I was (and still am) on a FB group for my J12 BMB. It wasn't set up until 3rd tri though. It was a secret group so no one outside could see/participate in posts except members. I didn't join one for my J14 baby because the bump was imploding then
I’m still in a march ‘14 group but we ended up with two groups. Some of us just didn’t get along very well.
@lincbeesmom - I think J14 made one I just wasn't as active last time so I never ended up joining. It seems like a lot of boards end up having multiple groups on FB.
I'd be ready to start one now but I don't want to rush anyone. I don't mind it on here though but it could be cause I don't know the difference. Maybe poll time?
Sorry to jump in ladies, can we go back to the baby shower thing quick? Is anyone else having multiple baby showers? How are you navigating that? I️ just had my bridal shower in July and it caused so much drama between my mom and MIL. MIL would like to do a separate shower this time (can’t say I️ blame her? My mom can be challenging). If you are having multiple showers how do you decide who goes to which? Do the Moms (now grandmothers) come to both? I️ hate navigating drama so any other perspectives would be great or if you have anything that you think will work for your shower or has worked in the past if you are a STM.
@trauen812 I had two showers with DS. A small number of people- my immediate family and best friend, were invited to both. I split my list otherwise. The one hosted by my bff was mostly my friends. The one my aunt hosted was a lot of family friends and coworkers. It was an older crowd.
@mileswithmyles see that makes sense, to basically have a friend shower and a family one. Basically too many people want to be involved in the planning so it gets complicated. Hopefully they can be grownups and leave me out of it.
@trauen812 Those are some tough questions. I only had one shower, but here are my thoughts. If I were in that situation, it sounds like two separate ones would be better to avoid drama again. For family, it seems obvious that you would split it his family and your family going to "their own" shower. I would not think the grandmas would go to both (especially since they were the source of the drama), and as far as friends/non-family guests, I would try and split them, too. I would imagine most people would be more comfortable and open among their own family than their in-laws, so you might want someone you know well and enjoy hanging out with at your MILs shower if that's the case. Another factor might be who can afford what. If one person can afford to invite more people, it might make more sense to have a "main" shower with that person and then do a much smaller one with the other person. Good luck, keep us updated!
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
My cousin has offered to host a shower for me, which is really sweet of her. None of my friends give a crap about babies so I doubt it would happen otherwise, cause I'd feel too awkward planning it for myself.
For those who are having one, is it going to be women only or mixed gender? I honestly really dislike the custom of it being only women because it suggests that babies are still "women's work" I guess. Plus DH is just as invested in this baby as I am, and spending lots of time researching gear etc with me so I don't see why he should be left out. But on the other hand, I have a lot of friends and family and if we invite all my friends, all my family, all my parents' friends who will want to be included as well then the group is going to be HUGE and I feel bad putting that on my cousin's back. Women only at least cuts down the guest list!
@abhphilly I really like the idea of including in the registry info that big items are only included for the completion discount! I have seen a bunch of people complaining online about people putting big items on registries which is so ridiculous to me. Obviously the discount is a big reason, but I guess it's not obvious to some.
I feel like it's a good idea to put more expensive items on your registry, not only for the completion discount, but it's also nice if a group of friends (or co-workers) all want to chip in and buy something instead of everyone buying something separately, which can sometimes actually be cheaper per person than buying their own gift. I was so surprised how many people chipped in for or bought the more expensive stuff on my registry. A bunch of my coworkers all chipped in and bought both of our cribs for us. I cried, I was so surprised and overwhelmed with their generosity. Both of our high chairs were bought for us, our glider/rocker, our swings, pretty much everything. @thunderberry To be perfectly honest, I don't think most women even *like* going to showers, I can't imagine most men would want to be included-at least for a "traditional" shower. I don't necessarily see it as perpetuating the "women's work" stereotype, it's just that traditionally men don't ooh and aah over the cute clothes and baby stuff like women do. I would suggest if you want it to be co-ed, to do something super informal and non-traditional, which could also help keep costs down for your cousin, too.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@thunderberry Ours will be co-ed. They seem to be common here, but I haven't been to one that had traditional baby shower games (a plus IMO). I'm not involved in planning mine, so I'm not sure what to expect. I threw my friend's co-ed shower and the guest list was pretty large. I ended up co-hosting with the husband's guy friend to cut down costs. It was more like a casual party, but everyone seemed to have fun.
