Randoms 8/21

anewadventure · August 2017

A new randoms thread for the new week.

disneyfan0511 · August 2017

Our A/C broke yesterday - and it's 85 degrees and 100000% humidity. Hoping it can be fixed this afternoon - repair guy coming soon. If not, I think I am going to a hotel, I can't sleep in this another night.

katiegeminimoon · August 2017

@disneyfan0511 There's no way I'd make it 2 days and nights with no AC. I'd definitely be in a hotel!

disneyfan0511 · August 2017

I was hoping the eclipse would cool things down but it did no such thing. So brutal - fingers are crossed this repair man can fix it.

Marley629 · August 2017

@disneyfan0511 I hope he was able to fix it! I would have been in a hotel last night if that were me lol I'm a big baby about sleeping in the heat haha

elcd458 · August 2017

I have a baby shower problem but it's so weird and specific I thought it might be more suited as a Random. I wrote it alllllll out and then realized it was like 6 paragraphs, LOLed, and decided it was too late (early?) for that ish. Here's the summary:

TL;DR: FTM who unexpectedly had way more people than I anticipated offer to throw me a baby shower and I said yes to all of them like a dummy. Awkwardly, two friends who I wasn't expecting to offer, who also logistically make the least sense as hostesses, were the very first to ask me months ago and I have no idea how to backpedal on that even though I don't think they've actually planned anything yet. Now I'm self-conscious about looking greedy and/or having nobody show up to one of them if I continue on this path of having three showers. HELP!

balletnerd · August 2017

@disneyfan0511 I feel you. Ours just broke down again. It will be 105 here tomorrow. We shut it off tonight and hopefully it will work again tomorrow. It overheated the other week... yuck. We need to actually fix it but are saving up money

peachy13 · August 2017

@elcd458 would all three showers include different groups of people? As long as no one is being invited to more than one shower, I don't really see a major issue with this. If it's totally out of hand, maybe communicate with all the hosts and see if they can merge 3 into 2 showers instead?

AFM, I logged in today and noticed the May 2018 board was up! So crazy! I love seeing new boards pop up because it means we are all getting so much closer to our due dates.

breezybee · August 2017

@elcd458 Hmmmmm...so I'm assuming that the third shower is the one you'd like to have - it's in a good location for everyone? If the other 2 people haven't spoken with you about it in a while, I would tell them that you've decided you just want one shower, and that "so and so" is really wanting to throw it for you. I was in the same situation - I had 3 people wanting to throw me showers and it just wasn't practical at all.
Just my 2 cents

cait5413 · August 2017

@elcd458 I would consider contacting the first two people and saying, "so and so has offered to throw me a shower as well; I was wondering if you would be willing to co-host with so&so, and that way you can split the work!" If, however, one shower is for your family, one is for DH's family, and one is for work friends or something, you might be ok just having 3, depending upon how many people are in each group!

elcd458 · August 2017

@peachy13 @cait5413 @breezybee
Thanks for the suggestions! I always figured I'd have one in my hometown, and one where I live now (near DH's fam). The two friends who offered first (they would be hosting one together) are the ones who make the least sense. It was unexpected, but they were the only ones offering at the time, so of course I said yes. This totally ignored the fact that one of them is kind of flaky/busy, they live nowhere near me OR each other, or either side of the family, and don't really fall neatly into any of the other circles of folks who'd be likely to attend a shower.

The friend who just offered to throw one a few days ago is the person who I was moreso anticipating hosting a shower-- not sure why she didn't ask sooner! She and her family are well acquainted with most of my hometown friends and family and I just think would be able to execute such an event much more easily than the other pair. They know each other in passing from my wedding, so I suggested that they might team up to the third person when she asked, but the suggestion fell flat (aka was basically ignored like I never brought it up).

I am planning on calling a few other girlfriends of mine tonight who semi-know the first pair and just ask them outright if they'd be willing to come to the third shower, whatever/wherever it is. This group of gals overlaps all three circles so I think if I can just make sure I have a few dedicated guests for the third, I can hint at a nice intimate brunch or girls dinner out or something. Plus that way, if the third shower never comes to fruition for whatever reason, they can easily attend one of the other two.

Thankfully the other shower is going to be here where I currently live, so DH's peeps and our coworker friends, etc. can come.

I know I probably sound like an ungrateful brat but I swear I'm not... I'm mostly just astonished I am even having this dilemma because I don't really consider myself someone who has many close friends (and definitely no "best" friend(s)). I guess southern ladies just really like to get their shower on.

flowerpower5838 · August 2017

elcd458 With DS, I went from not knowing if I'd have a shower to having FIVE (very small!) showers. Two different work ones (I had a random side job and they threw me a very unexpected shower and then my normal 9-5 one), one small one for friends and two small ones with different sides of the family. We live OOT town from most of our friends and family, but near my dad's side of the family so that had a lot to do with it. They were all 20 or less people (and I only even say that many because of my work one! Realistically, the number was closer to 13) and very low key / not over-the-top pinteresty. I honestly kind of liked that they were all segmented as none of them were overwhelming at all and I actually got to visit with everyone and have a good time.

elcd458 · August 2017

@flowerpower5838 I'm glad I'm not the only one completely surprised by such a dilemma! That's very encouraging and a great point that the pressure is "off" when the gatherings are smaller. Maybe I won't say anything.

