We've never had a lot of luck agreeing on a baby name. I told my 12 yr old he can pick a middle name. He has many ideas. He seems stuck on 80s classic girl names.
Speaking of how hard it is to make mom friends, my husband has a college friend who always wants to hang out with me when she is in town (has a toddler the same age as my kid), but is never respectful of my time. For example, she has wanted to hang out at this kid place since Thurs, and has been asking me to join them there. I kept asking when, and getting no response. Moron just texted me 15 minutes ago that she was on her way there. Yeah..... I didn't hold up our lives until you commanded our presence. We are doing other stuff.
It feels like a common theme to me to. Everyone wants to make last minute plans. My life doesn't work that way, dude. Rushing around with zero plan in advance is stressful. I would understand if they had more than one kid, but this chick only has a 2.5 year old. She still has some control of her schedule.
Omg hemorrhoids. Please shoot me now. I got them last pregnancy and no joke, they were debilitating. This time around they’re not as bad but holy hell, they are still the worst. Sometimes I really, really hate pregnancy
@sparklingdiamond That is wonderful news! @kmalls I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.. Hoping they go away soon! Ugh.
I know this has probably been addressed at some point, but is there a polite way to respond to people when they comment about your size? I have gotten it both ways where people will say, "Oh you are not even showing" or "Oh wow, you are getting a bump". Now I completely realize why pregnant women dislike others commenting on their size.
I feel comfortable with where my body is, but I start to feel like something is wrong with how I'm growing based off of what people say. I saw some friends this weekend and they were like, "Oh you're so petite still. You should enjoy it for as long as you can because you'll be huge by the end". What in the world? I had a long conversation with my husband after that experience about how if he ever sees a pregnant woman just tell her she looks great and move on. I would love any advice on how to respond because I do not want to be rude, but I don't think it's anyone's place to comment on someone's size.. especially when pregnant.
Edit: Sorry if this should have gone in the weekly questions thread since I am asking for advice, but I also just wanted to gripe about rude people.
Had anyone seen the show 90 day fiancé? I started binge watching it and it’s seriously a train wreck. All of the relationships are horrible and cringy but I can’t stop watching.
@dan0081 People are stupid. You are growing at the rate you should be so try not to let people’s comments make you feel insecure. As someone with the opposite problem (I’m already huge lol) people comment on my bump every day so I know how annoying it can be to have people commenting on your size. Unfortunately I don’t have any great advice though because I just normally laugh it off. That’s probably not the best way of handling it but I think a lot of time people are just trying to come up with something to talk about involving the pregnancy. Kind of like being asked how you feel 100 times a day.
@dan0081 honestly I think just saying "I'd prefer if we discussed a different topic" is as nice as you can be to people like that. They have the social subtlety of a bull in a China shop, so you have to play it straight.
I had to do that with a co-worker last time I was pregnant, because she started asking me how dilated I was. I was freakin horrified why this woman would inquire about my genitals. So I just calmly said "I don't want to discuss that " and she left me alone. She probably thought I was a bitch, but whatever, I don't owe her nosy ass updates on my junk.
@JJMNO1616 You're absolutely right that I shouldn't let people's comments make me feel insecure.. It just seems odd that when you get pregnant people feel like there's free rein to make comments about how you look. You're also right that people probably just want something to say, but I guess I'd prefer they say "You look great" rather than comment on how large or small my bump is.
@dan0081 when I was pregnant with my first people made comments like that to me - you are so small, where's your bump, are you sure you're even pregnant, etc. I hated it because I felt like the implication was that there was something wrong with my baby. I feel quite sure that no one intends to imply it - like others have said, I think people just try to make conversation and for some reason feel they have carte blanche to comment on your size when pregnant. However, if it makes you feel that way and especially if someone makes the same kind of comment multiple times, I would respond with something like "well I went to the doctor last week and the baby is growing really well - everything looks great!" to at least make them aware of the possible implications of their words.
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I'll admit I watched a bit of 90 day fiancé at one point in my life. It was the season with Nicole and the fiancé from morrocco. Haven't watched it since.
@JJMNO1616 90 Day Fiancé is my guilty pleasure! I haven’t been watching this current season, but DH and I watched every season prior. It’s sooooo bad it’s good
@ngolimento, dude. no. You did exactly as I would have. You literally described the #1 cause of anxiety in my life. I'm a planner. I plan EVERYTHING. I recognize that sometimes the plan is what causes my anxiety (I feel the need to stick to it, and can deviate if I/we decide to, but if someone else affects my plan...)... but not having one is even worse for me. My husband is one that can fly by the seat of his pants or just go along with others' plans... I need to be actively involved. My husband is the youngest child in his family and I'm the eldest... wonder if there's a correlation??
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@ladythrice unfortunately I think it has to do more with upbringing and personality than birth order. I'm the youngest in my family .