@thunderberry, the thought is that the shower is meant to "shower the woman into motherhood". I didn't want coed because I knew half the women cone out of obligation so why force men into it as well? DH offered to be at the shower and I had him come the last 30 minutes so he could thank everyone in person as well.
As for multiple showers, my wedding shower was just 1 shower and I felt rushed and like I couldn't talk to everyone. Baby showers I had 3, my side, his side and friends. Our mothers were invited to each other's showers, but both had scheduling conflicts. My mil also lives 2 hours away so it was easy for everyone to agree separate showers worked better. I liked the smaller showers a lot more and got to relax and put my feet up a bit.
@thunderberry mine will be women only. I wouldn’t care if there were men there but DH really doesn’t like parties or being the center of attention so it would be more unpleasant for him if I tried to include him haha I don’t really care either way.
I am actually dreading my shower. I have a loss history that got "leaked" to extended in-law family by my MIL and I don't want it brought up at my shower. Let's face it, some people are just incompetent when it comes to thinking before they speak. At X-Mas eve dinner my husband's great aunt prayed for me in front of his extended family (most of whom I barely know) explaining how difficult a road I have been down yadayadayada. I don't want a repeat of this from the other aunts.
Showers aren't always happy experiences for everyone and that weighs on my mind too. One of my close friends will come to the shower because she loves me even though she had a MC in September and has been experiencing infertility for years with 4 failed IVF cycles. Another dear friend is ttc and not having luck and I know she will come as well. I am deeply sensitive to other's feelings, almost to a fault where I know I will just be thinking about them the entire time and how they must be feeling. I will definitely talk with them beforehand and explain that I totally understand where they are coming from and do not expect them to come if it is too difficult. Also, I am an introvert even though most people wouldn't know that, and I do not like having attention on me. I wish I could have the shower at a bowling alley, lol.
Is it bad to just want to get the shower over with? At least it is a restaurant with a specific timeline so I won't have to endure it for more than 3 hours.
@thunderberry Ours will be coed, but it’s casual and at our house, so it’s more of just a regular party than some formal baby-focused affair. That seems to be the norm in my friends group though, and might be more unusual in other places still.
@justsuzie I am with you on all fronts. **TW Loss Mentioned**
I cried at one of my showers with DS because I felt like I was celebrating the baby I was able to carry to term and felt tremendous guilt for the babies I was unable to who would never be celebrated. I also got condolence cards in the mail from family members who were told by another family member of my losses. I am a VERY private person and had no idea this was coming. It was a stab in the heart to open the mailbox when those started coming in.
Basically, it is not bad to want to get it over with. Maybe if your mom or someone else is close to those who you think may say something, they need to tell them before to not mention it. I had H and my sister take care of that.
We are having 2 family showers, one mine and one in laws. The host decides the guest list. MIL and SIL are being invited to my family one and my mom, sister and brother's wife are being invited to the in law one. I think it's proper etiquette here to include the moms for sure. The family showers will be women only, pretty traditional but that's just how the families are. Our final shower my sister is hosting at our house and it's a joint party for friends, co workers etc. It will be super casual with dinner and drinks. On the invite it's worded as "come celebrate parents-to-be." It's the one I'm looking forward to most
@cups4 and @justsuzie I can only imagine how difficult that must be. I can relate to wanting to be private, I have yet to post anything about this pregnancy on social media. I am not hiding the pregnancy and have made it clear to everyone who I have told that they are free to share the news with whoever via word of mouth, but I do not need every single person on my FB friends list to know, yet.
***TW loss mentioned*** My friend had a loss, she told me, but I knew that she was not sharing this information openly. Then I overheard one of my aunts nonchalantly mention my friends loss and was appalled that she even knew about it in the first place (since I knew how private my friend was being about it). Turns out, my friend's mom told her SIL who told my aunt, blah blah blah. But, my friend was incredibly hurt by it since it was not anyone else's information to share but her own. I am so sorry that you had to experience this @cups4 and @justsuzie and I really do not understand how insensitive/ignorant people can be. ***creepy internet hugs****
@abhphilly and @thunderberry on babylist, you can make some registry items private, so I added more expensive items there so my husband and I can keep track of items we want that are bigger. But I also agree with @sandbar517 that sometimes a few friends like to go in and get one big gift.
