Regarding gender disappointment: I think the name doesn't fit the description. It's not about not appreciating getting pregnant and having a healthy relationship. It's about mourning something that you won't have. I especially understand it, when it's the 'last' baby and your final chance to have a boy/girl. My SIL has always said they'll be two and done. They already have a son. I know she'll be happy with another boy, but think she will feel some sadness over not having a daughter.
My UO is that I don't get naming your child after a celebrity (singer, actor/actress, sports(wo)man). I always think 'what if he/she turns out to have done something terrible in the past?/will do something terrible in the future?', then your child is stuck with a name of someone who didn't turn out to be as awesome as you thought.
I agree with this except that I already have both a boy and a girl, so mine wouldn't be about that. I guess you could call it "gender reconciliation" instead.
i also named my son after a baseball player. Not because I'm in love with the baseball player, but because we liked the name. But it was definitely brought about bc of the player, and we even have a picture of him in my son's room. However, the baseball player is old enough now that I think we're mostly safe from any devastating secrets to pop up.
I named my daughter after an American Girl Doll. That's a mild FFFC I guess.
@breezybee, Felicity. She has two Felicity dolls in her room now; mine from when I was a kid, and the one I frantically bought on EBay when I found out (while I was pregnant) that Felicity had been discontinued and I wasn't sure where mine was. However I think maybe they brought her back now?
I have Kit! I got her for Christmas when I was 18 years old from my oldest sister. She knew I'd always wanted her but my parents could never afford to get her for me. I still have her in her box. I let my son play with her occasionally but he is only 3 so I don't let him have her full time. He's known to destroy lol.
Felicity was my second favorite - I looove her! Did anyone else read all of the books that went with each doll? My mom saved all of my Kirsten stuff for my future daughter. Too bad I'm getting twin boys lol. Maybe next time, mom.
UO #1: How people have a "feeling" its a boy or a girl? Seems there is nothing scientific to their "feelings" and seems silly to me. I have a feeling that I have a 50-ish percent chance it's a girl #teamgreen
UO #2: Men feeling a need to "pass the name down" is bery outdated to me. I've known many women who keep their last name when they marry, come up with a brand new last name with their SO, or many other things. No matter what your blood will go on - boy or girl
@NME44 I was going to say - I never read the Felicity series but out of all the American Girl names, it's by far my favorite. Good choice!! We're also going with a puritan name for baby if it's a girl.
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@ashtynmo, mother's intuition, I guess. I was right with my son, and I was right with my daughter (I knew she was a girl even before I knew I was pregnant...long story.) even if I'm wrong this time, that fits with @kvacmak's statistic of 70%, so *shrug*. And not everyone has these feelings. My friend with the Samantha says she has no idea, but she can tell like the minute she's pregnant, and I have no idea til the stick turns.
@whiska, I never thought of it as a puritan name! Lol! It fits her, though. She's spunky and energetic and joyful.
Now youve got me wondering what puritan name you chose...
@ashtynmo I definitely have this, and I can't explain it at all as previously I would have agreed with you. I have always always always wanted to be a boymom, and know DH wants a boy too. But since around week 10 or so, I have just been overwhelmed with a sense of baby being a girl, and all of our friends/family/coworkers have also said they think girl even without me saying anything. Not one single "I think it's a boy" out of dozens of folks! Again, I can't explain it, but if we find out at the anatomy scan that it's a boy, I will probably faint from shock. We will be so happy either way, but I'll have to mentally adjust to the idea of it NOT being a girl if that's the case.
@ashtynmo it's not scientific, just intuition. I thought (and dreamed ) DD was a girl. This time I think boy, but the feeling is not as strong. As for the wanting a boy/last name thing, DH will totally say he knows it's completely stupid but that's just how he feels. I think it also has to do with his being the 4th of his name (so not just the last name to pass on), his Native American heritage/pride (his dad grew up on the reservation), and just cultural norms that value boys over girls (even though DH generally likes women better than guy's guys). Emotions are weird.
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@Cait5413, agreed intuition or gut instincts our strongest gift. I knew my oldest was a boy just as I knew this baby was a boy. It's amazing I just felt it w all of my being.
I don't know if this counts but it is on my mind a lot right now because I'm researching newborn cloth diapering, I am soooo super grossed out by and kind of afraid of the umbilical stump and I am completely dreading it being there. I am super creeped out by belly buttons in the first place but that just gives me such anxiety. Hopefully when I have my sweet newborn in my arms I'll be too in love to care.
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i also named my son after a baseball player. Not because I'm in love with the baseball player, but because we liked the name. But it was definitely brought about bc of the player, and we even have a picture of him in my son's room. However, the baseball player is old enough now that I think we're mostly safe from any devastating secrets to pop up.
I named my daughter after an American Girl Doll. That's a mild FFFC I guess.
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My mom saved all of my Kirsten stuff for my future daughter. Too bad I'm getting twin boys lol. Maybe next time, mom.
UO #2: Men feeling a need to "pass the name down" is bery outdated to me. I've known many women who keep their last name when they marry, come up with a brand new last name with their SO, or many other things. No matter what your blood will go on - boy or girl
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DS - 12/9/17
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@whiska, I never thought of it as a puritan name! Lol! It fits her, though. She's spunky and energetic and joyful.
Now youve got me wondering what puritan name you chose...
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