@sparklingdiamond in my experience the board will grow richer in participation as we go on. One time wonders will stop trying to just get attention and the shyer people will come out to play as the chaff fades.
I personally avoid threads that attract the one time wonders, like the U/S thread and Intro thread. I will scan the U/S thread for people I know, but I don't waste time on the fly-by attention seekers.
Stuck in the stupid quote box, but you know it'll be one of those that'll be the first to suggest a FB group!
Pretty sure someone did that a while ago and we were all like, are you nuts?
@sparklingdiamond in my experience the board will grow richer in participation as we go on. One time wonders will stop trying to just get attention and the shyer people will come out to play as the chaff fades.
I personally avoid threads that attract the one time wonders, like the U/S thread and Intro thread. I will scan the U/S thread for people I know, but I don't waste time on the fly-by attention seekers.
Stuck in the stupid quote box, but you know it'll be one of those that'll be the first to suggest a FB group!
Yaaaaas! Omg it was so creepy last time. Some rando would pop up on a thread and be all "Let's all be FB friends!!!". Mkay lady, we aren't here for your Scensy/Tupperware/Avon//Oragami Owl/Protien Shake/Dildo party pyramid scheme. In my last group, at least 10 ladies bailed the group when we made the "no advertising" rule. Leeches.
I have a new WTF. My OB office tested my blood (4 vials), and apparently none of the tests were HCG. When I asked for it, the nurse was all "Oh we know you are pregnant. There is no point". Arrrrrrrgh, you just made my data-driven type A brain kerspode!!
@sparklingdiamond in my experience the board will grow richer in participation as we go on. One time wonders will stop trying to just get attention and the shyer people will come out to play as the chaff fades.
I personally avoid threads that attract the one time wonders, like the U/S thread and Intro thread. I will scan the U/S thread for people I know, but I don't waste time on the fly-by attention seekers.
Stuck in the stupid quote box, but you know it'll be one of those that'll be the first to suggest a FB group!
Yaaaaas! Omg it was so creepy last time. Some rando would pop up on a thread and be all "Let's all be FB friends!!!". Mkay lady, we aren't here for your Scensy/Tupperware/Avon//Oragami Owl/Protien Shake/Dildo party pyramid scheme. In my last group, at least 10 ladies bailed the group when we made the "no advertising" rule. Leeches.
That's such a good rule! I vote for that rule eventually when the day comes lol
@sparklingdiamond in my experience the board will grow richer in participation as we go on. One time wonders will stop trying to just get attention and the shyer people will come out to play as the chaff fades.
I personally avoid threads that attract the one time wonders, like the U/S thread and Intro thread. I will scan the U/S thread for people I know, but I don't waste time on the fly-by attention seekers.
Stuck in the stupid quote box, but you know it'll be one of those that'll be the first to suggest a FB group!
Yaaaaas! Omg it was so creepy last time. Some rando would pop up on a thread and be all "Let's all be FB friends!!!". Mkay lady, we aren't here for your Scensy/Tupperware/Avon//Oragami Owl/Protien Shake/Dildo party pyramid scheme. In my last group, at least 10 ladies bailed the group when we made the "no advertising" rule. Leeches.
That's such a good rule! I vote for that rule eventually when the day comes lol
Yes, yes, yes to all of this! I'm constantly annoyed with pyramid schemes by people I already know. Certainly not looking to add to that list!
@sparklingdiamond in my experience the board will grow richer in participation as we go on. One time wonders will stop trying to just get attention and the shyer people will come out to play as the chaff fades.
I personally avoid threads that attract the one time wonders, like the U/S thread and Intro thread. I will scan the U/S thread for people I know, but I don't waste time on the fly-by attention seekers.
Stuck in the stupid quote box, but you know it'll be one of those that'll be the first to suggest a FB group!
Yaaaaas! Omg it was so creepy last time. Some rando would pop up on a thread and be all "Let's all be FB friends!!!". Mkay lady, we aren't here for your Scensy/Tupperware/Avon//Oragami Owl/Protien Shake/Dildo party pyramid scheme. In my last group, at least 10 ladies bailed the group when we made the "no advertising" rule. Leeches.
That's such a good rule! I vote for that rule eventually when the day comes lol
Yes, yes, yes to all of this! I'm constantly annoyed with pyramid schemes by people I already know. Certainly not looking to add to that list!
