I LOVE the little elf style baby hats. I don't knit or crochet, so i asked mil if she would make me one for the baby and gave her a bunch of examples. She had since been pinning all sorts of crazy knitted and crocheted things like baby overalls, rainbow stocking caps, hats covered in buttons, etc. That i would never put baby in. And has not made a single hat. She has however apparently made a jacket and started a blanket. I'm super bummed and Now feel in going to offend het if I just buy the little hats I want. And will have to put baby in the crazy other things she is making instead. Pic to show the adorable elf hat!
I LOVE the little elf style baby hats. I don't knit or crochet, so i asked mil if she would make me one for the baby and gave her a bunch of examples. She had since been pinning all sorts of crazy knitted and crocheted things like baby overalls, rainbow stocking caps, hats covered in buttons, etc. That i would never put baby in. And has not made a single hat. She has however apparently made a jacket and started a blanket. I'm super bummed and Now feel in going to offend het if I just buy the little hats I want. And will have to put baby in the crazy other things she is making instead. Pic to show the adorable elf hat!
I never really drink so I don’t miss it either. I might have one here or there after the baby is born, but it’s not a must have right after he’s here.
My FFC- I wish I could tell people not to come in my house with perfumes/ Colognes on. I’d deathly allergic... and I always end up hiding with my inhaler. I’d also prefer they not have their clothes washed in regular detergent. But I’m guessing that’s a bit much...
my MIL is super sensitive to smells (they give her migraines) and my husband is mildly sensitive so we use a lot of scent free products, especially when we go over to visit. We were there the other day and our clothes were washed and dried scent free, scent free deodorant and I styled my hair with scent free hairspray. The only thing I had on that had some scent was a mild (Clinique sensitive skin) face lotion.
She went on the entire time we were there about how ‘stinky’ our products were etc. sigh. Makes it hard to put in the effort when you seemingly can’t get away from smells! I hope that your guests at least put in some effort!!!
my MIL is super sensitive to smells (they give her migraines) and my husband is mildly sensitive so we use a lot of scent free products, especially when we go over to visit. We were there the other day and our clothes were washed and dried scent free, scent free deodorant and I styled my hair with scent free hairspray. The only thing I had on that had some scent was a mild (Clinique sensitive skin) face lotion.
She went on the entire time we were there about how ‘stinky’ our products were etc. sigh. Makes it hard to put in the effort when you seemingly can’t get away from smells! I hope that your guests at least put in some effort!!!
But why put in the work, the extra time, extra money when she/ they/ people still complain? I hope she at least thanked you for your effort.
my MIL is super sensitive to smells (they give her migraines) and my husband is mildly sensitive so we use a lot of scent free products, especially when we go over to visit. We were there the other day and our clothes were washed and dried scent free, scent free deodorant and I styled my hair with scent free hairspray. The only thing I had on that had some scent was a mild (Clinique sensitive skin) face lotion.
She went on the entire time we were there about how ‘stinky’ our products were etc. sigh. Makes it hard to put in the effort when you seemingly can’t get away from smells! I hope that your guests at least put in some effort!!!
I agree if you’re trying she has no right to complain! I think that’s so incredibly considerate and kind of you. If I had a guest do that I would probably burst into tears over how loved I felt haha!
Basically I know that if we want guests I just have to suck it up and deal with it. I’d NEVER actually ask someone to do all that. I’m just extra sensitive to it right now because I can’t take all my regular meds while pregnant and being sick the time sucks. DH is awesome though and always vacuums the house and airs out the place after everyone leaves. So that’s nice at least.
I definitely am very upfront with people about my allergies to scented products. I try to be polite, but I'm very firm. I have asked people to leave my house who ignore my request not to wear anything smelly, and then they never do it again. When people invite me over to their house, if they have scented things like air fresheners I just thank them for inviting me over, recognize it's their house and they can make it smell however they want, but now I have to leave. People are usually really understanding about it and do their best to accommodate once they realize how severe my allergies are.
The only time it's ever become an issue is at work, at every job I've ever had. I used to try to deal with the person one-on-one first, but it NEVER works and they just keep wearing smelly crap. Then when I eventually have to go my boss, of course they know who complained about them and it makes things so awkward. So I've learned to just go straight to my boss with a doctor's note about my allergies and ask them to make a general announcement to everyone in the work space to be considerate of others and not wear perfume or strongly scented products to work. They have to follow up with individual offenders and enforce it since I have a medical condition.
