PGAL Check-In - 8/10

becausescience · August 2017

This is a safe space for those who are pregnant after a loss. General TW for this thread.

How far along are you?

Any appointments coming up?

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?

hullabalou · August 2017

How far along are you? 11w1d

Any appointments coming up? I had an appointment with a new OB scheduled for next week since I want to switch practices. I am taking tomorrow off so I have a long birthday weekend, and I called to see if there was a cancellation-there was! So now I have an unexpected appointment tomorrow. Hoping she can hear the heartbeat with the Doppler tomorrow!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) I go back and forth between great and awful mentally. More good days than bad lately. I'm past all of my loss milestones and have had 3 great ultrasounds already so I'm trying to just enjoy this pregnancy and hoping to be past the pukey/exhausted stage soon.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?

Fall/winter. I live in the DEEP south on the coast line and it's always hot and humid. I love when we have a couple months of crisp/cooler air. I also love Thanksgiving and Christmas and the whole time of year is just joyful for me.

I'm going to post this in the question thread too, but NT scans: are they standard practice for most doctors or is it not recommended to be routine unless you're AMA? My old OB never offered it with my last pregnancy, and I'm wondering if I should ask about it tomorrow at the new OB appointment since I'm coming up on 12 weeks.

becausescience · August 2017

How far along are you?
7w2d

Any appointments coming up?
u/s was yesterday and my first appointment with my OB is 8/22

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
Seeing the heartbeat yesterday and knowing baby is measuring perfectly has really helped me, I'm letting myself start planning for this baby. I know something could still happen, but am really going to try not to let myself worry. We're going to tell our immediate families this weekend (I think, I'm not sure how DH wants to tell his family) and I'm looking forward to their reactions.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?
I love fall. I love the cooler weather, getting to wear jeans and cozy sweaters, football, pumpkin spice everything (except pumpkin pie - yuck), and the leaves changing colors.

hullabalou · August 2017

@becausescience I'm so glad you had a good US yesterday!

becausescience · August 2017

hullabalou said:

I'm going to post this in the question thread too, but NT scans: are they standard practice for most doctors or is it not recommended to be routine unless you're AMA? My old OB never offered it with my last pregnancy, and I'm wondering if I should ask about it tomorrow at the new OB appointment since I'm coming up on 12 weeks.

My doctor offered it (not required) when I was pregnant with DD and I was 28. I suspect it is becoming less common because of NIPT becoming more popular. I'd ask - for me it was another chance to see the baby and a way to know if there were elevated risk factors so we would know if we should do further testing.

mdfarmchick · August 2017

How far along are you?

10+6

Any appointments coming up?

Working on scheduling the NIPT and then I have a regular appointment at the end of the month.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

I am pretty much over this constant nausea. I wake up starving and nauseous and it never really goes away. I also have had both hips start giving me trouble and it's really early for this crap. Ha. Overall after seeing baby kicking in there and hearing/seeing the heartbeat last week I am holding tight to the 98-99% have successful pregnancies statistic. I'm sure the closer I get to my next appointment the more my doubts will surface.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?

I love summer and fall. Summer is the beach and the pool and long days. But fall? Fall is PSLs and crisp weather and colorful leaves and leggings and tunics and boots and scarves. Haha. But I don't get much fall when I live in the desert.

eller-2 · August 2017

How far along are you? 7w4d according to my ultrasound last Friday (7w6d measuring from my ovulation date)

Any appointments coming up? Follow-up ultrasound tomorrow to make sure baby is growing appropriately

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) I'm learning I don't do well the day before ultrasounds! That moment of truth is so scary... I'm dreading it. I'm feeling so very normal (not pregnant) too, which isn't giving me any comfort (even though the same was true in my last pregnancy, and I did make it far beyond the first tri that time).

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why? I really enjoy all of the seasons - change is good - but fall would probably be my favorite as well.

eller-2 · August 2017

@hullabalou, it seems a lot of OBs are pro-all forms of prenatal testing, so if yours is like that, I'd assume it'd be standard to at least offer it. I was nowhere near AMA last pregnancy, and I was encouraged to do the NIPT + NT scan.

