IF/Testing Weekly Check In - Week of July 3

lund · July 2017

This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have started infertility testing and/or treatments. You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on infertility. TTC can be a long journey naturally, then add in the difficulties associated with infertility and it becomes a whole new ball game. The road to infertility can be lonely, frustrating, and complicated, so let's make this a place where we can vent, ask questions, and support one another. Feel free to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say, and treat this like an ongoing conversation.

Diagnosis (If you've been):

Cycle/CD:

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA):

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)

How are things going?

Any questions?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week!

lulu1180 · July 2017

I haven't done a check-in in a couple weeks because work and life was busy. I'll try to come back and respond if this week is a little less busy than I've been recently!

Diagnosis (If you've been): Hyperprolactinemia

Cycle/CD: Cycle 18/ CD18

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): TWW 8DPO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) bromocriptine

How are things going? As usual I go back and forth on whether or not this cycle was successful and I'm just trying to not symptom spot (and doing a halfway decent job for once!) And things are getting shaken up at work again for me so I get to figure out exactly what is changing and how and then try to adjust and hope this change sticks for a while.

Any questions? nope

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! We're having a couple friends over for a cookout tonight and making ribs! Which means I get to go home after a short day at work and get everything ready

lund · July 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI and DOR (although RE hasn't confirmed DOR yet, but lab results don't look good)

Cycle/CD: 14/5

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) HSG on Friday. BW results are as follows: AMH 1.1 (ugh), FSH 8.4, LH: 5.2, estradiol 28 pg/ML, progesterone 7.4

How are things going? Not great. It looks like I'll see my actual RE on Friday during or after the HSG - or at least that's what it says on my online chart. It'll be good to talk to him about my AMH and FSH since his dumb nurse doesn't see a problem with the fact that my lab results are indicative of 40 year old ovaries.

Any questions? Trying to decide whether I should go to the HSG alone on Friday (3.5 hr drive one way) or ask my friend to go with me. This friend can be annoying AF, but I suppose it would be smart to have someone with me in case the HSG is rough.

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! Had some fun lake time yesterday, and will hopefully have more tomorrow

I'm not a huge fan of 4th or July because fireworks are dumb and everyone around here blows sh*t up into the wee hours of the morning because 'Murica, but I'm all for boats and booze!

ETA because I always edit for clarity and stuff

50Wife · July 2017

@lund good luck on Friday!! I brought the hubs to the HSG with me just incase. It all went well, even with the blocked tubes, just cramping during the actual HSG but as soon as it was done I was fine. No cramping after either. With that being said, since I ended up almost passing out after my hysteroscopy, I wanted to bring him as a just incase. Sometimes those nerves beforehand can get to you and it'll be nice to have someone there to just hold your hand if you need it during the procedure.

@lulu1180 I hope this cycle was a success!! Fingers crossed for you. And have fun tonight!!

Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI - low count. And just found out my tubes were both blocked (but were able to be cleared!)

Cycle/CD: Cycle 14. CD - not keeping track bc the doctors office is and it's glorious!!! Maybe 11/12?

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Just sexin' when they tell us to. IUI next month if we're not successful this month with my nice clean tubes

How are things going? Actually really well, we're hopeful after my hsg.

Any questions? Nada

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! Well I'm off tomorrow so that is something fun for me!!!
Might go to a BBQ at my brother and sister-in-law's depending on the weather tomorrow. Part of me wants beautiful weather, the other part of me wants it to pour rain so our 4th of July festivities in our city get cancelled so my husband is off. He's being drafted to work even though it's his day off.
We're also having a surprise 30th (it's 30.5 actually *TW she was pregnant for her 30th so her husband is doing it 6 months later so she can celebrate end TW*) party for my sister this weekend! I'm so excited! So I'll be cooking and getting my stuff ready for that Friday night and Saturday morning. I'm pretty excited!! I know she's totally not going to expect it AT ALL so I can't wait to see her reaction!

