@pettycrocker we will continue to discuss this as we want, thanks. And not discriminating between lurkers and regs is important information to have, in my opinion. That would stop me from joining your group and I know it would stop others as well. And we have discussed forming a different group later on as some of us would like a more intimate and familiar group. All good discussions to continue having.
@bb3vj3n I don't mind being one of the moderators/starting the PG BMB when the time comes. I'm a moderator of 2 other groups here anyway and not on FB anymore. But I agree we should wait to start it to weed out more crazies as others have said and ALSO to weed out ppl who are gonna stop posting here now that they are in a FB group. I think it would be a mistake to have a large amount of inactive members. If we're only gonna have so many regs there, they should be regs who are committed to being a part of the group.
No hard feelings against any of you who are joining and plan to do that instead of hanging out here. I get that the format is not for everyone. I'm just getting a Ghostbuster's "let's not cross the streams" feeling as a general way of avoiding unnecessary drama and cross-talk.
Sure thing, this is my 3rd FB group since 2011 and there has never been multiple groups unless there was an issue in the original group so I am just not understanding there would multiple groups. I just want to be clear we are not alienating anyone from joining now or later and it seems like that is kind of the direction this is going now...
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@pettycrocker I'm not planning to join any FB groups so kinda impartial here, but it sounds like not everyone is agreeing about the vetting process. You want totally open doors and maybe that works for you and for a lot of other people. But it's not gonna work for people who are more cautious.
@pettycrocker I'm not planning to join any FB groups so kinda impartial here, but it sounds like not everyone is agreeing about the vetting process. You want totally open doors and maybe that works for you and for a lot of other people. But it's not gonna work for people who are more cautious.
Well no, I wouldn't say "totally open doors" we are verifying that people are actually pregnant and due in March, but as far as people being lurkers or not on here, I'm not worried at this stage. We've already established we're all still pretty early in our pregnancies, there is plenty of time to get to know people as we go along at this time. I suck at retaining screen names, so TBH I do not "know" anyone on this board right now, I couldn't tell you if a person posted here 20x a day or just posted for the first time right now. I do not think that should mean we can't get to know each other on FB?
But definitely go with whatever you all feel comfortable with, I think a lot of members were looking into making a group on here too, so there will be plenty of options for everyone.
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Maybe we can have a "what happens on TB stays on TB" kind of rule? In my other group we avoid discussions of things hat happen on TB and we we try to avoid screen shots. It works. Maybe the FB admin's can keep an eye out for that?
@pettycrocker I'm not planning to join any FB groups so kinda impartial here, but it sounds like not everyone is agreeing about the vetting process. You want totally open doors and maybe that works for you and for a lot of other people. But it's not gonna work for people who are more cautious.
Well no, I wouldn't say "totally open doors" we are verifying that people are actually pregnant and due in March, but as far as people being lurkers or not on here, I'm not worried at this stage. We've already established we're all still pretty early in our pregnancies, there is plenty of time to get to know people as we go along at this time. I suck at retaining screen names, so TBH I do not "know" anyone on this board right now, I couldn't tell you if a person posted here 20x a day or just posted for the first time right now. I do not think that should mean we can't get to know each other on FB?
But definitely go with whatever you all feel comfortable with, I think a lot of members were looking into making a group on here too, so there will be plenty of options for everyone.
This is actually the reason I don't think I will ever be joining in on that group. Even if someone has an ultrasound image that says they are due in March doesn't mean they are people I want in on my personal information. Like others said and I've said earlier it's totally fine if that vetting process works for you and the people in the FB group now - but later when I will want to join in I won't be fine with that and will instead seek out either a PG or a different FB group that was more carefully vetted. Lurkers almost always spell out trouble in my experience. Just a personal preference!
I'm not that bothered. People who want more of a free for all (I'm not saying this in a bad way at all) and don't want to deal with TB at all can join in on the FB group now. For people who are more cautious and want to belong to a tighter knit group of close friends with no randoms and lurkers can wait til a second group is set up later.
@pettycrocker To me (and apparently others too) just verifying someone is pregnant is basically totally open doors. And since it looks like I'm probably gonna be a part of organizing the PG here on TB, I'm gonna advocate strongly for the policy of not admitting lurkers even with proof of pregnancy (which could be faked anyway btw). But I think if you want to give lurkers a home in your group that's totally OK, I mean, I'm not joining anyway and maybe some people want that--I'm just saying, it's not gonna be for everyone.