I asked my (different) doctor this time if I'd be doing the NT scan in addition to the NIPT, since it seems... redundant? unnecessary? And interestingly, it's still their practice to combine the two, despite the very low rate of false negatives in NIPTs (although the reasoning wasn't too persuasive).

justkeeptrying · August 2017

How far along are you? 7+3

Any appointments coming up? Had my surprise US yesterday. Next appointment is Aug. 24!! It felt so far away yesterday and now it feels pretty close!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here: I'm doing really well after yesterday's appointment. It was a huge sigh of relief to see LO and know there's a heartbeat. The Diclectin is definitely helping my nausea but it is making me so sluggish. Which my toddler is not a fan of.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why? Definitely Fall. I start to get a little crazy from the summer heat but hate the winter snow/cold. Fall is such a short but beautiful season here. It's cool enough to enjoy being outside but not so cold that I don't want to leave my house.

justkeeptrying · August 2017

hullabalou said:
I'm going to post this in the question thread too, but NT scans: are they standard practice for most doctors or is it not recommended to be routine unless you're AMA? My old OB never offered it with my last pregnancy, and I'm wondering if I should ask about it tomorrow at the new OB appointment since I'm coming up on 12 weeks.

@hullabalou, I think it depends on where you live. I'm in Canada and I'd never even heard of the NT scan until I spoke with my American friends. For most of them it seemed standard. My OB suggested it to me this time as my last pregnancy I miscarried at 15 weeks and they found out he had Gastroschisis (his organs were growing on the outside of his body). She said the NT scan SHOULD be able to catch a condition like this. So I'll be having it this time around. I'm actually not sure what all is entailed in it. My American mom friends said it's usually a standard ultrasound with follow up blood work. I'll be asking my OB more at my next appointment.

SoraLk · August 2017

How far along are you? 7 weeks, 4 days

Any appointments coming up? Had an U/S today, and OB appointment on the 28th.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) Lately I had been pretty much at wits end with worry, but today was the most beautiful day ever. Afterwards I got to talk with my soon to be brother-in-law, and he said that his wife was going to send us their Doppler so that we can try it out when we get father along with our pregnancy.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why? I love the fall. I love the leaves, apple cider and pumpkins. The brisk air of the fall is also great.

ishmoney · August 2017

How far along are you?
7w5d

Any appointments coming up?
Nope!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I'm a bit moody and very tired. In the stomach department, I'm sooooooo thankful for the Diclegis!! I'm back to just trying to figure out what I can tolerate eating. Did I say I'm so tired? I'm back to working in August and I barely have energy for anything. My eyes are closing now but I'm waiting for SO to bring me my fish sticks. Ugghh

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?
Okay. So, I'm the oddball. I was born in spring...I love spring, summer...I love warm weather.

SoFlaMommie1128 · August 2017

How far along are you? 9 weeks 4 days

Any appointments coming up? I have an OBGYN appointment tomorrow afternoon

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) I'm doing pretty well. TW I always feel encouraged when I pass my loss milestone (7 weeks) for the MC before my son. I also was so happy to see the heartbeat and that the baby is growing well at the dating US.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why? Like so many others mentioned, there's something really so invigorating about fall. I live in the south, so it's not like we get any real break from the heat, but we still like to celebrate fall, decorate the house, and dress like it's fall, oh and of course PSLs (decaf this year) lol

bklyninri · August 2017

How far along are you?
9w5d

Any appointments coming up?
11 week scan on 8/24 (my last scan was on 7/26

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I am doing better today than yesterday. I had it set in my mind yesterday that because I felt like I had lost my symptoms it was over. I not only had a loss in 2013 but couldn't get pregnant after my son without help from an RE and that was all long and dramatic. This was a SUPER surprise and today I am feeling like I have to just be ok with what is happening. I need to enjoy the time I am pregnant and if by chance this doesn't work out, I need to feel like at least I had the chance to go through the beginning stages again. I am going to be 40 in February and had really moved on...had some great plans in the next few years (this hadn't been one of them) so I am just going to be grateful for what life throws at me.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?
Absolutely the fall! I love wearing sweaters and eating fall related foods

chasingroygbiv · August 2017

How far along are you?
12+4

Any appointments coming up?
Next month

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I'm okay. Dealing with cramping in the mornings and after walking a lot, trying to stay calm. Getting very anxious waiting for my NIPT results to come back. Any day now... Praying for good results. Stopped Progesterone so I'm a little nervous, but glad to be done with those things. Such a mess.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why?  I love Spring, mostly the mid-end of it when everything starts turning green and flowers start blooming! I like Summer too because my babies are home and we can be outside almost daily, but I don't love humidity.

pettycrocker · August 2017

How far along are you? 9+days

Any appointments coming up? Tues. OB, I am planning on asking to have the Panorama testing done for some peace of mind.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) I was relieved to have gotten to the point where I didn't need to go to the OB every week for u/s, then after a few days I think nerves set back in. I took a HPT (wondfo) last night and the line was so much lighter now than it was at 4wks so I started getting nervous- consult Dr Google, and found a bunch of blog posts about the hormone levels being so high the urine had to be diluted with water- tried that today and got a much better result. So I guess I am back to crazy PGAL mode; full effect.