RVAmom315 · July 2017

@lund GL Friday! I agree with @50Wife, although the procedure isn't that bad, it's nice to have someone with you (especially with such a long drive!)

@lulu1180 FX this is your cycle!

@50Wife I am so hoping that you get that HSG magic!

zwink1 · July 2017

@lund, I'm so sorry about your DOR news. My HSG was rough, but I seem to be the minority. It was only really bad for a bit though, and I was able to drive myself to work shortly after.

Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI & ov dysfunction

Cycle/CD: Month 28/CD3

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)
Testing

How are things going?
Not going to lie, this weekend was rough. CD1 showed up on Saturday, which made for a delightful couple of days, and Friday night H and I had probably our most emotional fight/discussion about IF that we've ever had. I'm just completely emotionally drained right now.

Any questions?
Nope.

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week!
Umm I guess fireworks tomorrow night and potentially dinner with friends on Sat night.

lund · July 2017

@lulu1180 sorry for the shake up at work. Those kinds of things are always stressful. FX you're KU so the work drama feels like NBD

@50Wife yay unblocked tubes!!! And it sounds like you have a fun week coming up - enjoy!

lund · July 2017

@zwink1 ugh, sorry for the rough weekend and fight with DH. Did you you and YH at least reach some sort of resolution or end the discussion in a good place? Those types of fights/discussions can be so rough.

zwink1 · July 2017

@lund I think so. It's just hard to say because he has such a tough time with this and he doesn't like sharing his feelings with me. I seriously think he needs to find a professional to talk to about how he's feeling, mostly because he's not comfortable sharing with anyone in his life. It didn't help the situation that I was an emotional, hormonal mess. I think it was cathartic, but only time will really tell, so we'll see.

50Wife · July 2017

@zwink1 I'm sorry to hear about the fight. I feel like this kind of stuff just automatically puts you on edge and stresses everyone out. Is he up for going to talk with someone? I feel like people are either totally for or against that kind of stuff

JuneRoseRuby · July 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): virtual azoo

Cycle/CD: 20 cycles I think, CD5ish

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Need to schedule an Appt with the RE to see is we have options that don't involve donor sperm.

How are things going? I feel like H doesn't get the severity of our situation. He just keeps saying, oh just wait to see what the RE says. I'm like dude... we are 1% of the entire population with azoo, and actually virtual azoo is 1% of that. So our diagnosis is 0.01% of the population... do you get it yet? He still seems unfazed. I had a big sad weekend that I have lost hope that I will have biological children.

Any questions?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! Gutted the bathroom floors this weekend, so hopefully finishing them this week! I am happy to have tomorrow off. It will make the week go quickly.

@lund our RE made us have someone to drive me home from it. Although it was absolutely fine. I may have been numb from our SA results though because they gave them to us at the same time
@zwink1 Sorry about the fight. I know YH isn't always on board with what he needs to get done for this journey of yours, right? Sorry. You aren't alone, MH doesn't even think it is a big deal yet that he has no freaken sperm.
@lulu1180 I was wondering where you disappeared to! It's your month!
@50Wife FX for those slippy clean tubes!

tamalahoops · July 2017

@lulu1180 sorry that work is rocky. Hopefully this is a permanent shake up!
@lund I had a particularly painful HSG and drove myself home. I was only in pain during the procedure and just uncomfortable after. I'm eager to see what your RE says about your bloodwork. I'm sure its super nerve wracking.
@50Wife Fingers crossed so hard that the HSG did the trick and you graduate soon!

@JuneRoseRuby I am in the same boat with an optimistic husband. Even after all we've been through he thinks that we'll conceive naturally. And that to me is infuriating because I feel like it invalidates my feelings of sadness and frustration. Hugs to you friend.

purplepelican · July 2017

@lulu1180 Nom nom nom ribs sound soooo good right now! We don't have any plans for the 4th, but now I'm seriously craving some BBQ.

