@becausescience that was my thought as well. I think those of us that stay here and contribute regularly can think about forming a different FB group later down the road. It would feel weird to join this particular fb group later, as relationships will form between now and then. Im happy to just keep posting here for the time being.
@crossfitbabybump I would guess some sort of mental illness drives some to do it, others pure boredom, jealousy, etc. I didn’t believe actually Catfish existed when watching the show until it happened to our group. It sucks and it scared a lot of us for a long time (obviously still has me freaked out, but)..
I've seen several sophisticated catfish scenarios play out on the bump over the years. For what it's worth, we are requiring an ultrasound with your full name and date of ultrasound (or something else for our Canadian friends who don't get ultrasounds until 20 weeks) to prove you are actually pregnant. I'm also checking the date of FB profile creation so someone can't steal an ultrasound picture and then create a new FB account just to make it match.
Either way, I get the various stances on this so no pressure for anyone to pick sides.
I asked to join the FB group. I hate TB. And the layout is horrible. I hate how I can't post a one off question or topic without going against the layout. I Am always thinking "now where should I put this question or comment." Half the time I do t post anything because I feel like my comments/questions get buried in threads.
I am all for it!
Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012
Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!
Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017
@notthefather I think @becausescience was also wondering about whether you were vetting participation. Like are you adding regular posters or just anyone from TB who is pregnant and wants in? Personally I would love to (eventually) join a group of regulars that I 'know' vs any random pregnant person. Just a thought.
As a chronic multi-tabber who normally keeps up on 4+ social forums, I can promise I won't flake on any one location in particular (but I may occasionally flake on all of them, lol). I also like the idea of having TB for the structured discussions and then an FB group for more loose chatter / non sequiturs. My poor phone doesn't have space for the app and I have no idea how private groups on TB work.
@calecorvus PGs on TB work almost exactly like the rest of the forum except that you need to be added into the group by a moderator (moderators are regular TB users, usually the people who formed the group initially just like on FB), and for some reason you can't do polls in PGs (which honestly makes no sense). Moderators can delete threads as well, just like on FB. Each group can set its own standards and rules. For those of you who do use the app, getting into a group through the app is the same as reading the other boards. The vibe of the groups is different because everyone knows each other, content is only visible to members, no random posters asking a question and then disappearing, more people share pictures with their actual faces and/or details from their actual lives, etc. Just like on FB, friendships are formed, and sometimes people end up hanging out IRL if they live in the same region. A PG is really whatever members decide to make of it.
I'd be happy to join a private group, but I'm reluctant to jump on FB. If we did a PG, it would be easier to share bump and life pics without feeling so on edge about weirdos stumbling in. I hope people don't leave, and we can keep getting to know people here at TB!
@heatherdubrow: Great question and not something we've discussed. So far I've only seen names I recognize but I think most request are going to @pettycrocker and I don't if she's heard from any lurkers.
I really enjoy TB boards here. I am on my computer all the time for work, and it fits well for me. I will probably wait to join a FB group until closer to delivery. I have the same issue that a few other do about sharing info on FB this early. Especially since I haven't announced on FB yet.
I enjoy TB boards on here as well. While I requested to join the FB group, I think I'll still be on here as well. I'm on FB a lot so I look forward to that group as well.
I love this idea! But I’m mostly on TB on my phone which is terrible to manage! I want to be a part of the FB group but definitely waiting a bit. I’m not a big participator but do respond and comment on boards when I can! I would love to get to know you girls a bit more before adding myself to the Facebook group. I hope you ladies will let me join possibly in the third trimester!
@HappyMonkey817 I'm having an issue with it too. When i go to look at my groups on FB, I can't see it. If i do a search for it, it pops up though, and clearly says I'm in the group. Weird. I also see that FB hasn't a new feature where you can add groups to your "favorite" group list, so my betting that this is a glitch caused by that update? Also, I'm totally gonna stalk your family. Just kidding. But I am doing a quick look over of everyone's profile because I'm a paranoid person and I'm not gonna get catfished. Hell nah.
I'd love to join! FB is a lot more user friendly for me and I at least get notifications when someone responds to me so I can interact with them. I only mobile bump and I don't get that now.
