RE: babymoons - DH came down with the flu the day before we were due to leave and it was cancelled. We never got to make up the trip and I'm still a little bitter four years later.
Take the babymoon.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me. You made my wedding day complete.
I have a complicated relationship with mushrooms. I think that they add depth and umami to a lot of dishes if they are used as an accent. However, taken at face value by themselves, they taste like what I imagine licking a crazy hermit's bare foot would
@psuxray07, at first I was outraged by how callously you besmirch seafood, then I realized that the poor spurned delicious sushi would be all mine. MINE!!!
My UO, I actually loved my baby friendly hospital with DS. Yes it was exhausting but I didn’t want that kid out of my sight and I feel like it made me way less anxious those first few days at home because we had been through a few nights already. I did breastfeed (still am) and it was definitely important for me to be able to try constantly and have lactation consultant and nurses there to help.
I also love babymoons.
As for a push present— I think they’re silly but I’m asking for food this time around. I was STARVING after I gave birth to DS and having hospital food after 22 hours in labor was the worst.
I explained push presents to DH the other day and told him I think the concept is dumb but that if he's so inclined, I'm registered for precisely one thing, and it's this:
History (TW/loss/child):
7/2017 -- miscarriage at 6w 5/2018 -- DS born 3 days after due date, 8lb 4oz 9/2020 -- missed miscarriage at 9w / DNC 3/2021 -- miscarriage at 8w 7/2021 -- missed miscarriage at 8w / DNC 9/2021 -- IVF cycle #1 (FET 1/25/22)
My UO, I actually loved my baby friendly hospital with DS. Yes it was exhausting but I didn’t want that kid out of my sight and I feel like it made me way less anxious those first few days at home because we had been through a few nights already. I did breastfeed (still am) and it was definitely important for me to be able to try constantly and have lactation consultant and nurses there to help.
I also love babymoons.
As for a push present— I think they’re silly but I’m asking for food this time around. I was STARVING after I gave birth to DS and having hospital food after 22 hours in labor was the worst.
@julzy I feel like this is a huge misconception when it comes to those who are pro-nursery. We don't want to send our babies away to the nursery all night long so we can get 8 uninterrupted hours of sleep (or, at least I don't). I just want 1-3 hours in the middle of the day to be able to catch a quick nap and actually recover from the major surgery that is a c-section. Even with my husband there and doing everything he can, if the baby is awake and fussing, I'm not resting. And trust me, we went through the first few nights just like you did.
To be honest, your implication that your experience was any more exhausting than a parent who chooses to utilize the nursery got right under my skin.
@frenchiekinplusone yes to Grey's! And after not being allowed to eat all day while waiting to have DD, that turkey and cheese sandwich post delivery was the best I ever had! I wasn't ashamed that I asked the nurse for another
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TTC since October 2011
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@julzy I didn't want my baby out of my sight either, but it was physically dangerous for me to be alone with her unless I got a few hours of sleep. It hurt to send her to the nurses, and I worried the whole time, but I was in a bad state and her safety was way more important than me trying to man it out.
@kmalls and @ngolimento I don’t judge moms who utilize the nursery or need a break at all! I purposely talked about my experience because I know my experience isn’t the same as others. It was right for me but I certainly don’t assume it’s right for everyone and frankly I also know that even though it was right for me last time, it might not be right for me this time around. I’ll also note that I didn’t have a c-section (I was lucky despite meconium and 22 hours in labor) and I’m sure if I had my experience wouldn’t have been so rosey. My bad for not being clearer about that. I think it’s analogous to the I like mushrooms, I hate mushrooms opinion. Just because I liked it doesn’t mean you’re not valid for having a different experience or opinion about it.
And as for not not wanting to be away from my baby- I mentioned that because a friend of mine delivered at another hospital near us that wasn’t baby friendly and they wouldn’t let the baby stay with her while she slept so she tried to force herself not to sleep at all. That was not a “baby friendly” hospital. I think that’s horrendous. It should be your choice. If you need a break, there’s no shame. If you don’t then you shouldn’t be separated unnecessarily.
@kmalls and @ngolimento I don’t judge moms who utilize the nursery or need a break at all! I purposely talked about my experience because I know my experience isn’t the same as others. It was right for me but I certainly don’t assume it’s right for everyone and frankly I also know that even though it was right for me last time, it might not be right for me this time around. I’ll also note that I didn’t have a c-section (I was lucky despite meconium and 22 hours in labor) and I’m sure if I had my experience wouldn’t have been so rosey. My bad for not being clearer about that. I think it’s analogous to the I like mushrooms, I hate mushrooms opinion. Just because I liked it doesn’t mean you’re not valid for having a different experience or opinion about it.
