Can anyone help me find a name for this? I asked my OB last pregnancy, a physical therapist and now my midwife and I have no answer.
The underside of my belly feels like it needs to be carried or else it hurts so bad from the time I wake up till I go to sleep. Positions and rest don't help.
It's not a pressure, it's more like what's inside my belly is falling forward and is so heavy, and so so painful.
What is this called?? If I know what it's called, maybe I can find releif. I cried every single day towards the end bc of the excruciating pain.
@muggle621 that thought never even crossed my mind with my first. My cousins brought their kids along when they visited and it wasn't a big deal to me. I will say I am pretty laid back as far as germs go though. Also, with our babes being due towards the end of flu/cold season I don't think it's crazy of you to consider.
@muggle621, I'm opposite end of the spectrum and wouldn't feel comfortable with that. Obviously if someone's kid is sick, I would expect them to stay home. And the parents too actually because they're carrying germs. But I couldn't wait for my nephews to meet DS when he was born! I was actually sad that kids aren't allowed at the hospital. We planned a visit with them asap. And I was super excited to take DS to see his baby cousin when he was born this May. I will definitely allow kids over.
@barrelocarol I was literally going to ask the same thing! Mine isn’t constant like yours, I just occasionally have days where it feels like my little Moon is falling forward inside of me. I think it might just be position of the baby. They could be pushing their butt out and causing the front to feel heavy like it is
Our older daughter is in public school and my husband teaches at a different public school. For us, new baby will be exposed to all the things no matter how hard we try. Regardless, we will still make anyone - kid or adult - wash/sanitize hands and bare arms before holding her and ask them not to kiss her hands or face. Obviously anyone who is sick will be asked not to come.
Re: kids visiting a new baby, @muggle621, I am now of the mindset that the circle of people who need to see the baby in his earliest weeks will be super limited.
My 2.5-week old developed a slight fever with no other symptoms. Our hospital discharge papers said to call the doc with any temp over 100.4, so I did.
Babies under 8 weeks (or maybe it was six?) with a temp over 100.4 are sent straight to the ER. At the ER they are given a spinal tap to rule out meningitis. The results for meningitis take three days to come back, and you and the baby are admitted to he hospital in the meantime where they receive IV treatment for meningitis anyway
My baby, who never actually got sick, had a spinal tap at 2.5 weeks old and was admitted to the hospital for three days. The ultimate conclusion (confirmed by nasal swab) was that he caught a mild version of the virus my toddler had the week before. We tried to keep them apart, but germs are tricky.
Here's the thing. I will have two daycare toddlers at home when this baby comes. I can't control that. But if I can limit the amount of contact my new baby will have with people who don't live in our household. We will be plastic bubbling ourselves as much as we possibly can for those first few months.
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@barrelocarol You make a good point about mothers not knowing when their kid is about to get sick. I don't know anyone who would bring an obviously sick child around a newborn but I have observed through friends kids how quickly a child can go from perfectly fine to very ill in a few short hours. Also I hope someone knows the name of the pain you are having! I'm sorry you are experiencing that!
@scoogy19@justkeeptrying@kalawa@notthefather I am still considering just having a no face kissing rule and allowing kids but I'm having that first time mom panic!! I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I don't want my child to end up in the hospital either....ugh this is kind of stressful.
@bettyvonsomethingstein I am so sorry your baby had to go through that at such a young age! That must have been so scary!! I had no idea they just resorted to spinal taps. I don't blame you for cocooning!
I really think I'm just going to *try* to limit visits and not allow children the first 3-4 weeks. Hopefully none of my friends will hate me too much!
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@muggle621 Don't feel guilty. We've all been there. Everyone is different. It's your child, your rules. We all parent in our own ways. It doesn't make things wrong or right, just different. And if people can't understand, then that is their own problem.
@barrelocarol@ShawnnaO I don’t know what it’s called but the article I found on how to KT tape while pregnant had different ways to tape your belly depending on your discomfort. I posted in the randoms thread about the tape but it seems pretty magical today. Here’s the article:
@muggle621 with my first I did have some people come with kids, and all except one family asked if it was okay. I was actually annoyed that they didn't ask (and then they wouldn't leave... it was SO annoying!). I don't think it's an unreasonable request, but I would probably just try to minimize visitors overall. Aside from germs, it's more work than help for you unless they're actually going to do some household chores. I did make everyone wash their hands when they came in.
My son is in daycare and my husband takes public transportation daily. I think germs will be unavoidable for us.
