H and I have these friends who we judge so damn hard. They let their kids stay up until all hours of the night. Seriously H will be talking to one of them when it's 12 or 1am and H will hear their 3 year old playing around and asking for snacks. On a school night. This isn't just a one off thing - it's constantly. Their kids are super small for their ages (their 3 year old seriously looks like a very skinny 1 year old) and both seem to have serious behavior issues. I 100% attribute it to their lack of sleep and lack of any sort of schedule. I don't even know if they have specific meal times.
My husband keeps suggesting family names for this LO. I love him dearly. But our son is already named after him. Puh-lease!!! You don't get all the children having your family's names!! Especially when you suggest just plain old BAD names.
This is my husband! Our son literally has his name, just reversed the first and last. Now he’s trying to squeeze in his father’s middle name, which is Bruce.
Also FFFC. I don't understand naming sons after dads. I just don't get it. I don't get angry about it or find it offensive, it's just strange to me. I have had 3 brothers take my classes and ALL of them were named after their dad. Seriously. They all had the same exact name. So they all went by random other names so people could differentiate among them. To me it just seems like a huge ego trip.
@antoto I’m on board with you for that sleep thing. One of my friends is always posting pictures of her kids watching movies at like 11 commenting on how exhausted they are and her youngest son (4) looks so tired he looks sick. All he does is cry, whine and complain and she has no clue why. THE CHILD NEEDS SLEEP.
Also FFFC. I don't understand naming sons after dads. I just don't get it. I don't get angry about it or find it offensive, it's just strange to me. I have had 3 brothers take my classes and ALL of them were named after their dad. Seriously. They all had the same exact name. So they all went by random other names so people could differentiate among them. To me it just seems like a huge ego trip.
And it's such a logistical PITA. Which Bob Burnham? Oh, whoops! We pulled the wrong medical file and you're the Bob Burnham who is allergic to X? Get the epi pen! Or at the bank, or at the airport, or, or, or. There was also a pro hockey player who was named after his dad. His dad proceeded to exploit the matchy names and took out a bunch of loans and withdrawals under the hockey player's info and stole tons of money from him.
FFFC: There's only a handful of chairs in proportion to the number of people at this convention to sit in for lunch. For the last three days, I've attempted to get someone to recognize that I'm pregnant (and in a dress) and it would be nice to let me sit in a chair rather than on the floor. I've done the whole hold my stomach thing. Not a single person. They all just watch while I try to get down to the floor and then stare while I'm getting up. And it's more just flat the standing all day than pregnancy that's wearing me out but booo. I can't drink people. Take pity on me!
I've only gained weight while traveling this pregnancy. Nothing sounds very good so when I'm on my own tab, I'm kinda cheap since I don't want to pay and then find out I don't like it. When I'm on the company tab, I go ahead and order a decent amount of food figuring if I eat it, I eat it and if not, oh well.
I hate not being able to know for certain if it's fair to be perturbed by certain things or if it's pregnancy. And feeling like people write it off as pregnancy when it's fair to be pissed.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@antoto I’m with you. I don’t want to name my son after my husband, I want him to have his own identity and I hate the confusion it causes but H has had his heart set on it since he was a kid. I’ve dodged a bulletin with girls until now.
I really don’t like it though. I also think it’s crap that he already has his last name so where am I? Oh well. At least he will have his own middle name.
Another FFFC I wish I never changed my name after marriage. Even 12 years in it still doesn’t fit. I will never be a LastName I will always be a MaidenName. I hope when my girls get married it’s more common to keep your name because I really regret giving mine up.
@justkeeptrying I'm sorry you're struggling. I have days like that, and it's ridiculously hard. Do you ever get a break at all?
I do, when I make a point of it. DS hasn't been sleeping well for a few months and has been sick the last week so his sleep has been crap. I think that's contributed to me just feeling burnt out. Definitely telling DH tonight that I need some me time and a sleep in tomorrow. Hoping that helps.
I hate not being able to know for certain if it's fair to be perturbed by certain things or if it's pregnancy. And feeling like people write it off as pregnancy when it's fair to be pissed.
It’s always fair to be upset about something. Always. Yeah it might be something small, maybe you wouldn’t normally be upset by it, and yes we might be a little extra hormonal right now, but your feelings are still valid, regardless.
