@mispanda I struggle with this board a little too.
Also I think I struggle with the "me me me" feel of this board. Most posts have ZERO love tits. I mean come on. I think that's where we TTGP grads have a leg up, I genuinely care if you all have successful and happy pregnancies too And I want to show my support. And I just don't get that from the majority of the other threads.
I totally agree with this! Especially when it comes to the ultrasound thread. So many people have posted there and I'm like whooo are you?? I'm so excited for everyone here who has been a real contributor but the people who just want to post their ultrasound picture and ghost need start getting called out over the next few weeks lol I'm also so sad for some of our contributing ladies who have left us
@mispanda I struggle to keep up here too. Maybe it's because the board is so new and there are so many new faces and people to keep track of. I'm glad you bumped this thread up because I always want to stay up with you ladies. How are you doing this week?
@cards10 I'm with you about buying things (definitely not ready for that) and maternity stuff. I mean, we do have plenty time, but I def think PGAL plays a big role. **TW** It's hard when you know from experience that a BFP doesn't always equal a baby. Once you've known that hurt and that innocence is gone, it definitely makes things different. **end TW** Also, yes, I hate that's there isn't more lovetitting here! And the me me me vibe, it's strong. I notice a lot of people posting their own info and not really responding to others. That's what I really miss about TTGP- the community vibe and knowing that people are invested in supporting and acknowledging others, instead of just blasting their own stuff out there. I'm hoping that will change with time here. It does feel lonely sometimes throwing out lovetits when not very many people are, but I'm going to keep doing it. Lovetits for everyone!
@JJMNO1616 I'm sorry that you have been stuck for so long. Is there a lot of flooding around where you are or any concern for more? I was listening to the radio today and heard that they think Harvey is coming by for a second pass and will hit land again?? And they are expecting more rain? Is that true? I hope that your appointment stands. Everyone in the hurricane path is just really on my heart right now.
AFM I went in for the first of a second set of betas today. I'm hoping for some good numbers so that I can calm the hell down until my appointment on the 13th. We've got my BFF and her H coming to stay with us this coming weekend, so I'm getting ready for that. We will all be going over to the ILs for the holiday and smoking a brisket. If all goes well this week, we will be telling the ILs then.
@kbamomma33 We are kind of stuck within a mile or two of our house because there is so much flooding on the streets. Our house and subdivision doesn't have any direct flooding thankfully but we just can't go anywhere. Harvey is expected to hit land again but they don't think it's going to hit Houston. Supposedly the rain is pretty much over for us after today.
I think this is more of a PGAL convo but it's happening here because since my last pregnancy I took home DS, I don't feel I really fit in that PGAL thread even though maybe I do emotionally but anyway... @kbamomma33 I think you explained my emotions perfectly! *TW*:
It's that lack of innocence and I just realized: lack of ignorance (in a gaining wisdom way. After my first loss I realized pregnancy wasn't always sunshine and rainbows, and that's a sad realization to have). I wish I could go through this being as giddy and excited as I was the first time around. I think I'm envious of a lot of the people here who can do that still. I know I'll get to that exuberant point though, I just need more reassurance first
And all kinds of good luck and happy ute vibes and stuff to you for your betas! Glad you will get to see some numbers. Grow, little bean!!
@kbamomma33 I'm doing good. I'm constantly nauseated which doesn't feel great but it could be worse so I'm thankful for that. I seriously can't get enough of Wendy's chicken nuggets. It's like the only food that agrees with my stomach. We've started to tell family. Just not feeling good and being bloated has made it a little hard to hide so we are slowing telling close family and that is it. I doubt we will make a facebook announcement.
@mispanda I feel you on the bloat, girl! I may not be in maternity clothes yet but these normal pants are getting tiiiight then I wake up in the morning looking totally normal, wth
@cards10 FWIW, I think you do fit into the PGAL thread, if you wanted/needed to post there. Even though you did get a take home baby last pregnancy, you still know that trauma and of course those emotions will still be with you for subsequent pregnancies. If you didn't want to post on that thread though, I'm only a pm away if you need to talk about anything or are having a hard PGAL day, as I'm sure some of the other ladies here would be too.
OMG @mispanda my meat food aversions are hard right now, so nuggets sound like the worst thing for nausea ever! I'm glad that you found something that is working for you though. That's key! And protein too so, winning! Also, +1 for major evening bloat. Whomp.
@cards10@kbamomma33@JJMNO1616 I am absolutely right there with you ladies about this board. Aside from lovetitting (which I suck at sometimes), people just don't respond much. The regs are starting to get better at this, but most just post about themselves. I keep reminding myself that I had to learn to do that too, when I first started on TB, so I've just been trying to set a good example, even when I don't feel like I have the time or energy to do it. I think if we keep it up, people will learn, and pretty soon the core group of regs will become more obvious as the people who aren't going to stick start to ghost. Also, a pointed FFFC or MB might help... I remember seeing pepole complaining about this kind of stuff on TTGP and it making me more conscious of it.
