Facebook Group?

pettycrocker

I know this came up when we were like 12 seconds pregnant and it was just WAY too early for a FB group, I think now that we are all in our 2nd trimester (or entering our 2nd trimester) it's a good time to consider this. Mainly because I want to know when and if you all find a baby sale, and when the next BRU trade in is   

ETA- 

You can PM me or @notthefather for a link to join, we are currently asking that you include a pic of your u/s within the FB group to insure everyone is who they say they are and is actually pregnant, TIA 

pettycrocker

You can private message me for a link to the group if interested 

notthefather

Would there be any requirements to prove you're a real, pregnant person? Such as, even if only temporarily, becoming a "friend" with at least one person who can verify you appear to be a real person? Or show something that proves you are actually pregnant (an ultrasound with your name and date, a public pregnancy announcement, a pee test with a specific word on it, etc.)?

pettycrocker

@notthefather it's really up to you all, if you want there to be requirements we can have requirements. I get it, I've been on TB since 2010 I've seen a lot of crazy stuff on here. lol 

pettycrocker

I have the group set up as "closed" right now so members can join, once that is all set, I will switch it over to secret 

@notthefather would you want to do some vetting of the members? I can make you an admin 

deleted22152218

Normally I'd say "you're crazy, not until closer to the end of third tri!" 
But if all the regs are gonna get on board for a fb group this early, I'm into it.
  

As far as requirements to prove you're real, I am not quite comfortable adding anyone as a friend from TB quite yet.  Maybe a selfie that can't be faked. Like, a selfie holding up 3 fingers, sticking out your tongue, closing one eye, with a red dot on your nose. Pretty hard to find something like that on google images right? 

notthefather

I will if other people are okay with the process. I'd love to hear other thoughts on this first though.

crossfitbabybump

I've never been on TB facebook groups before so I'm curious what kind of crazy stuff has happened, lol. but I a agree with proving themselves!

vflux33

So are you guys going to all abandon this BMB now? That sucks. I left Facebook for personal reasons over a year ago and I don't plan to go back, but I would really like to keep talking with everyone here. 

Can we consider a private group on TB as an alternative? What's the rush? 

crossfitbabybump

@vflux33 - Definitely not leaving TB!!

orbmaker

I use facebook sparingly, and keep my circle there pretty private. I don't personally see any reason to have two separate bump groups going! Is the idea, like, connecting with each other locally? I don't get it.

Gingermom15

I'm not sure about joining one this early. If there is a vetting process to weed out the potential crazies, then maybe. What would the process be?

Gingermom15

If we can vet the members I would likely join. My bmb for my first moved to Facebook and I'm still active with them every day, it's nice keeping in touch and having a group of women with kids the same age. 

vflux33

@orbmaker My suggestion for a private group here on TB is just if people are considering moving to a private group on Facebook because they are concerned about privacy issues (which I totally get--I don't post pics or anything like that in the public part of this site). So if it's just a privacy issue we could move over to a PG here. I'm in several already and I think they work great and IMO they are more "private" than a private FB group because there is zero overlap with your "other" life and your info isn't used for advertising purposes the same way it is in FB. 

Personally I'm fine with a group here or just continuing here in the BMB... I am not OK with Facebook though. As much as I'd love to keep in touch I will bow out if everyone decides to move to FB, which will be shitty because I like you guys.

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pettycrocker

vflux33 said:

So are you guys going to all abandon this BMB now? That sucks. I left Facebook for personal reasons over a year ago and I don't plan to go back, but I would really like to keep talking with everyone here. 

Can we consider a private group on TB as an alternative? What's the rush? 

This will be my 3rd FB group I've participated in, and I'm still here on TB. People stay and people go. TB is never super active and some people just don't want to bother with it beyond pregnancy. 

ShawnnaO

+1 to begin all for a private bump group or just staying here in the BMB. I don't know if I'd ever be comfortable with joining a FB group, so if you ladies do open one, I hope to still see you here at least for the duration of our pregnancies! 

pettycrocker

You can private message me or @notthefather for a link to join the FB group  

notthefather

Reasons I prefer FB: (1) Privacy of what I post (2) The Bump app is really frustrating. 
I will float both FB and TB but will share privacy related info on FB alone. 

vflux33

*sorry quote came out weird and can't delete now

This will be my 3rd FB group I've participated in, and I'm still here on TB. People stay and people go. TB is never super active and some people just don't want to bother with it beyond pregnancy. 