One of my son is named after his father. He has a different middle name (named after my father) and that is what he goes by. I haven't encountered any issues differentiating them with insurance and stuff. I think he will love being named after two strong men in our family. Tradition and honor dictated our name choice.
@antoto This summer (maybe even before we knew I was pregnant) someone was asking me in front of my FIL if we'd have a 4th (my husband is a 3rd) and I said "NO!" so quickly right as FIL was saying "Ohhh good idea" and he gave me this hurt look. Sorry dude but there are too many of you already.
@antoto@ksmwalters “Michael” runs as a middle name on both sides of our family. My husband and I both decided early, before we ever knew we would be the parents of girls and not boys, that we would NOT be continuing the tradition. On my part because I’m not crazy about the name; on his part because he’s not crazy about his family when we announced that baby #2 is a girl, NOT A SINGLE person on his side said anything acknowledging it. Honestly I kind of think it’s because they all wanted another Michael and are upset. Cue the “so when are you gonna give us a boy?” comments after this baby is born.
@DDRRT1982 I am working on minimalizing our stuff but it’s probably a project that would have been finished faster without a baby/toddler/second pregnancy.
@justkeeptrying it’s a full moon soon. I did that this morning and then threw DS in the car and went to Target. $80 later plus lunch and Starbucks and Mommy is sane again. Small price to pay?
I hate conversations regarding my pregnancy with certain people. Evidently, they knew more than trained medical professionals when it came to my son’s birth and they know even more with this one. Certain people can’t wrap their minds around growth ultrasounds, the same people who said getting induced and c sections were for convenience. TW It’s not like my son STOPPED growing in utero and would have died if he stayed in longer. It’s not like he almost died during birth and a cs saved his life. Oh wait... these things did happen! End TW. I’m just thankful he’s alive and healthy, and that I am able to have this pregnancy followed so closely. Why do you have to speak? Get out of my face. I wish it was acceptable to carry around a flyswatter and swat people when they start speaking.
@Gingermom15 yesssss slapping people in the face with a fly swatter would be SO satisfying! That's the greatest idea I've ever heard. I hate how people become experts on everything (and feel the need to tell you) as soon as they learn you're pregnant.
@Gingermom15 yesssss slapping people in the face with a fly swatter would be SO satisfying! That's the greatest idea I've ever heard. I hate how people become experts on everything (and feel the need to tell you) as soon as they learn you're pregnant.
Or a spray bottle and just shoot a jet stream on them when they open their mouths. Like we should listen to them over educated, licensed and trained physicians? Um, nope.
Re: FFFC 11/3
FFFC: There's only a handful of chairs in proportion to the number of people at this convention to sit in for lunch. For the last three days, I've attempted to get someone to recognize that I'm pregnant (and in a dress) and it would be nice to let me sit in a chair rather than on the floor. I've done the whole hold my stomach thing. Not a single person. They all just watch while I try to get down to the floor and then stare while I'm getting up. And it's more just flat the standing all day than pregnancy that's wearing me out but booo. I can't drink people. Take pity on me!
I've only gained weight while traveling this pregnancy. Nothing sounds very good so when I'm on my own tab, I'm kinda cheap since I don't want to pay and then find out I don't like it. When I'm on the company tab, I go ahead and order a decent amount of food figuring if I eat it, I eat it and if not, oh well.
I hate not being able to know for certain if it's fair to be perturbed by certain things or if it's pregnancy. And feeling like people write it off as pregnancy when it's fair to be pissed.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
I really don’t like it though. I also think it’s crap that he already has his last name so where am I? Oh well. At least he will have his own middle name.
Another FFFC I wish I never changed my name after marriage. Even 12 years in it still doesn’t fit. I will never be a LastName I will always be a MaidenName. I hope when my girls get married it’s more common to keep your name because I really regret giving mine up.
Answer: “never.”
@justkeeptrying it’s a full moon soon. I did that this morning and then threw DS in the car and went to Target. $80 later plus lunch and Starbucks and Mommy is sane again. Small price to pay?
I wish it was acceptable to carry around a flyswatter and swat people when they start speaking.
I'm definitely milking my evening sickness (and whatever these really sharp pains are) so my husband will bring me food and play with DD.