As for me, I'm gladly staying right here for a while. We still have people who are first trimester. I'd like to keep this active for people who join later for whatever reason. I'd also like to get to know people better and be discerning about who I join a private group--of any kind--with. I don't need just anyone who happens to be due in March to know my full name and have any access to my life, my family, or my friends at this point. Black helicopters, tinfoil hats, whatever, I, and my husband are both pretty private and especially due to things like our work travel, I don't need people having any access to our information.
Once everyone remaining is in the third tri, I'll gladly discuss a private group on TB (which is my personal preference) or Facebook.
As for the point of just joining later or whatever, if it actually turns out that everyone who has joined this Facebook group does stay active and people feel comfortable joining a private group with them, cool. However, I have an idea that people aren't going to be able to keep up with both and then it would be a matter of joining a group of people with whom you're not close so at that point, a second (or more) group makes sense to me.
Again, if you want to join the Facebook group now and that works for you, that's wonderful. I'm glad that people have something that works for them. If you want to stay here and this works for you, that's wonderful.
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At this point I have no idea if I'm considered a "reg" or not. I've been posting since pretty early on but I hate bump mobile so I don't post on every thread, every week.
i might hold off on the fb group then if some of the OG ladies from early on are choosing not to yet. but I won't be joining a private bump group because that will be just as bad working on mobile for me.
Late to join the FB debate, but just to put my two cents in I also hate the bump at and find it hard to keep up with but I would also much rather wait until 3rd tri or even after baby is born to join a FB group. So I will sit tight and wait for the next opportunity.
I joined the FB group so that I could decide if it would be a good fit for me. It seems early, but a lot of regs joined. If there are too many randos for my comfort, I'm out. So I'll be both places until I know what's right for me personally.
That said, I'm absolutely not cool with cross-talk like you're describing. If I see it, I have no issue blowing that shit right outta the water.
I also am a bit late to the discussion, but mobile bump is hard to read and sometimes I type replies and the message never gets displayed and don't know when people respond. The format also makes me nervous to start threads because I try to follow the rules. It's sad to see that the group seems to be splitting into two TB PG and FB group. I am still a part of the FB group from my first pregnancy and the group has shrunk over time but it talks more beyond the lives of just our kids. Is anyone staying in just this group?
I feel like this is a bit of "choose which clique you want to side with" and that makes me sad. While I don't have a problem joining FB now (and I'd also remain active on TB), I don't want to be "excluded" if the group who voted to join FB later creates a different group.
I feel like this is a bit of "choose which clique you want to side with" and that makes me sad. While I don't have a problem joining FB now (and I'd also remain active on TB), I don't want to be "excluded" if the group who voted to join FB later creates a different group.
Yea, that was kind of the vibe I was getting from this whole thing which is why I wanted to be very clear that anyone interested in joining is welcome now or later.
The current FB group has absolutely no rule stating that you can not be a part of any future FB or TB groups..
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I feel like this is a bit of "choose which clique you want to side with" and that makes me sad. While I don't have a problem joining FB now (and I'd also remain active on TB), I don't want to be "excluded" if the group who voted to join FB later creates a different group.
This. The FB group from my first child was by invitation only after the initial sign up since I was more cautious I waited and about 8 months after my 1st was born - I joined.
I feel like this is a bit of "choose which clique you want to side with" and that makes me sad. While I don't have a problem joining FB now (and I'd also remain active on TB), I don't want to be "excluded" if the group who voted to join FB later creates a different group.
Yea, that was kind of the vibe I was getting from this whole thing which is why I wanted to be very clear that anyone interested in joining is welcome now or later.
The current FB group has absolutely no rule stating that you can not be a part of any future rules or TB groups..
honestly ...i just think it's way too early for FB and the vetting process you are using is way too lax in my opinion.
Also.... we started this thread in order too decide if everyone was ready for FB and despite an overwhelming group of people that said no - you decided to make one anyways.
that's cool - but don't make it seem like we are excluding people by saying we will start or own FB group when the time is right and that we don't want to be a part of this one.
bb3vj3n if you look at the poll on the first page 24 people said yes, and the people that wanted to join sent us PMs, and didn't bother to comment. Also if you scroll through the comments the "overwhelming group" is actually the same people commenting back and forth.
