Facebook Group

bcliffee1 · November 2017

Hello,

I am Brittany and I am new to the group posted in intro yesterday

I searched through the group to see if this has been discussed already but has anyone set up a Facebook group for the April 2018 moms? It would be awesome to connect with this group through pregnancy and after. Happy Monday All!!

g_amoss · November 2017

There was talk about waiting for a while and then maybe doing one.

sjn00 · November 2017

Its rare for a facebook group to happen before the babies are due. So probably sometime after April there will be one, unless we all decide now or before then is good. There is still some random traffic though at this point, so thats doubtful. The ones who will truly stick around usually stay after the babies are here.

catem07 · November 2017

Lurking from A17. We started ours in the middle of January. We had a relatively small board and have an amazing facebook group of 56 women, moms to 58 babies. Technically, we accepted new members who had been active bumpers through the end of May, but I think everyone had joined by March.

ngolimento · November 2017

FB groups generally dont tend to form until later, to keep info safe from rando creepers, and just have regulars who have started to trust each other.

In my last group, mods would actually nominate applicants and let everyone in the group discuss if they were comfortable adding that person. Very few people got rejected, but some randos did.

mcb2016 · November 2017

I think it's too early for a fb group. This forum is already slow. I know on my last board once fb started the activity on the bump dropped even More.

psuxray07 · November 2017

I like facebook so much better. It's way easier to me than TB. However, I do agree it's seems too soon. No one knows each other well enough yet and it would feel weird...seems like there's a very small amount of regulars compared to the "big picture," like the intro thread, haha.

sjn00 · November 2017

psuxray07 said:

I like facebook so much better. It's way easier to me than TB. However, I do agree it's seems too soon. No one knows each other well enough yet and it would feel weird...seems like there's a very small amount of regulars compared to the "big picture," like the intro thread, haha.

Lol, I agree. Im ready for the facebook jump because it is so much easier to respond to everyone individually and keep track of whats going on, but it is too soon.

irenejean · November 2017

I also like facebook better. I think in my September group we moved before the babies were born, and I hope we do the same here. Things can get a little crazy once we all start delivering and some people might miss posts related to moving over. I agree that some vetting process should be done to weed out total strangers.

jenotontx · November 2017

I'm fine with making the move to FB whenever it seems like the majority is ready... however I do agree that once we make the switch no one will probably contribute much over here anymore so it may be best to hold off a little while in case a new person decides they want to become a contributing member. I would say February is a reasonable time?

kmalls · November 2017

JJMNO1616 said:

I'm fine with making the move to FB whenever it seems like the majority is ready... however I do agree that once we make the switch no one will probably contribute much over here anymore so it may be best to hold off a little while in case a new person decides they want to become a contributing member. I would say February is a reasonable time?

Totally agree.

frenchiekinplusone · November 2017

@JJMNO1616 I agree February or even early March sounds like the best timing.

dirtyboots · November 2017

My Aug16 group moved in like January. Haha we were an early group I guess, but we have a great group of just under 100. Our moderators were/are good about keeping up on who is being active and getting rid of the lurkers. I look forward to the jump to fb, but want everyone to feel comfortable and ready too.

kmalls · November 2017

I think March might be a little late — inevitably some of us will deliver in March, and I wanna see allllll the pictures

Not saying this is the only way to do it, but my F15 group migrated to FB two months before our due dates and two regs spearheaded the whole thing. They made a list of 55 people, invited them to FB, then we voted on additional members as a group if we felt anyone was left out. I think we only ended up adding one or two people. Somehow we ended up with zero true weirdos and the group is still thriving today.

ekendall09 · November 2017

I echo @Kmalls and would greatly prefer that regulars spearhead and pull in the other regulars.

mikkimikey · November 2017

I am all for FB when the majority agrees. I am still very close with my PGAL group from when I was pregnant with Logan! And he’s eight!

Its easier to keep up with I think!

kmalls · November 2017

ekendall09 said:

I echo @Kmalls and would greatly prefer that regulars spearhead and pull in the other regulars.

Honestly, doing it that way seemed to cut way down on any drama (the original invite list wasn’t up for debate) and by not issuing an open invitation to everyone, it also ensured no crazy randos had access to our FB pages.

** though as a reminder, you can be a part of a closed FB group without friending anyone in said group, if that’s what you feel more comfortable with.

psuxray07 · November 2017

I'm good with however and whenever it's done! I'm a follower, haha. I feel like you get to know people more on fb.

mcb2016 · November 2017

I agree that march may be too late too. I feel like I got to know people better once we moved to fb. How regular to regulars need to be to be included?

sjn00 · November 2017

Im good with Feb if thats what everyone decides. Something to look forward to!!

ngolimento · November 2017

@kmalls, do you know if members of a closed group can view your profile if you don't friend them? My profile is locked down pretty tightly.

kmalls · November 2017

@ngolimento they can only see what you make completely public. If anything is locked down, it would be locked to members of the group you’re not friends with, as well.

jenotontx · November 2017

mcb2016 said:

I agree that march may be too late too. I feel like I got to know people better once we moved to fb. How regular to regulars need to be to be included?

Well, I think there are quite a few of us here who participate pretty much daily. I don't think someone needs to contribute that much but we should be able to recognize your name and something about you. With that said, I could see a few AW posters getting left out because even though they post they don't really "participate" if that makes sense? I like the method @kmalls mentioned about having a few regulars make up an initial list and then take it to a vote to add any additional members.

kmalls · November 2017

mcb2016 said:

I agree that march may be too late too. I feel like I got to know people better once we moved to fb. How regular to regulars need to be to be included?