On a related subject, I really, really appreciate how awesome the TTGP contingent is about encouraging and guiding the board organization. Thanks for caring about our board!
TW
Me: 33 DH: 32 Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013 Started TTC August 2016 BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17 BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17 BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18 BFP: 2/27/20
Hey ladies! I'm sorry, I'm so tired I don't have energy to personally respond but I'll try to come back tomorrow and answer specifically, but I love titted. And I agree, that doesn't seem to happen enough on April for some reason.
AFM, I finally got out of the hospital today! Water came down a lot and was able to make it to my FIL house and see hubbie and my daughter. Then we were able to make it home. Our power had gone out but finally got turned back on tonight. Going to go get some sleep in my own bed. I hope you ladies are all having a great night.
@JJMNO1616 Were you able to get out today when the water went down? My SUV is doing pretty well with some of the lower water levels. Can I bring you anything?
Me: 35, Hubbie: 33 Married DH: 2013 DD: Dec 2015 BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
@kbamomma33 FX for good numbers! When will you find out? @mispanda@cards10 Yes, the ever expanding bloat! I look almost normal in the morning, but gigantic by the evening. I'm having a hard time finding clothes that disguise it. -------- As for my check in: We had a good U/S yesterday, and so my PGAL brain is finally taking a back seat, at least for a while. Now that we know everything is ok, MH is suddenly able to be excited....I can see now how much the losses affected him. We've talked more about 'bebe' in the past 16 hours than the last 8 weeks combined. It's really sweet, and a relief, because I hadn't been sure exactly how he was feeling.
We're also talking about/getting ready to tell people about it, which is simultaneously exciting and scary. I thought I was ready, but now I want to keep it as our secret for just a little longer. Probably we'll start telling next week/end. The challenge for us is that we live in a really (really) small town, where rumors travel faster than the speed of light, so if we want to be able to tell people we care about in person, we have to carefully orchestrate it. It doesn't help that I don't necessarily trust our moms (esp my mom) to keep a secret for long.
Otherwise, things are going well. Physically I am feeling much better, which makes more sense now that I know I'm measuring way ahead. I can eat again! On the upside, it looks like I lost 7 lbs, which is great because I'm overweight to start with, and had gained some weight right before I got KU. I am also hoping to start working out again. The first week of school went well, although I am finding it a little hard to concentrate on work, with so much else going on.
TW
Me: 33 DH: 32 Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013 Started TTC August 2016 BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17 BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17 BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18 BFP: 2/27/20
@fishsticks-n-custard So happy to hear you made it out of the hospital! Also glad to know the water is going down a bit. We were able to get out very briefly yesterday but almost everything was still closed. We are doing well though and have everything we need! Get caught up on that sleep and enjoy some time with your family.
@mispanda I feel you. Most veggies are not my friend right now. All I want are carbs or cheesy anything or cheesy carbs lol. I have serious guilt about not eating right but I am also doing the best I can. I normally love brussel sprouts and was barely able to choke down 4 bites the other night ugh
I feel the same about this board. I want it to be a better place and I know it will happen by leading by example but I also don't have the same kind of energy to do it.
@hedgepig yay for the u/s relaxing your PGAL brain and also YH's PGAL brain! Glad he is opening up and being more excited now Definitely don't rush into telling people if you don't want to. I think it makes it feel more real to say those words to someone else though so when you are ready, it will feel so good to tell someone you really trust won't spill the beans. And congrats on losing a few ell-bees tons of good news for you today!!
@JJMNO1616@fishsticks-n-custard I'm so glad you're both doing alright. I can't imagine how hard it must be trying to cope with all the devastation around you.
@cards10 - totally with you on struggling with this board. Other than the TTGP grads, it's been almost impossible to connect with anyone on a personal level.
@hedgepig - I'm so happy to hear your u/s went well!
Everyone else: I've read your posts and I'm mobile so tagging is a pain, but I'm nodding away and relating to what you're all saying, particularly the pgal comments. It's so hard.
AFM: I'm taking a conscious break from the interwebz as a whole so I'm not around much. I started feeling guilty about how much time I was spending just mindlessly looking at my phone -- not as much TB, but Facebook and Insta and everything else that sucks up my attention. A few weeks ago DS said, "mama! Put down phone!" and my heart basically died.
Everything else is ok. I've been sick as a dog every afternoon, but I'm approaching 10 weeks and HOPING that will go away soon! This pregnancy is kicking my ass, which I wasn't totally prepared for.
I'll check in again soon, but wanted to let you all know I miss this group!