GTKY: What is your favorite season and why? Anything but summer, because hot weather is gross

pettycrocker · August 2017

Who is STILL doing this "Am I really pregnant" mind game at this point?

Argh

eller-2 · August 2017

@pettycrocker, I was until my ultrasound this morning. I have almost no pregnancy symptoms, so it's kind of hard to believe there's a baby growing inside me unless I'm looking at proof.

I had a good ultrasound today! Baby is measuring at 8 weeks exactly with a strong heartbeat. I've been an anxious mess, and I'm very relieved (for the moment, at least). I know there are no guaranties, but I'm starting to believe we might actually bring a baby home in March.

But because I can't seem to just relax... I've been googling progesterone levels. I was on supplements until 11 weeks during my last pregnancy, and even though my level this time looked good at 3w3d, I pushed them to test it again at my appointment last week. They told me today it was 14 (and change) at 7 weeks and that they want it to be above 10. I didn't question them, but from my googling after my appointment, it sounds like a lot of doctors want it higher than 10 (and higher than 14) at this point. I should ask my OB again - perhaps would get a different opinion, since there are 7 doctors in the practice - but I'm tempted to just start using the progesterone suppositories I still have on hand for the next 2-3 weeks. Anyone happen to know anything about good progesterone levels at 7 weeks?

eller-2 · August 2017

@chasingroygbiv, I hope you get perfect NIPT results, sooner rather than later! I'm having blood drawn for the NIPT in about 2 weeks, and I will definitely be anxiously awaiting those results. The odds are well in our favor, at least, but that doesn't make it easy to wait.

bklyninri · August 2017

@pettycrocker Slowly raising hand here...

chasingroygbiv · August 2017

Thanks @eller-2 Results were good and gender is in the mail! Now to figure out how to tell our kids in a fun way...

eller-2 · August 2017

Fantastic news, @chasingroygbiv! And exciting that you'll soon know gender

Sorry to ask a semi-medical question earlier about progesterone. I ended up sending a message to my normal OB (not the one I saw today), so at least I'll get a second opinion from someone I trust about whether it's worth supplementing now or monitoring further.

SP128 · August 2017

@chasingroygbiv Great news! So jealous that your NIPT is out of the way. Here I am waiting on my second u/s.......

chasingroygbiv · August 2017

@eller-2 Thanks! I know there are still other things, so I'm continuing to pray for a healthy baby.

@SP128 How much longer?

SP128 · August 2017

@chasingroygbiv 8/17

maureenbioni · August 2017

I've been extremely sick with a horrendous head cold that I pray doesn't turn into a sinus infection. Who gets this in August!? So my fears are turned up quite a bit because I fear being sick will hurt the baby. I've been forced to take Benadryl to help with the constant runny nose and post nasal drip and to calm me down. I'm so uncomfortable and hasn't slept all night. So I worry taking that is going to hurt the baby. Or that I'm so sick I'll miss signs of something wrong.

Gotta love PGAL thoughts.

chasingroygbiv · August 2017

@SP128 A few more days!!

@maureenbioni Drink tons of water! Is Vicks safe in pregnancy? Or maybe Baby Vicks? I have no clue, but if it is maybe that'll help enough to at least get you SOME sleep. Hugs!

maureenbioni · August 2017

@chasingroygbiv thanks! Yeah I slept basically 12 hrs last night and feel like a tiny bit better. I may try to go to work today and see how it goes. I am not a good rester. I was in bed or on the couch all day yesterday and the idea of doing it again makes me crazy. I may try working and see and if I don't feel well come home.

Woke up and my right boob hurts! How sad is
it I get excited when they hurt?

Cowboycorgi · August 2017

@maureenbioni, We really do get excited over the silliest things, but I'm right there with you!

mrs_tuna_08 · August 2017

Hi ladies! I'd like to introduce myself. I intro'd on the main page but it was lost at the bottom of hundreds. I don't intend to be super active on the main page, but I really like the support of a smaller group.
I'm 34 and have had 4 m/c's at 6 weeks and under. The first was my first pregnancy and it was devastating. Then came our rainbow. She will be 3 in November. The next 3 m/c's all occurred in the time we were trying for #2. I was getting set up with the fertility specialists when I found out I was pregnant again.

How far far along are you?
11 and 3

Any appointments coming up?
I see the genetic counselor on Wednesday. My OB refers NIPTs and such out to the genetics office. I will be 35 when the baby is born, so I qualify as a geriatric mother (wtf, geriatric!?? They couldn't come up with a nicer diagnosis code name?) but apparently my elderly status and loss history qualifies me for more testing that's covered by insurance, so yay?

