Unpopular Opinion 7/20

katiegeminimoon

Lets hear them!

peachy13

I think the music on the radio right now sucks. Ed Sheeran, Beiber, whatever.. I hate all the songs. I went to a wedding in April where there was a lot of pop music played, and the dance floor would clear each time, so maybe this isn't so much of an UO. 

FWIW, I love music.. just not today's hits.

MJDsquared

This Is Us isn't that good. I watch it, and it's not that good. Everyone saying it's the new Parenthood is blaspheming, IMO. (But I love Milo Ventimiglia, Mandy Moore, and Sterling K. Brown sooo I'll probably keep watching it anyway. Sigh.)

missphil

I can't stand those little videos where they are cooking miniature food or building miniature furniture. They give me anxiety for some reason. What is the freakin point?!

peachy13

@MJDsquared i basically watch it for Milo and Sterling too. Otherwise, it's just an okay show. People lose their shit over it though which confuses me.

whiska

@MJDsquared Same.  I loved Parenthood (and if we're being honest for a period there right before Ray Romano was added it was a hate watch?), but I quit This is Us after 5 episodes.  Love Milo and Sterling, with an honorable mention to Ms. Moore, but the story is... I don't know.  Kind of boring.  Too overwrought?  

When I saw it on the Emmy noms last week I was pretty surprised and it made me think I should give it another chance.

MJDsquared

@whiska I sort of hate-watch it at this point. I keep hoping it'll get better, but at the end of most episodes I'm like, "Nothing even happened in this episode. They made it seem like it'd be super dramatic and nothing happened." It has made me cry a couple of times though, so I'll give it that.

Tennis11785

My UO - and I get that this might be an UO on this board - is I don't have sympathy for those with gender/sex disappointment.  I get thinking or hoping it's one sex,  being surprised, and needing a short period of time to adjust or recalibrate your thinking.  But I don't get the overwhelming feelings of disappointment or the long term sadness that I've seen others have.  Having a baby is truly a miracle and so many things need to work right for it to even happen.  We all go into it knowing it's a 50/50 shot as to what we get.  Babies should be celebrated, not a disappointment.  Imagine your mom crying for days before you were even born because you came out with the wrong genitalia.  Don't do that to your baby.  

So I guess I just won't hang out in that thread. lol.  

cait5413

I love This is Us! All the feels

failuretofly

@Tennis11785
I agree with everything you said. However, sometimes people just need a space to talk to through their feelings, perhaps hearing anothers perspective and insight to come around. But after I started that thread I saw there already was a thorough gender disappointment discussion on the sex reveal thread... so we can let it die...

ngarciabyu

I think gender disappointment and preference is normal. Like an "aw woulda been nice." But yeah I don't fully understand the total devastation some people feel.

rainbowdashh

Feelings can be completely irrational. I knew going in it would be 50/50, but when my last baby was a boy, I sobbed. And then I felt guilty for being disappointed. I had always imagined a house full of girls, and even though I was aware there was a good chance that wouldn't happen, I almost had to mourn the vision I'd had.

ETA: this time it's also a boy and while I'm so happy, I've had a lot of feelings about this pregnancy being easier if baby had been a girl because I'm constantly worried about "replacing" my son that passed. 

NME44

@Tennis11785, I posted in that gender/sex disappointment thread before I came and read this, but my post was basically what you wrote about thinking I'll need time to reconcile what I think I'm having with what I'm having. But I absolutely will not be devastated either way. I don't think for most people the disappointment lasts long after the baby is born (except in cases of ppd and ppa) but I do understand there might be an "aw shucks" moment.

My UO apparently is that This Is Us is fantastic, and I like it a lot better than Parenthood.

NME44

Adding, I don't know what I'm having yet, but I feel strongly that it's a girl. If it's a boy, I may take time to adjust my thinking.

Kirss

I think it's weird and side-eye when parents use their kid's birthday/holiday money for items the baby needs. I think that money should go into a bank account for college, not an upgrade on a car seat. The only time my LO gets to go shopping with birthday money is when she get's a GC. 

flowerpower5838

Agreed on gender disappointment, but like others have said - I think initial disappointment or something similar is fairly common and while I may not get it, I will just continue side-eyeing it and minding my own business lol.

