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks
Trying for #4 since 11/2015