Ugh, I feel you. I bought something from this girl I went to HS with and I like the product (its skincare) but it's expensive so I don't buy it a lot. Now everytime I interact with her she is always trying fo convince me to start selling it. I have told her no just about every way I know how. It's getting real old.
WTF to my three year old. Yes, are stuck in a hotel room but we're eating out at kid restaurants for most meals and doing plenty of activities with the kids - we spent all day today at the zoo. Anyway, she was quiet in the bathroom longer than necessary for any legitimate bathroom activity but insisted that no one come in because she "needed her privacy." I came in anyway and she was sitting on the back of the toilet with both feet in the toilet, kicking around an oh-so-appetizing mix of pee, toilet water and half a roll of toilet paper kicked to bits. I don't even want to tell you what the floor looked like. I would understand it if we weren't able to get them out or whatever but come on! Uncalled for.
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@sparklingdiamond, same! I wish I had more to contribute but when I check the boards not moving too much...
My WTF: Lots of big changes coming up at work and everyone is losing their shit. Calm yo' tits. It might suck for a while but everything will be fine. I just hate when people focus so much energy on the negative and not helping move the change forward positively. No one knows I'm KU, and I would normally deal with the bs by having a LARGE glass of wine at night. God, I miss the booze more than I should admit....
Sounds eerily familiar! Hah, I want to sceam at them to stop whining. But then I calm my moody self down haha.
@JJMNO1616 I was just very grateful there was no poop involved. I'm sure this sounds horrifying but after being peed on by 3 kids in various stages of infantdom, potty training, etc, pee is fairly innocuous to me at this point. Poop on the other hand? Still completely disgusting.
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Haha, me too... I actually have stuff to do and im just way too addicted to my phone right now! My wtf is 1. My stupid dreams... they've just been terrible lately! Jeez brain knock it off already and 2. I am just a bottomless pit! I am shocked I haven't gained weight, I've been so lazy!
My dreams have been nuts too! I thought I was losing it. Glad others have this
@JJMNO1616 I was just very grateful there was no poop involved. I'm sure this sounds horrifying but after being peed on by 3 kids in various stages of infantdom, potty training, etc, pee is fairly innocuous to me at this point. Poop on the other hand? Still completely disgusting.
I only have one that's peed on me, but pee doesn't really bother me anymore either. But yea, no poop.
WTF heart...why are you beating so fast? I'm just sitting here. Geez. WTF house...why can't you clean yourself? It's just too much. Also, WTF Wednesday...why aren't you Friday? I'm trying to have my 1st US here!
@sparklingdiamond documenting your pregnancy for yourself is Waaaaaaaay different! I saved a picture of my pee stick in my pregnancy album, yup something I peed on!
I have a pic of one of my children HOLDING this pee stick. I rinsed it off, but still gross. I'm keeping it anyway Celebrating alllllll the happiness privately, and not posting it anywhere else though! I hear ya.
I think the board might less active because of how organized people want to keep it. I'm honestly a little intimidated to start a new thread. On the one hand, some organization is nice, but on the other, I suspect people will post less.
@ngolimento The same thing happened to me! 5 vials and a urine sample and no hcg test because they trust the home pregnancy tests. Like come on, I have to wait 2 more weeks to even get an inkling if things are ok!
WTF dreams. I had this awful nightmare about leeches last night
I think the board might less active because of how organized people want to keep it. I'm honestly a little intimidated to start a new thread. On the one hand, some organization is nice, but on the other, I suspect people will post less.
I find lots of ways to interact with people on the threads that are already created though... are you saying none of the topics or things people have to say interest you? I guess I'm just confuses by why creating a new thread would suddenly make you more actice then just jumping in on conversation already taking place. I think the problem comes down to people genuinely caring to interact and not just post about themselves (not saying that's what you are doing). I would find it a lot harder to keep up with people and conversation if there were 10 new threads posted everyday.
I find lots of ways to interact with people too, the topics and things people have to say are interesting to me. The OP mentioned how this board seems not so active, and compared to my experience in past BMBs, I agree. I just offered a reason why that might be.
I think the board might less active because of how organized people want to keep it. I'm honestly a little intimidated to start a new thread. On the one hand, some organization is nice, but on the other, I suspect people will post less.