And as for not not wanting to be away from my baby- I mentioned that because a friend of mine delivered at another hospital near us that wasn’t baby friendly and they wouldn’t let the baby stay with her while she slept so she tried to force herself not to sleep at all. That was not a “baby friendly” hospital. I think that’s horrendous. It should be your choice. If you need a break, there’s no shame. If you don’t then you shouldn’t be separated unnecessarily.
That makes sense. I would lose my shit if someone took my baby when I didn't want them to. I do like some of the baby friendly modifications, like skin to skin, parents doing the bathing, room-in bassinets (if you want them), and modifications to C-sections.
But yeah, I totally agree that hospitals just need to listen to moms instead of adopting policies that are needlessly inflexible.
I definitely sent DS to the nursery because I was exhausted and needed to just sleep. I felt guilty for doing it like I wasn't "supposed" to, but it really helped me. He was with me most of the time.
On a side note about food and delivery, it pissed me off that I couldn't have anything but popsicles and ice chips and they brought DH pancakes while I was in labor!
I was pretty set on eating whatever the heck I wanted while I was in labor, and snuck a bunch of snacks in our hospital bags. I was extremely shocked when I got to the hospital and the nurses asked if they could get me lunch/dinner/breakfast (I was there a long time). When I told them I was surprised they allowed me to eat, they laughed and said "Women in active labor and close to delivery don't need to be told not to eat. Eat while you can". I kind of fell in love with that hospital.
That's awesome, @ngolimento! During labor with my second kid my L&D nurse was a real biotch. I asked for a popsicle and she said "everything you eat in active labor tends to come right back up." I'd had popsicles galore my first labor, so I ate it anyway. Sure enough, my traitorous body threw it up immediately and allowed her even more of the smug satisfaction that made her so annoying in the first place.
Note: this was literally the only L&D nurse I had during all three labors who wasn't completely awesome, so I'm definitely not besmirching them as a whole.
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That's awesome, @ngolimento! During labor with my second kid my L&D nurse was a real biotch. I asked for a popsicle and she said "everything you eat in active labor tends to come right back up." I'd had popsicles galore my first labor, so I ate it anyway. Sure enough, my traitorous body threw it up immediately and allowed her even more of the smug satisfaction that made her so annoying in the first place.
Note: this was literally the only L&D nurse I had during all three labors who wasn't completely awesome, so I'm definitely not besmirching them as a whole.
I would much rather vomit popsicles than dry heave, thanks!!! What an awful nurse!!
Re: UO Thursday 10/12
Take the babymoon.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
+1 to still religiously watching Greys!
My UO: Moana is so much better than Frozen. In fact, the more I watch Moana the less and less I like frozen.
I also love babymoons.
As for a push present— I think they’re silly but I’m asking for food this time around. I was STARVING after I gave birth to DS and having hospital food after 22 hours in labor was the worst.
5/2018 -- DS born 3 days after due date, 8lb 4oz
9/2020 -- missed miscarriage at 9w / DNC
3/2021 -- miscarriage at 8w
7/2021 -- missed miscarriage at 8w / DNC
9/2021 -- IVF cycle #1 (FET 1/25/22)
To be honest, your implication that your experience was any more exhausting than a parent who chooses to utilize the nursery got right under my skin.
Married April 9, 2011
TTC since October 2011
Me 34, DH 40
IUI #5 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture Oct 24, 2014-->BFP!!! EDD July 17, 2015. Panorama=low risk...and it's a GIRL!
DD born July 10, 2015
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Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture July 10, 2017-->BFP!!! EDD Apr 2, 2018. Panorama=low risk...and another GIRL!
And as for not not wanting to be away from my baby- I mentioned that because a friend of mine delivered at another hospital near us that wasn’t baby friendly and they wouldn’t let the baby stay with her while she slept so she tried to force herself not to sleep at all. That was not a “baby friendly” hospital. I think that’s horrendous. It should be your choice. If you need a break, there’s no shame. If you don’t then you shouldn’t be separated unnecessarily.
But yeah, I totally agree that hospitals just need to listen to moms instead of adopting policies that are needlessly inflexible.
On a side note about food and delivery, it pissed me off that I couldn't have anything but popsicles and ice chips and they brought DH pancakes while I was in labor!
I was pretty set on eating whatever the heck I wanted while I was in labor, and snuck a bunch of snacks in our hospital bags. I was extremely shocked when I got to the hospital and the nurses asked if they could get me lunch/dinner/breakfast (I was there a long time). When I told them I was surprised they allowed me to eat, they laughed and said "Women in active labor and close to delivery don't need to be told not to eat. Eat while you can". I kind of fell in love with that hospital.
Note: this was literally the only L&D nurse I had during all three labors who wasn't completely awesome, so I'm definitely not besmirching them as a whole.