Weekly Randoms Week of 10/9

sunshineandwhiskey · October 2017

doxiemoxie212 said:

@sabby2 I'm doing embarrassingly involved photos each week

Uhhhh you better be sharing them on HDBD!!!

meagster13 · October 2017

@Dashaina I am a photographer so might be biased
I LOVE pregnancy photos! I had a session with DS pregnancy. Will do some with this one. Also planning on birth photography and newborn. (Had nb with DS but not birth)

I have also shot a few maternity sessions. They might be one of my favourite to shoot

krash_ · October 2017

True maternity sessions kind of seem awkward most of the time but we will probably do them. Our good friend is a photographer and he did our wedding so he’ll probably do those too. He has a package that includes maternity, NB, 3 mo, 6 mo, 9 mo and a year.

What I really want is birth photos like as I’m delivering. I want to capture the first moment I get to meet the lil’ thing.

ffw0617 · October 2017

@doxiemoxie212 please share what you'll be doing? I made a pretty cute video (I know already) of when I told DH.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@ffw0617 I'm doing a stop motion thing lol so it won't be cool for a lonnnnggg time. I'll share at the end though (assuming I don't have to tap out sooner...)

ffw0617 · October 2017

I def want maternity photos. I actually like them better at 5 or 6 months. Is that weird? I told DH (before we got PG) I want everything pregnancy related: showers, maternity photos, etc done on or before month 6. I want the bump but I still want to look my myself, sometimes in the 3rd trimester things have went out as much as they can and stuff start to spread. IDK could be my imagination.

bkrahn · October 2017

I did maternity pictures with DD around 30 weeks before I got TOO uncomfortable. I hated seeing them at first.. but now looking back on them, I really love them and makes me really excited to do them again

edit: spelling

BurlapandLace · October 2017

I did maternity photos at 34 weeks and change with DS. And then went into preterm labor that night. I remember as my husband was driving me to the hospital, I thought to myself “well, at least we got the pictures done!” I ended up having to cancel my last baby shower.

Moral of of the story is I definately plan on having all maternity pictures and baby showers done by 30 weeks this time.

(I ended up on bedrest and took him to term and had an amazing delivery at 39w1d)

Amphibious22 · October 2017

@meagster13 I totally get that about bump pics. I'm hesitant to take any because I feel like I'll just look fat. Maybe later in the pregnancy I'll feel better about it.

I've always had mixed feelings about maternity shoots, but @BurlapandLace actually gave me a pretty solid idea from the weekly questions thread. If I'm going to Disney but can't ride the rides, then I'll just take all the character photos and make those my "maternity pics". Plus then we could go again after the baby is born and get pics with the same characters for added cuteness!

sabby2 · October 2017

Woke up this morning thinking, oh I'll take my bump picture. Nope, still super bloated and pregnant looking.

PatientlyWaiting10 · October 2017

I told DH that I have been looking at announcement ideas this morning and he said "slow down".

I'm excited and wish for him to be just as excited. I know he is being cautious due to our history and since this is a surprise I know it's taking him a little bit to warm up to the idea of three, but still. He's the only one in person I can talk to at the moment and I feel like I can't even talk to him about it.

bkrahn · October 2017

@PatientlyWaiting10 my husband has been the same way, and I can't say I blame him. The other day, though, we were driving home with DD talking away to herself in the backseat and he said to me "you know what's crazy? we are going to have TWO of those soon.." and hearing him say that made me feel soo happy because it was the first time he actually acknowledged that out loud.

krash_ · October 2017

@PatientlyWaiting10 I have been doing the same thing! I want to tell our immediate family at Thanksgiving, I found some shirts on etsy that say "the turkey isn't the only thing in the oven!' And I want to send out x-mas cards to extended family with an announcement that say "the more the merrier" and then post something on social media on x-mas! I'm just too excited! Pinterest is a dangerous place.