I find lots of ways to interact with people on the threads that are already created though... are you saying none of the topics or things people have to say interest you? I guess I'm just confuses by why creating a new thread would suddenly make you more actice then just jumping in on conversation already taking place. I think the problem comes down to people genuinely caring to interact and not just post about themselves (not saying that's what you are doing). I would find it a lot harder to keep up with people and conversation if there were 10 new threads posted everyday.
I suspect people don't want to participate in a way that isn't all about them. Why participate in a U/S where everyone supports each other, rather than post your own super duper special thread and rake in the adoration? Bleh.
ETA:. That is how most other pregnancy sites work, and each post has maybe one "like" or response. It is really lacking in human connection and soul.
@irenejean Well my only previous experience on TB is from participating on the TTGP thread where things are also very structured. There never seemed to be problem with interaction there. I will say that on TTGP it is a very established community though and the ladies there are very investment in each other's journerys TTC. So maybe it will just take some time for things to develop like that here.
Late to the thread but dude, that bear gif made me cry from laughing so hard.
@sparklingdiamond I HATE when people spray air fresheners at my office or wear heavy perfume. Instant headache and yeah vomit. Ugh.
@danjoly I can one up you.... I secretly still have my pee stick from DS... he's 2 so it's literally an almost 3 year old pee stick. It's gross but I can't bring myself to throw it out. It's nuts. LOL
@JJMNO1616 Not gonna lie - I hate the board organization too. My last BMB was nothing like this. I don't like scrolling through five million responses in the weekly questions, and as an end of the month mama (again), by the time it's my turn to share things like ultrasounds or even an intro it feels as though people DGAF on huge threads. I try to participate on threads but because people are so uptight about the board structure that most of us had NO say in, i don't feel nearly as connected here as I did on my other BMB, and I was active fairly quickly there. I know that there are others who feel the same way as I do, but who haven't wanted to rock the boat. Just sayin.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me. You made my wedding day complete.
I like the board organization. My last BMB got a little crazy with a bunch of one-offs. After a while it's kinda annoying to be answering the same question over and over because somebody didn't search to see if there was already a convo started about it. Especially doinky questions that are better to just google. But I would agree that sometimes it is a little weird to hop into a conversation when it's further along like 2nd/3rd page
@JJMNO1616 Not gonna lie - I hate the board organization too. My last BMB was nothing like this. I don't like scrolling through five million responses in the weekly questions, and as an end of the month mama (again), by the time it's my turn to share things like ultrasounds or even an intro it feels as though people DGAF on huge threads. I try to participate on threads but because people are so uptight about the board structure that most of us had NO say in, i don't feel nearly as connected here as I did on my other BMB, and I was active fairly quickly there. I know that there are others who feel the same way as I do, but who haven't wanted to rock the boat. Just sayin.
So if everyone was just creating numerous threads a day that would help you feel more connected to people? How is scrolling through five million responses in the weekly questions thread worse then scrolling through pages of random threads? I feel like that would make certain threads people are looking for more difficult to find. Also, it's been mentioned that if a weekly thread gets too large anyone is more then welcome to create a new thread for the week to make it easier to navigate. I'm not trying to be confrontational, I'm honestly trying to understand what makes the current structure so difficult for people because I have never experienced it any other way on TB and I don't participate on other sites.
@JJMNO1616 Not gonna lie - I hate the board organization too. My last BMB was nothing like this. I don't like scrolling through five million responses in the weekly questions, and as an end of the month mama (again), by the time it's my turn to share things like ultrasounds or even an intro it feels as though people DGAF on huge threads. I try to participate on threads but because people are so uptight about the board structure that most of us had NO say in, i don't feel nearly as connected here as I did on my other BMB, and I was active fairly quickly there. I know that there are others who feel the same way as I do, but who haven't wanted to rock the boat. Just sayin.
My perspective on this is that this more organized approach leads to less cliqueish behavior. Back on my old board, there was too many random posts to even bother opening (who wants to see someone ask about nausea for the 500th time?), So what people started to do is ignore little know poster threads, and only responding to threads from "regs". I did it too. This time around I find myself responding to a bigger breadth of people, and reading more personal stories.
I get what people are saying, but it's unkind of people who do start one off threads because they don't see the answers they need to be told "this isn't what we do here." It feels very mean girls or heathers. Again, just my feelings.
