FFFC 11/3

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Flame Free* Friday Confessions


*not guaranteed to be flame free

justkeeptrying

My husband keeps suggesting family names for this LO. I love him dearly. But our son is already named after him. Puh-lease!!! You don't get all the children having your family's names!! Especially when you suggest just plain old BAD names. 

amylonghorn

I have never lurked on a BMB before bc honestly I feel like I struggle to keep up on this board...but I was so intrigued by comments made about another birth month club's thread that my curiosity got the best of me and I HAD to go check it out. Wow. Just wow. 

amylonghorn

Ok I have another FFFC: I totally half assed it at Zumba last night, then had Taco Bell for dinner. 

stlbuckeye132

@amylonghorn half assed is better than nothing! And I'm getting taco bell for lunch today... can't wait ha

kalawa

I accidentally left my cat outside, overnight, in a storm. He is NOT an outdoor cat, and snuck out when I let the dog out to pee at 9pm. I clearly didn't notice until my 7yo woke up the next morning and spotted him on the window sill. I feel bad. 

stardustskies

This past week, I’ve probably spent more time in bed than not. (In my defense, I start my new job next week and wanted to bum around as much as possible.)

justkeeptrying

Another one: I have every intention of getting the flu shot for me and DS. But I  am sooo lazy and don't feel like putting in the effort to call his pediatrician to see if they have a flu shot clinic. 

ShawnnaO

@justkeeptrying I’m kind of dreading when P doesn’t have appointments every 3 months that I can just rely on! Eventually I’m going to be in the same boat as you 

justkeeptrying

@ShawnnaO, that's exactly the problem! DH said "well just get it at his next appointment" and I said "in May????"

ashleyf911

@justkeeptrying Same. I got mine at my 20wk appointment otherwise I probably wouldn't have it yet. I just gotta work up the motivation now to call the pediatrician for DS.

ShawnnaO

My confession: I’m AWFUL, embarrassingly awful, at wrapping presents. I love to do it, but y’all there is never a question of which ones I wrapped. They’re that bad. My husband is great at it though. It’s a running joke in our house that I’m the Christmas Elf in training. 

barrelocarol

My confession: Every time someone jumps on a new person posting, in one of those "I'm not rude, I'm honest. I said please." ways...I side eye and hope that isn't how they plan on speaking to their children. 

What's wrong with a gentle redirect?

Not directed at anyone, I promise. It's just a thing that's prevalent throughout TB.

Edited: TB, please fix your auto incorrect. 

DDRRT1982

My FFFC: I can't seem to throw away any of my children's artwork.  I don't know WTF I am going to do with all this artwork, but I just can't bring myself to throw anything away.  When it accidentally gets ruined I get relieved bc it's not my choice, it's just trash.  I am not artsy and I don't have creative ways to store or display.  My kids are going to be overwhelmed as adults going through all their artwork when I die.

LaurenAnn0405

My FFFC- after @syssa-o mentioned the nail/ear thing on the UO board yesterday I went home and trimmed both of my kids nails and cleaned out the dirt from underneath them, which clearly needed to be done.

@amylonghorn I'm in the same boat as you where I don't normally lurk on other BMB but some comments had intrigued me to the point where I went and then just had to come back here to my safe place and comment on my utter disbelief at some people.

@shawnnaO I love wrapping Christmas presents and I'm actually really good at it but I always have to stop myself from wrapping too early.  I start buying Christmas presents in June normally so I can just do a small bit of buying throughout the months instead of all of it at once (DH and DD both have birthdays in December too so it's an expensive month!) and as soon as I pick the wrapping paper out I want to wrap them but the only place I have to store them is in my closet and I normally just kind of shove them so I know I need to wait even though my fingers are itching to wrap them!

ShawnnaO

@LaurenAnn0405 I have all of my Christmas shopping AND wrapping done already. My husband and I always just do stockings for each other so I can’t wait to put up the stockings so I can go shopping for him too. 

@DDRRT1982 have you tried getting one of those huge three ring binders? You could put the artwork in those laminated page things and then it’s all stored nicely somewhere! 

amylonghorn

@ShawnnaO gift bags FTW!!!

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I haven't graded anything in two weeks.  I can feel death glares from my students.

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barrelocarol said:

My confession: Every time someone jumps on a new person posting, in one of those "I'm not rude, I'm honest. I said please." ways...I side eye and hope that isn't how they plan on speaking to their children. 

