@KristinUM12 I struggled with infertilty for and had friends tell me they were pregnant in different ways. My best friend (who doesn't live in the same state so most of our communication is over email) sent me the most sensitive email ever telling me she was pregnant and that if I needed some time and space she would totally understand. I was so appreciative and thrilled for her and wanted all the details.
I met up with another friend for lunch and when it was time to order a cocktail, she blurted out that she was pregnant so I'd have to drink one for her too. NO. Not the way to tell someone who you know all the details of their infertility struggle that you are pregnant.
*TW* The same restaurant friend suffered a loss at 12 weeks and now I am really unsure about how to tell her about my suprise spontaenous pregnancy. *End of TW*
I think you tell her individually and give her the heads up that you will tell the group. She will really appreciate it.
@isntthatspeshul I'm on diclectin now... different name but exact same thing.
I couldn't live without it. I don't find that it makes me tired at all. I'm exhausted with or without it and don't really feel a difference. What IS different is my ability to actually get up and function somewhat normally - before I went on it, I was bedridden and took 2 weeks off of work.
*TW* @KristinUM12 I MC at 9.5 weeks before we had our first. It took us a really long time to get pregnant after that due to my long, irregular cycles. I never talk about it because it's just easier that way for me. It is a horribly emotional and personal experience, and I know many women experience it in different ways. With that said, my friend, who was also a teacher down the hall from me at the time, was also trying for their first, and she and I were regularly talking about the emotions related to it. She was aware of my MC. I took a pregnancy test the morning she told me about her pregnancy, and it was negative. She told me that she was pregnant in the middle of passing time at school just before lunch. I congratulated her and hurried to my room where I completely lost it and spent the entire lunch as well as skipped my supervision (called to get it covered) and cried through that whole time, too. I was so inexplicably sad that I couldn't just be normal excited for my dear friend. The rest of the day was awkwardly hard because I was trying to navigate these strong, confusing emotions.
I really wish she would have given me time to sit with it so I felt like a better friend when I saw her first. I could have responded so much better and I would have felt like I honored her joy in doing so. I think PPs have done a great job capturing that need for time to process.
@bb3vj3n I was 28 when I got pregnant with my daughter who has Down syndrome. I am healthy, no genetic conditions in either family as well. While your chances of having a baby with Ds (I don't know the stats of other genetic conditions that prenatal testing looks for) do go up as you get older, 85% of children with Ds are born to mothers under 35. With that said, we didn't do genetic testing with her because I knew, regardless of the outcome, I would not do invasive testing that carries a risk of miscarriage with it. There were also no real markers for Down syndrome in her ultrasounds. This time around, however, we are doing it. This is because the risk of heart conditions/ stillbirth etc is increased with a baby with T21 and, if this baby has it, it would give me more peace of mind to know beforehand so I can be monitored more regularly. However, I still won't be doing any invasive testing this time, regardless of the results of the blood test. Anyway, I just thought I could offer a somewhat unique perspective of it!
Does anyone else get pelvic pain when they sneeze? I get a small shooting pain that only lasts a few seconds and it's not terrible (feels a like a muscle pulling) but it freaks me out. I get so nervous to sneeze! Is this normal?
Does anyone else get pelvic pain when they sneeze? I get a small shooting pain that only lasts a few seconds and it's not terrible (feels a like a muscle pulling) but it freaks me out. I get so nervous to sneeze! Is this normal?
I have the same issue,and it scares me. I'm assuming it's normal.
@vaewelch Yeah I was reading and trying to figure out if it was round ligament pain, but it's not by my hips, but more 3 inches above my vagina directly in the center (sorry if TMI).
Does anyone else get pelvic pain when they sneeze? I get a small shooting pain that only lasts a few seconds and it's not terrible (feels a like a muscle pulling) but it freaks me out. I get so nervous to sneeze! Is this normal?
I have the same issue. I found that it helps to put light pressure on my belly when I feel like I have to sneeze. Similar to when I was recovering from my c section and it hurt to cough or sneeze!
I am staying on it. I have tried every way of weaning off since we decided we wanted to have a baby 2 and a half years ago. my doctor and I finally decided that preventing frequent severe anxiety attacks was more important to my health and the health of a baby. I have gone down from 100 mgs per day to 75, I will slowly go down to 50, and MAYBE keep going down from there as I get further along, but I doubt I will end up off it all the way. I have had one panic attack pregnant so far and I don't want to do anything to make that happen any more frequently. on it I am a nervous lady but mostly just fine and able to handle this rollercoaster with minimal crying
@isntthatspeshul I am using unisom/b6 which is basically the same as diclegis. My OB prescribed diclegis but it was $$$ with my insurance so she recommended this first and it's working. I was never too tired to function although I was definitely tired the first week. Now I don't feel that it's affecting me so you will probably find you adjust!