Although I will admit that while not necessarily disappointed, I "felt" this baby was a boy so I had a brief period of...reconciliation maybe?? when we found out she is a girl. It's hard to describe. I am a logic person so I knew the odds were 50/50 so I certainly wasn't prepping for a boy, but against all reason I really thought she was a boy so it just took me a day or two to readjust and re-bond with the now baby girl since I felt like I was bonding with a boy. Not that bonding is gendered by any means, just kind of felt like I was being introduced to a stranger (one I was excited to meet!) instead of someone I had already known for a few months. 

flowerpower5838

AFM - my UO is that I don't get why people are so interested in the Royal family - especially on this (US) side of the pond. Let them live! 

acgonzalez22

I fully support anyone who takes time to reconcile their thoughts or disappointment on gender/sex. Being a little disappointed or feeling what one deems their level of devastation doesn't bother me. The fact that someone may have all boys and will never go wedding dress shopping with their daughter is understandable in my eyes. Or someone that has lost a child and wants another of the same sex. Personally, I always pictured myself as a boy Mama and had to take a few days to adjust to having a little girl. No one is saying or implying, for that matter, that children are not all special miracles. The reasons one may be disappointed are just not simply so black and white. I've seen a lot of gender disappointment in my 37 years and have never witnessed a Mother not loving what she had the moment he/she was in her arms. 

Edited:Grammer 

MJDsquared

@flowerpower5838 So with you on the Royal Family.

failuretofly

@flowerpower5838 YES! That is totally part of it for me. It was almost like 'I thought I knew you' and now it's all new, thinking baby was a boy and learning it was a girl! 

elcd458

I'll offer up a super controversial one since we are in need of some spice on the board lately. I don't know that it's so much an opinion as just a gut reaction that I have no control over, but whatever:

I have like... a deep, visceral negative reaction to families with a billion kids. Like my conscious mind is all PC about it, thinking "it's none of my business, as long as they are happy and cared for, to each their own, it's not affecting my life, yadda yadda yadda" but my subconscious immediate knee-jerk judgement is always a heavy dose of side-eye and disgust.

I have no idea WHY I feel this way.  I come from a freakishly small family, so I'm not sure if it's me secretly being jealous, or if I have some sort of deep concern about the global burden of overpopulation (which is definitely a problem and very real, but I honestly tend to take a "I'll be dead by then so whatever" approach to stuff like that)... IDK.  It makes me feel like a jerk, but I seriously can't help it!  If you have more than 4 kids and none of them are adopted, I'm judging you involuntarily, and I am so sorry!! 

Kirss

flowerpower5838 said:

AFM - my UO is that I don't get why people are so interested in the Royal family - especially on this (US) side of the pond. Let them live! 

I think Prince Harry is a Hottie McHotterson, but I don't follow the news. I did think it was hilarious that he wasn't in the family picture a few years ago. 

splsmama2016

I LOVE THIS IS US!!!! It premiered right after I had DD, so i had ALL the feels at the time. I'm so beyond happy for Sterling and his Emmy nomination, along with the man who plays the Dr. (Can't remember his name). 

My UO: I hate when I go to the store for something specific and they don't have it, and there is something in its spot that isn't the right product. Don't fill in an empty spot with the wrong product!! 

moonlady-2

My UO- Cheesecake Factory is awful.....overrated and bland!

sjis

@elcd458 I find extremely large families like the Duggars and the Kingston clan in Utah absolutely horrible. Barf! 

moonlady-2

@elcd458 I feel the same.

Kirss

@elcd458 I just want to know how they can afford that many kids. I know everyone has different lifestyles and incomes, but I'm over here scratching my head over daycare/latch key for 2 kids. 

MJDsquared

@elcd458 I feel the same. I don't consciously do it, but that is my initial reaction. Then I usually get over it and stop being judgey. Except for the crazy families like the Duggars, like @sjis said. I will never be able to wrap my head around 19 children.

@moonlady-2 I pretty much feel that way about most chain sit-down restaurants like that (Chili's, Applebee's, Outback, etc). But I'll admit, I can get down with their cheesecake.