What's wrong with a gentle redirect?

Not directed at anyone, I promise. It's just a thing that's prevalent throughout TB.

Edited: TB, please fix your auto incorrect. 

I don't often immediately flame newbies but also I don't treat adults like children.  If you don't know how to "read the room" as an adult you might just need someone to figuratively smack you upside the head a bit.

ShawnnaO

@barrelocarol I’ve noticed you tend to post this FFFC or something similar to it every time someone makes a one-off post and one of us re-directs them. It kind of IS coming off like you’re directing it at members of this board. 

Mass-girl-at-heart

@DDRRT1982 I’ve been taki for pictures of the stuff they do with the hope that maybe someday I will make a photo book of them. Then off in the recycling they go

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Mass-girl-at-heart said:

@DDRRT1982 I’ve been taki for pictures of the stuff they do with the hope that maybe someday I will make a photo book of them. Then off in the recycling they go

I like this idea!


My plan is to get a simple portfolio case and maybe try to save one piece every 3-6 months and just toss the rest.  I just love looking at my childhood drawings as an adult!  My mom certainly didn't keep them all but she saved maybe 1 or 2 good ones per year.

Mass-girl-at-heart

I hate when strangers want to make small talk. If your opener is “not in a great mood today” perhaps you should just drop it. And if I don’t know you, will never see you again, don’t ask me about my baby/pregnancy. You don’t care and I don’t care to tell you. 

You up can be a kind stranger and not feel the need to actually talk to me. Ugh, I just hate people and being pregnant makes it a thousand times worse because everyone forgets about personal boundaries I guess that is my confession. 

syssa-o

@LaurenAnn0405 you just made me LOL for real and I never actually lol. 

FFFC: H thinks I work very hard when doing overnight shifts so I pretty much get a free pass on doing shit the day of. I work for about 2 hours but I Netflix for about 6. Then I’ll sleep the majority of tomorrow to recuperate and prepare for the next overnight. 

muggle621

@ShawnnaO I am agreeing with two things you said. I too suck at wrapping gifts and my husband is way better at it than me!! I just do bags now lol. I'm trying to learn but it's so hard! (It probably isn't that hard but I make it hard). 

@barrelocarol I feel the same as @ShawnnaO in the timing of your statement. 

Also, what's wrong with talking to kids that way? I'm not super clear on what you mean exactly so I apologize if I am misconstruing what you meant to say. I don't curse or use overly large words but I personally don't use baby talk or change the tone of my voice when speaking to babies and children very much like some parents do. They still like me. I speak to them and others tactfully but directly. I admit I've had two or three instances where I sounded inadvertently sounded rude or standoffish but those have been few and far between. Maybe in this latest drive by instance I could have left off saying "who are you?" but lately the random posters don't even come back so why waste time by being all warm and fuzzy? 

barrelocarol

@ShawnnaO @muggle621

I think you're both right. It doesn't occur to me when Im witting it but I'm looking back, I have written this more than once. Aside from being annoying, I now see it as actually ostracising which isn't my intention. 

Thanks for pointing this out!

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@amylonghorn I'm gonna need to know what you're talking about.  For reasons.

DDRRT1982

Mass-girl-at-heart said:

@DDRRT1982 I’ve been taki for pictures of the stuff they do with the hope that maybe someday I will make a photo book of them. Then off in the recycling they go

I have seen this idea before and think it's great.  Maybe oneday I can do something like that.  I do take pictures of the artwork I am particularly proud of and post it on  the blog I have for them.  I hope they enjoy having digital versions too. 

That reminds me of another FFFC I have.  Other than professional pictures, I have nothing printed.  I have lots of grand plans, but now I feel overwhelmed with the thousands of pictures.  It's just easier to stay on top of stuff.
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mdfarmchick

I want to just start throwing everything away that piles up on my counters, nightstands, dressers and tables. I’m so tired of feeling overwhelmed by shit everywhere. And I can’t seem to find a balance between cleaning my house and doing things as a family. 

DDRRT1982

syssa-o said:

@LaurenAnn0405 you just made me LOL for real and I never actually lol. 

FFFC: H thinks I work very hard when doing overnight shifts so I pretty much get a free pass on doing shit the day of. I work for about 2 hours but I Netflix for about 6. Then I’ll sleep the majority of tomorrow to recuperate and prepare for the next overnight. 