@lund That's a tough one on whether to ask the friend to go or not. My mom offered to go to my RE appointment with me when they did my first ultrasound, but I decided I'd rather be by myself so that I wouldn't have to be "brave" in front of someone else (even my mom). (DH can't go to my appointments bc of work.) But yeah that is a long drive to have to do by yourself. I feel the same way about fireworks. I like the professional fireworks displays, because those are neat. But I just really don't understand shooting off fireworks at home. DH says he just likes blowing things up. Eyeroll.

@zwink1 I'm so sorry about the emotional fight/discussion. I've had a few of those with MH because I feel like he's just not realistic about things and won't talk about future treatment options if medicated cycles don't work. And he feels like I'm borrowing trouble because we "aren't there yet." IF really has a way of straining relationships. Finding a therapist or other professional sounds like a good idea. MH won't go anywhere near a therapist, but I've started seeing one, and she's helped me with my side of the IF discussions at least. Big internet hugs from me.

@50wife Keeping my fx that the HSG will make this your cycle!

@JuneRoseRuby MH is the same way (although obviously my dx isn't as serious as YH's). I think it just takes some people a lot longer to process things. Maybe it will take talking to the RE to get him to that point. Huge, huge hug from me about you losing hope. It's so hard to balance being realistic with being hopeful. After telling her about my discussion with DH last week, my therapist says that I should say "I don't ovulate...yet" so that I could be realistic but also tag just a bit of hope on at the end. Obviously you're not me, and if being super realistic is what you need right now because if you need to go ahead and grieve it, then go ahead and grieve it.

Diagnosis (If you've been): PCOS (currently anovulatory)

Cycle/CD: 3 (all progesterone-induced; month 9)/ meh

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): taking progesterone to induce AF

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) nothing this cycle. Next cycle I should be doing a medicated cycle with Femara/letrozole. I haven't talked to the RE's office in like a month (because we were waiting to see if I would spontaneously ovulate with metformin and weight loss...hah), so I'm feeling a little anxious and want to call just to confirm what the plan is for next cycle. It should be a while before I start AF but I like to know exactly what the plan is in advance.

How are things going? Pretty good. I've been feeling positive overall and enthusiastic about moving forward. I had a great, long chat with one of my BFFs on Saturday that has me feeling positive. But for some reason I had a random "down" day yesterday. I had a bunch of things I needed to get done, but I didn't do any of them and just sat around watching movies all day. I just kinda had a "feeling sorry for myself" day I guess. But I have so many things I need to get done this evening that I'm going to FORCE myself to do them. I just need to keep myself busy so that I can feel positively again.

Any questions? Nah

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! I guess I'd better plan something fun, because I can't think of anything right now. Maybe I'll plan a coffee date with a friend during the week and a brunch on Saturday with another friend - I've been meaning to catch up with them for ages.

ETA: fixed a typo

lund · July 2017

@zwink1 is he open to talking to a professional? IF is such a mindf*ck, and I can't imagine not having someone to talk to about it.

@JuneRoseRuby do you think YH is being so optimistic in an attempt to help? I kinda do this when MH stresses about finances - like I feel that if I agree or commiserate with him in the stress then it validates his concerns and will make him worry more. Sounds pretty dumb now that I typed that out, but for better or worse it's what I do. Or maybe YH is just firmly rooted in denial, which is super frustrating.

@tamalahoops thanks! I'm leaning towards just driving myself because I'm an introvert anyway, so the idea of being trapped with an annoying friend is awful lol. And, I'm almost more afraid that my RE will dismiss my possible DOR - Iike I'll realize that my RE is a total dud because of this (and this RE clinic is the only one in the state). Of course I don't want to borrow trouble, but the BW numbers don't lie, and it seems like pretty common knowledge that number like mines aren't good.

purplepelican · July 2017

Side note: I'm going to need for this targeted advertising to please stop. Nope, I don't need "baby bump friendly dresses." Nope, I don't need help with an "unexpected pregnancy."