I'm speaking directly to comments about people not being allowed to participate in future groups if they are in this current group- That is EXTREMELY cliquey, and I want to make sure the people interested in joining any of the groups knows that none of the people actually in the current group made any kind of suggestions like that.
What we have said over and over again was join or don't join. Everyone is welcome and will continue to be welcome to join the group.
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@pettycrocker 24 is not a lot considering how many of us there are ... also your past about how to join went up within a few hours of the poll opening. I believe there are only 9 yes votes at the time.
we aren't saying you can't join a future group - we are just saying you can't be in both.
Also... it's hard for us who want to join a group later on to find our place in any established FB group. there will be nearly 5 months of bonding before some of us are ready to join. we would rather continue to get to know one another a little better and then have a group where those friendships can continue
bb3vj3n if you look at the poll on the first page 24 people said yes, and the people that wanted to join sent us PMs, and didn't bother to comment. Also if you scroll through the comments the "overwhelming group" is actually the same people commenting back and forth.
I'm speaking directly to comments about people not being allowed to participate in future groups if they are in this current group- That is EXTREMELY cliquey, and I want to make sure the people interested in joining any of the groups knows that none of the people actually in the current group made any kind of suggestions like that.
What we have said over and over again was join or don't join. Everyone is welcome and will continue to be welcome to join the group.
This is the part that concerns me and why it would be nice to have just one group. If we have different FB groups, plus the original BMB, plus PGs on TB, that's going to really fragment our group and that's what feels "clique-y."
I don't have a problem with FB or PGs, but it's hard enough to keep up with everything on the BMB - let alone several different potential sub-groups. I guess we'll see how everything plays out.
@pettycrocker 24 is not a lot considering how many of us there are ... also your past about how to join went up within a few hours of the poll opening. I believe there are only 9 yes votes at the time.
we aren't saying you can't join a future group - we are just saying you can't be in both.
Also... it's hard for us who want to join a group later on to find our place in any established FB group. there will be nearly 5 months of bonding before some of us are ready to join. we would rather continue to get to know one another a little better and then have a group where those friendships can continue
24 is the majority of people that voted.
Saying you have to choose a group is extremely cliquey no matter how you spin it and we want to be clear that is not a rule in our group.
Everyone is still welcome to choose whatever group (or no group) is best for them. We will continue to welcome new members now and later, whether we are well established or not. I would hope it would be the same in all the groups, but you all can set it up however you feel comfortable.
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I think it should’ve been is several are still opposed and can give logical reasons (internet safety) we should, as a whole, wait and become a Facebook group TOGETHER post delivery. That way we learn about one another and grow together. As I mentioned before, I joined my daughter’s FB group after everyone else and for a couple months there it WAS a little awkward for me (and I’m sure them) posting, joining in on their baby day posts, etc. So to say we are all welcome whenever is very kind, but it is quite inevitable that there will be some uncomfortable members of said group, therefore, I can already see another group forming and I understand and agree and would likely join the later group. My current group with DD had this happen.
I think it should’ve been is several are still opposed and can give logical reasons (internet safety) we should, as a whole, wait and become a Facebook group TOGETHER post delivery. That way we learn about one another and grow together. As I mentioned before, I joined my daughter’s FB group after everyone else and for a couple months there it WAS a little awkward for me (and I’m sure them) posting, joining in on their baby day posts, etc. So to say we are all welcome whenever is very kind, but it is quite inevitable that there will be some uncomfortable members of said group, therefore, I can already see another group forming and I understand and agree and would likely join the later group. My current group with DD had this happen.
As for the point of just joining later or whatever, if it actually turns out that everyone who has joined this Facebook group does stay active and people feel comfortable joining a private group with them, cool. However, I have an idea that people aren't going to be able to keep up with both and then it would be a matter of joining a group of people with whom you're not close so at that point, a second (or more) group makes sense to me.
Again, if you want to join the Facebook group now and that works for you, that's wonderful. I'm glad that people have something that works for them. If you want to stay here and this works for you, that's wonderful.
I don't think the majority of people commenting are trying to make this a cliquey thing. I, and a number of other people, have simply clearly stated we're simply not ready for a Facebook group for a number of reasons, many of which we have articulated. I think that this is starting to get off the rails and accusatory and it would be nice if people could step back for a few.
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I don't think this should even be an argument. If you're comfortable, join. If not, don't. Start a group later on, who cares. Start 10 groups. It really shouldn't matter to others what friendships are made and kept here.