Maybe later down the road for me. Not quite comfortable with FB and all the personal info. Also, I haven’t really announced this pregnancy to the world yet- just family and close friends.
I like this idea because I personally hate the bump app. I haven't been able to post all week because my phone wasn't recognizing the app until it magically started working again today. I'll still continue here though bc I do like a lot of the discussions that take place.
well.... regardless of how we feel about it, I guess we will have to adapt. I assume we just lost a good chunk of our group to FB. I'm happy to stay here for now with you all. I'm on board with the private group though. I use mobile which is a total pain in the butt... so I don't think it should be me, but any volunteers to get a private BMB started and organized?
@bb3vj3n any reason we need to do it now? I’m good with staying here for awhile longer so just wondering why the rush to migrate? I personally would like to settle in a bit more and weed out a few more crazies
@bb3vj3n any reason we need to do it now? I’m good with staying here for awhile longer so just wondering why the rush to migrate? I personally would like to settle in a bit more and weed out a few more crazies
Agree with this - I'm very happy here right now!
@barrelocarol It's really easy to fake, plus just because you are in a group doesn't mean you are friends with the other members so they can't see your profile. I can't even begin to tell you how many crappy catfishing stories have come out of the BMB FBs. Some really bad ones where people set up GoFundMes for their fake sob stories and got thousands of dollars out of the group and then vanished... just awful. Huge reason that I want to wait until all the way through our pregnancies so hopefully weed some crazies out and then only allow in the people who stuck around. Right now we still have so many randoms bouncing around - some of whom will go on to be regs and some of whom will just lurk/disappear.
@heatherdubrow I don’t care what anyone says, it’s too soon. There are already lurkers that requested to join. Maybe no one will be fake on Facebook, but that doesn’t mean they’re not crazy or could be up to no good. Not a risk I’m willing to take, not only for MY safety and privacy, but my family’s. I truly do not see the hurry and TB has worked just fine for an entire pregnancy in the past. There are enough regulars staying back that can form bonds if others decide to leave TB behind. I personally don’t like the idea of being both places because conversations here with be spoken about on the FB group and those of us not there will be clueless.
@heatherdubrow I don’t care what anyone says, it’s too soon. There are already lurkers that requested to join. Maybe no one will be fake on Facebook, but that doesn’t mean they’re not crazy or could be up to no good. Not a risk I’m willing to take, not only for MY safety and privacy, but my family’s. I truly do not see the hurry and TB has worked just fine for an entire pregnancy in the past. There are enough regulars staying back that can form bonds if others decide to leave TB behind. I personally don’t like the idea of being both places because conversations here with be spoken about on the FB group and those of us not there will be clueless.
Oh yikes I hadn't thought of that - and I don't like that one bit. Maybe the FB mods can make that against the rules? If you have an issue or want to comment about something to do with TB then you have to come to TB to do it. @pettycrocker not sure if you're still here but what do you think?
@heatherdubrow I don’t care what anyone says, it’s too soon. There are already lurkers that requested to join. Maybe no one will be fake on Facebook, but that doesn’t mean they’re not crazy or could be up to no good. Not a risk I’m willing to take, not only for MY safety and privacy, but my family’s. I truly do not see the hurry and TB has worked just fine for an entire pregnancy in the past. There are enough regulars staying back that can form bonds if others decide to leave TB behind. I personally don’t like the idea of being both places because conversations here with be spoken about on the FB group and those of us not there will be clueless.
Oh yikes I hadn't thought of that - and I don't like that one bit. Maybe the FB mods can make that against the rules? If you have an issue or want to comment about something to do with TB then you have to come to TB to do it. @pettycrocker not sure if you're still here but what do you think?
I joined the FB group so that I could decide if it would be a good fit for me. It seems early, but a lot of regs joined. If there are too many randos for my comfort, I'm out. So I'll be both places until I know what's right for me personally.
That said, I'm absolutely not cool with cross-talk like you're describing. If I see it, I have no issue blowing that shit right outta the water.
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And there absolutely will be talk in the fb group about posts on TB. It’s just human nature. I don’t love it but I accept it. Another thought, when we do make another group my feeling is that you cannot be in both Facebook groups. That is a recipe for a lot of trouble.