Image: https://media.giphy.com/media/13FYnxGInhzS8w/giphy.gif

ETA: I mean they can't even get it right. Target me with ads for Follistim or Pom juice or supplements or something.

Hollyyyyy · July 2017

@lund +1 Bring friend. If anything, just to make the drive go a little faster. Good luck at your appts this week!

@50Wife Have fun at the surprise party, and FX it rains on you guys!

@zwink1 Sorry about the fight

Hopefully he will agree at some point to talk to someone. That's so tough.

@JuneRoseRuby Hugs

Sorry for the rough weekend. Yay for progress on the floors though!

@beanship How long have you been on Metformin? My RE told me it will take a few months before it starts to regulate anything. I've been on it now for just under 2 months, and although my cycle is still far from regular, it already went down to 43 days this last time (pretty big leap from the 80-100+ days before).

KristoKekerooni · July 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI & RPL

Cycle/CD: Cycle 37, CD6

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?): NTNP? JK. I'll try to actually temp this cycle. Even though I am so effing over it.

How are things going? Another month, another cycle. FF is due again. I never thought I would need FF to get pregnant. And then I never thought I would need it long enough to justify paying for it. And then I never thought I would need it for year. Or then another whole year. Ugh. Can I get a long-term customer discount?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week!
Wellllllllllll.... I am going to a party tonight. And then hosting small group Friday. Yippee.

tamalahoops · July 2017

lund said:

@tamalahoops thanks! I'm leaning towards just driving myself because I'm an introvert anyway, so the idea of being trapped with an annoying friend is awful lol. And, I'm almost more afraid that my RE will dismiss my possible DOR - Iike I'll realize that my RE is a total dud because of this (and this RE clinic is the only one in the state). Of course I don't want to borrow trouble, but the BW numbers don't lie, and it seems like pretty common knowledge that number like mines aren't good.

Thats totally valid. I'm really hoping that its just the nurse thats stupid and not your RE. We have some pretty dumb nurses at my RE's office.

WillRunForWine21 · July 2017

@lulu1180 hope that work is calming down and so happy for you that you are starting a journey with a plan. FX for you
@lund I'm one of the few that had anot hsg with minimal discomfort BUT about an hour later had a lot of pain. So if I was doing a 3.5 hour drive I would have been pretty miserable (I was on the subway, that was bad enough) but balanced with an annoying friend I see that being tough. Maybe rent a good audio book or download a podcast? That way there is an excuse not to talk...
@zwink1 I too have an introverted DH and it is not easy. I do find he shares a little more when I share first but those moments are few aND far between. I hope he works things out
@JuneRoseRuby you are always in my thoughts. I really hope there is good news from the RE
@beanship I totally understand wanting to check in with the RE. Hope you are all on the same page. Also, your gift game is ON POINT

Diagnosis (If you've been): unexplained. Low AMH (.89), borderline MFI (though last IUI sample was good, so hopefully that is working itself out with vitamin supplements and lifestyle changes)

Cycle/CD: 13/14

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): IUI TODAY!! IN ABOUT AN HOUR

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Well I was bummed last week. Just one egg. I was on Femara instead of clomid because of a nationwide shortage. Turns out I respond better to clomid. I surged on my own yesterday so no trigger and the IUI is today. DH just finished his job. He is mad the office staff doesn't line up to high five the man after he gives the sample. He has ideas for opening his own clinic

How are things going? I don't have high hopes for this cycle. The one egg and no control because of no trigger bums me out buttttt..... that didn't work last time so maybe change is good?

Any questions? Nope!