@mcb2016 I don’t think there’s a formula to it, but in general I think your screen name would need to be recognizable to pretty much everyone. Also, you (collective you, not you specifically) should probably not have a history of being a total dick. Ha.

ngolimento · November 2017

In my experience, if people recognize you, and you didn't spend the majority of your time here telling us all we are awful horrible people, you are generally golden.

I liked the method that involves mods setting up a thread in FB to get a vote on applicants. That way everyone in the group gets a chance to out in their feelings.

Mattel · November 2017

I think Feb is perfect. Even if you aren’t friends with someone on FB, you can still get pretty basic info about them from their profile. I’d rather wait to see a more regular group of people migrate when I feel like we have had a few more months to get to know each other a little better in this relatively anonymous space.

Mattel · November 2017

I will add, a FB group for moms can be really great.

I’m still a member of our TB BMB Facebook spinoff from when my daughter was born, almost 6 years ago. I have some really close friends from it. We have had meet ups and gift exchanges and it’s a safe space to get advice and vent about things that are relative to all of us.

bchalm · November 2017

I haven't been able to add myself to the spreadsheet, so when yall make the move don't forget me. Hopefully I don't ruffle too many feathers before then

ladythrice · November 2017

ngolimento said:

In my experience, if people recognize you, and you didn't spend the majority of your time here telling us all we are awful horrible people, you are generally golden.

I liked the method that involves mods setting up a thread in FB to get a vote on applicants. That way everyone in the group gets a chance to out in their feelings.

This is how my D14 group migrated to FB. At the height I think we were about 80 (on FB... our TB presence was HUGE and a lot of regulars didn't move to FB with us. There was more stranger-danger about FB groups at that time) but we've dwindled down to about 50. Pretty much anyone with a recognizable SN was admitted. So lurkers... pay attention. And start participating if you want to join the FB group...

I want to add that when the FB group idea was initially brought up in D14, as a FTM new to the hold online friends world, I was apprehensive about leaving the anonymity of TB and nervous about opening my FB life to internet friends. However, as @ngolimento mentioned, if the group is 'closed' not 'private' (at least initially) anyone can request to join and not actually 'friend' anyone else, thus preserving their FB privacy. As we get to know one another better on FB and feel more comfortable, those interested can 'friend' one another. As I mentioned, I'm still active with my D14 ladies... I talk to them daily and have met several in person... and have routine date nights and play dates with others. I look forward to generating the same relationships with this group!

As far as 'when'... it's a good question. I like @kmalls suggestion of February. Gives lurkers/new people on the board time to jump in and meet everyone but gets us a group up and running before the majority of us deliver.

I for one will probably move 100% to FB when we migrate. I tried bridging both my D14 groups after DS was born and it was difficult. I ended up using TB only for 'questions' and such and reserving my socializing for the FB group.

mcb2016 · November 2017

I agree that I love my fb bump group. We did have some growing pains at the beginning but it's really wonderful group now. I think it's easier to get to know people on fb. At least for me I seem to have issues with the forums here.

I'm still involved with a group of parents who all adopted children around 2004. It's crazy to have seen our kids grow up together and still follow each others journeys though life so many years later.

okayrunner · November 2017

Like a lot of you ladies, I’ll be ready to move to FB when the time is right. I think February is a good plan. My M14 group has about 30 ladies. I’ve met several of them, and even spent the night on one’s while traveling alone with DS. It’s a lot easier to keep up and maintain relationships there. That said, we still need more time to get to know one another and it’s certainly possible there will be bumps in the road along the way. When the time comes, I think we can collectively decide the best route for getting it set up.

appleblossom8317 · November 2017

I'm pretty excited about the idea of a FB group (February sounds good) especially if it's closed. Sometimes I don't share things on here that I'd like to because I know anyone with a bump profile can view it and that kind of freaks me out!

tooraloorah · November 2017

Loving the talk of this, and looking forward to February. I can so much more easily recognize names/faces than usernames and avatars.

bcliffee1 · November 2017

Wow I love all the feedback on this. I agree with what everyone said I think having some initial people start it and go from there. TB is great now to get more information and get to know people but it can be a lot for me to keep up with everyday so I hope it doesn’t put me at the bottom of the list. Lol I do also like the idea of a February start date and having the group start privately so we can slowly add people to our personal facebooks. I am glad we started talking about this, soon enough our babies will be here

sjn00 · November 2017

I think overall, especially after the babies get here, having a quick easy place to go and chat during the middle of night feedings, questions, concerns, etc. Would be much easier to sort through there. I love my June 14 mom group, recently had to leave because of some drama, but it was great being apart of it for the 4 years I was and am still friends with a lot of the moms even not being in the group.

rach-j · November 2017

I agree Feb sounds like a good time. Facebook will be so much easier for those of us who are mostly on our phones and not computer. I know at least I have trouble with TB app sometimes.

keeksie84 · November 2017

FB group sounds great. I agree with other posters that FB is so much easier to navigate than The Bump... especially on mobile. I think I'd contribute more on a more user friendly platform. It's hard for me because I'm not able to post during the work day.

kaymaroo · November 2017

FB would definitely be my preference when the time is right. I'm still close with a lot of the moms from my Dec'11 group through FB and have met a bunch of them IRL. But I think this board needs at least a couple more months to gel before we make the jump. I feel like we're just starting to hit a stride as a group.

angiek1 · November 2017

I echo the Feb FB group start. I think long term FB just makes more sense for group participation.

ftm_ohio · November 2017

Having never done any of this before, I don't know a lot about it, but I have trouble with TB app and definitely feel more comfortable on FB. Looking forward to the move personally.