MH isn't as excited about the announcements although he acknowledges them when I show him them on pinterest. He is showing his enthusiasm in different ways. Like sending me an article from Mayo Clinic about safe sex during pregnancy.

PatientlyWaiting10 · October 2017

@krashke Sounds like something my DH would do. hahaha I've been nervous to DTD and he has respected those feelings so I am thankful for that!

I have also been on pinterest and saw those shirts! They're so cute! My mom always asks us to bring something so I am thinking about volunteering to bring the buns, show up with a pack of a dozen buns then tell her I brought a baker's dozen. I am a little worried though that she's going to be too frazzled to catch on since my parents typically host the event and are super busy that morning getting everything perfect for everyone. We'll see. I'd like to do a "tie breaker" announcement too because right now it's two against two. We'll see. We have some time, it's just fun to dream about it.

marcus7676 · October 2017

@PatientlyWaiting10 that was me last time around. I refused to tell anyone until close to 20 weeks (we told family between 10-14 weeks). I was just so scared something would go wrong. I'm sure he will warm up a bit as you make it through your first few appointments. My husband has already declared how we are announcing to family - - he's going to video DS saying "I'm a big brother" and Facetime family and then send them the video to watch while we are on the phone (all our family is long distance).

krash_ · October 2017

@PatientlyWaiting10 and anyone that wants to chime in...I was lurking on another BMB and they were talking about people who are FB illiterate and who don't think to not post something publicly until you have announced it. So now I'm worried if we send out cards just before x-mas to extended family that some of my relatives would post something or a congratulations before we announce it on FB ourselves.

Like my Grammy that doesn't get that when she uploads a picture it is automatically public so every time she posts something she then shares it. So we all wonder which posts isn't she sharing that she thinks are being kept private lol.

I really just don't want someone to steal our thunder, especially since it's our first.

izza2 · October 2017

@krashke - we're planning on telling our closest family and friends, but asking them not to share or post anything online until we've made it public.
My SIL asked her not to post anything with her latest, and my mum went like 5 months not saying anything and I was so incredibly proud of her, lol. She's not good at keeping big secrets, haha. It gave me hope she could do that for us, too!

marcus7676 · October 2017

@krashke - - that is obviously the risk. But, we told family and some friends well before we publicly announced on FB (20 weeks) and no one posted anything else (even the computer illiterates). We repeatedly asked them to keep it quiet and everyone respected our wishes. The difficulty with a card is that you can't really express those wishes to them.

After DS was born, I wanted to wait until we were home to announce his name, sex (we were team green) and post pictures. My MIL posted something on FB about her new grandson (including his name) and his photo before I could. Those postpartum hormanes made me RAGE. I made my husband call her and take it down. I still haven't fully forgiven her for doing that.

krash_ · October 2017

@marcus7676 that is exactly what I'm thinking. I can't really say anything on the card along the lines of not sharing until we do because that would be tacky.

That would be so incredibly infuriating! I would have made her take it down too. I think the thread I was lurking on was on common sense and I just don't get how people can't think for two seconds before doing something. I still have pictures from when we went to visit a good friend in the hospital that I never posted because she never posted anything, she doesn't use FB too much.

ETA words

Dashaina · October 2017

Hey ladies!! I found the placenta "beat" like 5 Minutes ago on my doppler. I know for SURE it is not MY heartbeat, because I checked my heartbeat first so I could hear the beat and this is a faster beat...it's not the galloping sound that the baby heartbeat makes, which I looked up online to confirm (yeah youtube) but it's more of a whooshing sound that was around 125 from what my doppler display read. And it's pretty loud down there (the placenta beat). I'm just really excited about finding that because at 6 weeks 5 days, I was not expecting to find anything really. But I thought that was cool and wanted to share.

ETA: I am not entirely sure it's the placenta or if it's the cord. But I remember something other than the heartbeat has a whooshing sound. Any experts out there? I'm all ears. Because it's been too long for my brain to remember those details.