We limited visitors period. Everyone wants to see a brand new baby, but not every needs to see a brand new baby. Obviously, we can’t live in bubbles but we can limit visitors and turn away sick people.
ok so I know our hearts are working in hyper drive right now. but since I came down with a bad cold last week (mostly feeling better.... still have a bad cough though) my resting heart rate has skyrocketed. like I went from low 70s to a consistent 95 and if I even walk up the stairs it shoots up to over 100. my blood pressure is fine ... but the beats per minute are out of control. I can also never catch my breath. I always feel winded I have an OB appointment in a week and I'm going to bring it up then - but in the meantime ... somebody help me
@ShawnnaO Nooo! No to you and anyone else having this!
@mdfarmchick I've been wondering about KT tape and might go for it!
@becausescience Ok! Thank you! I will take anything right now. Dr. Google might actually be the doc for me in this situation!
Editing: After googling, it doesn't sound like SPD and I asked last time about DR and was told this wasn't it (I'll ask again). I need help. I really want to figure out anything I can do at all to relieve this.
@scoogy19@justkeeptrying@kalawa@notthefather I am still considering just having a no face kissing rule and allowing kids but I'm having that first time mom panic!! I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I don't want my child to end up in the hospital either....ugh this is kind of stressful.
Ugh, my friend. I know this stress. This was a major learning experience for me. I pride myself on setting and maintaining effective boundaries. But, I didn't realize how my other insecurities would stop me from fighting for my sweet baby.
Eventually, I learned to say things (even to my son's loving grandparents) that might seem rude "You can touch my baby after you wash your hands."
You've got this, Mama. You will so figure this out and feel fiercely proud of yourself like never before.
@bb3vj3n Call your after hours OB line to see if they want you to go in.
ETA: So sorry you're not feeling good. If this is cold related there isn't much you can take. Is your inhaler helping with the breathing? I know Albuterol has some side effects that kind of sound similar to what you have going on. Hope you can get plenty of rest, fluids, and vitamin C to help battle the cold.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@scoogy19@justkeeptrying@kalawa@notthefather I am still considering just having a no face kissing rule and allowing kids but I'm having that first time mom panic!! I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I don't want my child to end up in the hospital either....ugh this is kind of stressful.
Eventually, I learned to say things (even to my son's loving grandparents) that might seem rude "You can touch my baby after you wash your hands."
(Cropped the quote a little)
But this. Don't stress about being rude or hurting anyone's feelings. I think most people recognize and understand that mom's go full on Mama Bear with a newborn.
I kept bottles of foaming hand sanitizer strategically placed in my living room so that if I had visitors and they asked about holding DS, I could always reach a bottle and toss it to them before I handed him over.
Hope everyone is doing well/feeling better today. I've had a hard time keeping up this week, but I am thinking of you all.
My question is about baby being breach. I had my 20 week anatomy scan yesterday and everything looked good. Yay! But the tech did say, "Well it's breach, but that doesn't really mean anything right now." I get that. This little one is moving around a lot. (Just felt some big bumps while typing this!) But when is it time to worry? and how do they know the position unless you do an ultrasound all the time towards the end?
@fatstagnation my little one is also heads up right now. I don't think it's something you need to worry about for months still. I've heard of women who were booked for c sections due to breach babies whose babies flipped literally last minute
I'm going to stress the same rule that I did with DD (she was born in December, DS was born in June so it wasn't quite as big of a deal)-family members who are going to be around as caregivers and someone that she sees frequently (a couple of times a week) like my parents, in laws, sister, need to have the TDaP (which my parents and sister got with DS and it apparently is good for 5 years so they don't need to get it again) and everyone else, if they're sick I'm going to ask them to kindly not come until they're better. We don't have any other little kids in our family (both my sister and BIL are unmarried) so that's not an issue really, it's more adults. DD is in kindergarten and DH works with the public so I'm not going to be able to keep all germs away but thankfully everyone that would visit is pretty health conscious and will wash their hands before holding her.
@fatstagnation with my first, doc said baby can usually flip on it's own until 36 or 38 weeks. They can tell position later on just by feeling your stomach.
@fatstagnation with my first, doc said baby can usually flip on it's own until 36 or 38 weeks. They can tell position later on just by feeling your stomach.
@fatstagnation I've read that most babies are in their birthing position by 34 weeks, but it really depends on how much room there is in the uterus. I definitely wouldn't worry about it this early, but I know a couple people who swore by www.spinningbabies.com. It gives positions to do that help get a baby settled head down, but I'd check with your OB or MW (whichever you use) before doing anything like that. Plus, at 20 something weeks they have plenty of time and space to move.
ETA: I never tried anything from Spinning Babies, so I'm not speaking from personal experience there. It could be completely bogus.