Anyway, I joined the FB group yesterday because I like the formatting better over there and because it was looking like a lot of regs were headed that way. And a lot of regs did head over.
But I left the group because I keep feeling iffy about being on FB so early and I think I jumped the gun. I feel more comfortable over here. Now a handful of you know my real name but I'm not too worried about it.
The group doesn't seem sketchy and everyone looked legit so far. Just personal preference.
I wasn't trying to turn this into an argument by mentioning the "clique" thing. I'm sorry if my comment came across that way. I just felt a little sad at the idea that if I joined now, I might be excluded from participating in a different group later. I understand everyone's varying opinions and agree that this probably should have waited and been done later. I'll just keep myself parked here for now...no biggie, I guess.
I don't know if this is helpful at all, but I just see it as two different visions for FB groups. I believe @pettycrocker envisioned her group as a general March 18 mom group, not specifically for regulars of this TB group, just March '18 moms in general who want to build on that common ground, which is why she opened the doors to anyone who meets the minimum requirement. In fact, I believe there may be at least one member who wasn't even on TB at all. It's her group, her vision for she'd like it to become. I just don't see any problem with that.
Others are interested in a FB group specific to this BMB down the line. That's a completely different kind of group, more exclusive, and a way to deepen friendships and relationships that are currently forming.
I'm not saying one is better than the other, just different, and people can make that decision for themselves.
FWIW, I dipped my toes in and decided it wasn't a good fit for me, personally. I hope be able to make that decision for any future group that may form as well.
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I wasn't trying to turn this into an argument by mentioning the "clique" thing. I'm sorry if my comment came across that way. I just felt a little sad at the idea that if I joined now, I might be excluded from participating in a different group later. I understand everyone's varying opinions and agree that this probably should have waited and been done later. I'll just keep myself parked here for now...no biggie, I guess.
Let's just take it as it comes. Who knows what this group will even look like in another 4-6 months!
I wasn't trying to turn this into an argument by mentioning the "clique" thing. I'm sorry if my comment came across that way. I just felt a little sad at the idea that if I joined now, I might be excluded from participating in a different group later. I understand everyone's varying opinions and agree that this probably should have waited and been done later. I'll just keep myself parked here for now...no biggie, I guess.
Let's just take it as it comes. Who knows what this group will even look like in another 4-6 months!
I do t know how you guys have your security settings on Facebook but they sound pretty lax. You should have it set that only friends can see your information and pictures including your profile/cover pic. That way less worry of stranger danger.
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I like the idea because sometimes I want to post something but I just feel like because it isn't specific I don't have anywhere to post it. SO I feel like I look like a lurker when I'd like to contribute more but just feel like my contribution doesn't have a spot to go
I like the idea because sometimes I want to post something but I just feel like because it isn't specific I don't have anywhere to post it. SO I feel like I look like a lurker when I'd like to contribute more but just feel like my contribution doesn't have a spot to go
That is what I use the Randoms weekly thread for here on TB. It is a place for random posts that might not fit into another thread. Just in case you are wondering, I see you post often enough I wouldn't consider you a lurker. But you do whatever you feel comfortable doing. if Facebook would let you grow better friendships and get more support, then go for it.
Afm: I will probably end up joining a FB group at some point. I love The Bump, even if I have a hard time with mobile, but once I have baby I know I won't look here as often as I look at Facebook. Plus, this is going to be our last child, and I know (from my 7yrs of being on the site, omgold!) that I feel awkward when I am on a break or not actively trying. Although I might feel differently if it is a PG.
I intend to stay active here until baby comes, with or without joining a FB group near the end.
@syssa-o if you have a topic that you want to discuss (that doesn’t apply only to you) feel free to post a new thread! We’ve had some fun topics come up from that. What is frowned upon is AW threads that only apply to the poster and no one else can really contribute to.
Also, I’m genuinely curious how big this Facebook group will get? I like a smaller knit group when all is said and done. DD’s is right around the 40 mark.
Re: Facebook Group?
No hard feelings against any of you who are joining and plan to do that instead of hanging out here. I get that the format is not for everyone. I'm just getting a Ghostbuster's "let's not cross the streams" feeling as a general way of avoiding unnecessary drama and cross-talk.
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Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
But definitely go with whatever you all feel comfortable with, I think a lot of members were looking into making a group on here too, so there will be plenty of options for everyone.
