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Re: December TWW

  • @lumosmaxima @lin0442 @honeybeebub Glad I'm not the only one who has these feelings. I have a friend who announced awhile ago with the exact EDD. It is the same as mine. It hit a nerve and I started getting really angry and annoyed at every announcement. So that's when I decided to take a break. I don't want to be "that" person with my negative attitude, but I've become that. This week my husband's business partner let us know his wife is expecting their third and they "weren't even trying." The same day one of our store managers went around telling anyone and everyone she is 6 weeks pregnant. Well lucky you guys.  :(
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  • So I ovulated super early this cycle, pretty sure it was CD 11ish. I haven't been temping so can't say for sure...but anyway, I had planned on not buying any pregnancy tests until after Christmas. 

    Well...I'm cleaning out under our bathroom sink looking for another stick of deodorant and what do I find but a perfect, not expired, unopened frer.

    The temptation is STRONG, guys. It's way too early to test now but I can't stop thinking about "cheating" on the plan I made for myself...like maybe I could just test at 10 dpo...or 8...
  • @lumosmaxima How many DPO are you? I would wait until at least 10 DPO :)
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    TTC#1 October 2014

    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • @honeybeebub About 6dpo, my best guess based on opk and symptoms, way too soon! I wanted to wait until after the holiday to avoid disappoinment/stress. Holidays are emotionally charged as it is. But now... we'll see if I can hold out :/
  • @lumosmaxima Ah we're around the same DPO. I'm either 5 or 6. Holding on testing until at least this weekend, which is still early. FX this is our month! 

    We hit a major deliverable at work today and someone said "'tis the season for miracles". I sure hope so, 'cause I could certainly use a miracle... And the BSC in me has arrived, thinking how if I had a BFP this month I could wrap it up as a gift for DH or say it was a gift that I forgot to give him if it was after Christmas. Gah, why do I do this to myself!?! I just set myself up for disappointment... 
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    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • I’m with you ladies! Last month I tested thanksgiving morning at 11dpo thinking how wonderful it would be to get a positive. Now this month I’m thinking what a Christmas gift it would be....trying not to get my hopes up. 9dpo today. Will probably cave and test tomorrow. No symptoms but I have noticed some ewcm. Not sure what that means?? 
  • honeybeebubhoneybeebub member
    edited December 2017
    Gah, I hate this batch of OPKs, going back to my previous brand next month. I don't know why I trusted a positive OPK on CD11, especially since I have never ovulated that early. CD17 yesterday, with EWCM, cramping and a glowing positive OPK. So back to 1DPO. Glad we were BDing for fun after my fake O.

    @Racso12  I have heard the EWCM post O go both ways, some say it is a predictor of BFP, some say AF. I'm hoping for you it is BFP! 

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    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • @Racso12 @honeybeebub I’ll be 11 DPO on Christmas morning. I usually cave and test at 11 DPO but it’s such an emotionally charged day to test I’m not sure I will.

    Also DH very clearly has his hopes up this cycle and I don’t want to disappoint him- not that he would hold it against me or anything, I’m sure you ladies understand what I mean. 
  • @honeybeebub - that's why I don't OPK.  I just trust my body's natural rhythms.  I'm CD19 but we will BD one more time tomorrow night for good measure. 
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  • vlagrl29  LOL. I temp because my body has no natural rhythms. :)  

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
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  • @vlagrl29 @dpjennifer  I don't trust my body anymore. I need to use something because I'm driven towards science and control.  Although temping seems like a lot of work. I don't want to get up at 4:30a on the weekend to stay consistent with the week. If it were up to me I would already be doing monitored cycle (plus I'm interested to know how thick my lining is actually getting). So if Dec doesn't pan out I'll get my science cycle in Jan. 
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    TTC#1 October 2014

    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • oh I understand ladies @honeybeebub @dpjennifer - my body is OCD like my mind so that's why I don't temp or OPK plus it makes me BSC.  Looks like we will be together with science next month!  Science yo! - breaking bad reference :)  I'm looking forward to my RE appt in a few weeks.  Get up in the UTE and find something for me or find nothing and I will have a peace of mind.  Well my science cycle wouldn't be until Feb I'm guessing.  But I am going to ask for an U/S from them.
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  • @honeybeebub ugh opks are such a love/hate thing. I don’t temp because my sleep is so inconsistent. So I rely on opks. I’ve had wonky readings, too. Hopefully you can get some good timing in now with your real O. I was also reading the EWCM post O can go both ways, too. So basically it means nothing. Hahaha

    @lin0442 oooh that is a tough one. I would probably have a hard time not testing. But if you keep yourself busy maybe you won’t think about it? 

    Possible TW - is anyone familiar with wondfo pregnancy tests? 10dpo today and took one this morning. Super, super, super faint line. Like it may just be an evap line. Do wonfos usually have those? I’m telling myself it’s an evap line to avoid disappointment. 
  • @Racso12 Woo! A super faint line seems about right for 10DPO. Wondfos have been accurate for me (the 4 times I have been preg) so I'm gonna say congratulations! Do you have any FRERs to take? 
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    TTC#1 October 2014

    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • @honeybeebub thank you! But I’m being very cautious. I’m crazy and I went and dig out yesterday’s test which I purposely shoved to the bottom of the garbage and it also had the same incredibly faint line. It’s making me think it’s just showing up after the test has been sitting out for awhile. My husband said just to wait until I miss my period to test. Clearly he doesn’t understand how our minds work.  :D
  • @Racso12 FX that it's a very faint positive and that you see a darker line next time you test! When will you test again?
    Ivy: July 2010  |  Stella: Dec 2012  |  BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020

  • @honeybeebub Ugh about the OPK's. I had something similar happen to me a couple of cycles ago. So frustrating!!
    Ivy: July 2010  |  Stella: Dec 2012  |  BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020

  • Bummer @honeybeebub! At least you didn't miss your actual O! 