My husband is the same way as yours, and normally I am ok with it because I like to control most planning anyway. However, it does occasionally really suck. This year on our anniversary, I was too tired and sick from first tri to plan anything. I said so to him several times, and worried out loud that our anniversary would be lame because of it. Did he do anything? Nope. Did he plan anything? Nope. He basically waited until the same day, and was like "uh, should we go out to eat?" at like 4pm. It was awful, and I was pissed that he couldn't be bothered to do a damn thing to make sure our anniversary was fun. It was a boring stupid waste of a day where we just asked each other what we wanted to do. So aggravating.
Ugh, @ngolimento, that is the worst! With my first, I walked into a staff meeting near the end and a male coworker asked me in regards to my dilation, "what are you? About a four now?" I was so grossed out. I wanted to reply, "what are you? Four inches?" Instead, I just said we aren't doing checks so nobody would bring it up again.
Ugh, @ngolimento, that is the worst! With my first, I walked into a staff meeting near the end and a male coworker asked me in regards to my dilation, "what are you? About a four now?" I was so grossed out. I wanted to reply, "what are you? Four inches?" Instead, I just said we aren't doing checks so nobody would bring it up again.
@okayrunner no I'm actually a 10. As a matter of fact the baby will probably just fall out at any minute. Because that's definitely the way this all works.
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@okayrunner just all kinds of nope. AND he said it in a room full of other people? JFC. I would’ve been like “DID YOU REALLY JUST ASK ME ABOUT THE CURRENT STATE OF MY CERVIX? Should we discuss your prostate or erectile dysfunction afterwards?” Except I would have actually frozen up completely in the moment and nervously laughed it off/said something stupid to change the subject/deflect and agonized about what I should have said for hours afterwards. Fucking PEOPLE I swear
@ngolimento Thanks for your insight on this. Oh my goodness.. I cannot believe your coworker asked that. I think your response was perfect.. No one should ever ask about that. Ugh! @lindsye That's great advice.. I will definitely try that next time someone says anything!
@frenchiekinplusone, I definitely was really awkward and self conscious. I replayed it over and over again wishing I had been witty on the spot. This go round, I'm just going to assert it's nobody's business if they bring it up. So uncomfortable!
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@scuba_chic, I hope things are better. Sometimes a “come to Jesus” talk is in order where you lay everything out.
nobody deserves to be treated badly!
It feels like a common theme to me to. Everyone wants to make last minute plans. My life doesn't work that way, dude. Rushing around with zero plan in advance is stressful. I would understand if they had more than one kid, but this chick only has a 2.5 year old. She still has some control of her schedule.
@kmalls I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.. Hoping they go away soon! Ugh.
I know this has probably been addressed at some point, but is there a polite way to respond to people when they comment about your size? I have gotten it both ways where people will say, "Oh you are not even showing" or "Oh wow, you are getting a bump". Now I completely realize why pregnant women dislike others commenting on their size.
I feel comfortable with where my body is, but I start to feel like something is wrong with how I'm growing based off of what people say. I saw some friends this weekend and they were like, "Oh you're so petite still. You should enjoy it for as long as you can because you'll be huge by the end". What in the world?
Edit: Sorry if this should have gone in the weekly questions thread since I am asking for advice, but I also just wanted to gripe about rude people.
@dan0081 People are stupid. You are growing at the rate you should be so try not to let people’s comments make you feel insecure. As someone with the opposite problem (I’m already huge lol) people comment on my bump every day so I know how annoying it can be to have people commenting on your size. Unfortunately I don’t have any great advice though because I just normally laugh it off. That’s probably not the best way of handling it but I think a lot of time people are just trying to come up with something to talk about involving the pregnancy. Kind of like being asked how you feel 100 times a day.
I had to do that with a co-worker last time I was pregnant, because she started asking me how dilated I was. I was freakin horrified why this woman would inquire about my genitals. So I just calmly said "I don't want to discuss that " and she left me alone. She probably thought I was a bitch, but whatever, I don't owe her nosy ass updates on my junk.
Also.. 90 Day Fiance sounds amazing!
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
My husband is the same way as yours, and normally I am ok with it because I like to control most planning anyway. However, it does occasionally really suck. This year on our anniversary, I was too tired and sick from first tri to plan anything. I said so to him several times, and worried out loud that our anniversary would be lame because of it. Did he do anything? Nope. Did he plan anything? Nope. He basically waited until the same day, and was like "uh, should we go out to eat?" at like 4pm. It was awful, and I was pissed that he couldn't be bothered to do a damn thing to make sure our anniversary was fun. It was a boring stupid waste of a day where we just asked each other what we wanted to do. So aggravating.
I was so grossed out. I wanted to reply, "what are you? Four inches?" Instead, I just said we aren't doing checks so nobody would bring it up again.
Just no.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
@lindsye That's great advice.. I will definitely try that next time someone says anything!