@thunderberry one of the best baby showers I went to was co-ed. But it was in July and was an outdoor BBQ. We all just hung out and drank beer and wine and played lawn games. The only shower-y thing was them opening presents. But since our showers will be in colder months, it might be a little harder to do something like that.
@justsuzie and @cups4 also sending creepy internet hugs. I'm sorry that even family members can lack the appropriate empathy to understand when privacy is wanted and needed.
@justsuzie no it’s not bad for wanting to get it over with, I’m right there with ya. While the gifts and good wishes are appreciated it just seems like a headache.
We are having 2 family showers, one mine and one in laws. The host decides the guest list. MIL and SIL are being invited to my family one and my mom, sister and brother's wife are being invited to the in law one. I think it's proper etiquette here to include the moms for sure. The family showers will be women only, pretty traditional but that's just how the families are. Our final shower my sister is hosting at our house and it's a joint party for friends, co workers etc. It will be super casual with dinner and drinks. On the invite it's worded as "come celebrate parents-to-be." It's the one I'm looking forward to most
That’s helpful, idk if I could or would want to actually have 3 full baby showers. Seems like a lot but that lowkey last one you have planned sounds great. And that way you wont have the added complication of deciding which friends go to which party. Edited for spelling
@trauen812 I have large families 30 and 40 women invited for the family showers so I have no choice! It will be a lot but they were all planned right away and will be early on so I'm happy. And feel lucky to be having so many celebrations!
I am fortunate that my best girl friends are throwing me one shower next weekend and my mother and MIL are throwing me another in March. I did get a little nervous that my girl friends asked attendees to buy a gift, diapers (for a game/raffle) and also a book. But, I also don't like asking anyone for anything so the whole premise makes me anxious, though very grateful!
I totally know what you mean. One of my showers with DS was on my due date for the baby we lost. It was a bittersweet day for me. We were very private about our loss and even our parents don’t know. I’ve only recently started talking about it more openly with a few people.
@thunderberry mine was all women EXCEPT my MIL insisted DH be there. Because it's his baby too was her reasoning. Which is fine. But I feel bad that they didn't open the invite out to the grandfathers and uncles to-be. Mind you... Those guys upon finding out they weren't expected to be there might have been like
I'll likely be having 3 baby showers. Our families live 8 hours apart and we live four hours away from my family. In the opposite direction. We usually spend our school breaks in February, April, and the summer at our home near his family, but this year I told him I would not be going in April because I doubt want to make that 12 hour drive when I'm that far along. So I told him to talk to him mom and aunts if they're planning a shower I'd only be there in February. Which to me and my PGAL brain seems too soon to have a shower but that's something else. We will have that one coed by my request because they threw me a bridal shower in July and I felt it was so awkward not knowing anyone. I mean I knew the aunts and cousins for the most part, but then there were all the people like Mils friends and great aunts and Mils cousins that I didn't know and they were handing me presents and it just was way too awkward.
My mom and sister will throw me one during my April break with my family and that will not be coed and I'm okay with that. My brother and his boyfriend might feel left out and show up, but for the most part it will be just my family.
At some point I know my school and likely dh school will throw us a shower because his school is always looking for an excuse to have a party (the threw a party last spring to celebrate us and another coworker who was getting married during the summer) and the ladies at my school love babies.
As for thoughts on when to throw showers, in my family they always throw them about 2 weeks to a month before baby's arrival. Because of this, I went to my mom's baby shower as a week old baby because I was 3 weeks early. We had my sister's shower with out her because she gave birth to my niece the day before her shower 4 weeks early. It's very odd to have a shower with out the mom present. We filmed the little cousins opening the presents so she could see what she received when we went to visit her that night and could decide what she wanted us to bring her in the hospital because my niece was there for 2 weeks and they set up a room for them to stay with her.
