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  • @orangecup that all seems so interesting to me. Because when Bamageddon happened everyone I knew left TB because TB was trying to be all rainbows and unicorns at least that's how we saw it. So GBCB happened because we didn't want to be censored, but now HIH is eye rolled rainbows? That's so crazy LOL a lot can happen in 3 years I guess. 
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  • Lol @bettyvonsomethingstein, that's probably why we aren't tripping over ourselves to volunteer names :p. I for one peaced out when some seriously effed up stuff went down.
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  • Lol @bettyvonsomethingstein, that's probably why we aren't tripping over ourselves to volunteer names :p. I for one peaced out when some seriously effed up stuff went down.
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  • hedgepig said:
    lund said:
    @orangecup over-discussed in general, but I think it's obvious that many of the women on here are FTMs and/or haven't considered the pros/cons of these topics. 
    @lund I'm totally with you here - there are lots of us who have never participated in discussions on the many "controversial" mom topics, or at least never in the context of actually applying to our lives. While many may have beliefs that aren't going to change, that doesn't mean it isn't helpful to us as humans to understand the other side of the argument. And some people may still be making up their minds and be interested in hearing lots of opinions.
    @hedgepig I completely agree with you! I have had this conversation recently with some of my girlfriends who are also parents and they were shocked when I told them I was against it and they told me that they have never even really thought about it. They basically just went with "the norm" and didn't even know it was a debate. 
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  • orangecup said:
    looeeze said:
    MH and I are on opposite sides of the circumcision debate. I don't understand how someone can understand the option of leaving ear piercing up to their LO to decide for themselves when they're ready, but aren't able to use that same logic when it comes to removing a piece of someone else's genitalia
    Because it's a completely different situation? I think your phrasing is over-the-top dramatic about something that's nbd. I'm not concerned about DS coming to us later in life upset that we made the decision to circumcise him and lamenting the loss of that tiny piece of skin. I doubt he will even spend more than a few minutes of his life thinking about it.
    The circumcision and ear piercing debates take place on every board, every month, for infinity. Make the decision you're comfortable with and don't worry about what other people do. I really hope in the future we can keep this out of the UO thread because it's tiresome.
    I didn't say I was worried about what other people are gonna do. Sorry for being an over-the-top drama queen?
  • looeezelooeeze
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    looeeze said:
    orangecup said:
    looeeze said:
    MH and I are on opposite sides of the circumcision debate. I don't understand how someone can understand the option of leaving ear piercing up to their LO to decide for themselves when they're ready, but aren't able to use that same logic when it comes to removing a piece of someone else's genitalia
    Because it's a completely different situation? I think your phrasing is over-the-top dramatic about something that's nbd. I'm not concerned about DS coming to us later in life upset that we made the decision to circumcise him and lamenting the loss of that tiny piece of skin. I doubt he will even spend more than a few minutes of his life thinking about it.
    The circumcision and ear piercing debates take place on every board, every month, for infinity. Make the decision you're comfortable with and don't worry about what other people do. I really hope in the future we can keep this out of the UO thread because it's tiresome.
    I didn't say I was worried about what other people are gonna do. Sorry for being an over-the-top drama queen?
    Also, sorry if I just re-ignited something. I just came back from a long AFK and replied to the @ to me instead of reading the whole thread first, like a dummy. FWIW, I don't care what y'all do with your little boys' pee-pees and not interested in this debate. I was just commenting on what I saw as a disconnect in logic, not on the merits of the procedure itself.
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  • orangecuporangecup
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    @orangecup that all seems so interesting to me. Because when Bamageddon happened everyone I knew left TB because TB was trying to be all rainbows and unicorns at least that's how we saw it. So GBCB happened because we didn't want to be censored, but now HIH is eye rolled rainbows? That's so crazy LOL a lot can happen in 3 years I guess. 
    HIH isn't eye-rolly, but it's posters who've known each other for a long time so things aren't very exciting. It's largely uncensored but there isn't much to censor as far as disagreements. It's mostly STMs+ and veterans of message boards. This place (TB) is way more eye-rolls but more lively. Most posters here would be eaten alive on HIH.
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  • LOL at the 2014 implosion.. Good times of crazy. 
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  • You all are making me crazy curious about what went down on TB back in 2014. Anyone care to elaborate?
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  • You all are making me crazy curious about what went down on TB back in 2014. Anyone care to elaborate?
    If I remember correctly, TB admins de-modded a bunch of people who had been here for years without warning. They also changed the TOU to make TB more "friendly" but it made it more lame and was kind of an FU to members who had been here a long time. That's what I remember. Anyone else feel free to add to or disagree with this.
  • @sunshinedays-2, I was around during the implosion, and I don't really know all the problems, but some regulars were banned and then they took Mod privileges away and everyone was butt hurt.   

    IMO, a lot of people over reacted (I am certain there were some justification). I left purely because the only board I used then was my BMB, and they all went to GBCB.  I never liked any of the other boards, a lot of the other women were too intense for me.

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  • To beat a dead horse I am not opposed to piercing and infants ears.  We did not get DDs pierced and now she wants it and is terrified.  Also if a grown person doesn't like body modifications there seems a simple solution of just not wearing ear rings. 

    As for cirmcumcision, it was Dh's decision, DS is circumsized and he didn't even cry. 

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  • @zombiemom1318 I wear my Lululemon leggings to work everyday...I work in the infant room at a daycare so I think it's pretty acceptable. 
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  • @beena722 leggings seem necessary in your work environment! 
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  • UO...I don't like Harry Potter, I don't like wine (wish I did), I don't like Shameless, and I don't like Target. 