People shouldn't want to ask a question and have it get buried. I think that particular thread is that one that bothers me the most.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me. You made my wedding day complete.
I get what people are saying, but it's unkind of people who do start one off threads because they don't see the answers they need to be told "this isn't what we do here." It feels very mean girls or heathers. Again, just my feelings.
People shouldn't want to ask a question and have it get buried. I think that particular thread is that one that bothers me the most.
I'm sorry, I just don't agree in the slightest. I feel like if you feel bullied when someone says "Hi! Welcome to the board, we have an entire thread dedicated to X. There is an introduction post that explains the structure of this place, check it out!", then you have never actually been bullied.
And for real, if the structure of this board is so awful and oppressive, why even waste time on this board? Like I said earlier, there is a whole wasteland of boards out there that don't have even the slightest structure, where nobody cares about each other because they are all too busy AWing their own threads and wandering off. If that is your cup of tea, then it exists and is waiting for you.
And because I feel differently I can't politely express an opinion? I happen to feel that some threads get overwhelming. You feel differently. And that's fine. But to acknowledge that there may be some people who feel differently than you isn't a bad thing. Clearly I'm in the minority, and I don't expect things to change - that would be the epitome of divadom - but for other to recognize that not everyone loves the board setup isn't a crime either.
i don't want to argue this topic anymore. I'm not leaving. I am sad, however, that it seems that I can't express an opinion that is not the majority.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me. You made my wedding day complete.
I'm sure the board will develop more the further along we go, I'm curious to see if more people feel free to post. I've seen at least one thread that some people tried to shut down, but it stuck around, so that makes me think maybe it'll loosen up a bit. I'm not saying we need 500 threads on nausea, but I think we could do with a little less strict organization. This is coming from someone who is a super type A personality.
I get what people are saying, but it's unkind of people who do start one off threads because they don't see the answers they need to be told "this isn't what we do here." It feels very mean girls or heathers. Again, just my feelings.
People shouldn't want to ask a question and have it get buried. I think that particular thread is that one that bothers me the most.
I'm sorry, I just don't agree in the slightest. I feel like if you feel bullied when someone says "Hi! Welcome to the board, we have an entire thread dedicated to X. There is an introduction post that explains the structure of this place, check it out!", then you have never actually been bullied.
And for real, if the structure of this board is so awful and oppressive, why even waste time on this board? Like I said earlier, there is a whole wasteland of boards out there that don't have even the slightest structure, where nobody cares about each other because they are all too busy AWing their own threads and wandering off. If that is your cup of tea, then it exists and is waiting for you.
The way I have heard it explained before is that the hope is this will feel more like a community and support group then just a free for all. If you were involved in a support group in person there would be rules, norms, and an established culture. Now imagine if you were at said support group and some stranger that you know nothing about walking in the room and said "HI Y'ALL look at me! I have a super important question that I want all of you to spend your energy answering, even though you know nothing about me and I don't care enough about this group to actually read the rules or get to know how things work around here". That would be really rude... most people would never do something like that. So I have to agree with @ngolimento that I don't think redirecting people to the thread that very clearly states "READ THIS FIRST" at the top of the board is being a mean girl... if anything I think it's pretty rude people don't take the time to understand how things work or offer support before trying to take, take, take.
And because I feel differently I can't politely express an opinion? I happen to feel that some threads get overwhelming. You feel differently. And that's fine. But to acknowledge that there may be some people who feel differently than you isn't a bad thing. Clearly I'm in the minority, and I don't expect things to change - that would be the epitome of divadom - but for other to recognize that not everyone loves the board setup isn't a crime either.
i don't want to argue this topic anymore. I'm not leaving. I am sad, however, that it seems that I can't express an opinion that is not the majority.
It is interesting that you say disagreeing is not a crime in one breath, and then in the next attempt to make me feel badly for disagreeing with you. Yes, you can feel that a community structure is not to your taste. That's fine. But how is it constructive to wander into an established community and start telling everyone you don't like it, and you think they are all mean girls? And then when we defend it, we aren't letting you disagree?
If you don't like something and want it to actually change, why not make kind and constructive suggestions instead of complaining and name calling? How are we supposed to positively respond to that? Give us ideas to spitball off of, instead of just tearing everyone down.
And I wasn't being catty or mean about the suggestion to find a board more to your taste. It confuses me when people just sit and tear things down instead of seeking what they like or pitching in to make things better.