I’m finally jumping in! I’m having two baby showers my mother is throwing one and my MIL is throwing the other one. My mother and sisters are invited to my MIL’s shower and my MIL will be at my moms shower. We live about an hour from my parents and most of my friends live in my hometown so that’s why we are having two separate. Both my mother and MIL don’t want to make people drive over an hour for a shower. Not to mention that my mother isn’t a huge fan of my MIL. If some of you read my old posts about her, you could figure out why. I registered at Target and Babies R Us.
@thunderberry Ours are women only, but I’m sure DH will stop by near the end to open some gifts and make an appearance.
@sandbar517 I agree with you. Lots of us at work have went together on big ticket items like strollers and car seats so that’s exactly why I’m putting those items on my registry and for the completion coupon.
@justsuzie YES! That’s my UO too, when people don’t buy from the registry! We register to help and show our guests what we need for baby and when they blantantly ignore it that bothers me. I know MILs friends will get me the most random stuff. At my wedding, one of her friends got me a Christmas cake holder, a spool of ribbon, and Christmas candles. My Wedding was in March. I mean come on?
@mmb4532 Very rando wedding presents! The only thing I think is apropo veering off the registry is clothes, books, and anything handmade like quilts or blankets.
My mom originally planned the shower for the date of one of the losses, but I told her to switch it because I didn't think I could handle it. I don't know how you did that. My mind already wanders daily to the losses and back to this pg making me feel so lucky and sad at the same time (weird combo of emotions). I guess all-in-all the losses obviously were horrible but have made me appreciate this baby so much, and I would never be one to spoil a child. (I see so many privileged brats where I teach.) But, I know this baby will be so spoiled by me, my husband, my closest friends and my parents because they know how long we struggled and what we went through to have her.
@justsuzie I can't wait for you to hold her when she's here. You never forget before, but this magical baby is put in to your arms and the joy just radiates and overflows
Omg that was sappy but your post gave me the feels
I also want to add that I hate when people don't have a registry or at least some direction on what to gift. Since I don't have kids, I just have no idea what to get or what is appropriate.
For those who say a lot of guys are happy to get out of the shower, that is a good point. I can't say I love attending showers either. But there are a few guys who I'm close with who I'd feel weird about being left out. Maybe we can walk the line and include those few without feeling every spouse of every relative needs to be included.
@silverhope I love the idea of a BBQ shower! That is too bad our timing doesn't work out for something casul like that.
I kind of wish I could have a friend shower and a family shower, which could actually solve the co-ed thing too, since I doubt any of my friends are going to have a great time hanging out with all my family, family friends etc. But I have no one to plan a friend one and we're having a hard enough time figuring out a date for just one let alone two, so whatevs.
Speaking of timing, I have yet another question! When is the typical timing for a shower? My mother thought it should be in the month before I'm due, but that seems awfully late to me to give me time to take advantage of the completion discount, buy anything we don't get and get the nursery all set up.
@justsuzie, I think spoiled can mean different things. Yes, there are definitely spoiled children who, I think, should more appropriately be called brats. They don't appreciate anything, their parents don't have expectations for them, and they do what they want. In your case, I feel like "spoiled" is the incorrect word to use. Your sweet girl is going to be so loved and appreciated. She will grow up knowing her family and friends are there for her when she needs them. She may have a lot of toys, clothes, etc., but I feel like you will help her appreciate all she is given. I'm excited for you (and all the mommies to be with losses in their past)! Holding your baby for the first time is magical, but I imagine for those who have experienced loss...
@justsuzie I can't wait for you to hold her when she's here. You never forget before, but this magical baby is put in to your arms and the joy just radiates and overflows
Omg that was sappy but your post gave me the feels
Yes, this. I look at my twins and think about the fact that if my losses weren't losses, I would never know these 2 perfect beings. So while the road was hard, rough, and full of tears, it led me right where I needed to go and gave me the beings I was destined to have. I still think of my losses often. A lot of times they come to my mind when I'm having a particularly hard day and my heart is reminding me that even my hardest days with my kids are better than any days before they came into my life.
Re: Baby Shower Thread
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
My cousin has offered to host a shower for me, which is really sweet of her. None of my friends give a crap about babies so I doubt it would happen otherwise, cause I'd feel too awkward planning it for myself.