Regardless of work effort on an overnight shift, that schedule is brutal.  I did nights for all of nine months before I told my boss I had to go to days.  It wasn't worth the money and my quality of life suffered.  Mad props to anyone who can do nights regularly.  You deserve the re-coop time.

kelsajo

mdfarmchick said:

I want to just start throwing everything away that piles up on my counters, nightstands, dressers and tables. I’m so tired of feeling overwhelmed by shit everywhere. And I can’t seem to find a balance between cleaning my house and doing things as a family. 

DITTO! I feel like my house is trashed, all of the time! I also have to rebuild the bedroom in the back of the house and it's FULL of storage items that needs cleaned out and I am ready to just throw it all away just to get it cleaned out. I hate the feeling of being overwhelmed, I tend to just shut down. ugh! 

DDRRT1982

mdfarmchick said:

I want to just start throwing everything away that piles up on my counters, nightstands, dressers and tables. I’m so tired of feeling overwhelmed by shit everywhere. And I can’t seem to find a balance between cleaning my house and doing things as a family. 

Maybe look into minimalism.  It helps.  Obviously by my FFFC I haven't applied the practices to my children's artwork, but for the rest of my life I have.  The Art of Tidying Up is a recommended book.  FB also has great groups.

kalawa

@mdfarmchick @kelsajo I actually started to just throw, or recycle, shit left out. If it's broken, I toss it. If it's my child's useless Mcdonald's toys he played with once, I toss it. If it's something semi important, like Pokemon cards, I put it on the stairs. If it's not put away by bedtime, I toss it. And guess how many times people have noticed their "important" shit is gone. Never.
 I never actually throw away important stuff though (i.e. bills, forms, etc.) 

syssa-o

@DDRRT1982 yeah it is fairly taxing but mostly because I do about 3/4 overnights a week and I do about 5 (very short) day shifts and I’m facing for real pregnancy exhaustion. We do our schedule a month at a time so I’ve said that I’m no longer available for overnights come December. This also works because H’s work offers him lots of overtime for plowing and salting and his overtime rate is about 5x what I make hourly. It would be silly for him to have to turn it down because I was working. Sooo just a few more weeks. 

notthefather

I also struggled with the children's art dilemma. I like the theory of taking pictures of everything but I probably wouldn't follow through. I put up something just like this in my house for my daughter's art. She gets excited when something is being displayed, we can keep it up and enjoy it for a length of time (some much longer than others), and then I feel so much less guilt throwing it away when we're done. Obviously there are things I keep but this has helped with the more day to day stuff. 

syssa-o

@notthefather I’ve always loved ideas like that. I’m the worst for tossing the majority of stuff. I tend to do a craft with him for every holiday and we stash those. I’m sure once he does more self directed stuff we will keep a few extra things (ie first time he draws our family or something like that) but I think this idea is awesome. 

bettyvonsomethingstein

FFFC:  sometimes I want to say Effffffff YOUUUUUUU to the English language.  Merriam-Webster, sometimes you just ask for too much!  TOO MUCH!

(pissed-offness stemming from having no ever-loving clue there was a difference in spelling for references to stones versus gold.  SO DUMB.)

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bettyvonsomethingstein said:

FFFC:  sometimes I want to say Effffffff YOUUUUUUU to the English language.  Merriam-Webster, sometimes you just ask for too much!  TOO MUCH!

(pissed-offness stemming from having no ever-loving clue there was a difference in spelling for references to stones versus gold.  SO DUMB.)

Every time I say "that that" I curse the English language.

justkeeptrying

FFFC: I'm having a bad day. I'm emotional and have no patience for DS right now. I've cried like 3x today and it's only 1pm. I feel like a terrible mom and have no idea how I'm possible going to handle 2 when I can barely
cope with 1 today. 

ShawnnaO

@justkeeptrying I have days like that all the time. But when the time comes you’re going to adjust and having two will be second nature. Hugs 

chasingroygbiv

FFFC...  I literally kept ALL the things from DS, I’ve saved maybe 1/16 with DD.  That said, I got back through their little plastic file cabinet once a year-ish and continue to toss. DS still has tons saved that he isn’t going to care about I’m sure...... 

Picture wise I make them yearly Shutterfly books and I have the Groovebook app for 100 pic prints a month. Not great quality, but cheap and at least I’m printing something??? 

Also, I’m missing the excitement on the other BMB I think!