@fatstagnation, my doula swears by spinning babies (as @day38 referenced). My DS was in a terrible position and got stuck during delivery. My doula told me at 15 weeks to start following spinning babies to make sure we don't have the same experience this time. I better get on this...
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Now, having a 2 year old who is a walking patient zero, I really really stand by the no kids rule.
Even the most considerate mom wouldn't know her kid is about to get sick or even how to stop a sweet child from touching a baby. Kids love babies...
The underside of my belly feels like it needs to be carried or else it hurts so bad from the time I wake up till I go to sleep. Positions and rest don't help.
It's not a pressure, it's more like what's inside my belly is falling forward and is so heavy, and so so painful.
What is this called?? If I know what it's called, maybe I can find releif. I cried every single day towards the end bc of the excruciating pain.
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My 2.5-week old developed a slight fever with no other symptoms. Our hospital discharge papers said to call the doc with any temp over 100.4, so I did.
Babies under 8 weeks (or maybe it was six?) with a temp over 100.4 are sent straight to the ER. At the ER they are given a spinal tap to rule out meningitis. The results for meningitis take three days to come back, and you and the baby are admitted to he hospital in the meantime where they receive IV treatment for meningitis anyway
My baby, who never actually got sick, had a spinal tap at 2.5 weeks old and was admitted to the hospital for three days. The ultimate conclusion (confirmed by nasal swab) was that he caught a mild version of the virus my toddler had the week before. We tried to keep them apart, but germs are tricky.
Here's the thing. I will have two daycare toddlers at home when this baby comes. I can't control that. But if I can limit the amount of contact my new baby will have with people who don't live in our household. We will be plastic bubbling ourselves as much as we possibly can for those first few months.
Also I hope someone knows the name of the pain you are having! I'm sorry you are experiencing that!
@scoogy19 @justkeeptrying @kalawa @notthefather I am still considering just having a no face kissing rule and allowing kids but I'm having that first time mom panic!! I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I don't want my child to end up in the hospital either....ugh this is kind of stressful.
@bettyvonsomethingstein I am so sorry your baby had to go through that at such a young age! That must have been so scary!! I had no idea they just resorted to spinal taps. I don't blame you for cocooning!
I really think I'm just going to *try* to limit visits and not allow children the first 3-4 weeks. Hopefully none of my friends will hate me too much!
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
https://diaryofafitmommy.com/kinesio-taping-during-pregnancy-techniques-for-the-pregnant-belly/
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
My son is in daycare and my husband takes public transportation daily. I think germs will be unavoidable for us.
Pregnant with #2:
I have an OB appointment in a week and I'm going to bring it up then - but in the meantime ... somebody help me
@mdfarmchick I've been wondering about KT tape and might go for it!
@becausescience Ok! Thank you! I will take anything right now. Dr. Google might actually be the doc for me in this situation!
Editing: After googling, it doesn't sound like SPD and I asked last time about DR and was told this wasn't it (I'll ask again). I need help. I really want to figure out anything I can do at all to relieve this.
Ugh, my friend. I know this stress. This was a major learning experience for me. I pride myself on setting and maintaining effective boundaries. But, I didn't realize how my other insecurities would stop me from fighting for my sweet baby.
Eventually, I learned to say things (even to my son's loving grandparents) that might seem rude "You can touch my baby after you wash your hands."
You've got this, Mama. You will so figure this out and feel fiercely proud of yourself like never before.
ETA: So sorry you're not feeling good. If this is cold related there isn't much you can take. Is your inhaler helping with the breathing? I know Albuterol has some side effects that kind of sound similar to what you have going on. Hope you can get plenty of rest, fluids, and vitamin C to help battle the cold.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
But this. Don't stress about being rude or hurting anyone's feelings. I think most people recognize and understand that mom's go full on Mama Bear with a newborn.
I kept bottles of foaming hand sanitizer strategically placed in my living room so that if I had visitors and they asked about holding DS, I could always reach a bottle and toss it to them before I handed him over.
My question is about baby being breach. I had my 20 week anatomy scan yesterday and everything looked good. Yay! But the tech did say, "Well it's breach, but that doesn't really mean anything right now." I get that. This little one is moving around a lot. (Just felt some big bumps while typing this!) But when is it time to worry? and how do they know the position unless you do an ultrasound all the time towards the end?
ETA: I never tried anything from Spinning Babies, so I'm not speaking from personal experience there. It could be completely bogus.
Pregnant with #2:
I'm not worried just curious what the timeline for this is. My yoga teacher also talked about spinning babies. I'll check it out.