For those who are having one, is it going to be women only or mixed gender? I honestly really dislike the custom of it being only women because it suggests that babies are still "women's work" I guess. Plus DH is just as invested in this baby as I am, and spending lots of time researching gear etc with me so I don't see why he should be left out. But on the other hand, I have a lot of friends and family and if we invite all my friends, all my family, all my parents' friends who will want to be included as well then the group is going to be HUGE and I feel bad putting that on my cousin's back. Women only at least cuts down the guest list!
@abhphilly I really like the idea of including in the registry info that big items are only included for the completion discount! I have seen a bunch of people complaining online about people putting big items on registries which is so ridiculous to me. Obviously the discount is a big reason, but I guess it's not obvious to some.
@thunderberry To be perfectly honest, I don't think most women even *like* going to showers, I can't imagine most men would want to be included-at least for a "traditional" shower. I don't necessarily see it as perpetuating the "women's work" stereotype, it's just that traditionally men don't ooh and aah over the cute clothes and baby stuff like women do. I would suggest if you want it to be co-ed, to do something super informal and non-traditional, which could also help keep costs down for your cousin, too.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
TTC #1 since September 2015
*TW*
BFP #1: CP, April 2016
BFP #2: 10/5/16, MMC 11/3/16 at 7w5d (embryo stopped @ ~6 weeks), misoprostol 11/11/16 (EDD 6/16/17)
Dx: Luteal phase defect, uterine polyps, stage 2 endometriosis, low morphology
Uterine polyp removal (laparoscopy) 3/28/17
BFP #3: 6/19/17, MMC 7/11/17 at 6w3d, misoprostol 7/17/17 (EDD 3/1/18)
BFP #4: 8/25/17 EDD 5/4/18
As for multiple showers, my wedding shower was just 1 shower and I felt rushed and like I couldn't talk to everyone. Baby showers I had 3, my side, his side and friends. Our mothers were invited to each other's showers, but both had scheduling conflicts. My mil also lives 2 hours away so it was easy for everyone to agree separate showers worked better.
I liked the smaller showers a lot more and got to relax and put my feet up a bit.
I am actually dreading my shower. I have a loss history that got "leaked" to extended in-law family by my MIL and I don't want it brought up at my shower. Let's face it, some people are just incompetent when it comes to thinking before they speak. At X-Mas eve dinner my husband's great aunt prayed for me in front of his extended family (most of whom I barely know) explaining how difficult a road I have been down yadayadayada. I don't want a repeat of this from the other aunts.
Showers aren't always happy experiences for everyone and that weighs on my mind too. One of my close friends will come to the shower because she loves me even though she had a MC in September and has been experiencing infertility for years with 4 failed IVF cycles. Another dear friend is ttc and not having luck and I know she will come as well. I am deeply sensitive to other's feelings, almost to a fault where I know I will just be thinking about them the entire time and how they must be feeling. I will definitely talk with them beforehand and explain that I totally understand where they are coming from and do not expect them to come if it is too difficult. Also, I am an introvert even though most people wouldn't know that, and I do not like having attention on me. I wish I could have the shower at a bowling alley, lol.
Is it bad to just want to get the shower over with? At least it is a restaurant with a specific timeline so I won't have to endure it for more than 3 hours.
I cried at one of my showers with DS because I felt like I was celebrating the baby I was able to carry to term and felt tremendous guilt for the babies I was unable to who would never be celebrated. I also got condolence cards in the mail from family members who were told by another family member of my losses. I am a VERY private person and had no idea this was coming. It was a stab in the heart to open the mailbox when those started coming in.
Basically, it is not bad to want to get it over with. Maybe if your mom or someone else is close to those who you think may say something, they need to tell them before to not mention it. I had H and my sister take care of that.