There's nothing I can do to stop this if and when it happens, but TBH it really sucks. I came to TB in a large part because it's not FB. I suspect I'm not the only person who did so. We have a whole way of communicating here, and we all came to this site with an intention to communicate on this site. We're fine here. I don't see why we have to move. 

It's like you go to a party at a friend's house. Everyone's having a great time, and you're having a great time, no one has a problem with the house, and the party is scheduled to last 9 hours (with an after party at a mutually agreed upon location). The host of the house where there party is is one of those people who is super cool and who everyone gets along with. And then someone walks in 2-3 hours into the party and wants to move the party to another house. The owner of the other house is somewhat of a controversial character in the group of friends who not everyone gets along with. Some people just don't know her and have heard she likes to violate their privacy, or an uncle who likes to constantly argue with her about politics is there, and some people have been there before and decide they don't like her for legit reasons that no one questions. Is it not kind of shitty for the people who have legit reasons to stay to move the party over? Is it not taking something away from those people? 

pettycrocker

Everyone is welcome to join or not join

FB is more of a place to chat about things pregnancy and baby related IMO, TB has become very "Question specific" so it's not quite a forum for open chatter. Sometimes people just want to post about having to pee 78x in one night without having to worry about being ridiculed for not having an important question or content to contribute. 
 

justkeeptrying

Personally I am not ready to move to FB. I love my FB May 2015 group, and am a very active member. But I'm just not there yet. We didn't form our group until our babies were born, and I personally would prefer to wait. 

I see nothing wrong with those wanting to do it now, to go ahead. And those wanting to wait can wait and form a different group later. Honestly there are a TON of women here, and there's likely to be a split at some point anyway to make things more manageable. So I'm fine with that being whenever. 

Also, I'm always paranoid that something on Facebook will become public by accident. And I am sooooo not ready to announce this pregnancy yet due to PGAL brain. 

bb3vj3n

pettycrocker said:mmm

Everyone is welcome to join or not join

FB is more of a place to chat about things pregnancy and baby related IMO, TB has become very "Question specific" so it's not quite a forum for open chatter. Sometimes people just want to post about having to pee 78x in one night without having to worry about being ridiculed for not having an important question or content to contribute. 
 

I honestly am impartial...i would like to see a FB group eventually perhaps... but it feels early. I also agree with @vflux33 that it does exclude members of our community who choose not to use FB and came here for the unique mom bond experience.  if we all jump ship- they get left behind. 

Also - I didn't really understand what you meant in your above comment.. maybe you can explain it again? what about TB doesn't allow for baby/ pregnancy specific conversations?

in the PGAL thread we share or stories and out anxieties and talk about what's going on in our lives.  There is a new GTKY  every week where we talk about our personal lives. We had a nursery thread where we shared ideas on design... and a lazy parenting thread where we talked about our fav tips and tricks.  We habe HDBD  just starting and we have an announcement thread where people have shared their photos and stories. MBF and others where we go to vent about life outside of pregnancy....i just don't see this as a place where we only ask questions about symptoms and how many times we have to pee. lol

anyways...i just don't see the difference of what a FB group offers that if different than all of the above - except that some people aren't comfortable joining...

vflux33

I actually see a lot of chatter here, it's just somewhat organized, which is cool with mostly everyone. 

Like I said I can't stop anyone from going, but I think it sucks. I feel like me and the other people who have reasons to stay off FB are all gonna lose something in the process and that March 18 on TB will become a ghost town. 

kiki75

My personal votes at this point:
1. Just continue the BMB as is.
2. Private Bump group. I hate the Facebook layout. I find it a lot harder to keep up with a group that moved to Facebook that another that stayed on TB. 

orbmaker

I do hate the bump app (in fact had to delete the thing cos it was overheating my phone and draining the battery!), but I also mostly hate FB haha. Now, I use TB from my home computer on my days off. I could see the benefit of a private TB group, but also don't really care either way (no one I know has heard of TB) and I'm not the most active user of all time. But esp as a first time mom, it's so great having a place to lurk on and communicate with other ladies navigating my stage of pregnancy.