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DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
I'm not that bothered. People who want more of a free for all (I'm not saying this in a bad way at all) and don't want to deal with TB at all can join in on the FB group now. For people who are more cautious and want to belong to a tighter knit group of close friends with no randoms and lurkers can wait til a second group is set up later.
Win win.
As for me, I'm gladly staying right here for a while. We still have people who are first trimester. I'd like to keep this active for people who join later for whatever reason. I'd also like to get to know people better and be discerning about who I join a private group--of any kind--with. I don't need just anyone who happens to be due in March to know my full name and have any access to my life, my family, or my friends at this point. Black helicopters, tinfoil hats, whatever, I, and my husband are both pretty private and especially due to things like our work travel, I don't need people having any access to our information.
Once everyone remaining is in the third tri, I'll gladly discuss a private group on TB (which is my personal preference) or Facebook.
As for the point of just joining later or whatever, if it actually turns out that everyone who has joined this Facebook group does stay active and people feel comfortable joining a private group with them, cool. However, I have an idea that people aren't going to be able to keep up with both and then it would be a matter of joining a group of people with whom you're not close so at that point, a second (or more) group makes sense to me.
Again, if you want to join the Facebook group now and that works for you, that's wonderful. I'm glad that people have something that works for them. If you want to stay here and this works for you, that's wonderful.
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i might hold off on the fb group then if some of the OG ladies from early on are choosing not to yet. but I won't be joining a private bump group because that will be just as bad working on mobile for me.
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The current FB group has absolutely no rule stating that you can not be a part of any future FB or TB groups..
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DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
Also.... we started this thread in order too decide if everyone was ready for FB and despite an overwhelming group of people that said no - you decided to make one anyways.
that's cool - but don't make it seem like we are excluding people by saying we will start or own FB group when the time is right and that we don't want to be a part of this one.
I'm speaking directly to comments about people not being allowed to participate in future groups if they are in this current group- That is EXTREMELY cliquey, and I want to make sure the people interested in joining any of the groups knows that none of the people actually in the current group made any kind of suggestions like that.
What we have said over and over again was join or don't join. Everyone is welcome and will continue to be welcome to join the group.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
... also your past about how to join went up within a few hours of the poll opening. I believe there are only 9 yes votes at the time.
we aren't saying you can't join a future group - we are just saying you can't be in both.
Also... it's hard for us who want to join a group later on to find our place in any established FB group. there will be nearly 5 months of bonding before some of us are ready to join. we would rather continue to get to know one another a little better and then have a group where those friendships can continue
I don't have a problem with FB or PGs, but it's hard enough to keep up with everything on the BMB - let alone several different potential sub-groups. I guess we'll see how everything plays out.
Saying you have to choose a group is extremely cliquey no matter how you spin it and we want to be clear that is not a rule in our group.
Everyone is still welcome to choose whatever group (or no group) is best for them. We will continue to welcome new members now and later, whether we are well established or not. I would hope it would be the same in all the groups, but you all can set it up however you feel comfortable.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
I don't think the majority of people commenting are trying to make this a cliquey thing. I, and a number of other people, have simply clearly stated we're simply not ready for a Facebook group for a number of reasons, many of which we have articulated. I think that this is starting to get off the rails and accusatory and it would be nice if people could step back for a few.
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BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
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Anyway, I joined the FB group yesterday because I like the formatting better over there and because it was looking like a lot of regs were headed that way. And a lot of regs did head over.
But I left the group because I keep feeling iffy about being on FB so early and I think I jumped the gun. I feel more comfortable over here. Now a handful of you know my real name but I'm not too worried about it.
The group doesn't seem sketchy and everyone looked legit so far. Just personal preference.
Others are interested in a FB group specific to this BMB down the line. That's a completely different kind of group, more exclusive, and a way to deepen friendships and relationships that are currently forming.
I'm not saying one is better than the other, just different, and people can make that decision for themselves.
FWIW, I dipped my toes in and decided it wasn't a good fit for me, personally. I hope be able to make that decision for any future group that may form as well.
Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012 Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!
Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Afm: I will probably end up joining a FB group at some point. I love The Bump, even if I have a hard time with mobile, but once I have baby I know I won't look here as often as I look at Facebook. Plus, this is going to be our last child, and I know (from my 7yrs of being on the site, omgold!) that I feel awkward when I am on a break or not actively trying. Although I might feel differently if it is a PG.
I intend to stay active here until baby comes, with or without joining a FB group near the end.
edit - spelling