I also feel like there’s a cultural expectation that we must lie about the truths of pregnancy and childbirth, especially to first time moms. Like, you don’t want to scare them so you don’t share important information with them. I don’t think we should be overly negative, but I also think that complications can be even more devastating when you didn’t even know they could happen.
@gildah I wish I had known that things aren't always peachy during pregnancy. It's isolating feeling like you have to pretend to be happy. I agree that the cultural expectation is a lot of pressure. @cups4 I do work with a lot of older women....that could explain things. They are always commenting on when I am going to "pop" and asking to see my bump. I wear baggy clothes because I don't want the attention on my stomach which is just about starting to show. My uterus, my business, back off ladies!
I'm sorry that you're going through all of this. Glad you took the time you needed for yourself. PGAL brain isn't fair and when things don't go the way you expect, I can totally relate to feeling isolated. We're all here if you need anything!
Thank you for sharing and being very open. I was talking to my friend about how people don't really talk about how pregnancy can really suck. There have been times I've felt guilty about not liking being pregnant and I'm not even dealing with many of the things you are. Happy to hear you are feeling better and I hope you gain more strength through the remainder of this journey.
Happy to have you back! I am so sorry for what you are and have been going through. While I am not experiencing what you are, I have been having dark feelings about my pregnancy. I am still nauseous all day long (at 19 weeks, taking Zofran daily). I HATE being pregnant and find myself resenting the women who are "feeling great during 2nd tri." There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling, and know that you aren't alone. I agree with you that the cultural pressure to be "glowing," feeling so connected to baby, and overall happy is too much. I also feel guilty because I know there are women out there who are doing everything medically possible to carry a child, and by hating being pregnant it makes me feel like I am being ungrateful.
Try and keep your head up and remember that this is your experience....no one else's. Thinking of you.
@justsuzie this. This is exactly where I’m at right now. My scary platelet counts have become scary antibodies and scary appointments with doctors with scary sounding names for diseases that are so much bigger than pregnancy complications but chronic conditions that are dangerous to not only baby but me and my future. Even though we’re finally getting answers the anxiety has been so much more than I can handle. Some days lurking the board is helpful and some days it sends me into resentment for those with “normal” pregnancies and lives. Glad you’re in a place to reach out and Be a part of the community again. You sharing this has me hoping I will be soon too!
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17 EDD: 5/16/18 DD born 5/10/18 Postpartum Complications
Re: I'm back....
@cups4 I do work with a lot of older women....that could explain things. They are always commenting on when I am going to "pop" and asking to see my bump. I wear baggy clothes because I don't want the attention on my stomach which is just about starting to show. My uterus, my business, back off ladies!
Try and keep your head up and remember that this is your experience....no one else's. Thinking of you.
this. This is exactly where I’m at right now. My scary platelet counts have become scary antibodies and scary appointments with doctors with scary sounding names for diseases that are so much bigger than pregnancy complications but chronic conditions that are dangerous to not only baby but me and my future. Even though we’re finally getting answers the anxiety has been so much more than I can handle. Some days lurking the board is helpful and some days it sends me into resentment for those with “normal” pregnancies and lives. Glad you’re in a place to reach out and Be a part of the community again. You sharing this has me hoping I will be soon too!
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17
EDD: 5/16/18
DD born 5/10/18
Postpartum Complications
BFP: 10/1/19
EDD: 6/12/20