Are you taking a full unisom everyday? My Dr said half a unisom and 25mg of B6 but so far that's not helping me. Wondering if I can take a full?
@Staciefacie Thank you. I am going over to her place tomorrow so our boys can have a little play date, and I am planning on telling her towards the end of my visit (that way it's not just sitting there the rest of our time together...in case she doesn't want to talk about it at all). I definitely am telling her alone before telling a group with her in it. I can understand if someone didn't know someone in the group had a miscarriage, but if someone shares that with your group, I feel like it's only fair to warn them ahead of time.
Also, yes your post is blue. It's like one big link. Weird.
I posted this question last week as well but I'm still struggling with it. had anyone been inconsistent in taking their prenatal vitamins? I'm still having a tough time stomaching them and on nights that I'm feeling particularly nauseous....I have skipped them. I feel really guilty but they make me want to vomit almost immediately. I figure I'd it's just going to come up anyways.... skipping a day or two can't be the end of the world?
@bb3vj3n I would just make sure that you are getting enough folic acid in your diet the days you skip a vitamin. But no, it is not the end of the world.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
I posted this question last week as well but I'm still struggling with it. had anyone been inconsistent in taking their prenatal vitamins? I'm still having a tough time stomaching them and on nights that I'm feeling particularly nauseous....I have skipped them. I feel really guilty but they make me want to vomit almost immediately. I figure I'd it's just going to come up anyways.... skipping a day or two can't be the end of the world?
Obviously, taking your prenatals is highly advised, but you are right that it's not the end of the world. I think most of us have gone through periods where we haven't been as diligent in taking them. My best suggestion if you can't seem to stomach them is to try and tailor your diet as much around foods that are rich in vitamins and minerals. Particularly, folate. Maybe someone here also can recommend a brand that is easier on the stomach. I am no help in that department bc I have to take methyl forms of b vitamins in high doses.
I posted this question last week as well but I'm still struggling with it. had anyone been inconsistent in taking their prenatal vitamins? I'm still having a tough time stomaching them and on nights that I'm feeling particularly nauseous....I have skipped them. I feel really guilty but they make me want to vomit almost immediately. I figure I'd it's just going to come up anyways.... skipping a day or two can't be the end of the world?
Obviously, taking your prenatals is highly advised, but you are right that it's not the end of the world. I think most of us have gone through periods where we haven't been as diligent in taking them. My best suggestion if you can't seem to stomach them is to try and tailor your diet as much around foods that are rich in vitamins and minerals. Particularly, folate. Maybe someone here also can recommend a brand that is easier on the stomach. I am no help in that department bc I have to take methyl forms of b vitamins in high doses.
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This. Maybe try gummy vitamins? I've heard they are a lot easier to take since you aren't swallowing a pill whole.
@bb3vj3n I have the same problem. I think I've taken an ACTUAL prenatal vitamin maybe 5 or 6 times since morning sickness set in a month ago. However, I have folic acid and DHA that are much tinier pills so I take those in the morning with a warm drink like tea and that seems to help. Do what you can, try to get nutrients in other ways and then once the MS ends recommit to the prenatals
I posted this question last week as well but I'm still struggling with it. had anyone been inconsistent in taking their prenatal vitamins? I'm still having a tough time stomaching them and on nights that I'm feeling particularly nauseous....I have skipped them. I feel really guilty but they make me want to vomit almost immediately. I figure I'd it's just going to come up anyways.... skipping a day or two can't be the end of the world?
@crossfitbabybump Check out the answers to this question to address feeling sick when taking prenatals. There is also a while thread somewhere just dedicated to prenatals.
@gingham obviously check with your doctor but my OB said I could take more than that as needed. I take a whole unisom each night and 25 mg of b6. Then a half unisom and 25 mg of b6 right when I wake up and around 1 pm each day. The night dose helps with the morning, the morning dose helps with the afternoon, and afternoon dose helps with evening nausea. This was all recommended/approved by my OB and the same regimen I did last pregnancy. As soon as I started feeling better I started slowly weaning myself down, although I still took a half dose at night until about 30 weeks because I still found I felt awful without it. This is similar to the max dose you can take of diclegis too (two at night, one in morning, one in afternoon). I hope that helps and you get some relief!
