@curleemama32 I was so against sleep training with my daughter and it was the biggest mistake I’ve made. We finally gave in to Ferber her at 15mo because she was still waking 4-6x a night and each wake would require an hour+ of rocking. So I basically didn’t sleep for the first 15mo of her life. Finally I gave in and let my husband Ferber her. The first night she cried for an hour with multiple check ins, and woke once. The second night she cried for 15min and slept through the night for the first time. It was a legit miracle and I’m an atheist lol. She still will wake sometimes at 4am but if my husband goes in and tells her to go back to sleep she will. She does wake up super early (5-530am) but I will take that over the shit I went though before.
My pediatrician recommends Ferber at 6mo so with this little one we will definitely be doing it at that time.
Absolutely worth the time and effort to sleep train. My sister is now kicking herself for not doing something similar!!! I wish you all the best and I hope I have as easy of a time with this baby as I did with my first!!! Though, the logistics of doing that while the kiddos are sharing a room is a little tough to figure out.
@Zaclina, We did the whole co-sleeping thing for about 9-10 months, and then transitioned to the crib. The transition was tricky, but I typically nursed him to sleep. Now, DS is very funny about his bed. This past summer when he was 2 we put him in his toddler bed, and he doesn't want anyone to be in bed with him and he doesn't want to sleep with us. I think a lot of people think that co-sleeping leads to sleep attachment, but that has not been the case for us. If I lay in bed with DS at night, he'll say, "You go to your room, Mommy!"
@MissusTexas and @mileswitymyles I LOVED Edinburgh, but did not try black pudding. We were only there for one day and one night, and we actually had Italian food that day LOL We were kinda getting sick of the local food by that point after being in Ireland for 8 days. London actually was not my favorite, but I think it had more to do with the timing of our visit. We went during the Queen's Diamond Jubilee-so a lot of stuff was closed off, the crown jewels weren't in the Tower of London, we couldn't go into Westminster Abbey, etc. Everything was more expensive than we expected, and MH and I both had terrible allergies that day. We basically ended up just walking around for the day, taking pictures and buying Clarityn (we loved that it was spelled with a y) before going back to our hotel. The next day we took the Eurostar into Paris and I wish we would've spent so much more time there, it was amazing. @MrT723 I told MH that if we weren't planning on this being our last, it would've been anyway. This nausea is no joke.
As far as CIO/Ferber, we did it and it was the best decision ever. The girls started STTN on their own around 3-4 months anyway, but getting them to sleep was a disaster. We did the Ferber, so we would check on them every once in a while, pat their back, etc. and now they are such good sleepers. Rarely wake up in the middle of the night, and if they do, they either get themselves back to sleep, or one of us goes in, pats their head/smooth their hair/whatever, pick up and rock if necessary and they go right back to sleep.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@sandbar517 we were there at the exact same time! We landed in London the morning of her Jubilee. We were walking toward Westminster Abbey and the Royal Family had just left, but people were still lined up. We asked a police officer what was going on and he told us to stick around because we would get to see someone. Prince Harry came out a few minutes later and was standing literally right across the street from us!
@mileswithmyles I would've LOVED that! We were outside Buckingham Palace and after the Changing of the Guard people told us to wait because the Royal Family was on the way, and then some people said, oh there's the car, but of course we couldn't see inside it so had no way of knowing if it actually was or not. Then we got bored and left. There was still a big crowd by the time we got over to Westminster Abbey, but as far as I know there wasn't anyone famous left LOL
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I am actually not shocked by the amount of CIO moms because, you know what? Desperate times call for desperate measures! As much as I said I wouldn't CIO, until you've been in the sleep-deprived trenches you don't know what you will or won't do to get a baby to sleep. CIO worked for DD#1 when I first tried it at 8 months and then with DD#2 at 6 weeks. Neither cried for more than a 10 minute interval. DD#2 has been a much better sleeper overall so I do wonder if I should have started sooner with the first... but we'll never know.
@sandbar517 I was dying! And my running buddy has the biggest crush on him, so I was snapping pics like crazy. It was so cool. He is so much taller than I expected. He's shorter than William and I just assumed he was short, but he isn't.
See I never had any reservations about CIO if it became a necessity, but I was 1000% against cosleeping, and that happened anyway. It worked a lot better for us with nursing, and it allowed me to rest/sleep longer.
I was totally against sleep training before I had kids. Then I had a baby who at 5 months was still waking every hour and I was losing it. And not in the funny, "I'm losing my mind! Haha!" way but like literally I couldn't form thoughts or drive and I would randomly burst into tears.... but I still have great reservations about doing it much before 6 months and can state with certainty that I would never use an extinction method.
I think it's hilarious how when I was pregnant with my first I was all about parents forums, and books, and making this perfect plan...and then we had a baby and the plan went straight out the window! This time people have already started asking me all these questions and I just say I don't know we will figure it out when the baby is born!
@ivyvines6, nursing is exactly why I did cosleeping! DS was a slow weight gainer so I had to nurse him every 2 hours during the day and every 4 at night. When your child nurses for 45 minutes and you have to wake up again 3 hours later, you get every second of sleep possible...even if it's only across the hall to the nursery. I'm more nervous about BFing than labor!
I was totally against sleep training before I had kids. Then I had a baby who at 5 months was still waking every hour and I was losing it. And not in the funny, "I'm losing my mind! Haha!" way but like literally I couldn't form thoughts or drive and I would randomly burst into tears.... but I still have great reservations about doing it much before 6 months and can state with certainty that I would never use an extinction method.