@JJMNO1616 It's a message board, what exactly are people taking? In my previous experience, threads that people don't like tend to fall off pretty quickly, and threads that engage people keep on.
Late to the thread but dude, that bear gif made me cry from laughing so hard.
@sparklingdiamond I HATE when people spray air fresheners at my office or wear heavy perfume. Instant headache and yeah vomit. Ugh.
@danjoly I can one up you.... I secretly still have my pee stick from DS... he's 2 so it's literally an almost 3 year old pee stick. It's gross but I can't bring myself to throw it out. It's nuts. LOL
@julzy Same! Except DS is about to turn 3 and the pee stick will be 4 years old this winter. I can't throw it out either, so gross. I suspect that same pee stick will be sitting in that same drawer for years to come, haha.
I love a structured board this early on when 1- there's a lot of AW drive-by and 2- I'm still trying to figure out who is a regular, learning names etc. In my other bmb once the community was established it was totally acceptable for members to start their own topics or go out of the regular posts. Now that we are on Facebook it's very casual like a normal conversation with IRL people. Each in his due time!
Late to the thread but dude, that bear gif made me cry from laughing so hard.
@sparklingdiamond I HATE when people spray air fresheners at my office or wear heavy perfume. Instant headache and yeah vomit. Ugh.
@danjoly I can one up you.... I secretly still have my pee stick from DS... he's 2 so it's literally an almost 3 year old pee stick. It's gross but I can't bring myself to throw it out. It's nuts. LOL
@julzy Same! Except DS is about to turn 3 and the pee stick will be 4 years old this winter. I can't throw it out either, so gross. I suspect that same pee stick will be sitting in that same drawer for years to come, haha.
I only threw mine out when we moved because it felt gross to move them. I have four sitting a drawer right now from the last three weeks.
It's very much a part of your pregnancy and feels like it'/ bad luck or something to get rid of them.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me. You made my wedding day complete.
Re: WTF Wednesday
In my last group, at least 10 ladies bailed the group when we made the "no advertising" rule. Leeches.
YES!! You are only 4 weeks along people, you don't have a "bump" yet.
WTF house...why can't you clean yourself? It's just too much.
Also, WTF Wednesday...why aren't you Friday? I'm trying to have my 1st US here!
WTF dreams. I had this awful nightmare about leeches last night
ETA:. That is how most other pregnancy sites work, and each post has maybe one "like" or response. It is really lacking in human connection and soul.
@sparklingdiamond I HATE when people spray air fresheners at my office or wear heavy perfume. Instant headache and yeah vomit. Ugh.
@danjoly I can one up you.... I secretly still have my pee stick from DS... he's 2 so it's literally an almost 3 year old pee stick. It's gross but I can't bring myself to throw it out. It's nuts. LOL
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
People shouldn't want to ask a question and have it get buried. I think that particular thread is that one that bothers me the most.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
And for real, if the structure of this board is so awful and oppressive, why even waste time on this board? Like I said earlier, there is a whole wasteland of boards out there that don't have even the slightest structure, where nobody cares about each other because they are all too busy AWing their own threads and wandering off. If that is your cup of tea, then it exists and is waiting for you.
i don't want to argue this topic anymore. I'm not leaving. I am sad, however, that it seems that I can't express an opinion that is not the majority.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
I'm sure the board will develop more the further along we go, I'm curious to see if more people feel free to post. I've seen at least one thread that some people tried to shut down, but it stuck around, so that makes me think maybe it'll loosen up a bit. I'm not saying we need 500 threads on nausea, but I think we could do with a little less strict organization. This is coming from someone who is a super type A personality.
If you don't like something and want it to actually change, why not make kind and constructive suggestions instead of complaining and name calling? How are we supposed to positively respond to that? Give us ideas to spitball off of, instead of just tearing everyone down.
And I wasn't being catty or mean about the suggestion to find a board more to your taste. It confuses me when people just sit and tear things down instead of seeking what they like or pitching in to make things better.
In my other bmb once the community was established it was totally acceptable for members to start their own topics or go out of the regular posts. Now that we are on Facebook it's very casual like a normal conversation with IRL people. Each in his due time!
It's very much a part of your pregnancy and feels like it'/ bad luck or something to get rid of them.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.