@bb3vj3n Try children gummy or chewable vitamins. Just read the label to make sure they contain enough folic acid - you might have to take two. This was recommended to me by my doctor when I started TTC #1 and I never had to deal with gagging and nausea from pills or the unpleasant side effects of too much iron in prenatals.
If you're looking at taking vitamins that aren't prenatals and are considering doubling the dose to get enough folic acid, you might instead look at getting a separate folic acid supplement. Some vitamins, like Vitamin C, are water soluble so you can get 500% of your daily value and you'll just pee out the excess. Others, like Vitamin A, are fat soluble so your body stores them and you can definitely get too much, especially after days/weeks in a row of getting something like 200%+ of your DV. Probably if you're having a tough time getting them down, you can just call the doctor's office and ask what to do. I'm sure they hear it all the time.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
I was told by my RE to make sure not to take more Vitamins A and C than what's on PNVs. So be careful and look at the numbers if you're taking an alternative to a PNV.
@bb3vj3n I switched (maybe temporarily--haven't decided yet) from my regular prenatal to a liquid one because of morning sickness. The one I take is "mostly" organic, and has non synthetic folate and it's called pink stork--on Amazon. You just drink a tablespoon and it goes down way easier... the taste is a bit odd but not bad, and doesn't make me gag. Supposedly liquid absorbs better too.
I want to eat healthy and don't know how. My question is, what are some of your go to healthy snacks and meals (kid friendly is appreciated)? I'm really struggling to balance my diet. I gained way too much weight with both of my previous pregnancies and I hope not to this time.
Edited to clarify I do know how to eat healthy, in just picky lol.
DD born August 17, 2010 DS born October 13, 2014 Baby #3 due March 2018
Hi all, not sure if this is the place to post, I'm struggling with the decision of midwife versus maternity clinic. My husband really doesn't want to go with a midwife...he thinks of midwifery as hippy or something...I am not strongly opinionated either way, but have heard a lot of positive things about having a midwife. So, my question is midwife or doctor and why?!?! Note: I would like to attempt a VBAC and am AMA.
Question for STMs: how do you stay on your left side all night without getting bed sores and/or very uncomfortable. I move around throughout the night and I just don't get how this is possible. I know, I'll get one of the special pillows, but it seems like even with those 6-9 hours in the same position is going to hurt.
@vflux33 You don't really have to stay on your left side the whole time. I used a snoogle to help encourage the left, but switched back and forth through the night.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Re: Weekly questions 7/30
I met up with another friend for lunch and when it was time to order a cocktail, she blurted out that she was pregnant so I'd have to drink one for her too. NO. Not the way to tell someone who you know all the details of their infertility struggle that you are pregnant.
*TW* The same restaurant friend suffered a loss at 12 weeks and now I am really unsure about how to tell her about my suprise spontaenous pregnancy. *End of TW*
I think you tell her individually and give her the heads up that you will tell the group. She will really appreciate it.
I couldn't live without it. I don't find that it makes me tired at all. I'm exhausted with or without it and don't really feel a difference. What IS different is my ability to actually get up and function somewhat normally - before I went on it, I was bedridden and took 2 weeks off of work.
I really wish she would have given me time to sit with it so I felt like a better friend when I saw her first. I could have responded so much better and I would have felt like I honored her joy in doing so. I think PPs have done a great job capturing that need for time to process.
ETA: clarification
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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[spoiler]
Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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Edit bc idk what the hell happened to my post. Still don't know.. does it look blue to everyone else?
DS born October 13, 2014
Baby #3 due March 2018
Also, yes your post is blue. It's like one big link. Weird.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Edit for spelling
[spoiler]
Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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I know I'm 6w3d but time feels to be passing soooooo sloooowly!!!! How am I not even at 7 weeks yet?!?! I figured I'd be in double digits by now. Lol
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@bb3vj3n I switched (maybe temporarily--haven't decided yet) from my regular prenatal to a liquid one because of morning sickness. The one I take is "mostly" organic, and has non synthetic folate and it's called pink stork--on Amazon. You just drink a tablespoon and it goes down way easier... the taste is a bit odd but not bad, and doesn't make me gag. Supposedly liquid absorbs better too.
My question is, what are some of your go to healthy snacks and meals (kid friendly is appreciated)? I'm really struggling to balance my diet. I gained way too much weight with both of my previous pregnancies and I hope not to this time.
Edited to clarify I do know how to eat healthy, in just picky lol.
DS born October 13, 2014
Baby #3 due March 2018
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
MH saw me looking up the Snoogle online last night and he got all upset like, "hey that's my job!" I'm probably gonna get one anyway though.