<<<lurking and hesitatingly requesting entry>>> guys... I was only on TTGP for a month officially. Is it ok if I say hello here? I miss the TTGP board where there was actual discussion. It feels like everyone is talking on the April board, but no one is really listening? But I completely understand if I didn't do enough time on TTGP to be here...you guys tell me....
@JJMNO1616 and @fishsticks-n-custard I can't imagine how stressful it is to be early in pregnancy and dealing with a damn once in a 100 year hurricane. I'm hopeful you've felt moments of community with those around you in times of crisis. I've been in tears every time I see pictures or read about Houston. You guys have already been through plenty. We are all wishing the best for you. Also @JJMNO1616 do you know if your US appointment is confirmed? I really hope so!
@kmalls I am sad you are taking a break selfishly, bc I think you always post really wise things. But then again, it would be wise for all of us to probably spend less time on our phones. Enjoy your cleanse, we will miss you.
@hedgepig congrats on a successful ultrasound. That must feel encouraging. And my heart melts a little for your DH. Sometimes, I think we forget that a MC can be traumatizing for them too. Bless him for his empathy and care. I think you should keep trusting your gut for when to tell.
@cards10@kbamomma33 thank you both for so articulately expressing the PGAL pull of my brain. *TW I'm terrified to buy anything. I remember last time, I found these beautiful stretchy skirts I pulled the trigger on ordering and literally the day they got delivered, I started to MC *TW. So I'm just really anxious about jumping any guns. That lack of innocence is really the perfect way to describe it. Thank you both Also, @cards10 that gif of the avocado absolutely made my morning.
@mispanda I'm really struggling a bit with proteins, so good for you for getting some down! I mean, really how bad can nuggets be when they are so delicious! I feel you 100% on the bloat. I sort of get into pajamas every night quasi horrified but then again, I remind myself that any symptoms are good symptoms.
@saralee797-2 all hail bralettes! I'm glad I'm not the only one really excited to see everyone making these now at a reasonable price. Not a moment too soon!
@stalkinghorse I personally have no issue with you posting here! Towards the end of my time on TTGP, I was posting only in the IF thread so I am also getting to know most of these ladies as well.
@stalkinghorse I personally have no issue with you posting here! Towards the end of my time on TTGP, I was posting only in the IF thread so I am also getting to know most of these ladies as well.
I took a bump break at the end of June because I was going on vacation for two weeks. Not to mention I was also becoming really emotionally overwhelmed by TTC. Then when I got back from vacation I was really busy at work and didn't have the time to jump back on TTGP. So once I got my BFP in Aug I just came straight over to April. My point in all of this is that I think your more then welcome to join us here. That's also why you may not recognize me.
@kmalls aww your DS's comment pulled at my heart Take a break but come back! I usually bump at work, not home. I probably should take a break and actually do more real work at work lol. Hopefully your "afternoon" sickness will ease up soon!
@stalkinghorse HIIII!!!! I think I was only on TTGP like a month and a half this time around even though I was TTC longer than that. But I vote hell yeah, come on in, especially if you bring fun cat gifs
@kmalls I hope you feel better soon! I understand the bump break. I try to just catch up in the mornings and evenings but I am browsing throughout the day. DD hasn't said anything to me but if she did I would do the exact same thing as you
Re: TTGP Grad Check In 8/17
@cards10 I'm with you about buying things (definitely not ready for that) and maternity stuff. I mean, we do have plenty time, but I def think PGAL plays a big role. **TW** It's hard when you know from experience that a BFP doesn't always equal a baby. Once you've known that hurt and that innocence is gone, it definitely makes things different. **end TW**
Also, yes, I hate that's there isn't more lovetitting here! And the me me me vibe, it's strong. I notice a lot of people posting their own info and not really responding to others. That's what I really miss about TTGP- the community vibe and knowing that people are invested in supporting and acknowledging others, instead of just blasting their own stuff out there. I'm hoping that will change with time here. It does feel lonely sometimes throwing out lovetits when not very many people are, but I'm going to keep doing it. Lovetits for everyone!
@JJMNO1616 I'm sorry that you have been stuck for so long. Is there a lot of flooding around where you are or any concern for more? I was listening to the radio today and heard that they think Harvey is coming by for a second pass and will hit land again?? And they are expecting more rain? Is that true? I hope that your appointment stands. Everyone in the hurricane path is just really on my heart right now.
AFM
I went in for the first of a second set of betas today. I'm hoping for some good numbers so that I can calm the hell down until my appointment on the 13th. We've got my BFF and her H coming to stay with us this coming weekend, so I'm getting ready for that. We will all be going over to the ILs for the holiday and smoking a brisket. If all goes well this week, we will be telling the ILs then.
And all kinds of good luck and happy ute vibes and stuff to you for your betas! Glad you will get to see some numbers. Grow, little bean!!
OMG @mispanda my meat food aversions are hard right now, so nuggets sound like the worst thing for nausea ever!