Gah, adulthood is hard. I never thought I'd be someone who didn't have a best friend(s) but when everyone gets jobs, moves apart, gets married, has kids, and overall just gets swallowed up by daily life, it's so hard to break out of your little bubble! That's why I get so pissed when someone from my past messages me like they want to get together, only for me to find out later they're just trying to sell me makeup or face wash or leggings or whatever other MLM shit they're peddling. When I say I'm not interested, they vanish back into the abyss, LOL

disneyfan0511 · August 2017

@balletnerd oh wow 105 is no joke! We had a repairman come out to fix it and he basically told us we need a brand new unit. We just had him do the fix and we're crossing our fingers it works - realistically we only have about a month left of summer so hoping we get through. Those two days without air were absolutely horrible.

balletnerd · August 2017

@disneyfan0511 I hope the fix holds you through summer! Mine is being fixed tomorrow. I live in PHX AZ so summer lasts until November lol. So I hope our fix works too!

tamaraaaa · August 2017

Daycare was closed today and I've never needed a glass of wine more than I do tonight.

cait5413 · August 2017

I feel for you ladies with no A/C. Ours broke last year the night we brought DD home from the hospital (in August...in Mississippi). Miserable. Luckily it did break at night so it was not as hot and we got it replaced pretty quickly. I would definitely be looking into hotels or sleeping in my office at work if that was going on this summer!

MJDsquared · August 2017

We signed up for a newborn class this Sunday. I'm so scared of being judged for knowing nothing! Hahaha. I've never changed a diaper in my life and I've held a baby maybe two times. (I realize we won't be practicing with real babies, lol.)

elcd458 · August 2017

@MJDsquared I've never changed a diaper either! Maybe once when my brother was a baby 25 some odd years ago, but I don't remember anything about it. A couple of years ago I was watching my nephew for an hour while his mom went to the doctor, and I tried to change him. He kept purposefully rolling over on his stomach so I couldn't undo his shorts fastener (and he was bigger at that point, probably close to 2) so I ended up just giving up and saying "Fine, just sit in it, enjoy your rash."

Edit: run-on sentence like whoa

TigerCakes · August 2017

@MJDsquared I had never changed a diaper before my DS was born. Also, I had never held a baby under 4 months either. Don't worry you will be fine! It's not hard once you get the hang of it and you will get a ton of practice.

wabash15 · August 2017

@peachy13 I saw the may group. TBH it scares the shit out of me... how are we all 1/2 done or more? I need time to slow down.
@MJDsquared thats why they have those classes!

MJDsquared · August 2017

I got to see my brother get sworn in as a police officer today! He's five years older than me, but he's wanted to do this since he was a kid. We have sooo many pictures of him dressed as a police officer when he was little. It was super exciting. (Also a little terrifying.)

Also, I wore a maternity top that's basically a tent, and I felt like people probably couldn't really tell I was showing (I've never had a stranger comment on my bump yet even in fitted clothing) but in the elevator on the way down, this lady was ushering people off (like letting them go before her) and she looks at me and goes, "Oh, you definitely get off first!" It was awesome. (Yes, I'm weird and got excited about a stranger acknowledging my bump. Haha.)

mdcd44127 · August 2017

@MJDsquared Haha, I totally get that! One of the first times a random person commented on my bump, I was holding the door for her and she goes "I should be getting the door for you!" At the time I wasn't sure if I looked pregnant or just over-enthusiastic about burritos, so it was pretty validating.

And big congrats to your brother, what an exciting accomplishment!

blueskies17 · August 2017

@MJDsquared A man offered me his seat on the subway for the first time the other day and it was exciting! I awkwardly tried to decline (just had one stop to go) and then I sat down to stop drawing attention to myself lol.

balletnerd · August 2017

Haha love hearing your first stranger acknowledgement stories! I've been waiting for mine, wondering when I'll get my first comment lol

Marley629 · August 2017

Pumpkin munchkins are back at Dunkin! I'm in love

elcd458 · August 2017

Is mobile Bumping/ using the app absolutely KILLING anyone else's battery? My percentage goes down by 5-10% just from reading or commenting on a couple posts for a few minutes.

splsmama2016 · August 2017

elcd458 said:

Is mobile Bumping/ using the app absolutely KILLING anyone else's battery? My percentage goes down by 5-10% just from reading or commenting on a couple posts for a few minutes.

