I just made it though all this too. Perhaps, too, an extended vacation to your moms would give him a wake up call to look into counseling, if both of you are devoted to your relationship. I don’t think that it’s always, or even most of the time, a good thing to hang on to an abusive relationship. But it seems like you love him too and getting him to see that you value yourself and your safety might wake him up a bit. I do think it’s a good idea to leave regardless Though. @hayhay93
@ajsanders-2@alylynn07 Jealous of you!! Love cold weather, but that's a littttttttle too cold! I hate when its real cold and rains, we don't get snow so its freezing rain.
@hayhay93 just letting you know I’m here for support. Willing to talk if you want.
I literally watched my mother go through an abusive relationship. It is HARD to leave but it is necessary to save yourself mentally.
Like me previously stated: it only takes once for him turn turn the aggression physical and it affect the pregnancy and that risk alone is enough to leave.
@hayhay93 I’m so glad you are making a plan to leave. It will be hard and he’ll probably try to manipulate you into staying. Even him saying he’s physical with you to “calm you down” is him gaslighting you. Just keep telling yourself that you deserve better. What he’s doing is wrong. The baby deserves better. Thinking of you and please keep us updated.
It’s always hard on the days where he’s nicer but I just keep reminding myself of the nights I cry myself to sleep. I don’t want our baby to ever experience how mean he can be. My plan is to tell him that I’m moving out (not until after I’ve left) and if he decides to get help, I will gladly go to therapy with him and work on our problems for our child, but if not, then he can only see his child with supervision. He’s so excited about the baby and that makes it extra hard to do all of this but I am going to do what’s best for all of us.
@hayhay93 I'm just catching up, sorry. That's a hard, tough, good choice. I hope he chooses to seek help. So many women don't make the choice to do the right hard thing and just live with it. Stay strong - you're doing what's right long-term even though it's hard now. I always tell my students that people put their best foot forward when you're dating, so don't expect them to magically change when things get serious, be that marriage or a baby. It may not feel like it, but you're lucky to not be even more tied to him than you are, and good on ya for making this decision before you went further into commitment.
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I literally watched my
mother go through an abusive relationship. It is HARD to leave but it is necessary to save yourself mentally.
Like me previously stated: it only takes once for him turn turn the aggression physical and it affect the pregnancy and that risk alone is enough to leave.
It’s always hard on the days where he’s nicer but I just keep reminding myself of the nights I cry myself to sleep. I don’t want our baby to ever experience how mean he can be. My plan is to tell him that I’m moving out (not until after I’ve left) and if he decides to get help, I will gladly go to therapy with him and work on our problems for our child, but if not, then he can only see his child with supervision. He’s so excited about the baby and that makes it extra hard to do all of this but I am going to do what’s best for all of us.