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! Tomorrow we are going to my cousin's house to swim and hang out. My cousin's wife is cooking up a storm which is exciting because she understands allergies and I can trust her with DH celiac restrictions. And all we have to bring are booze. SCORE!

purplepelican · July 2017

@Hollyyyyy That's good to know! I've been on it about 2.5 months. I started it before the beginning of this "cycle" (which was like 67 days ago). But I have a family history (mom) of endometrial cancer (caught SUPER early, thank God, and cured by a total hysterectomy), so they don't want me having cycles that are too long and are forcing a cycle every 60-ish days. Maybe the Metformin is JUST about to start working for me. Although it did kill my appetite for a while (I swear I've only had it back for a couple of weeks), so it really helped me to lose the last couple of pounds I wanted to. Although those were vanity pounds since I'd already gotten my BMI just below 25 through blood, sweat, and tears. Granted my starting BMI was just over 25, so I didn't have all that much to lose. I've only lost about 10-12 lbs total. But holy cow was it hard. My metabolism has never been great. So at least the Metformin has been successful so far in that respect.

madspunk · July 2017

@lund I went alone to my HSG and I wished I had brought my husband. I was one of the rare few who had pain during the HSG even though my tubes weren't blocked. I was pretty miserable after and had to drive myself 45 minutes home. But all that said, I'm an introvert too and I could drive myself even though my HSG sucked, and I wouldn't have wanted anyone but my husband or my BFF around me for that. I hope your RE addresses your concerns about your B/W.

@zwink1 Sorry you are feeling drained.

@JuneRoseRuby Hugs. That's rough H isn't being quite realistic. On the upside, it's good that he's not an emotional mess over it, but it's tough to figure out treatment plans when the other person isn't on the same page. I hope your RE appointment brings you both some answers.

leekat14 · July 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been):
Endometriosis and low AMH

Cycle/CD: not sure maybe 19 at this point

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): wto

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) FET cycle

How are things going? Good! Checkup today, hoping to start PIO and get a solid transfer date. Did any of you get specific instructions for the day of the transfer?

Any questions?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week!

Hopefully enjoying fireworks tomorrow!!! Possibly dinner with friends a couple times this week.

@lund good luck getting some answers from the Dr. I would probably risk it and do the drive by myself...you can always take your time on the way back if need be.

@lulu1180 Fx for you!

@KristoKekerooni they should totally offer a discount! Or even better give it us for free after a certain number of months!

@JuneRoseRuby I'm sorry H isn't getting it...maybe he just needs a little more time to adjust

@beanship I hear you on the ads. Pinterest might be the worst for me so I've stayed away!

@50Wife Hope that hsg has helped you out and solved your issues, yay for clear tubes!

@zwink1 Hugs to you. I'm sorry all of that happened at the same time. CD 1 sucks but then to add the stress of a fight to it..ugh. just hugs.

purplepelican · July 2017

@WillRunForWine21 Yay for the IUI!!! Keeping fx for you!!!! All the exclamation points!!!

Hollyyyyy · July 2017

@beanship Oh wow, so glad everything was caught early on with your mom!

I haven't really have any SE with Metformin, thankfully. Hopefully it kicks in for both of us sooner than later, and we get those 28 day cycles I have heard about!
I'm meeting with my RE on Wed afternoon to discuss our next steps (probably IUI), so I have a feeling I have more drugs (Clomid or Femara) in my near future.

@WillRunForWine21 Yay IUI! GL today!

@leekat14 Hope your checkup goes well today!

50Wife · July 2017

@WillRunForWine21 good luck today!!!!

BertieMeetsGertie · July 2017

@lulu1180 hey, TWW buddy!

@lund yay for getting the HSG out of the way! I was fine during and after mine, so I didn't need anyone with me. I did have cramping during the procedure but was ok after. Hopefully you'll be able to talk with your RE about your lab results.

@zwink1 ugh. Sorry about the heated discussion you had with YH

@JuneRoseRuby wow, men just don't get it sometimes. Hopefully the RE will have a plan that works for you.

@WillRunForWine21 GL with the IUI!!!

