So I figured out how to get more emojis than what TB gives you. But the poop emoji doesn't work and I'm a little bummed about that (even though I barely ever use it).
So basically you have to type different emoji codes between two colons. Sometimes once you type the colon and start typing what you want it'll pop up in a drop down menu. And I'm pretty sure this doesn't work on mobile, but could be wrong. Also not all of them work, but I've been missing in my life.
Examples: (you would need to take out the spaces between the word(s) and the colons. : heart_eyes : : sob : : rage :
I declare you MVP! :raised_hands:
Edited: Um, still MVP even though I couldn't get it to work.
So I figured out how to get more emojis than what TB gives you. But the poop emoji doesn't work and I'm a little bummed about that (even though I barely ever use it).
So basically you have to type different emoji codes between two colons. Sometimes once you type the colon and start typing what you want it'll pop up in a drop down menu. And I'm pretty sure this doesn't work on mobile, but could be wrong. Also not all of them work, but I've been missing in my life.
Examples: (you would need to take out the spaces between the word(s) and the colons. : heart_eyes : : sob : : rage :
Today was apparently an interesting day for local news stories on FB. I posted about the bank robbery suspect that is identical to my former best friend.
Then this afternoon, a post about 6 men arrested in a prostitution sting. One of them is a friend's husband! Total shock!
Dh still hasn't come on board with me being pregnant. He admitted it to me last weekend. Dude what do you think happens when having unprotected sex?? It's not like it happened on the first try either. If you didn't want me to get pregnant again you should have said so in the first place. So now I'm left to deal with all these feelings.... It sucks
@paigew123 that's awful. has he heard a heartbeat yet/ seen an ultrasound? Sometimes that changes things for the fathers. I hope he perks up for you. Like it or not he's going to be a dad again and he's going to love this little baby, even if he's a little overwhelmed right now.
I know when we found out we were pregnant this time around I was very overwhelmed. Excited but also scared and kind of not ready. He might just need a little time.
@ShawnnaO he didn't hear the heart beat cuz he didn't wanna come with me to my appt he saw the ultrasound pic, and kinda just said wow and moved on. I really hope it's the kinda thing tht will resolve itself w time. I haven't had too many symptoms this go around, so it's not like he can even be resentful for not having me around. Lets hope he'll get onboard sooner then later.
@ShawnnaO he didn't hear the heart beat cuz he didn't wanna come with me to my appt he saw the ultrasound pic, and kinda just said wow and moved on. I really hope it's the kinda thing tht will resolve itself w time. I haven't had too many symptoms this go around, so it's not like he can even be resentful for not having me around. Lets hope he'll get onboard sooner then later.
I am so sorry. I hope he comes around. FWIW, my H is not very emotional and really doesn't give pregnancy or infancy much attention. That doesn't mean he doesn't want the baby, but he just doesn't connect. Once he can have a better connection with the kid he is more of an involved supportive father. Hopefully, this will be the case for you.
@paigew123 My SO was pretty nonchalant with our 1st two as well...he just didn't get as attached until he could see the changes. He started out the same way with this one, until TW there were all the complications of bleeding, 2 sacs, etc. So that's when he became attached because he was at risk of losing something. END TW. You should ask him exactly what's going on, and maybe he's just in the mindframe of BTDT.Hopefully it changes soon.
My brother and his wife are expecting their first baby in October, and when someone ordered a crib from an expensive national chain store for them, two arrived instead of one (with no extra/double charge from the company). So I think I might have just gotten a free quality crib?
(I feel weird getting/owning any baby things this early, but to save a couple hundred bucks, I might just keep it packed up in the basement and hope I don't jinx it)
@gh515 score! Don't feel weird. I started buying neutral baby clothes like a week after we found out I was pregnant. I would have only been 4 weeks at the time.
@paigew123 I'm sorry you aren't getting the support you need from your H. Can you remind me how long it's been since your first pregnancy? What was DH like with that one? What does "not on board" look like for him? I hope it isn't, but if it is bad and you aren't being supported well at home, I hope you have people you can reach out to IRL who can step in to provide more support. Bringing a baby into the world is such a challenge in many ways, and knowing you have a crew of support can make such a big difference. Best wishes for you two!!
Found out we are having our second boy which is awesome. I truly just want more babies and I'm so excited, plus I'm not so into sex/gender one way or another.
However, I swore it was a girl. I was spot on with my son, I knew when I was pregnant both times, I knew when he would be born and I've come to rely on my intuition to tell me how my son is doing when he can't communicate it.