Once again, ladies... Either join or don't join. It's not that serious. I sent the link to a good handful of people and I have no idea if they are lurkers or not, and more importantly I do not care if they are lurkers here or not. Some people just have a hard time posting on this format, TB mobile works about 5% of the time, and FB mobile works about 95% of the time, so I'm not going to mad at anyone who would prefer to chat on that format vs this one.
It's all much less clinical on FB. It's just a group of pregnant ladies chatting over there, not waiting to answer questions all day. And for anyone who is super worried about us leaving TB, I'm pretty sure everyone is still here.
You're all welcome to join. We are asking that you share your most recent u/s pic just to verify you are an actual pregnant person.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1 DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
732973 Clomid Cycles
2 IUIs
3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016 Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3 Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
@heatherdubrow no reason.... just saw a few people mention it. I'm happy to hang here
I also agree, if you choose to join the FB group now, I don't think you should be able to join a second group later on and participate in both. Seems like a recipe for trouble.
And there absolutely will be talk in the fb group about posts on TB. It’s just human nature. I don’t love it but I accept it. Another thought, when we do make another group my feeling is that you cannot be in both Facebook groups. That is a recipe for a lot of trouble.
The BMB for my second went to FB and I can honestly say there was no TB-related chatter there, ever. However, that group started sometime in third tri, and they were very discerning about who was allowed to join.
Like I said, I'm in there getting a feel for whether it's a good fit for me. Maybe it will be and maybe it won't. I think that's a fair thing to do, personally, and I would hope that wouldn't preclude me from any future group if I decide that this one isn't a good fit. We all have our comfort zones, but there's no harm in finding where exactly that comfort zone is.
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i don't think anyone should be banned from a group later on because they originally joined this group....i just think there should be a ban from participating in both.
FWIW, we're not setting up a group and locking the door? I'm not sure why there would be multiple groups? Everyone is welcome to join whenever they feel comfortable joining. I didn't join my original FB group until months after it was established... I didn't see any problem with that, that was when I was ready to join.
By this conversation it would seem like we are only letting people come into the group right now? Come over whenever you all feel like coming over.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1 DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
732973 Clomid Cycles
2 IUIs
3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016 Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3 Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
i don't think anyone should be banned from a group later on because they originally joined this group....i just think there should be a ban from participating in both.
I think that's fair.
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Re: Facebook Group?
Im happy to just keep posting here for the time being.
Either way, I get the various stances on this so no pressure for anyone to pick sides.
EDD March 12, 2018
I am all for it!
Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012 Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!
Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017
EDD March 12, 2018
Also, I'm totally gonna stalk your family.
Just kidding.
But I am doing a quick look over of everyone's profile because I'm a paranoid person and I'm not gonna get catfished. Hell nah.
I say this and I don't even have the FB app or even really know my password, if I'm honest.
@barrelocarol It's really easy to fake, plus just because you are in a group doesn't mean you are friends with the other members so they can't see your profile. I can't even begin to tell you how many crappy catfishing stories have come out of the BMB FBs. Some really bad ones where people set up GoFundMes for their fake sob stories and got thousands of dollars out of the group and then vanished... just awful. Huge reason that I want to wait until all the way through our pregnancies so hopefully weed some crazies out and then only allow in the people who stuck around. Right now we still have so many randoms bouncing around - some of whom will go on to be regs and some of whom will just lurk/disappear.
That said, I'm absolutely not cool with cross-talk like you're describing. If I see it, I have no issue blowing that shit right outta the water.
It's all much less clinical on FB. It's just a group of pregnant ladies chatting over there, not waiting to answer questions all day. And for anyone who is super worried about us leaving TB, I'm pretty sure everyone is still here.
You're all welcome to join. We are asking that you share your most recent u/s pic just to verify you are an actual pregnant person.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
I also agree, if you choose to join the FB group now, I don't think you should be able to join a second group later on and participate in both. Seems like a recipe for trouble.
Like I said, I'm in there getting a feel for whether it's a good fit for me. Maybe it will be and maybe it won't. I think that's a fair thing to do, personally, and I would hope that wouldn't preclude me from any future group if I decide that this one isn't a good fit. We all have our comfort zones, but there's no harm in finding where exactly that comfort zone is.
By this conversation it would seem like we are only letting people come into the group right now? Come over whenever you all feel like coming over.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!