Diagnosis (If you've been): still testing

Cycle/CD: Cyle 14/CD18

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): TWW, 4dpo

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) hopefully getting DH's SA scheduled within the next couple of weeks

How are things going? Ok I guess. Just chilling during this TWW

Any questions?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! I think we're going to a new winery tomorrow, so that should be nice!

sbarluccico · July 2017

Ladies, I hope it's ok I jump back in here. I tried a couple of months ago but I am very bad at keeping up, so I stopped again. I am hoping third time's the charm and to be able to post weekly again.

@lund sorry for the crappy BW results. I hope your doctor can shed some light and offer solutions. Good luck with the HSG. I found mine to be totally fine, but they made me take painkillers and antibiotics suppositories, which made me feel horrible all day (and was working). I'd recommend taking someone with you.

@lulu1180 FX!

50Wife good luck for this month! I hope the clean tubes are it for you!

zwink1 Sorry for your fight. We have so many fertility-related fights, and I have said some pretty awful things to him which I regret. I hope you can patch things up and find a way to make things work. Is he part of the 'problem' related to your infertility? Does that make things worse for him?

beanship 'IF really has a way of training relationships'. THIS.

@WillRunForWine21 YH sounds like the coolest dude!

Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI (low morphology, swinging between 0-5% over 3 different SAs over the past 12 months)

Cycle/CD: 16/CD1 (ugh)

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO. I have an appointment in 3 weeks to arrange IUI hopefully for next cycle (we are on the NHS/public health system here in England, so we have to go by their timings, which are veery long. Not complaining as we are getting treatment 100% free)

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) TI and getting info on IUI (even though I have spent so much time researching, I know exactly how it works and I just want to get it done asap!)

How are things going? Hard. I am at the stage when even seeing a woman on the street with a child gives me a mild panic reaction/pangs of sadness. I am trying to ignore thoughts of all the women I know currently pregnant (LOADS) and the fear that more announcements are imminent.

We haven't even been able to get our #1 BFP, and I can't help but think that this might just be the first hurdle to overcome. *TW* I know I am getting a bit ahead of myself, but what if we then discover we have other problems, like losses, genetic issues that make carrying a pregnancy to term impossible? I know these are stupid thoughts right now and I should concentrate on what we are trying to do, one thing at the time, but I am a 'worst case scenario' person and even though I keep thinking this is the worst thing I thought could happen (i feared infertility long before we even started TTC), I know there is much worse and we are not exempt from that just because of our present struggle/suffering. Ugh. *END TW*

Any questions? I am not taking any specific PNVs (except for Folic Acid) and when I asked my RE about taking supplements, she said that with a balanced diet (which we have) it's not necessary. I took some PNVs last year but I felt they messed with my cycle (dried up my CM, couldn't detect O, had a v long cycle), so I stopped. DH is on a general multivit. Anyways my Q is: is there something I/DH should definitely be taking? I am not asking for a miracle potion, but is there a single vit/supp you'd recommend to someone who has tried for as long as we have without success (man or woman)?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! No long weekend/4th of July for me in London, but we have a freebie dinner (perks of my job as a journalist) in a new restaurant one evening this week, and a fun event in a botanical garden on Sunday night!

RVAmom315 · July 2017

@WillRunForWine21 Good luck today! So exciting

@JuneRoseRuby All the hugs. Maybe it's just YH way of coping. Still hoping you get some answers from your RE

@zwink1 I'm sorry about the fight. Hugs

Diagnosis: AMA, Potentially MFI

Cycle/CD 11/17

Status: TWW

What are you doing this cycle? Additional testing, repeat SA for DH to see if the abstinence contributed to the 0 morph on the first one.

How's it going? Ok. I waiver back and forth with, oh it was totally a fluke and oh it totally isn't. We have made sure to stay within the abstinence parameters this time so we shall see

Any questions? Not at the moment

GTKY: Tell me about something fun you're doing this week! Nothing special. We may meet up with friends next weekend to go swimming, and maybe try to get in a date night with DH

purplepelican · July 2017

@Hollyyyyy Have you done medicated TI cycles before, or are you guys just jumping straight to IUI? Is PCOS the only issue (or is there a male factor involved too)? Haha yeah I think the only time I've ever had 28 day cycles was when I was on the pill.

