@Dashaina sorry if you felt pigeonholed by the question- I was drawing a blank on any GTKY questions so stole this from May. I don't want to start a working mom vs. SAHM, that wasn't my intent with the question or following up here, but as a former SAHM (9 months home & 1 as a working mom) I have to give you and all of the other SAHMs props. I personally was unable to do it- it takes a specific personality type to be able to be a SAHM and I sadly do not have it. I love Fridays knowing that I get to spend the weekend with DD but love having a reason to shower daily, having adult conversation (even if I spend 99% of the time talking about my baby), and in general just feeling like a team with my DH again. I know your situation is very different as you are geographically isolated and home school as well as just "parent"- so you should feel as proud of being a SAHM .
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@izza2 I'll definitely try that with my husband. I feel like often when I try to express how I'm feeling there ends up being some miscommunication where he reacts as if I'm attacking him. He's been making a lot of little comments lately that make it seem as if he thinks I've been unfairly hard on him. It's very possible that I'm not communicating things the way I think I am and he's hearing something different than what I'm meaning.
@NamelessAria in case you wanted to read the science behind babies and sleeping...https://www.parentingscience.com/baby-sleep-patterns.html And this talks about the 3-5 month sleep regression https://www.babysleepsite.com/tag/sleep-cycles/ From most of the stuff I remember reading (and this was like 7 years ago), from what I recall babies need to be soothed for sleeping and will learn it on their own but in their own time. I always responded to my child when she cried out or got fussy. Both nursed at night until they were done. For me my focus on raising my children was responding to their needs as soon as they needed them. I read the book happy baby peaceful parent and found it made a a lot of sense about how children develop emotionally. My girls now are very positive child, who are easy going and generally get along with each other and listen when I speak to them. I am by no means judging anyone or saying one way is better, etc. I am just saying. My main job is raising happy, emotionally stable mini humans in their own time and I listen to what they need rather than what people around me tell me they need. You have all the tools you need to raise an amazing little man and if you listen to your heart when doing it, you will succeed. I found the hardest thing for me was ignoring 90% of that well meant advice from family, friends and complete strangers. I'd be happy to message you the link to the book I mentioned above. I have it on my Dropbox as well as I have the siblings one too. Let me know and if you need any help finding your own path for you and your son. I'm sure you'll be a fantastic STM as well! I get many comments on how my gis are completely different (in a good way) from children people have interacted with in regular society and non kid people even find themselves enjoying my girls company when they come to visit us. So I take that as the best compliment of all that I must be doing something right. Be confident in motherhood. You know your child better than anyone.
Just a general comment for those of you feeling like you may not have enough time with your first child before a second comes along. Please DO NOT feel guilty that your first child doesn't get more time alone with you. He/she is NOT being cheated. Think of it from the perspective of a second child - they don't ever get the one-on-one attention that a first child gets (until they're the baby and last child in the house). They will not be damaged by having to share parents. And it may not seem like it now, but your love for your child doesn't become divided. It grows so that you have just as much love for each of your children.
@pinottoparenthood I think everyone is doing the best they can when they have love in their hearts and choose to act based on that emotion. And I still stand that my children are unique to most of thechildren I have helped raise in the society we chose to leave behind 4 years ago. And I was a live in nanny for a while. I am the oldest of 5 children by a significant amount of years and have many young cousins. I will agree to disagree on that aspect of my response. I also did say several times through my various responses that I am not judging you. I don't know you or your situation and have found.. Generally speaking.. When someone takes offense to an opinion I have about something.. Be it child rearing, politics, lifestyle choices, etc... It is because they are not secure in their own decisions and need outside reassurance that their decision is accepted. You are a confident woman. You are capable of raising your children in the manner that works best for you, your children and your family. You do not need me to agree with that as I do not need you to agree with my assessment of my choices and opinions of how my children behave in comparison to others. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh or critical. But it is not intended to be. It is my opinion and you most definitely do not have to agree with me.