I've been having a hard time processing that my intuition was so off. Everytime I reach out and tell someone other than my counselor, I get the "gender disappointment" chat and that's not what this is. It's about coming to rely on intuition then finding out it was off, and the concern that I may carry that into raising this baby.
I realize I'm adding a lot of meaning to this, and sorry to vent here and sorry it's so long. Hope that's ok. It's just hard to process something when people tell you to just be ok with what you have..And im ECSTATIC and it makes it harder when people don't hear your words as true.
I'm just surprised and I haven't experienced this before. Does any of this make sense?
I know what you mean, and it makes total sense. I felt similarly after the election last fall-- I was so sure I knew what would/wouldn't happen, and how other Americans felt, that the results really shocked me, and made me second guess whether I was comprehending the world around me correctly at all. What if everything I think is off?
It's unnerving in a crazy world where we have control over so little, to encounter an error in something we think we have control over- our intuition.
I imagine it is even more frustrating for you if people are misjudging your anxiety as gender disappointment, which is so unfair and inaccurate. What you are saying makes sense, and surely is only heightened the general lack-of-control in pregnancy.
@gh515 I just cried reading your response! Yes to all of this!
Gender disappointment is a real feeling and it's ok to have and unfortunately, moms are shamed for feeling it. But to be so misunderstood when one already feels so confused just doesn't help.
I love love love your line "...Made me guess whether I was comprehending the world around me..." That is so it!!!
with my daughter, I was SO UNBELIEVABLY SURE that we were having a boy. My gut told me so. Guess what? My gut was wrong. And that was really weird to go from being sure I'd be saying "he" to getting used to saying "she." But despite that, my intuition with my daughter has never steered me wrong. You're a mom. You have super powers. This little boy is just going to be a mischievous little guy who's full of surprises.
i had an experience when I was 37 weeks pregnant at a nail salon with my best friend. We were getting pedicures while some other lady was getting her eyebrows done. My friend and I were talking about how I was positive I was going to go early. The lady asks me "well did you know you were pregnant before you got a positive test?" No. "Well did you know the gender before the anatomy scan?" No. "Then you're intuition is wrong and you're clueless when it comes to this baby."
The self control it took not to slap her. Ugh. Guess what? I went early. Your mommy intuition being wrong about one thing is not an end-all, be-all.
Im pretty sure this baby is a girl, which probably means it's a boy. I also had NO idea I was pregnang before getting a positive test (despite having a lot of sickness). And I'm also pretty sure I'll go early with this one again. I totally understand wanting to be in control, but don't doubt yourself too much. You got this.
@gh515 I had a very similar experience. I woke up in the middle of the night to feed my daughter and checked the news on my phone and started crying.
@barrelocarol you're still fiercely mom and you will always be incredibly in tune with what your children need--this just isn't one of those things. I'm sorry people haven't been authentic about listening to your frustration. I think you did a really nice job explaining it on here!
I read somewhere that there's a lot of accuracy (like 70%) when it comes to women's intuition when knowing what they're having before finding out, and I'll be honest, it made me feel like crap to read that because I was way off with my first. I was SO set on "feeling" like it would be a boy and she's a smart, kind, and loving little girl. Then when I read that women's intuition is actually accurate more often than not, I felt like my intuition was broken. Please don't let this moment (that's truly rooted in a near-50/50 possibility) skew your perception and trust in your intuition--you've still got it.
I totally feel like this baby is a girl again, and if I'm wrong I will feel so weird! With my daughter I KNEW it was a girl. So much so that when we did our surprise balloons in a box gender reveal, I wasn't even excited to be surprised because I already knew she would be a girl. And lo and behold pink balloons came out. We definitely weren't disappointed over a girl at all, but I wanted to be surprised lol. I don't think there's anything wrong with how you're feeling @barrelocarol
My MIL blew me away today. We posted a video I made of some pictures of our pregnancy and the videos we took of our ultrasound/heart beat hearing. I added some music to it and I worked hard on it to make sure that it was something no one has done before, or at least that I've ever seen. She texted me and told me she showed everyone at work the video (which I'm totally cool with now since it's out there, lol) and she said everyone thought it was adorable, except for one "bitch" and I am quoting my MIL, that said she saw someone do something similar to that and wasn't impressed. My MIL said, "I wanted to say to her, FU BITCH!"
My emotions are all over the place. I'm watching Worst Cooks of America Celebrity and one of the contestants made a filling for a deviled egg that looked like poop. And I laughed so hard I cried. Like whimpered. Surely it wasn't that funny to everyone but I'm chuckling again even typing this out. I think I'm fried from being nauseous and tired and feeling like a bad mom to my kids and I lost it. Ha!
