my mother in law. So for DH's family we sent e-card announcements that we are "expecting" a girl due September 17th. Super cute and all. She provided me the email list, I had it appear sent from her, it has a link to baby registry (DH's family lives on the other side of the country from us, so baby shower invites would be inappropriate). She keeps texting me, oh can you send it to this person too? oh and this person. For example...she had her sister's email on there, THEN texts me "Oh she never checks her email, send it to DH's cousin"...why dont you just tell your sister to check her email? I just can't. His cousin is our friend on FB & Insta and is well aware of the pregnancy, it's meant to be sent to the adulting family members...I have begun ignoring her texts.
andplusalso, EVERY TIME WE TALK SHE IS ALWAYS ASKING DH & I TO BUY THEM STUFF. Like monogrammed tshirts and stuff. NO. We are preparing for a BABY, to sell our house, to buy a house, and to move 1000 miles. I do not have time for this. All the while, they haven't bought a goddamn thing for babygirl, their FIRST GRANDCHILD. They sent cards for mothers day and fathers day, but haven't bought anything for their grandchild, and are more obsessed with stupid personalized shirts from DH's current command. That is not on my priority list, and THEY ALREADY HAVE SHIRTS.
I stood in the caf this lunch time and almost cried. I figured out early in the pregnancy that I can't eat a normal sized lunch and still get things accomplished through the rest of the day (if I eat a normal lunch meal, my stomach riots and I feel gross for the rest of the day). So I have to eat a little bit at noon, a little bit at 2, and a little bit at 4. That's fine, that's been working for me for months.
With the new GD diagnosis, now I have to figure out: what is light on carbs? what can I eat here that's lean protein? oh, and are there a couple non-starchy vegetable servings? And how do I do all that while still only eating something small? And if I eat three snacks over 6 hours instead of a lunch, when exactly am I supposed to take my blood sugar reading?
I know it's worth it, and I know I can do it. I just hate 1) being told what I can and cannot do with my own body and 2) I feel like women have been growing babies for millennia, but I can't do it without a careful diet. what is wrong with me?
i sowwie. That just seems so frustrating. You told us before that you're homies with the cafeteria people right? (might be getting you confused with someone else), maybe you can let them know what you're up against and they may help you out?
@jena333-2 I am so sorry you have to deal with it. I need to get my 3 hr done this week and I am a little nervous. And for really all the reasons you just stated! I am a huge B when it comes to my food so this is creating a lot of uneeded anxiety for me. Stay strong mama! You can do this and vent to us for the next few months!
Sorry @jena333-2 It will definitely get easier, and it's not forever. Changing habits is always hard.
Today's TW is Clothes Mentor. After major nesting and purging closets this weekend, I have tons of stuff to get rid of. I have a lot of clothes that have been worn once, or never worn, so I figured I'd try to get some $ for them. Clothes Mentor gave me a whopping $7 for two pairs of shoes and didn't take any of the clothes, including stuff from Old Navy, Banana Republic, and Stitch Fix with tags still on. Oh well. It'll all go to charity now, because I just want it out of my house!
@jena333-2 I'm sorry. You shouldn't feel bad about having to be on a special diet. Sure people may not have done those diets and additional monitoring decades ago, but their infant mortality rate was also a whole lot higher than what it is now. You got this!
My TW is my BP. It's fine half the time, and then randomly will go crazy for no apparent reason. Why can't it just stay low like I am normally when not pregnant!?!
Ugh my FIL is the winner this week! He is mad because my God Mother bought us a new car seat and he thinks we should return it for the money and take a used one from some stranger atbhis church. I have tried to explain the safety implications and how I'm not comfortable with it but legit ANYTHING other than a safety device would be fine. He told us that we are being ungrateful and need to learn to accept help. We are tight on money but we aren't that broke. Besides he is normally too busy with his new family to remember he has a son, he only ever swoops in when he wants to give a lecture on something he has no right to step in on since my husband was 5.
@jena333-2 im sorry it does feel frustrating and disheartening to feel like everyone around you is having easier pregnancies than you are.
@jena333-2 I fully understand. We had tacos at lunch today and I asked for no rice or corn than ate it out of its shell with a fork. Some lady walked by and gave me an odd look. She can be my TW Tuesday. I wanted to yell "B you think I want to eat my lunch this way!"It is for sure a life adjustment!
@breath-easy92 Um, he doesn't see the irony in calling it a failure to accept help and being ungrateful when he's basically telling you to say "thanks God mother for helping us with this nice new car seat that you totally didn't have to buy for us, but we're going to go ahead and return it so we can just have the cash" ?
**TW**
Me & DH: 32 Married 2013 Kiddo #1: Sept 2015 BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
@breath-easy92 Um, he doesn't see the irony in calling it a failure to accept help and being ungrateful when he's basically telling you to say "thanks God mother for helping us with this nice new car seat that you totally didn't have to buy for us, but we're going to go ahead and return it so we can just have the cash" ?
this is exactly what i was about to say. Like, why can't you be grateful for someone buying you something new?
