FFFC* - 9/29

skc040512 · September 2017

*not necessarily flame free

I wanted to get this going early today because I've been up for over an hour and have absolutely nothing to do today. Entertain us with your confessions, ladies.

skc040512 · September 2017

I have totally been using, "I can't because I'm pregnant" as an excuse for everything since pretty much 1st tri. If I want to get out of plans? Ohhh I've been so sick/haven't been able to sleep. Don't want to help someone move? I can't lift too much and my back has been killing me. Want to be lazy all day? Sorry, I just didn't get enough sleep last night. #shameless I figure I've only got a little while longer left, and this will most likely be my last pregnancy, so I might as well milk it while I can.

jlemons-2 · September 2017

I am seriously considering watching Secret Life of an American Teenager on maternity leave. That show is so stupid yet I have it on my list. Save me

skc040512 · September 2017

@jlemons-2 considering I just binged Sabrina the Teenage Witch, I don't think I'm in any position to judge

jlemons-2 · September 2017

I forgot about that show! Please say it is on Netflix!

elev2017 · September 2017

@skcobb I think it is your right as a pregnant woman to use "I can't because I'm pregnant" as an excuse. You're busy growing eyeballs!

My FFFC is I'm kind of terrified that I'm going to be bored to death during my maternity leave and I already feel kind of guilty about it.

babytimeagain · September 2017

@jlemons-2 @Skcobb Your TV choices crack me up! I'm totally on board with Secret Life and Sabrina for maternity leave binge-watching.

TigerCakes · September 2017

@leilagphillips By the end of my maternity leave with my DS I was so bored! All of my friends and family worked and the baby slept a lot and I was recovering from a csection so I was sitting around watching trashy tv. I don't think I'll have the same problems with a 2 year old this time and I'm looking forward to the "boring" moments when it's just me and baby.

ameliabedelia-2 · September 2017

@Skcobb, I often tell DH I can't do things because "I don't feel well.....I didn't sleep....my back hurts"...even if I feel great and I slept like a rock. There are plenty of times I do things when I do feel shitty....I need to play the card every now and then!

skc040512 · September 2017

@jlemons-2 it's on Prime Video on Amazon

@ameliabedelia-2 I try not to use it on DH too much, but I totally use it to get out of sex when I'm not feeling it because I'm horrible like that

Piccola1988 · September 2017

I judge people that buy off registry gifts for showers

Moms, brides, etc. put a lot of time into their registries because that's the stuff they need. I side eye so hard when I attend a shower and the guest of honor opens a totally random gift they obviously don't need and probably don't want. There are obviously exceptions but for the most part it bugs me!

elev2017 · September 2017

@Piccola1988 I definitely agree. I think it's fine if you buy one or two things off the registry and then include a cute outfit or something too, but those registry items better be there!

skc040512 · September 2017

@Piccola1988 I have to disagree there...with DD, I had no idea what I needed. I had some mom friends buy me this that I never would have thought about (nipple soothing pads, extra milk storage bags/organizers, etc), as well as some things I just didn't bother to register for, like clothes. Now if you go buy something completely random, then I'll side eye, but if it's useful, I say go for it.

txmomma16 · September 2017

@Piccola1988 I am with you, with the same caveat as @skobb. As long as they include a gift receipt. There are a lot of things that we have gotten second hand, so they aren't on our registry, and if people buy those it will be frustrating. But as a FTM, if I left something useful off and someone notices and buys one for me, I would totally appreciate that. I think it's a fine line to walk, and as the gift giver you have to be certain you know what line you're on.

Piccola1988 · September 2017

@leilagphillips yes, exactly!

@Skcobb see that's what I would consider an exception. Those types of things are obviously useful and actually really thoughtful. In my experience that's rare and the people that buy off registry usually are buying something random.

jlemons-2 · September 2017

I do the same thing at most showers: one thing off the registry, one cute thing that I can't resist, and one small pack of diapers. If it's someone close to me, I may add a couple more things from the registry. My favorite gifts from my shower tended to be the more personal items that were not on my registry.

peachy13 · September 2017

I start maternity leave on Thanksgiving and I'm so excited to have the holiday season off and hang out all day with my baby. But I think that after the New Year, I'm going to be itching to be back in a regular routine of going to work and stuff. I honestly don't feel guilty about it but think I get some judgement from some family/friends who don't work full-time. What has made me feel better though are the moms I work with who have confessed that some days it's a blessing to drop your child off at daycare and then be able to come into the office, have some coffee along with some rare peace and quiet. I can totally see that.