    Fingers crossed @rasco12 that line just keeps getting darker till there is no doubt!
  • Congrats to all the BFPs!!! FX for sticky babies!!! 

    My PCOS throws everything off so I can only guess when I ovulate. My last cycle was 37 days, so I plugged that into the First Response app  and my fertile days were the 13-17. Now offically in TWW mode hoping and praying it was right! We almost at the year and a half mark of TTC. 

    Me: 34 - SO: 40
    TTC #1 since 8/2016
    FINALLY diagnosed with anovulatory PCOS 11/2016 (Insulin resistance and multiple cysts on both ovaries)
    Miscarriage on 7/19/17 at 7 weeks 
    Miscarriage on 10/16/17 at 5 weeks



  • Hi all, this TWW is a rough one with the holidays looming! I'm due for AF on Christmas Day, I'm anxious to test because that gives me some sense of control, but I'm trying to hold off knowing it's too early. 
  • 10DPO today and while only half awake, I just waisted my FMU on an OPK! Oh geez! 
    Ivy: July 2010  |  Stella: Dec 2012  |  BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020

  • I'm embarrassed to admit that I POAS today. Arg. It's still so early, why did I do that :( of course it was negative. 
  • on the plus side @robyn2201 HCG can be detected in OPK
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  • honeybeebubhoneybeebub member
    edited December 2017
    @robyn2201 @vlagrl29 I was just going to say that. *TW*I found out with one of my BFPs because my OPKs came back positive for like 4 days! *End TW*
    @lumosmaxima I totally get it! 
    @Racso12 Did you test again? I'm impatient for you :) 
    @eranvo27 I can imagine that is difficult. Are you doing any kind of monitoring for your cycle? 
    @MandyMost Man that is a tough day. Are you thinking that you will try to test earlier or wait until after? 

    AFM I'm just sitting over here with the longest ThreeWW ever since messing up the O. At least we have lots planned after this week is over. It seems like it's Friday at work already... I think I'll probably test next Friday. 

    edits, add TW to be cautious
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    TTC#1 October 2014

    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • @honeybeebub - that's how I found out last year I was pg with our loss. 3 days in a row of pos opk. I had a period and was tracking O for 7dpo prog test. Talk about crazy!

    im cd 20 today and maybe BD 1 more time tonight. I thought maybe I've already Od but I've had some discharge today. Not ewcm so not sure.
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  • @honeybeebub I try to monitor it, temping is all over the place and OPKs don't work. I mostly try to look a CM. That seems to be the only real indication of fertility I have. I hate noy knowing... I have to admit I've POAS and of course it's a BFN. I still have like another 6 days before anything might show lol!

    Me: 34 - SO: 40
    TTC #1 since 8/2016
    FINALLY diagnosed with anovulatory PCOS 11/2016 (Insulin resistance and multiple cysts on both ovaries)
    Miscarriage on 7/19/17 at 7 weeks 
    Miscarriage on 10/16/17 at 5 weeks



  • 11DPO and a BFN. Booo!
    Ivy: July 2010  |  Stella: Dec 2012  |  BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020

  • @robyn2201  Sorry girl :( 
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    TTC#1 October 2014

    BFP: November 2014, DS born via c-section July 2015 


    TTC#2 December 2016

    BFP: 12/23/16- No heartbeat at 8 weeks, D&C 01/30/17 

    BFP: 03/11/17- Chemical 03/15/2017

    BFP: 04/17/17- Chemical 04/22/2017 

    05-10/2017 - RPL Testing/Septum Resection Surgery

    11/2017-03/2018 3 Natural cycles / 2 TIC w/ trigger shot 

    BFP: 03/29/18, Rainbow Baby Boy Due late November/ early December 2018  <3

  • :( sorry @robyn2201 Hopefully there are still a few more days left to see that change!
    Me: 35 I DH: 38
    *TW loss and children mentioned*
    DD:2006 | Dx: Unexplained Secondary Infertility | DS: 2011

    TFAS since 2012

    Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C
    Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
    May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
    Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
    Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
    Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
    Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
    Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen  
    Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
    Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
    Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
    Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201  Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715 U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125!
    EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
    My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019 <3 

  • Sorry @robyn2201 :( it ain't over till it's over, though!
  • Thanks for the positive thinking ladies but I'm pretty sure I'm out. I noticed some spotting this afternoon. 
    Ivy: July 2010  |  Stella: Dec 2012  |  BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020

  • Congratulations @rasco12!! Awesome!!
  • Awesome news @rasco12 congrats! I would probably feel the same way.
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  • @racso12 Congratulations! 
  • @fishee333 Congratulations!!!  Late to the party but fx for all good things!!!
  • @shri929. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
  • @rasco12. Congrats!!!  FWIW, don't read too much into the EWCM after O.  It just means you had a bit of an estrogen surge.  I get them all the time, even when no chance of being KU ;)  Enjoy a h&h 9 months!!!!
  • @honeybeebub  with temping, no need to get up as early as you normally do even on weekends.  I always just set a soft temping alarm, or some girls use their fitbit to vibrate and then go back to sleep.  Nbd
  • ((((Hugs)))) @robyn2201 Be good to yourself ❤ 
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