LadyMillil · July 2017

@lund your AMH is slightly higher than mine (1.08) and my RE said that I still had a good chance of IVF working, but that I would be a low responder to stims, so they would expect something like 4-8 follicles instead of the 10-15 that most people seem to get, and that I may need a more aggressive stims plan. My RE said that he wasn't concerned about having poor/no response to stims until AMH was below 0.4

@leekat14 I had to drink 2-3 cups of water about 90 minutes before transfer and also not pee. I take vaginal progesterone so I didn't take my dose that morning.

purplepelican · July 2017

@sbarluccico I understand the anxiety. We've all felt it. But to use a phrase I've used a lot today - don't borrow trouble. It's hard not to think about the "what ifs." But there are so, so many what ifs in life. There are two ways to deal with it. 1) focus on the present and deal with whatever comes in the future whenever it happens. 2) If you can't stop yourself from thinking about the what ifs, then make a plan to deal with them. That way, when you start worrying about something, you have an answer for yourself - an action plan.

Hollyyyyy · July 2017

@beanship That's what we are going to discuss at my appointment later this week. My RE was concerned about my husband's morphology, but as I've learned here, everyone seems to have a different idea of what's "normal", and it's really not as bad as she made it sound. So...TBD!

tamalahoops · July 2017

@leekat14 my clinic is a scent free environment and they truly enforce it in the ivf procedure rooms that are connected to the lab. So we bought unscented soap and shampoo and deodorant and both of us used it since we were both in the room for the transfer. When they say full bladder they mean full. I didn't start drinking early enough so it was all in my belly and they made me drink more. So I recommend starting a few hours ahead. My husband also drank a bunch of water so he could commiserate in just how badly I had to pee.

zwink1 · July 2017

Thanks ladies! @beanship, you hit the nail on the head with the "borrowing trouble" theory. H hates to talk about anything before we "get there in his mind and it drives me a little crazy. I think right now having separate resources for voicing our feelings might help both of us more than joint, though we should get to the joint stage at some point. I go to a group once a month, but I also have a close friend who I'm comfortable discussing things with. @50wife & @lund he'd be willing to go see a professional. I've told him he should reach out to our RE's office about a referral, we'll see... @sbarluccico, he has OAT, which is our current primary issue, and which is definitely causing some intense feeling on his end.

@JuneRoseRuby Hugs hugs to you! I am so with you on the sad emotional weekend. As for MH, it's not so much that he's not on board, but more that he's delusional and thinks that if he just ignores the problem that it will go away or not be real...which I guess is not on board!

@WillRunForWine21 I'll have my FX that this IUI is it for you!!!!

WillRunForWine21 · July 2017

@tamalahoops do they give reasoning behind scent free? It makes total sense from a comfort point of view but I was wondering if they also cited estrogen induction etc. Just curious!

shortstack930 · July 2017

@lulu1180 have fun at the cookout tonight!
@lund good luck with the HSG!
@50Wife I'm so glad you're feeling hopeful! Fx this is your month.
@zwink1 I'm sorry for CD1 and your fight with your H. I think finding someone for him to talk to about all this is definitely a good idea.
@JuneRoseRuby I'm sorry you're feeling down. I'm sure your H just doesn't want to give up until the RE actually says there's no other option. I hope the RE has a good solution for you.
@beanship I'm glad you're trying to stay positive. I hope this next cycle starts quickly and you're able to move forward with a medicated cycle.
@KristoKekerooni I feel you on being over temping.
@WillRunForWine21 good luck with the IUI today!
@leekat14 yay for getting a transfer date soon!!
@BertieMeetsGertie have fun at the winery!
@RVAmom315 I hope it was just a fluke and the repeat SA is much better!