And, I agree with the off registry comments. I'm actually somewhat worried that some people are going to ignore my registry completely and just buy cute stuff, which will leave DH and I to purchase the "boring" but necessary stuff like bottle brushes and clothes hangers. This happened at my bridal shower when too many of my mom's friends thought it would be awesome to go off registry. I was left with like, 6 aprons, cookbooks that I later donated, and crap I didn't need. Not to sound like a brat but I had to do a lot of shopping on my own registry after that shower, which was fine because that stuff wasn't urgent, but baby stuff kind of is! This is another reason why we're not telling people the baby's name. I'd rather get a high chair and a crib mattress than cutesy personalized stuff.

balletnerd · September 2017

@peachy13 I hope you have better luck than me at your shower! I didn’t register for clothes since I wanted to buy and pick out cute outfits and wanted help with practical items. Almost all I got was clothes. I have over 30 newborn outfits alone. Watch she won’t even fit in them... lol I guess little girl clothes are impossible to resist

cait5413 · September 2017

@jlemons-2 I used to watch that! Terrible, but addictive.

@peachy13 Sometimes going back to work is nice just for the adult interaction! full-time at home with a baby is hard.

elev2017 · September 2017

@balletnerd I actually showed my husband the photo you posted of all those outfits because I thought it was so insane! I'm terrified the same thing is going to happen to us. I'm also going to make a concerted effort to only buy 3-6 month clothes or older from now on when I get gifts since the newborn ones last for such a short amount of time.

babybison · September 2017

When our friends were getting married, I loved looking at their registries just to make comments like "he's never going to use that brie baker," but I also liked knowing the couple actually wanted what I was giving them. To me, registries are the best things to happen to gift giving, as a giver and a receiver.

skc040512 · September 2017

If you do get a ton of outfits you don't want, return them. Most of the baby stores have really good exchange programs so you can at least get store credit, and aren't stuck with outfits you don't want. Believe me, you're going to be visiting BBB, BRU and Target a ton in the last few weeks anyway, so it's not as daunting as you would think

Tennis11785 · September 2017

Oh, I totally use the "I'm pregnant" excuse when I don't feel like doing something. I try not to too much, but I've definitely pulled that card. It's limited when you can use it, so take advantage while you can.

I didn't register for clothes because I knew people would just buy what they want anyway. I've bought a couple of things - things I absolutely loved - as I've come across them, but the goal is to wait to buy clothes until after the shower. That way we can see what gaps exist and buy to them.

I don't understand buying off registry. It makes it easier on me (oh look, a website of things I can buy) and that way I know its a gift the receiver will like/use. For our wedding, we got quite a few off-registry items and few, if any, were actually helpful.

elcd458 · September 2017

I think most of you saw my MBF about my *SHOWER HOSTESSES* going off-registry!!! I could've cried. We were getting that item as a hand-me-down already. There's nothing you can do in that scenario to not look like a jerk either so you just have to smile and say thanks. I also did not get a single wipe or diaper at the shower which I thought was weird?

I don't mind homemade/handmade gifts that are similar to registry items, i.e. bibs, burp cloths, blankets. But yeah. I ALWAYS use people's registries so I don't understand how I only have like 15 of 150 items purchased.

balletnerd · September 2017

The issue with me returning a bunch of the outfits I got is that they aren’t all returnable. Meaning.... some friends altered them... adding lace and bows, tye dyed plain ones, etc. so artsy hahaha And my mom was apparently collecting for a few years- so she had a huge stockpile of stuff from years ago that wouldn’t be taken back by stores. I’m hoping since I’ve posted some photos on social media of the outfits I got at my first shower... that I won’t get as many at my shower in November! Haha

elev2017 · September 2017

@elcd458 I will cry if we don't get diapers. I told my mom my only requirement for the shower is that they do a diaper raffle! One baby butt is expensive enough, but two have me even more stressed over the cost (and I'm wayyy too lazy to do all the laundry required for cloth diapers).

skc040512 · September 2017

elcd458 said:

I think most of you saw my MBF about my *SHOWER HOSTESSES* going off-registry!!! I could've cried. We were getting that item as a hand-me-down already. There's nothing you can do in that scenario to not look like a jerk either so you just have to smile and say thanks. I also did not get a single wipe or diaper at the shower which I thought was weird?

I don't mind homemade/handmade gifts that are similar to registry items, i.e. bibs, burp cloths, blankets. But yeah. I ALWAYS use people's registries so I don't understand how I only have like 15 of 150 items purchased.

You got no diapers or wipes???? I thought that was like the #1 go to/filler gift! My policy is usually a size 1 box of diapers, a gift card to the store they registered at, and a small item from the registry (maybe an outfit our something small and cute off registry if it's a closer friend). I freaking love getting diapers as a gift.