I just found out the NIPT test (DNA genetic test) is covered by my insurance. I thought it was going to cost extra, but it isn't, so today feels like a success.
@kalawa@LiveNLove44 my h is generally the overly emotional type. It's extremely unlike him to be so disconnected DS is now 2, with that pregnancy he was all over me. Always concerned that things should be well, coming with me to most appointments... This time, he's having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that there will be 2 children to take care of. This is not a money concern at all, we both work and have some extra saved up. I think its the fear of not being able to manage or Handle more then 1. I think he's worried that I might not be able to give him as much att once the babys here. i currently have not told a anyone about this pregnancy as he asked me not to. I'm trying to respect his wishes I really hope he does get over his feeling and starts feeling more connected...like @DDRRT1982 said- maybe he just needs to be able to connect to something tangible to love it... hes great with DS, and I'm sure he'll be great with this baby too. its just tough to go through it without support. you ladies are great though! I come here for my dose of support as often as possible!
I can't find this weeks "weekly question" thread...is it there? My mobile bump often doesn't show all threads. So my random question is...what is everyone's thoughts on how early you can start to feel the first flutters in subsequent pregnancies? I know most of us are still much too early, but it was out of curiosity and seeing some posts that I thought I'd ask. Also, older family members asking me if I have felt anything because it's my third..and obviously I have not.
@kalawa I've ready as early as 13 weeks for STM+. But it also depends on placenta location. Last time I had an anterior placenta and didn't feel her until after 20 weeks and even then the movements were almost "muffled." Also, I don't think anybody started a question thread this week.
Guys! If you notice a thread hasn't been started - Start It!
Also, is 10:15am too early to eat lunch? Asking for a friend.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Omg prelunch! I love it! And yes please to starting threads if you don't see them. @becausescience I had an anterior placenta with my second and it was such a bummer! I'm hoping not this time so I can feel movements earlier.
I haven't weighed myself (and looked away both times at the doctor's office!) because I've gotten anxious/antsy with weight and body image in the past, and I want to stay calm with baby. But I bet I'll be above the 3-5lb 1st trimester suggested just because I snack CONSTANTLY to evade nausea, and I've always had a strict no snacks policy in the past.
I also feel like I deserve hash browns or French fries every single day, which certainly wasn't on the agenda in the past. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@gh515 I always gain between five to 10 pounds in the first tri bc I (oops, posted too soon) am just trying to survive. I do notice if I deny myself what I am craving that I tend to eat more of other crap, which ends up balancing out in calories, so I just started indulging. I have actually notice my weight has stagnated a bit since just giving in. It's a win-win!
@gh515 you're growing a human. You deserve hash browns and French fries. I totally get being numbers-conscious, and as long as your doctor isn't worried and you're able to eat when you're hungry, there's no reason for you to monitor your weight.
Re: Weekly Randoms - Wk of 8/21
Edited: Um, still MVP even though I couldn't get it to work.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
I either did it wrong or it doesn't work for me. Dang it!
edit again: :hearteyes:
edit again again YESSSSSS
Then this afternoon, a post about 6 men arrested in a prostitution sting. One of them is a friend's husband! Total shock!
Dude what do you think happens when having unprotected sex?? It's not like it happened on the first try either. If you didn't want me to get pregnant again you should have said so in the first place.
So now I'm left to deal with all these feelings....
It sucks
I know when we found out we were pregnant this time around I was very overwhelmed. Excited but also scared and kind of not ready. He might just need a little time.
he saw the ultrasound pic, and kinda just said wow and moved on.
I really hope it's the kinda thing tht will resolve itself w time.
I haven't had too many symptoms this go around, so it's not like he can even be resentful for not having me around.
Lets hope he'll get onboard sooner then later.
(I feel weird getting/owning any baby things this early, but to save a couple hundred bucks, I might just keep it packed up in the basement and hope I don't jinx it)
However, I swore it was a girl. I was spot on with my son, I knew when I was pregnant both times, I knew when he would be born and I've come to rely on my intuition to tell me how my son is doing when he can't communicate it.
I've been having a hard time processing that my intuition was so off. Everytime I reach out and tell someone other than my counselor, I get the "gender disappointment" chat and that's not what this is. It's about coming to rely on intuition then finding out it was off, and the concern that I may carry that into raising this baby.
I realize I'm adding a lot of meaning to this, and sorry to vent here and sorry it's so long. Hope that's ok. It's just hard to process something when people tell you to just be ok with what you have..And im ECSTATIC and it makes it harder when people don't hear your words as true.
I'm just surprised and I haven't experienced this before. Does any of this make sense?