***TW loss mentioned***
My friend had a loss, she told me, but I knew that she was not sharing this information openly. Then I overheard one of my aunts nonchalantly mention my friends loss and was appalled that she even knew about it in the first place (since I knew how private my friend was being about it). Turns out, my friend's mom told her SIL who told my aunt, blah blah blah. But, my friend was incredibly hurt by it since it was not anyone else's information to share but her own. I am so sorry that you had to experience this @cups4 and @justsuzie and I really do not understand how insensitive/ignorant people can be. ***creepy internet hugs****
@thunderberry one of the best baby showers I went to was co-ed. But it was in July and was an outdoor BBQ. We all just hung out and drank beer and wine and played lawn games. The only shower-y thing was them opening presents. But since our showers will be in colder months, it might be a little harder to do something like that.
@justsuzie and @cups4 also sending creepy internet hugs. I'm sorry that even family members can lack the appropriate empathy to understand when privacy is wanted and needed.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
wont have the added complication of deciding which friends go to which party.
Edited for spelling
I did get a little nervous that my girl friends asked attendees to buy a gift, diapers (for a game/raffle) and also a book. But, I also don't like asking anyone for anything so the whole premise makes me anxious, though very grateful!
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I totally know what you mean. One of my showers with DS was on my due date for the baby we lost. It was a bittersweet day for me. We were very private about our loss and even our parents don’t know. I’ve only recently started talking about it more openly with a few people.
My mom and sister will throw me one during my April break with my family and that will not be coed and I'm okay with that. My brother and his boyfriend might feel left out and show up, but for the most part it will be just my family.
At some point I know my school and likely dh school will throw us a shower because his school is always looking for an excuse to have a party (the threw a party last spring to celebrate us and another coworker who was getting married during the summer) and the ladies at my school love babies.
As for thoughts on when to throw showers, in my family they always throw them about 2 weeks to a month before baby's arrival. Because of this, I went to my mom's baby shower as a week old baby because I was 3 weeks early. We had my sister's shower with out her because she gave birth to my niece the day before her shower 4 weeks early. It's very odd to have a shower with out the mom present. We filmed the little cousins opening the presents so she could see what she received when we went to visit her that night and could decide what she wanted us to bring her in the hospital because my niece was there for 2 weeks and they set up a room for them to stay with her.
@thunderberry Ours are women only, but I’m sure DH will stop by near the end to open some gifts and make an appearance.
@sandbar517
I agree with you. Lots of us at work have went together on big ticket items like strollers and car seats so that’s exactly why I’m putting those items on my registry and for the completion coupon.
@justsuzie YES! That’s my UO too, when people don’t buy from the registry! We register to help and show our guests what we need for baby and when they blantantly ignore it that bothers me. I know MILs friends will get me the most random stuff. At my wedding, one of her friends got me a Christmas cake holder, a spool of ribbon, and Christmas candles. My Wedding was in March. I mean come on?
mileswithmyles . TW------Loss
My mom originally planned the shower for the date of one of the losses, but I told her to switch it because I didn't think I could handle it. I don't know how you did that. My mind already wanders daily to the losses and back to this pg making me feel so lucky and sad at the same time (weird combo of emotions). I guess all-in-all the losses obviously were horrible but have made me appreciate this baby so much, and I would never be one to spoil a child. (I see so many privileged brats where I teach.) But, I know this baby will be so spoiled by me, my husband, my closest friends and my parents because they know how long we struggled and what we went through to have her.
Omg that was sappy but your post gave me the feels
For those who say a lot of guys are happy to get out of the shower, that is a good point. I can't say I love attending showers either. But there are a few guys who I'm close with who I'd feel weird about being left out. Maybe we can walk the line and include those few without feeling every spouse of every relative needs to be included.
@silverhope I love the idea of a BBQ shower! That is too bad our timing doesn't work out for something casul like that.
I kind of wish I could have a friend shower and a family shower, which could actually solve the co-ed thing too, since I doubt any of my friends are going to have a great time hanging out with all my family, family friends etc. But I have no one to plan a friend one and we're having a hard enough time figuring out a date for just one let alone two, so whatevs.
Speaking of timing, I have yet another question! When is the typical timing for a shower? My mother thought it should be in the month before I'm due, but that seems awfully late to me to give me time to take advantage of the completion discount, buy anything we don't get and get the nursery all set up.
I was about 33 weeks with DS
I still think of my losses often. A lot of times they come to my mind when I'm having a particularly hard day and my heart is reminding me that even my hardest days with my kids are better than any days before they came into my life.
Love this.