PatientlyWaiting10 · October 2017

@marcus7676 That would make me SO upset!! I would've done the same!
@krashke I really don't think it'd be that tacky to have somewhere in small print to not share anything on social media until you announce. We are in the day and age of social media. At my cousins wedding a few weeks ago they had on their programs to please respect their wishes and not use any "devices" during the ceremony.
@izza2 Five months is a long time! Props to her for holding out so long!
@Dashaina How exciting!!

ffw0617 · October 2017

@Dashaina so cool and that fact that you can do it yourself even more cool. I'd probably want to do it twice a day at least.

@PatientlyWaiting10 I understand completely, although I'm not surprised when my DH does/ says things like "slow down." When I brought my wedding dress I was on cloud nine. Mind you my family lives 4 states away so I was all alone buying my dress, my husband's response was "already." Men know how to kill your high with a couple words. DH was excited when he first got the results but since then he's been pretty bleh about it (or he's doing a great job of hiding his excitement). If its anything like our wedding he won't be excited until his family is getting on my last nerves and I'm regretting the entire thing.

tammy574 · October 2017

marcus7676 said: My MIL posted something on FB about her new grandson (including his name) and his photo before I could. Those postpartum hormanes made me RAGE. I made my husband call her and take it down. I still haven't fully forgiven her for doing that.

This happened to me with my first and I learned my lesson. It wasn’t the first time my mil had and has been inappropriate With pictures of my life online. With my next I waited a good amount of time until I was ready and announced on social media the same minute I texted alll the family (moms included). What they don’t know won’t hurt them and them thinking I was in labor for 9 hours more than I was didn’t matter to me. They all come flocking and posting anyway so then I can be ready and calm and have had my private time and announced exactly how I wanted! I won’t tell anyone I’m pregnant until I make a public announcement either because to me it’s not worth the stress of people slipping up. I don’t feel bad one bit.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

I thought the heartbeat wasn't audible until more like 10+ weeks? Only visible on the ultrasound before that?

dinodna3 · October 2017

My SiL announced the birth of my first and I'm still salty over it. They are extreme oversharers on social media and DH and I are rather private. We've had many an argument about stupid stuff the tag is in.

We we haven't decided if we are going to announce at DD birthday party in a few weeks or not. It will be nice since both our families will be there but I'll only be 7+6.

ffw0617 · October 2017

lucky for me my mom's side has our own private facebook group, where its customary to make announcements to the family. I purchased cards to send to our parents since they live so far I felt this was more personal than just a phone call. I'll call my only living grandma. I only have about 5 close friends so I'll call 3 & text the 2 who've had losses. IDK and IDC how my in-laws find out or DH's friends, I was overly accommodating with his side when it came to the wedding I'm not making that mistake again. That's on him. Everyone else can find out through facebook for all I care.

Dashaina · October 2017

@doxiemoxie212 as I stated in my post.. It is not the heartbeat I heard but the umbilical cord pulsing. It's a whooshing sound not a galloping sound. I simultaneously took my pulse... Which was tricky, but my daughter held the speaker for me... And my heart rate was slower than the placenta/umbilical cord whooshing. Yes I would have been completely astonished if I had heart a heartbeat. As typically it is not heard until much later (around 9wks and up). I am a slim person, which does effect being able to hear things earlier in my experience.

Eta: phone mispelling and add details

sunshineandwhiskey · October 2017

@Dashaina I didn't even think the placenta was formed this early. weird.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@dashaina but if it's not the baby.... isn't that still just your body? I'm with @sunshineandwhiskey I thought the placenta wasn't really formed yet? Genuine questions, I'm a FTM so I'm learning via the interwebs.