I know what you mean, and it makes total sense. I felt similarly after the election last fall-- I was so sure I knew what would/wouldn't happen, and how other Americans felt, that the results really shocked me, and made me second guess whether I was comprehending the world around me correctly at all. What if everything I think is off?
It's unnerving in a crazy world where we have control over so little, to encounter an error in something we think we have control over- our intuition.
I imagine it is even more frustrating for you if people are misjudging your anxiety as gender disappointment, which is so unfair and inaccurate. What you are saying makes sense, and surely is only heightened the general lack-of-control in pregnancy.
Gender disappointment is a real feeling and it's ok to have and unfortunately, moms are shamed for feeling it. But to be so misunderstood when one already feels so confused just doesn't help.
I love love love your line "...Made me guess whether I was comprehending the world around me..." That is so it!!!
with my daughter, I was SO UNBELIEVABLY SURE that we were having a boy. My gut told me so. Guess what? My gut was wrong. And that was really weird to go from being sure I'd be saying "he" to getting used to saying "she." But despite that, my intuition with my daughter has never steered me wrong. You're a mom. You have super powers. This little boy is just going to be a mischievous little guy who's full of surprises.
i had an experience when I was 37 weeks pregnant at a nail salon with my best friend. We were getting pedicures while some other lady was getting her eyebrows done. My friend and I were talking about how I was positive I was going to go early. The lady asks me "well did you know you were pregnant before you got a positive test?" No. "Well did you know the gender before the anatomy scan?" No. "Then you're intuition is wrong and you're clueless when it comes to this baby."
The self control it took not to slap her. Ugh. Guess what? I went early. Your mommy intuition being wrong about one thing is not an end-all, be-all.
Im pretty sure this baby is a girl, which probably means it's a boy. I also had NO idea I was pregnang before getting a positive test (despite having a lot of sickness). And I'm also pretty sure I'll go early with this one again. I totally understand wanting to be in control, but don't doubt yourself too much. You got this.
@gh515 I had a very similar experience. I woke up in the middle of the night to feed my daughter and checked the news on my phone and started crying.
I read somewhere that there's a lot of accuracy (like 70%) when it comes to women's intuition when knowing what they're having before finding out, and I'll be honest, it made me feel like crap to read that because I was way off with my first. I was SO set on "feeling" like it would be a boy and she's a smart, kind, and loving little girl. Then when I read that women's intuition is actually accurate more often than not, I felt like my intuition was broken. Please don't let this moment (that's truly rooted in a near-50/50 possibility) skew your perception and trust in your intuition--you've still got it.
My MIL blew me away today. We posted a video I made of some pictures of our pregnancy and the videos we took of our ultrasound/heart beat hearing. I added some music to it and I worked hard on it to make sure that it was something no one has done before, or at least that I've ever seen. She texted me and told me she showed everyone at work the video (which I'm totally cool with now since it's out there, lol) and she said everyone thought it was adorable, except for one "bitch" and I am quoting my MIL, that said she saw someone do something similar to that and wasn't impressed. My MIL said, "I wanted to say to her, FU BITCH!"
Ladies... my MIL wins this week. lol SAVAGE.
DS is now 2, with that pregnancy he was all over me. Always concerned that things should be well, coming with me to most appointments...
This time, he's having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that there will be 2 children to take care of. This is not a money concern at all, we both work and have some extra saved up. I think its the fear of not being able to manage or Handle more then 1.
I think he's worried that I might not be able to give him as much att once the babys here.
i currently have not told a anyone about this pregnancy as he asked me not to. I'm trying to respect his wishes
I really hope he does get over his feeling and starts feeling more connected...like @DDRRT1982 said- maybe he just needs to be able to connect to something tangible to love it...
hes great with DS, and I'm sure he'll be great with this baby too.
its just tough to go through it without support.
you ladies are great though! I come here for my dose of support as often as possible!
Also, I don't think anybody started a question thread this week.
Guys! If you notice a thread hasn't been started - Start It!
Also, is 10:15am too early to eat lunch? Asking for a friend.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Apparently this is my life while pregnant:
No wonder I gained 40lbs last time.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@becausescience I had an anterior placenta with my second and it was such a bummer! I'm hoping not this time so I can feel movements earlier.
I think it's 13 weeks?
I haven't weighed myself (and looked away both times at the doctor's office!) because I've gotten anxious/antsy with weight and body image in the past, and I want to stay calm with baby. But I bet I'll be above the 3-5lb 1st trimester suggested just because I snack CONSTANTLY to evade nausea, and I've always had a strict no snacks policy in the past.
I also feel like I deserve hash browns or French fries every single day, which certainly wasn't on the agenda in the past. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Is this your first baby?