@rachelg777 I agree... it's foolish. But I know it happens so I'll play along... I've literally been asked three times at work so far this school year if I'm pregnant and had to bold faced lie... because I said I was tired once and hungry twice.... ?!?!?! Do people think that if I haven't said anything I'm going to answer them honestly when they ask??
@sparkymcgeee@ccvslp thanks ladies!! It's a bit tricky because there is a party bus tomorrow night and you're supposed to bring your own drinks. I'll figure something out!
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
@sparkymcgeee@ccvslp thanks ladies!! It's a bit tricky because there is a party bus tomorrow night and you're supposed to bring your own drinks. I'll figure something out!
Just fill a vodka bottle with water. Or be a total basic and bring mikes hard lemonade and have it be regular lemonade in there.
I don't even drink when I'm not pregnant. I feel like I'm giving this too much thought.
We have told our mothers who are sooooo ecstatic!!!! We probably will tell close friends after 1st ultrasound and then everyone else at 13 weeks depending on my waistline. Note to self: find an OBGYN so you can have an ultrasound!!! Ugh.
We told our parents and a few friends. We will probably announce soon because the bloat is real and my belly remembers waaaaay too well what it's supposed to do. It's getting hard to hide already. And I'm not personally a big fan of the 3 month rule - having experienced loss before and dealing with it alone, I'd rather have my friends/family supporting me through it instead of having to suffer in silence.
We told my MIL, my sisters, my mom, and my dad. One of my co-workers figured it out. I told my supervisor b/c I had to have appointments 2 mornings in a row and he was covering my cases for me. I had a miscarriage a few years ago, and for me, it was better having the support of my immediate family. My BIL is getting married right around when I would usually announce to extended family. We will wait a few weeks after that so we don't steal their thunder. My SIL will probably figure it out before that though b/c she knows we were thinking about it and I won't be drinking during all the pre-wedding/wedding festivities.
@heelsidehero I have no problem bold faced lying to anyone right now. It blows my mind when people come out and ASK - like if I haven't told you, there's probably a really good reason I'm keeping it to myself.
@ccvslp exactly! Have no clue how she knew and why she asked. I haven't seen her in about a month and a half. Other than she knew we were about to try and she just told me today she's 8 weeks along.
I've been the most tired this pregnancy plus I knownill get asked why I'm not drinking at certain events (i.e my best friends bacherlotte party coming up). So it was easier for me to just announce. I'm a little over 6 weeks. I didn't announce until 12 with my son and 9 with my daughter. However I wouldn't hide a miscarriage anyway if it were to happen and would want others to know.
We have told some of our very close friends/coworkers. I had to leave work early one day before a staff meeting to do blood work when I was having early bleeding, so I ended up telling my principal earlier than planned, as well as the other three teachers in my grade. We plan on telling family after our first appointment at 8.5 weeks once we know for sure that everything looks good.
I didn't tell anyone (besides husband obvs) till five months last time! I am super introverted and hate attention, which my in-laws are quite heavy-handed with. I want to wait as long as possible this time but I think hubby won't be patient for long... Probably around Thanksgiving I'm guessing.
I don't even know how I'm going to tell my family. I'm only going to tell close friends for now. Having been through loss alone, I want a support system but last time having my family know only made it worse. They want me to be married, obviously, which would be ideal, but I'm not and they can't get over it. My boyfriends dad asked me today if I was and I told him no but I don't know that he believed me. My best friend just texted me that she's back in Indiana from 8 days in Jamaica and I can't wait to tell her tomorrow! I'm bursting at the seams to tell someone other than my boyfriend but I don't want to make a big, public announcement for a long, long time.
@ccvslp@rachelg777@sparkymcgeee@BertieMeetsGertie I could be wrong, but isn't tonic water dangerous during pregnancy? I know it's great for leg cramps but I feel like it's always a no go because of the quinine in it. I would go the club soda route instead of tonic, or say you wanted to try something different and get a (virgin) super fruity thing (if you don't normally drink them anyway)
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
@rachelg777 no problem! I don't think it all has it, like I'm sure there is some brand that doesn't but especially at an open bar who knows what kind you'll get. I had a friend that was pregnant the same time as I was with my son and she had terrible leg cramps which I remembered my old roommate using tonic water for. We looked online and sure enough it said to avoid quinine. For those that already did, I don't think a one time deal will hurt
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
@ladystinson that's good to know! Luckily vodka SODA was one of three beverage choices (tented reception at an orchard so limited) so I looked convincing and was fine!