Diagnosis (If you've been): unexplained secondary IF

Cycle/CD: 19/I think CD19

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): TWW

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI

How are things going? Really great actually! I've been so much more relaxed this TWW to the point where I'm not even sure what CD it is. I'm trying to focus on other things and on eating healthy and I think it's helped with not being anxious about the TWW.

Any questions? nope.

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! Having a BBQ at my parents house tomorrow and we're making smores and I'm making a blueberry pie!

AlohaKumu · July 2017

(I'll go back and tag in a second post.)

Diagnosis (If you've been): azoo

Cycle/CD: 13

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): Waiting for IVF w/ICSI

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Getting organized

How are things going? As the nurse cautioned when I met with her before, the RE's office did not call last week like they usually do at the end of the month, so I'm expecting a call this week. Hopefully we will get to nail down the IVF orientation day for next week (!!!) and make sure everything is arranged with the docs for August. They still haven't put in my prescription for BC, so I need to remember to remind them about that.

Any questions? Any suggestions for having the "no alcohol/tobacco for a month" conversation with DH? He does not do well with disappointment/threats, so I need to approach it in a positive way. My first thought was a star chart, but that seems to be my teacher mind at work

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week! It's been soooo busy this past week already. DH has family in town and we've been doing every touristy thing ever. We should get a great view for the fireworks tomorrow and catch some epic rainbows with the sprinkles this week.

tamalahoops · July 2017

@WillRunForWine21 from my consent form "due to how harmful scented products can be for our embryos, patients who arrive for a procedure wearing a scented product will be ask to either reschedule or shower before their procedure." And then they list every product that could possibly have scents including laundry detergent, cosmetics and things like cigarette smoke and scented tobacco vapor.

So I'm not sure what the actual scientific reasoning is but there are signs all over the office explaining why there are no scented products in the bathroom etc.

AlohaKumu · July 2017

@lund I'm glad you'll get to see your RE this week to discuss your results. Hopefully your friend won't be too annoying if you decide to bring her. Does she just not do well on long car rides?
@zwink1 I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling drained by the IF conversations. None of this is fair or easy. Definitely take time for you and embrace the things that make you feel "centered." If he's comfortable seeing a professional, it could help a lot. (I know it helped for DH, since obviously I'm emotionally invested in it, too.)
@JuneRoseRuby That denial of azoo is so rough. I know it was one blow after another for us when we started learning why DH had a -0- count. I'm really pulling for you and I hope the RE can give you some options, even if it seems bleak now. You are not alone in this.
@WillRunForWine21 Good luck with the IUI!!!
@sbarluccico It's totally normal to start thinking of the future way before it gets here. This morning I had to bring my mind to a halt because all I could think about was the timing if our IVF works and wondering if I should delay it for a month. The brain is a goofy thing and sometimes it's very challenging to think straight with all the confusion that IF brings.

kiwi2628 · July 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): Unexplained bullshit

Cycle/CD: 12/1 . I have arrived.

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Well, I went in for a (pointless) beta today because my insurance won't let me do IUI #2 without doctor proof of a negative test, so I had a beta done today. Shockingly to me sine I have buckets of blood coming out of my vagina, it was negative (see my sarcasm), but on u/s I do have 2 big cysts. Goody. Luckily, they aren't producing any hormone, so I am starting climid again in a few days and then I will do the ovidrel shot again and then IUI #2, electric bugaloo.

How are things going? See above rant

Any questions?

GTKY: Tell me about something fun that you're doing this week!

BBQ at my in-laws. They have a pool, a lake and a boat, a smoker and a massive grill pit. Its so 4th of July ready!

purplepelican · July 2017

I've gone down the rabbit hole of internet stuff on PCOS today (super slow day at work here), but I just came across this scientific study abstract that showed that drinking spearmint tea 2x per day for a month significantly lowered the androgen levels of women with PCOS. Interesting. Looks like I'll be picking some spearmint tea up today. Anyone heard of this before?

ETA - Me in the tea aisle of the grocery store:

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