HappyMonkey817

As much as I dislike this place and prefer Facebook, I think it's too soon. I'm all for it a little later.

riansmommie

HappyMonkey817 said:

As much as I dislike this place and prefer Facebook, I think it's too soon. I'm all for it a little later.

^this.

my other BMBs moved to FB, but it was after babies were born, that's when I like to move over. 

mdfarmchick

I think it is too early for a move to Facebook. When we were “12 seconds pregnant” the overall consensus was to wait until we had babies or at least the third trimester. I also am concerned about those we might leave behind. I know I haven’t been super active for the past couple of weeks because well, life pregnant with a toddler. 
I’m not leaving you @vflux33.

vflux33

@mdfarmchick

heatherdubrow

Agree with everyone saying it's still too early for Facebook. I'll join one later on though.

barrelocarol

I would love to join a FB group. I barely use FB but I would like to connect with more of you ladies. 

I would love to text or email. My old BMB used WhatsApp and it was awesome. We still keep in touch. 

Also, some, including myself still don't have ultrasound pics (midwife care) but totally get the verification of being a real person/real preggo. So I'm up for whatever. 

So, at the risk of sounding like a creeper, I'd love to be friends in real life with anyone else who us up for it!

isntthatspeshul

notthefather said:

Reasons I prefer FB: (1) Privacy of what I post (2) The Bump app is really frustrating. 
I will float both FB and TB but will share privacy related info on FB alone. 

I'm with you. I'm having trouble keeping up with the threads and the lack of notifications annoys me. I'm on fb a lot for work so I can engage more there and want to do so! so I'm in. 

crossfitbabybump

barrelocarol said:

I would love to join a FB group. I barely use FB but I would like to connect with more of you ladies. 

I would love to text or email. My old BMB used WhatsApp and it was awesome. We still keep in touch. 

Also, some, including myself still don't have ultrasound pics (midwife care) but totally get the verification of being a real person/real preggo. So I'm up for whatever. 

So, at the risk of sounding like a creeper, I'd love to be friends in real life with anyone else who us up for it!

I'll be your friend!

The ladies on FB have been so sweet! I love the idea of having both FB and TB to go to. I can be on TB at work and on FB at home, since the App hates me and won't let me do anything. It keeps giving me an error message, lol.

JamieK1882

I've been waiting for this post, and honestly I'm excited we're talking it now. I hate TB, but am super active on fb. I sent @pettycrocker a PM for the link, and am happy to verify however you guys want that I am who I say I am ☺️

[Deleted User]

I'm on team wait until babies are born.  But as long as you ladies moving to TB don't stop posting here I think it's fine if ya'll jump on that.  

hullabalou

Yes! I have been having a hard time keeping up with TB at work but I am active on FB daily. I will send a PM!

eta: I do still plan to contribute on TB when I'm able, but mobile bumping is terrible on my phone and when it is a busy time at work I pretty much never am able to check in.

Gingermom15

I joined but I will still be active here! 

becausescience

I think it is too early.

Also is there any type of vetting process like only letting in people who post somewhat regularly or does anybody who asks get an invite? Stranger danger and catfishing are real. 

Also I know people say that they'll continue participating on both, but I kinda see this as the death of the board because most actually won't. So I'd be interested in a PG for those who want to stay on TB, but be able to share more.

chasingroygbiv

I’m going to pass for now, but I hope you’ll accept me later. I was a late joiner in my last FB group because I have a huge fear of stranger danger. The group started as babies were born, but I waited until a couple months after. We unfortunately had to rid of 2 weirdos on our Facebook group right before our LO’s turned 2. Unfortunate, but who knew a person could lie so well and be so crazy? It was a total catfish situation, but nothing can compare to the one we had on our bump board who many donated money to. Save some room and fun for those of us staying back, please! 

crossfitbabybump

@chasingroygbiv - WHAT!? Why do people do weird shit like that? Catfish a group of moms?

vflux33

becausescience said:

Also I know people say that they'll continue participating on both, but I kinda see this as the death of the board because most actually won't. So I'd be interested in a PG for those who want to stay on TB, but be able to share more.

^ This. Though I appreciate some people want to participate in both, I think in reality that it is unlikely the board will stay active while there is a competing FB group.

I'd love to be wrong about that, but remember MySpace? Yeah, neither do I.