    Jk jk, target is like my second home :D but forreal about the other 3. No bueno. 
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  • orangecup said:
    You all are making me crazy curious about what went down on TB back in 2014. Anyone care to elaborate?
    If I remember correctly, TB admins de-modded a bunch of people who had been here for years without warning. They also changed the TOU to make TB more "friendly" but it made it more lame and was kind of an FU to members who had been here a long time. That's what I remember. Anyone else feel free to add to or disagree with this.

    orangecup said:
    You all are making me crazy curious about what went down on TB back in 2014. Anyone care to elaborate?
    If I remember correctly, TB admins de-modded a bunch of people who had been here for years without warning. They also changed the TOU to make TB more "friendly" but it made it more lame and was kind of an FU to members who had been here a long time. That's what I remember. Anyone else feel free to add to or disagree with this.
    There was porn.  So.Much.Porn.  That's what I remember 


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  • @beena722 I was just about to call you out on Target LOL ;)

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  • The big meltdown was kind of a revolt from within. Initially the Bump Gods decided a new TOU needed to be drawn up to make the message boards "friendlier," and they asked for input from the board moderators (back then, each board was moderated by a member of said board -- essentially it was self-policing). The mods gave their input, it was promptly ignored, the new TOU was rolled out, mods got banned when they protested. Because the moderators were, for the most part, respected members of the community, the entire place exploded when they peaced out/were banned. A new board was created elsewhere, that exploded, and people have been trickling back here. 
  • @beena722 That said I HATE HATE HATE that our target got rid of their cafe with the pretzels and icees and replaced it with a starbucks. UO/FFTC I hate starbucks and only drink it in a pinch
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  • @kindbytealikat :o That's terrible! Ours has the cafe and a Starbucks. My favorite is the little personal Pizza Hut pizzas and an icee!
  • @kindbytealikat every Target I've gone to has both
  • @beena722 the crust on the personal pan pizzas are LEGIT!! 
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  • @beena722 the crust on the personal pan pizzas are LEGIT!! 
    Have any of you ever been to a Mod pizza? It's a fast food chain that makes personal 11" pizzas. Place is SO good. The crust is gluten free too. 
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  • @JJMNO1616 they actually just opened one close to my house! I will have to check that out! 
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  • Personal pizzas from Pizza Hut just make me think of Book-it! Did anyone else have that?
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  • @JJMNO1616 I've never heard of it but I just looked it up and there's one about 15 minutes away from me! Maybe I'll go check it out this weekend 
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  • @orangecup yes! Love book-it.
  • @orangecup omg I was just thinking about bookit the other day! 
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  • I remember book it! That was the best @orangecup

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  • haha i'm totally guilty of that during the weekends @kmalls ;

    I'll just get this one out of the way but I have never seen OITNB also I can't stand wine I think it is gross.  
    I hate wine as well and also have never seen OITNB, well a few minutes here and there when I was at my in-laws.
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  • ngolimentongolimento
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    @sunshinedays-2

    From what I remember, the implosion actually originated from The Knot and rippled outwards.  There was a mostly-good group of regulars on there, but the rules were very loose back then, and the owner company mostly relied on volunteer moderators, with only one part-time actual company uber-mod (who was actually the mother of the company owner).  There were a couple of regulars that were deeply deeply horrible people, and basically harrassed the uber-mod until she quit.  Then the hammer came down (because, duh, don't fuck with people's moms).  All volunteer mods were booted, the company re-wrote the community rules for all three sites, and hired actual company mods.

    TB was the second most heavily hit site, and most people here were hurt by the sudden crackdown and mass-bannings because they didn't see the origin.  In my opinion, the crackdown was mishandled terribly, but quite frankly, wasn't unreasonable given how nasty things got towards the end.  Individuals within XO were personally sought out by posters and harrassed in RL.  That isn't acceptable.


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  • edited August 2017
    JJMNO1616 said:
    @beena722 the crust on the personal pan pizzas are LEGIT!! 
    Have any of you ever been to a Mod pizza? It's a fast food chain that makes personal 11" pizzas. Place is SO good. The crust is gluten free too. 
    We have a Mod on one side of the street and. Blaze on the other side of the street.  It's basically the same.  Pizza wars!  Blaze has spicy red sauce though, so there's really no contest.
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  • luna8433luna8433
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    I was here for the implosion. I was a lurker then and didn't really get what was going on. At the time I thought people were over reacting. Because I was a lurker I didn't really have any close ties to any of the mods so I just stuck around. In the end quite a few of us ended up on Facebook. Then that group imploded into two different groups which still have lots of drama between the two. Imo it's great entertainment. Maybe that makes me a bad person but I enjoy the cat fights.
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  • @ngolimento wow I had no idea about all that. But in all honesty I try to stay away from large amounts of drama because I can't handle it. So I mostly just did what my board did since it was really the only board I was in at the time. I had some friends still over in TTGP at that time though.
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  • @ngolimento I didn't know it started on TK. I only started posting like 6 months before everything went down.
  • I guess my latest UO is I'd rather give someone the benefit of the doubt and risk looking like a total idiot because, hey, at least I tried to be kind to someone who sounded like they really needed it.  I'm being super cryptic....does anyone catch my drift here??
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  • @bettyvonsomethingstein I agree. Women can get very snarky on boards like these. I hope we all can keep an understanding mind that we all come from different backgrounds and all have different challenges on our lives. We all came to this board to get support during a challenging time in our lives. We just need to keep that in mind as we move forward because there will be hurt feelings speaking from experience. 
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