On a related subject, I really, really appreciate how awesome the TTGP contingent is about encouraging and guiding the board organization. Thanks for caring about our board!
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
AFM, I finally got out of the hospital today! Water came down a lot and was able to make it to my FIL house and see hubbie and my daughter. Then we were able to make it home. Our power had gone out but finally got turned back on tonight. Going to go get some sleep in my own bed. I hope you ladies are all having a great night.
@JJMNO1616 Were you able to get out today when the water went down? My SUV is doing pretty well with some of the lower water levels. Can I bring you anything?
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
@mispanda @cards10 Yes, the ever expanding bloat! I look almost normal in the morning, but gigantic by the evening. I'm having a hard time finding clothes that disguise it.
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As for my check in: We had a good U/S yesterday, and so my PGAL brain is finally taking a back seat, at least for a while. Now that we know everything is ok, MH is suddenly able to be excited....I can see now how much the losses affected him. We've talked more about 'bebe' in the past 16 hours than the last 8 weeks combined. It's really sweet, and a relief, because I hadn't been sure exactly how he was feeling.
We're also talking about/getting ready to tell people about it, which is simultaneously exciting and scary. I thought I was ready, but now I want to keep it as our secret for just a little longer. Probably we'll start telling next week/end. The challenge for us is that we live in a really (really) small town, where rumors travel faster than the speed of light, so if we want to be able to tell people we care about in person, we have to carefully orchestrate it. It doesn't help that I don't necessarily trust our moms (esp my mom) to keep a secret for long.
Otherwise, things are going well. Physically I am feeling much better, which makes more sense now that I know I'm measuring way ahead. I can eat again! On the upside, it looks like I lost 7 lbs, which is great because I'm overweight to start with, and had gained some weight right before I got KU. I am also hoping to start working out again. The first week of school went well, although I am finding it a little hard to concentrate on work, with so much else going on.
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
I feel the same about this board. I want it to be a better place and I know it will happen by leading by example but I also don't have the same kind of energy to do it.
@JJMNO1616 @fishsticks-n-custard I'm so glad you're both doing alright. I can't imagine how hard it must be trying to cope with all the devastation around you.
@cards10 - totally with you on struggling with this board. Other than the TTGP grads, it's been almost impossible to connect with anyone on a personal level.
@hedgepig - I'm so happy to hear your u/s went well!
Everyone else: I've read your posts and I'm mobile so tagging is a pain, but I'm nodding away and relating to what you're all saying, particularly the pgal comments. It's so hard.
AFM: I'm taking a conscious break from the interwebz as a whole so I'm not around much. I started feeling guilty about how much time I was spending just mindlessly looking at my phone -- not as much TB, but Facebook and Insta and everything else that sucks up my attention. A few weeks ago DS said, "mama! Put down phone!" and my heart basically died.
Everything else is ok. I've been sick as a dog every afternoon, but I'm approaching 10 weeks and HOPING that will go away soon! This pregnancy is kicking my ass, which I wasn't totally prepared for.
I'll check in again soon, but wanted to let you all know I miss this group!
@JJMNO1616 and @fishsticks-n-custard I can't imagine how stressful it is to be early in pregnancy and dealing with a damn once in a 100 year hurricane. I'm hopeful you've felt moments of community with those around you in times of crisis. I've been in tears every time I see pictures or read about Houston. You guys have already been through plenty. We are all wishing the best for you. Also @JJMNO1616 do you know if your US appointment is confirmed? I really hope so!
@kmalls I am sad you are taking a break selfishly, bc I think you always post really wise things. But then again, it would be wise for all of us to probably spend less time on our phones. Enjoy your cleanse, we will miss you.
@hedgepig congrats on a successful ultrasound. That must feel encouraging. And my heart melts a little for your DH. Sometimes, I think we forget that a MC can be traumatizing for them too. Bless him for his empathy and care. I think you should keep trusting your gut for when to tell.
@cards10 @kbamomma33 thank you both for so articulately expressing the PGAL pull of my brain. *TW I'm terrified to buy anything. I remember last time, I found these beautiful stretchy skirts I pulled the trigger on ordering and literally the day they got delivered, I started to MC *TW. So I'm just really anxious about jumping any guns. That lack of innocence is really the perfect way to describe it. Thank you both
@mispanda I'm really struggling a bit with proteins, so good for you for getting some down! I mean, really how bad can nuggets be when they are so delicious!
@saralee797-2 all hail bralettes! I'm glad I'm not the only one really excited to see everyone making these now at a reasonable price. Not a moment too soon!
bye guys
@stalkinghorse HIIII!!!!
I think I was only on TTGP like a month and a half this time around even though I was TTC longer than that. But I vote hell yeah, come on in, especially if you bring fun cat gifs
Happy to have you hanging here!