You wouldn't shove nuts down someone's throat with a nut allergy. You shouldn't wear scented products around someone when you know they're allergic to them. Just common decency. I can't not breathe when I'm around you. Sorry, not sorry.
We were out of town this weekend so I'm late to the thread, but I hear ya @rainafire77. I can't fully relate to your situation, but after going through IVF and coming to terms with the fact that we may never have a baby I feel like I should love being pregnant. And while I'm super grateful to medical science that I am, I don't *love* being pregnant. I think I've had a relatively easy time of things so far, but it's just not fun to be uncomfortable and constantly expanding.
I have a co-worker who, despite being talked to numerous times, continues to wear perfume. Or should I say, bathe in perfume. You can smell her coming from a mile away. I know her manager has spoken to her (or at least, people have talked to her manager to talk to her), emails have gone out and yet she still does it.
Speaking of smells... We're both very sensitive to smell too and use fragrance free soap/detergents etc. We went to visit a potential in home day care who is very highly recommended by his coworkers. And while she seemed great, highly qualified, etc, her house smelled! Just very old and musty and it kinda got into our clothes even after a 30 min visit. I feel bad disqualifying for that, but it was so hard to breathe :-\
Speaking of smells... We're both very sensitive to smell too and use fragrance free soap/detergents etc. We went to visit a potential in home day care who is very highly recommended by his coworkers. And while she seemed great, highly qualified, etc, her house smelled! Just very old and musty and it kinda got into our clothes even after a 30 min visit. I feel bad disqualifying for that, but it was so hard to breathe :-\
We had to do this with my son. I'm very smell sensitive as well. It's not because of an allergy or anything but ditto to the fragrance free soap/detergents etc. My son was diagnosed with Eczema when he was a few months old and since that time we've pretty much used all scent free products. We sent him to a small neighborhood daycare that was within a dance studio and holy god did it smell terrible. Like feet and sweat etc. I was becoming sick when I'd pick him up because his clothes reeked of the smell. We started bathing him daily which did a number on his sensitive skin. So we had to find him a new daycare. It sucks when it doesn't work out but I promise you, you're better off!
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I LOVE the little elf style baby hats. I don't knit or crochet, so i asked mil if she would make me one for the baby and gave her a bunch of examples. She had since been pinning all sorts of crazy knitted and crocheted things like baby overalls, rainbow stocking caps, hats covered in buttons, etc. That i would never put baby in. And has not made a single hat. She has however apparently made a jacket and started a blanket. I'm super bummed and Now feel in going to offend het if I just buy the little hats I want. And will have to put baby in the crazy other things she is making instead. Pic to show the adorable elf hat!
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
My FFC- I wish I could tell people not to come in my house with perfumes/ Colognes on. I’d deathly allergic... and I always end up hiding with my inhaler. I’d also prefer they not have their clothes washed in regular detergent. But I’m guessing that’s a bit much...
my MIL is super sensitive to smells (they give her migraines) and my husband is mildly sensitive so we use a lot of scent free products, especially when we go over to visit. We were there the other day and our clothes were washed and dried scent free, scent free deodorant and I styled my hair with scent free hairspray. The only thing I had on that had some scent was a mild (Clinique sensitive skin) face lotion.
She went on the entire time we were there about how ‘stinky’ our products were etc. sigh. Makes it hard to put in the effort when you seemingly can’t get away from smells! I hope that your guests at least put in some effort!!!
I hope she at least thanked you for your effort.
Basically I know that if we want guests I just have to suck it up and deal with it. I’d NEVER actually ask someone to do all that. I’m just extra sensitive to it right now because I can’t take all my regular meds while pregnant and being sick the time sucks. DH is awesome though and always vacuums the house and airs out the place after everyone leaves. So that’s nice at least.
The only time it's ever become an issue is at work, at every job I've ever had. I used to try to deal with the person one-on-one first, but it NEVER works and they just keep wearing smelly crap. Then when I eventually have to go my boss, of course they know who complained about them and it makes things so awkward. So I've learned to just go straight to my boss with a doctor's note about my allergies and ask them to make a general announcement to everyone in the work space to be considerate of others and not wear perfume or strongly scented products to work. They have to follow up with individual offenders and enforce it since I have a medical condition.
You wouldn't shove nuts down someone's throat with a nut allergy. You shouldn't wear scented products around someone when you know they're allergic to them. Just common decency. I can't not breathe when I'm around you. Sorry, not sorry.
And +1 for missing wine