ChelK3

I'm so facinated with big families and would love to create one myself, but only if I feel like I'm still successfully parenting. When I see big families in public and all the kids are acting like brats and parents seem like they have just completely given up, it makes me sort of angry. On the other hand, I love seeing big families with all the siblings helping each other and being polite little sweethearts. I secretly want 6 just to one-up my MIL who had 5 lol. 

tamaraaaa

I love This Is Us but it's no Parenthood.  Literally tearing up just typing this and thinking about the finale of Parenthood right now...  

balletnerd

I guess my UO is showing my ignorance about pop culture. I have never heard of This is Us or Parenthood. Hahaha

flowerpower5838

I guess I need to watch Parenthood! I'll add it to the maternity leave list.

kyrwyn

I always wonder how people with huge families afford them.  (This may be a by-product of growing up in a high cost of living locale).  When DH and I have talked about family size, we get stuck at the 2-3 kids level because of housing costs, transport logistics, childcare and educational costs, projected college costs, etc, on top of responsibly saving for our own retirement someday.  Actually, if we talk about fiscal planning too long, one kid starts to sound ideal even though we would love this LO to have at least one sibling.  

TigerCakes

I guess my unpopular opinion is I think This Is Us is way better than Parenthood.  I loved This Is Us and heard from many people that Parenthood was better so I've been watching it on Netflix.  I'm on season 5 and I'm not a fan.  I keep watching hoping it gets better and it's not.  I think part of my problem is I HATED Gilmore Girls so all the storylines with Sarah (I don't remember the actress's name) I can't stand. I don't really like Adam's storylines either.  So basically I like Julia and Crosby and if the show was just the 2 of them I think I would like it much better.

elcd458

I haven't seen This Is Us because I haven't finished Parenthood yet (halfway through season 5 maybe?) but I agree that half the characters' plot lines make me rage.  I basically hate all the kids except Jabbar.  I can't stand the way that Adam and Christina bow down to Max like he can do no wrong! I want to throw Sydney off a cliff! Et cetera. 

mdcd44127

So I'm realizing my UO is that being an only child is a perfectly lovely experience, and I am totally comfortable and happy only having one baby.

wabash15

TigerCakes said:

I guess my unpopular opinion is I think This Is Us is way better than Parenthood.  I loved This Is Us and heard from many people that Parenthood was better so I've been watching it on Netflix.  I'm on season 5 and I'm not a fan.  I keep watching hoping it gets better and it's not.  I think part of my problem is I HATED Gilmore Girls so all the storylines with Sarah (I don't remember the actress's name) I can't stand. I don't really like Adam's storylines either.  So basically I like Julia and Crosby and if the show was just the 2 of them I think I would like it much better.

BLASPHEMY! Gilmore girls is amazing!

TigerCakes

@wabash15 My mom loves Gilmore Girls and always watched the reruns.  I couldn't even stand being in the room when it was on as their voices just grated on my nerves so bad!

tamaraaaa

I didn't care for Sarah at all and never watched Gilmore Girls, but I'm there for Julia and Joel ALL DAY.  I think Parenthood was a bit more realistic for me, and like I said, I don't think I'll ever be over the finale.  I'm emotionally invested in the family like they are mine.  I might get into This Is Us more as the seasons go on, but right now I feel like I spent 6+ years with Parenthood and only a year with This Is Us.

MJDsquared

For me the drama (and lots of the acting) in This Is Us is SO soap opera-esque, and Parenthood feels more realistic/less over the top to me. Plus there are moments that aren't super serious. Also, like I said, I felt like there were entire episodes where nothing happened. Again, I'll probably still keep watching it when it comes back hoping to like it more. Maybe. This discussion just makes me want to rewatch Parenthood instead. Hahaha.

Also I adore Gilmore Girls and Lauren Graham so there's that.

FakeFinn

Regarding gender disappointment: I think the name doesn't fit the description. It's not about not appreciating getting pregnant and having a healthy relationship. It's about mourning something that you won't have. I especially understand it, when it's the 'last' baby and your final chance to have a boy/girl. My SIL has always said they'll be two and done. They already have a son. I know she'll be happy with another boy, but think she will feel some sadness over not having a daughter.

My UO is that I don't get naming your child after a celebrity (singer, actor/actress, sports(wo)man). I always think 'what if he/she turns out to have done something terrible in the past?/will do something terrible in the future?', then your child is stuck with a name of someone who didn't turn out to be as awesome as you thought.