Also, just an FYI, Huggies is donating a days worth of diapers to relief efforts and women's shelters for every box you add to your BRU registry (I don't think they even have to be bought, just put on there), so that's a good way to give back! Then you can always exchange them if someone buys them for you and you don't like Huggies

skc040512 · September 2017

@leilagphillips the #1 reason we didn't do cloth was because I HATE laundry. One of my friends tried to convince me to get a diaper service until I showed her that would literally cost me more.

One pro tip - if people are coming to visit after the baby is born and text or call on their way over and ask if you need anything, ask for diapers. DD was in NB for 4.5 weeks (she wasn't early! what the heck child??) so we didn't have nearly enough. 9 times out of 10, people were happy to grab a small pack and bring it over. Usually, it's just the pack of like 25 diapers, but whatever. Free diapers are free diapers.

katiegeminimoon · September 2017

My shower is tomorrow and I'm so worried I'm not going to get anything but clothes. Only two people have bought anything off my registry so far

babytimeagain · September 2017

My shower was last weekend, and I didn't receive a single box of diapers or wipes (they were even on my registry). I can't complain since most people bought off my registry, but I was really surprised!

jlemons-2 · September 2017

I only received one box of diapers at my shower for my first. It was unexpected. I also got something like 100 bottles of baby wash and one bottle lasts a long time on a human that's 20 inches long!

@balletnerd that's a good idea posting all the clothes and then you can add the comment "we are set for clothes for at least a year!"

skc040512 · September 2017

I got a ton of baby wash at my shower for DD! She's 18 months old and I'm almost done with the 2nd bottle

flowerpower5838 · September 2017

jlemons-2 18 months later and we still haven't bought soap, shampoo or lotion for DS and I don't see us making any purchases any time soon lol

whiska · September 2017

Sometimes when baby kicks or squirms my first reaction still is thinking I have indigestion and wondering what the heck I ate??

And then I'm like, oh yeah, Heeeey baby!

mdcd44127 · September 2017

@whiska Same!! I'm lactose intolerant and have never been one to avoid dairy, so I've spent a good amount of my life with rolling/gurgling sensations in my belly. I'm so used to it at this point that it does take me a few seconds to focus on the sensation and remember that it's actually a little person moving around.

elvenchick92686 · September 2017

On the subject of shower gifts---I have baby shower #2 coming up and the monster in law that i have posted about asked "what all i needed cause not everybody knows how to look/order on amazon" ummmmmmm dumb butt why dont you look and then tell everybody what is on there so they will at least get the right stuff!!!!!! So i have a feeling imma just get clothes and maybe diapers that i will probably have to exchange :-/ ugh im sooooo annoyed with the whole thing and its not till the 21st :-(

MJDsquared · September 2017

@jlemons-2 I loved that show but simultaneously cringed the whole time I watched it because HOLY CHEESY ACTING. Such a good guilty pleasure. It's still insane to me that Shailene Woodley is now a serious actress (and not only that, but like a serious activist).

@whiska I sometimes feel that way too. Sometimes her movements are just so big and crazy, but other times I'm like, "Why does it just feel like my stomach is upset or growling?" lol.

+1000 on the registry stuff. No one except me/MIL has purchased anything off my registry yet, but I've got like a month until my first shower. I'm nervous to get only clothes. Our first shower is in CA so I'm hoping people will just buy off the registry and have it shipped to our address...I really want MIL to spread the word that if people do that they won't have to pay sales tax since it's shipping to Oregon... Maybe that would be an incentive.

txmomma16 · September 2017

+1 on the registry stuff! My first shower is a week from today, and so far no one but my mom and MIL have bought anything off the registry.. .EEK! It feels totally greedy to say, but hopefully since it's a work shower they're all just buying gift cards... My family shower is about two weeks from now, so hopefully that means they're just taking their time.

failuretofly · September 2017

I totally use the 'i'm pregnant' excuse at work to always get to go on first break (being an RN we all have to alternate breaks and cover each other). It's glorious. I just have to say I'm hungry and most people let me go! lol

my FFFC is i already started Christmas shopping

cait5413 · September 2017

@failuretofly I'm almost done Christmas shopping and most of the gifts are wrapped! Trying to get as much out of the way as early as possible

whiska · September 2017

@failuretofly Love that gif and also you and
@cait5413 I am so impressed!!!
I've got October to get the nursery ready, giving myself 2 weeks in November to put away everything we get at the shower (plus wash clothes, prep diapers, pack bags), and then I'm going full Christmas. Hopefully I can get some shopping done too, but tbh it's probably all coming from Amazon this year!

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