Mine!! Another reason I hate the app lol. It's not nearly as bad as it was when there were ads and crap in between every other post

MJDsquared · August 2017

Guys, I am a ball of rage right now. Everyone and everything at work is making me so angry. This customer just emailed because we updated the contact information for them and her last name is spelled wrong. Not in the email address itself, so the emails are going out correctly, just in where her name is written which literally doesn't matter at all. God forbid she get an automated email every month or quarter where your last name is off by one letter. HUGE deal.

This other customer left a voicemail that was probably the longest voicemail known to man. So I call back, and get their voicemail. It was a doctor's office, and holy crap their message was like three minutes long. Sorry, I don't need your exact office hours, your fax number, your email address, the process of getting a prescription, when I can expect a call back if I call outside of office hours, etc when I'm just trying to leave a 10-word voicemail.

And those are both in the last five minutes. Basically every customer/coworker has been getting to me like that since yesterday at least.

skc040512 · August 2017

Oh hello double ear infection and sinus infection. So glad you decided to visit when I can't freaking take any medicine...

katiegeminimoon · August 2017

It's 5:40 AM and I have been awake for an hour for no dang reason. Baby girl has been kicking me most of that time though, so that's exciting at least. It's my day off and I just want to be able to sleep

failuretofly · August 2017

@ktcakes87
maybe since it's your day off you'll have time for a nap later???

AFM non-pregnancy related question, but I trust you ladies to give unbiased, good advice

I am going home to visit family in a couple of weeks. My parents have been separated/divorced for over 10 years now. My dad has a new girlfriend, who I know he is really excited about and will probably want me and DS to meet her. The thing is, for a multitude of reasons I highly doubt the relationship will last, and he's only been dating her for a month or two. I will only be visiting for 5 days and have a LOT of people to see in that time. Does it make me rude to be upfront and say I am not interested in meeting her/having my son meet her at this time, and if in the future visits they're still going strong, I'll meet her then?

tamaraaaa · August 2017

If it fits into the time you are seeing him, just meet her and don't burst his bubble. It will only cause drama and make him feel bad, and probably isn't worth it to come out and say you don't think it will last. If he wants to plan a specific time JUST to meet her, you can always say you have plans but I wouldnt go out of my way to prevent the meeting if that makes sense.

I HATE traveling to see family. I feel like all we do is spend time in the car going from one person to another and never getting any real quality time with anyone. We avoided it this year thank god!

jlemons-2 · August 2017

Hey everyone, how is it going? I've been on a bump break working on schoolwork and sickness.

peachy13 · August 2017

@kvacmak i'm also voting for going to meet her. Can you make it a quick visit, and tell your dad you only have x amount of time? Or you can look at your schedule and see if there are any windows for them to come to you, maybe a meet up for coffee or lunch one day? I can imagine it's probably super tempting to just delay meeting the girlfriend until next time, but your dad seems pretty excited about her and I bet it would make his day for you and your son to meet her.

@jlemons-2 we missed you! It's been very quiet on the board lately, I'm thinking end-of-summer is the reason.

wabash15 · August 2017

@kvacmak I come from the land of complicated families... so I don't think its wrong to ask your dad for this just to be a visit with him and that if they are still going strong later on you would be happy to meet her. Frame it as you want to focus your limited time visiting with him.

anewadventure · August 2017

@jlemons-2 what's up! how are things going?

@Tennis11785 where are youuuu?

mdcd44127 · August 2017

@kvacmak I agree with @tamaraaaa and @peachy13, I wouldn't go crazy out-of-my-way to meet her, but I would try to squeeze them in if at all possible (even just a meet-and-greet at a Starbucks or some local place), more for your dad's excitement than the potential future of their relationship. Even if they don't stay together, it could still be a quick, painless, and pleasant meeting, and sounds like it'll make him happy. (Of course without knowing all the details, this is all speculation. If you were my DH, I would probably give the opposite advice. I guess in the end I'd base it on the nature of your relationship with your dad.)

@jlemons-2 Welcome back! Hope you're feeling better.

jlemons-2 · August 2017

I missed all of you! I've been dealing with my GD and different meds, if more people end up with it I will start a thread. Luckily, it seems not many of us do! Today I hit viability week and that is pretty exciting. I feel like we should have a viability week gif party.

kyrwyn · August 2017

@kvacmak I also hail from the land of complicated families, and while I think it is unfair of your dad to ask this I also think that the drama not going may cause might be more annoying in the long run. Whenever stuff like this comes up in my family, I offer to meet for lunch/breakfast. Everyone has to eat, and meals are only supposed to last a defined period of time. Lunch or breakfast implies you have other stuff to do with the rest of your day so you can't be required to stay for after dinner board games or whatever your family uses for fun/entrapment. DH and I also get on the same page about our escape plan (We've got XYZ at 1 o'clock and really have to go, love you) and then boogie at the appointed time.

peachy13 · August 2017

The "baby moved" thread in March 2018 if anyone needs some Friday at work reading.

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