How are you doing?
I've had two good u/s and I can reliably find baby on Doppler so I'm starting to let myself settle into this pregnancy.

GTKY: I like the first few weeks of all of the seasons. I think it is so exciting as things start turning. Even seeing those first few snowflakes is exhilarating. By the end of each season I'm usually ready for the next one to roll around.

chasingroygbiv · August 2017

@mrs_tuna_08 Welcome! Sorry you have also been through this, this is a great group of ladies offering lots of support!

mdfarmchick · August 2017

@mrs_tuna_08 Welcome! I'm so sorry for your losses. Hoping this is your rainbow.

justkeeptrying · August 2017

@mrs_tuna_08, welcome! And I'm sorry that you are part of this terrible "club".

Can I just say that I love this PGAL check in?? I find it so hard to connect with such large numbers of members. It's nice to have this smaller group that I already feel so close to! You ladies are awesome! So happy we get to be on this journey together!

ishmoney · August 2017

Welcome, @mrs_tuna_08!

hdaley · August 2017

Anyone else having a hard time telling others you are pregnant? I am 8w3d and my parents are up visiting. They live 5 hours away so this really is my only chance to tell them in person and I just can't bring myself to do it. I think a part of it is my dad didn't listen to us when we told them about DS and announced it to Facebook before we even told the rest of the family. Or it might be the way my mom reacted to the miscarriage like it was my fault -running too much, birth control, etc. And how she told me she never knew anyone that had one until now meaning me.

I also worry about telling my 5 yr DS. Only one close friend knows who lives down the road, so she can watch DS for my appointments. I just am not thrilled with telling people even after 2 good ultrasounds.

chasingroygbiv · August 2017

@hdaley Yes, I'm struggling. I'm excited to tell the kids, but I don't have interest in telling anyone else yet. And I'm almost out of first tri.. not sure why other than PGAL.

maureenbioni · August 2017

In two weeks I'll be out of my first trimester and as it gets closer I get more and more nervous to announce. I've deleted everyone I don't believe is a true friend or family member from social media because I'm scared. I'm scared I'll announce and have to make another more horrible announcement that it's over. When I miscarried very few people knew. Because I couldn't STAND hearing "oh it was early, oh you're so young, oh not meant to be". Nobody saw that pregnancy as real and it was to me. So I guess I feel like no one will truly understand the fear I live with daily afternoon I announce.

Im going to announce online more so because my husband has a billion relatives. But I'm not letting anyone in my nursing school know except my clinical professor for safety reasons. I don't feel like being questioned by people who truly don't care.

kiki75 · August 2017

@hdaley Information is a privilege. It seems your parents have lost theirs. I'm so sorry that your mom reacted like that. One would hope she's educated herself since then. She absolutely knows more people who have had MCs, they just haven't shared with her. And, clearly your dad has some boundary issues so I wouldn't tell until you're ready to tell FB. I'd just plan to tell them, extended family, and then Facebook in pretty quick succession to keep them from stealing your thunder again. MIL has lost her privileges for next time. She's told at least one person and has been badgering us about telling other people. And she knows about the MMC. Other people who know are just the people we can count on to be supportive should the worst happen.

mountain_girl · August 2017

@maureenbioni and others, I totally understand not wanting to tell the social media world in case something goes wrong later on. Saying this, I have a friend who announced on Facebook at 14 weeks that she was expecting a second daughter, and then at 16 weeks, she bravely took to social media to explain that she had lost the baby and actually provided awful details and what she had to go through... It was the most vulnerable, raw, and real post...and the support she received, in the hundreds, from ppl who share their stories, gave thoughts and prayers, was overwhelming...I actually searched back to find it after I suffered a loss from ectopic pregnancy this past fall for 'comfort.' I guess what I'm saying is, as heart breaking and difficult it would be to have to 'untell' anyone, there are sometimes positives that come out in the form of support and grieving loss together. And an update on my friend is she went on to have another beautiful daughter

maureenbioni · August 2017

Th

This podcast is amazing and has a range of topics but this episode was so amazing to listen to and resonates so strongly with me.

hullabalou · August 2017

@pettycrocker I've had multiple good ultrasounds and have pretty serious nausea/vomiting/general pregnancy symptoms, and I think I still will have that "is this real this time?" feeling until I can feel the baby moving. That's when it set in with my son that it was really happening, my body was doing what it should.

@hdaley when or if you make an announcement is up to you. don't feel pressured by how you think others may react by not knowing sooner. If it still feels more stressful than exciting to announce, I would wait. I've had friends that I haven't seen in a while but still keep in touch with on social media that I had no idea were expecting until they were well into their third trimester or posted a birth announcement!

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