Dashaina · October 2017

From what I remember the cord has formed by the 7th week,but this is an average. Just like implantation happens around day 9, average. It depends on a lot of factors and if I wasn't so close to the 7th week I would say weird. But 2 days really isn't that weird. However, I am not an expert and I am always humble and willing to assume that I am wrong. I was just sharing what I experienced this morning and the steps I took to check if it was my heartbeat or not. I am also NOT saying it was the fetal heartbeat. But it made my mind settle quite a bit to hear something that was not my heartbeat. I am not being snarky or anything like that with my message here, so please don't take my words as such. Just one excited momma sharing something that seemed pretty cool and amazing with others who might understand what it's like to worry incessantly all day long and not have the same medical/lab checking options readily available like a lot of people do. So forgive me truly if I have offended anyone, because it was not my intention at all.

sunshineandwhiskey · October 2017

@Dashaina it is definitely exciting! I was just curious that’s all.

Dashaina · October 2017

@sunshineandwhiskey definitely not a problem at all for me! I'm really a very humble person when it comes to fertility stuff because even though I have a lot of experience. I know that I can always be wrong and there are anomalies that happen. So I was trying to make sure everyone understood what I did and what I was trying to say.

I was just so surprised when I heard it that I couldn't wait to tell you gals. Hahahahahha

RatParade · October 2017

@patientlywaiting10 MH hasn't seemed too excited yet either. I think it's a combination of worry (being how big of a deal all this is) and caution. I haven't personally experienced a loss, but being on this forum has shown me just how common they are and I think I might have overly prepared him for the possibility. So we're both trying to be low key about it until we have the ultrasound. But he did tell me the other day that he is excited even if he doesn't seem like he is, and that is good to hear. And he showed me ideas on pinterest on how to do the baby room and my heart swelled. It's the little things.

kmurdock925 · October 2017

With my first my OB apt was at 7 weeks and the doc gave an Inter vag US and there was a clear distinct heartbeat so it isn't impossible at 7 weeks. He did give the disclaimer to not be alarmed if we didn't hear one as it was early but it was very easily detectible.

sunshineandwhiskey · October 2017

kmurdock925 said:

With my first my OB apt was at 7 weeks and the doc gave an Inter vag US and there was a clear distinct heartbeat so it isn't impossible at 7 weeks. He did give the disclaimer to not be alarmed if we didn't hear one as it was early but it was very easily detectible.

Makes sense! Thanks

feare · October 2017

I am 5 + 6 today, I am a nurse and so we are required to get flu shots and they were doing flu shots today. I planned on getting a flu shot and my OB already told me to go ahead and get one right away so I sit down and my boss is giving the shots and asks me to fill out the consent and I didn’t think anything of it but one of the questions is could you be pregnant or do you know you are pregnant and I said “oh shit” when I got to the question, she looked at me and I said “I have to circle this one” pointing to the “yes” and she was like “what?!? Oh I’m so happy for you”, there was two other nurses in there so naturally everyone figured it out. I really didn’t want to tell anyone for a mother two months or so and I’m feeling disappointed by the whole situation. It is what it is and I can’t change what happened but looking back I should have just played dumb, circled yes and see if she ever noticed or anything and then talk about it but it’s too late now

MoonOverGoldsboro · October 2017

@feare Awww, I'm sorry that happened! It really stinks when you don't get to reveal your pregnancy in the way you wanted.

Dashaina · October 2017

@feare I'm sorry too girl!

@kmurdock925 that's so cool! I'm happy you were able to hear it then too. Thank you for sharing your story also!

ffw0617 · October 2017

@feare that sucks. def not how you want to tell everyone at work.

ffw0617 · October 2017

so here's a random, this is actually one of the things that made DH & I decide to start TTC a year earlier than previously planned, one of my DH's friends wives got a great job, I mean double the salary, more prestige, the whole 9 at visibly 8 months pregnant. I also thought that would a disadvantage bc they know you'll be out for a while, but she got hired anyway. And this is probably one of the best companies in town. I always thought once you get pregnant your pretty much forced to stay at whatever current job you have bc who would hire a pregnant lady. Glad I was wrong. The past few months have made me so flexible I'm up for whatever now.

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