@wannabeamongoose YES THANK YOU! I feel like it would be so rude to return it for cash and take a random car seat after she took the time and researched the safest car seat with the best reviews to get for us. Way nicer than we could afford but we would have gotten the best one we could afford if she hadn't gotten it for us. (It's the Britax B-Safe/B-Agile travel system for anyone interested).
my mother in law. So for DH's family we sent e-card announcements that we are "expecting" a girl due September 17th. Super cute and all. She provided me the email list, I had it appear sent from her, it has a link to baby registry (DH's family lives on the other side of the country from us, so baby shower invites would be inappropriate). She keeps texting me, oh can you send it to this person too? oh and this person. For example...she had her sister's email on there, THEN texts me "Oh she never checks her email, send it to DH's cousin"...why dont you just tell your sister to check her email? I just can't. His cousin is our friend on FB & Insta and is well aware of the pregnancy, it's meant to be sent to the adulting family members...I have begun ignoring her texts.
My MIL shower experience has been a minor annoyance compared to this but I had similar frustrating moments when she kept telling me what info to add to the Google spreadsheet that she had access to and could have added herself!
@jena333-2 I'm so sorry you're struggling with this new GD diagnosis. Just remember it's temporary and you're 100% going to outsmart it and have a healthy baby!
@jena333-2 You can do it So if you're eating every 2 hours, just check before you eat each time. The subsequent checks are your post-meal checks and pre-meal checks at the same time. If you have any questions about particular foods and how they'll respond with your blood sugars in general, just ask me
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@Breath_Easy92 I definitely wouldn't return the car seat. That would be super disrespectful to your godmother. Hopefully your FIL can understand that. It's one thing to return gifts that are duplicates or not your style, but to return really amazing gifts in hopes of getting cash would make me feel super awkward to explain to the people who were nice enough to buy them.
@MrsVP614 thanks at this point we don't really care if he understands anymore, he wants to come over tonight so we will see what that is about but he says he just wants to help out the blinds and curtains up.
Re: TW Tuesday 6/20
andplusalso, EVERY TIME WE TALK SHE IS ALWAYS ASKING DH & I TO BUY THEM STUFF. Like monogrammed tshirts and stuff. NO. We are preparing for a BABY, to sell our house, to buy a house, and to move 1000 miles. I do not have time for this. All the while, they haven't bought a goddamn thing for babygirl, their FIRST GRANDCHILD. They sent cards for mothers day and fathers day, but haven't bought anything for their grandchild, and are more obsessed with stupid personalized shirts from DH's current command. That is not on my priority list, and THEY ALREADY HAVE SHIRTS.
I stood in the caf this lunch time and almost cried. I figured out early in the pregnancy that I can't eat a normal sized lunch and still get things accomplished through the rest of the day (if I eat a normal lunch meal, my stomach riots and I feel gross for the rest of the day). So I have to eat a little bit at noon, a little bit at 2, and a little bit at 4. That's fine, that's been working for me for months.
With the new GD diagnosis, now I have to figure out: what is light on carbs? what can I eat here that's lean protein? oh, and are there a couple non-starchy vegetable servings? And how do I do all that while still only eating something small? And if I eat three snacks over 6 hours instead of a lunch, when exactly am I supposed to take my blood sugar reading?
I know it's worth it, and I know I can do it. I just hate 1) being told what I can and cannot do with my own body and 2) I feel like women have been growing babies for millennia, but I can't do it without a careful diet. what is wrong with me?
I'm feeling cranky, emotional, and overwhelmed.
i sowwie. That just seems so frustrating. You told us before that you're homies with the cafeteria people right? (might be getting you confused with someone else), maybe you can let them know what you're up against and they may help you out?
It will definitely get easier, and it's not forever. Changing habits is always hard.
Today's TW is Clothes Mentor. After major nesting and purging closets this weekend, I have tons of stuff to get rid of. I have a lot of clothes that have been worn once, or never worn, so I figured I'd try to get some $ for them. Clothes Mentor gave me a whopping $7 for two pairs of shoes and didn't take any of the clothes, including stuff from Old Navy, Banana Republic, and Stitch Fix with tags still on. Oh well. It'll all go to charity now, because I just want it out of my house!
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
My TW is my BP. It's fine half the time, and then randomly will go crazy for no apparent reason. Why can't it just stay low like I am normally when not pregnant!?!
@jena333-2 im sorry it does feel frustrating and disheartening to feel like everyone around you is having easier pregnancies than you are.
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
@jena333-2 I'm so sorry you're struggling with this new GD diagnosis. Just remember it's temporary and you're 100% going to outsmart it and have a healthy baby!
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20