Your last sentence is on point. I can see maybe doing it a bit before 6mo but sleep training any earlier is not recommended. Baby needs to eat.
@ceridwen77 at 5m we were not trying to achieve 12 hours, just some ability to connect sleep cycles. We settled on bedtime at 7 and no nursing before midnight. And as she got older we pushed that later until she randomly started skipping the feeding on her own periodically, then we night weaned officially.
@ceridwen77 at 5m we were not trying to achieve 12 hours, just some ability to connect sleep cycles. We settled on bedtime at 7 and no nursing before midnight. And as she got older we pushed that later until she randomly started skipping the feeding on her own periodically, then we night weaned officially.
I’ve got to try something like this with this little one. This is some great advice.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I am my son's favorite toy, and I wonder how I am going to guard the belly once it gets bigger.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: Right now, Viking's face lights up when he sees me come home from work or greet him in the morning. I can't wait until his face lights up for the new sibling (even if it takes a while to get there)
GTKY: Tell us about your favorite vacation. We're boring. My favorite may have been our week in Minneapolis for my first serious job interview. We ate at the Mall of America every day. They were having a Star Trek exhibit on the top floor of the mall. I thought it was way too expensive, but DH insisted, and 2 years later I am so glad he did! It gives me goosebumps just to think about being that close to the actual costumes and props used in my favorite shows.
As to CIO/Ferber, I didn't do it with Viking because it just felt wrong for him. He was a very good sleeper, and for tough nights we co slept. What will I do for the next kid? I have no idea! I was amazed how strong the mommy instinct was with Viking. I fully expect #2 will have very different needs and I will try very different things.
Jana Lynn
Happily married since 5/24/2015 Momma of a baby Viking since 4/16, expecting #2 in 5/18
Has anyone had a corpus luteum cyst before? They found one during my NT scan and made it seem like no big deal.
Stuck in box. Haven't had one (yet -- my NT scan is on Halloween), but I'm pretty sure I just skimmed something in What to Expect that also said it was no big deal.
@mileswithmyles I’m so jealous you saw Prince Harry! He was just in Toronto a couple of weeks after we left, I was bummed.
On the topic of sleep...with DS I didn’t have the heart to let him CIO. He had some health issues when he was a few days old that I think kind of messed with me mentally. I couldn’t handle hearing him cry. I used to hold him when he’d wake at night until he fell asleep, which sometimes took awhile. At some point (I have no idea how old he was) when he was going through a particularly bad stretch I made DH get up with him and that’s how he ended up cosleeping. To this day he sleeps in his crib but once he wakes up at night he comes to our bed. We’re getting him a twin soon and praying that he will stay there!
My dude has now slept in his own bed the last two nights without any nursing. I decided a few days ago when I felt at my worst I didn't have it in me. He's been sleeping on his own for a couple weeks until about 5:30 and then crawling into our bed which isn't terrible I guess. But all on his own has been awesome!
DS is almost 2.5, he was a good sleeper at first and once I went back to work at 13 weeks it all went out the window. It wasn't until we hit 13 months old that I deemed it necessary to sleep train. And it worked in a matter of days and the boy was sleeping through the night. I will probably try to sleep train this one a little sooner, once I started sleeping again I became a new person.
Re: STM+ Check-in 10/18
@MrT723 I told MH that if we weren't planning on this being our last, it would've been anyway. This nausea is no joke.
As far as CIO/Ferber, we did it and it was the best decision ever. The girls started STTN on their own around 3-4 months anyway, but getting them to sleep was a disaster. We did the Ferber, so we would check on them every once in a while, pat their back, etc. and now they are such good sleepers. Rarely wake up in the middle of the night, and if they do, they either get themselves back to sleep, or one of us goes in, pats their head/smooth their hair/whatever, pick up and rock if necessary and they go right back to sleep.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
How old are your other kids? 18mon]
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I am my son's favorite toy, and I wonder how I am going to guard the belly once it gets bigger.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: Right now, Viking's face lights up when he sees me come home from work or greet him in the morning. I can't wait until his face lights up for the new sibling (even if it takes a while to get there)
GTKY: Tell us about your favorite vacation. We're boring. My favorite may have been our week in Minneapolis for my first serious job interview. We ate at the Mall of America every day. They were having a Star Trek exhibit on the top floor of the mall. I thought it was way too expensive, but DH insisted, and 2 years later I am so glad he did! It gives me goosebumps just to think about being that close to the actual costumes and props used in my favorite shows.
As to CIO/Ferber, I didn't do it with Viking because it just felt wrong for him. He was a very good sleeper, and for tough nights we co slept. What will I do for the next kid? I have no idea! I was amazed how strong the mommy instinct was with Viking. I fully expect #2 will have very different needs and I will try very different things.
On the topic of sleep...with DS I didn’t have the heart to let him CIO. He had some health issues when he was a few days old that I think kind of messed with me mentally. I couldn’t handle hearing him cry. I used to hold him when he’d wake at night until he fell asleep, which sometimes took awhile. At some point (I have no idea how old he was) when he was going through a particularly bad stretch I made DH get up with him and that’s how he ended up cosleeping. To this day he sleeps in his crib but once he wakes up at night he comes to our bed. We’re getting him a twin soon and praying that he will stay there!