We both chose 2 people to tell and then we told our life group from church. We went through a miscarriage in April of this year, and it was tough. When we first found out about it, we had to tell everyone....made it public on FB. This time around we are waiting until the "safe zone" of 12 weeks to announce. I will be 5 weeks tomorrow so another 7 weeks will be extremely tough. Good luck with the announcement! We did a video on FB which was a lot of fun!
We told my parents on Friday and then his best friend and my sister Friday night, his parents Saturday, my grandmother and aunt yesterday, 2 coworkers that we're really close to today (we all work in the same office) and his grandparents I think will be this evening. Waiting to make fully public until 12 weeks just because of my history. We have our support system in case, but I don't want to have to explain myself to the world
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
We told my mom and brother mostly because we had been discussing going in on a multi family house together and this would possibly change what we're looking for. Other than that we will probably tell the world after my first appointment on the 25th.
First St calls to family and close friends and then a pics of the two kiddos in their I'm going to be a big brother/big sister shirts.
I'm trying to wait a long time before terming work. Like, December. I work with lots of men in tech and last time I thought it was so obvious since I was visible from space, but no one really noticed. That said, the3women here will privacy realize so we'll see.
I have told one person who is a confidant and doesn't know anyone else I know. None of our parents can keep a secret so e won't tell them until we want the whole world to know.
It's really hard not to tell the kids, but it's way too long for them to wait and they have no concept of keeping things to themselves.
It feels very lonely not to be to talk about it. I really want to do the genetic testing first though. I also feel like a lot of people will be annoying about it since DD1 is so tough and I feel so old. (That might end up being how I end every post.) I might just be projecting my anxiety though. It jyst feels private right now.
Apparently my parents figured it out last week (thank you morning sickness) and they've been cooking the smelliest food to try and get me to fess up. Last night's fish made me cave. We are currently living with them so we knew they'd figure it out early on.
@mileswithmyles another guy at DH's work announced his wife was pregnant due right around me so DH announced too and the other guy said "I guess we were banging our wives on the same night" blech
My SIL offered me wine last night and I said no. She told my MIL she thought I was pregnant b/c I never say no to wine.
Ugh this drives me insane! If people decline wine, even if you think they are pregnant keep your comments to your damn self! This is why people at my work pretend to drink when pregnant-The second you turn down a drink at any event, the whole office *knows* you're pregnant
My SIL offered me wine last night and I said no. She told my MIL she thought I was pregnant b/c I never say no to wine.
Ugh this drives me insane! If people decline wine, even if you think they are pregnant keep your comments to your damn self! This is why people at my work pretend to drink when pregnant-The second you turn down a drink at any event, the whole office *knows* you're pregnant
I don't understand this. I like never drink. Is that really so strange? Really? I've never been questioned about it.
With all of my pregnancies we do the weekly picture of the bump. Last time my son who was 2 when I found out I was pregnant would take the pics with me and show off his belly. We haven't told him yet about thrice, but today marked week 6 so my hubs took my pic and my son seemed very suspicious... he's 4.5 now
Re: When to announce the pregnancy?
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
I don't even drink when I'm not pregnant. I feel like I'm giving this too much thought.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
night to look like wine since we are having a bunch of people over for dinner
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
https://myrecipemagic.com/recipe/recipedetail/easy-virgin-sangria
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
First St calls to family and close friends and then a pics of the two kiddos in their I'm going to be a big brother/big sister shirts.
Baby H: 5/12/2016
Baby H: 5/12/2016
I have told one person who is a confidant and doesn't know anyone else I know. None of our parents can keep a secret so e won't tell them until we want the whole world to know.
It's really hard not to tell the kids, but it's way too long for them to wait and they have no concept of keeping things to themselves.
It feels very lonely not to be to talk about it. I really want to do the genetic testing first though. I also feel like a lot of people will be annoying about it since DD1 is so tough and I feel so old. (That might end up being how I end every post.) I might just be projecting my anxiety though. It jyst feels private right now.
Baby H: 5/12/2016