@breath-easy92 Um, he doesn't see the irony in calling it a failure to accept help and being ungrateful when he's basically telling you to say "thanks God mother for helping us with this nice new car seat that you totally didn't have to buy for us, but we're going to go ahead and return it so we can just have the cash" ?
my mother in law. So for DH's family we sent e-card announcements that we are "expecting" a girl due September 17th. Super cute and all. She provided me the email list, I had it appear sent from her, it has a link to baby registry (DH's family lives on the other side of the country from us, so baby shower invites would be inappropriate). She keeps texting me, oh can you send it to this person too? oh and this person. For example...she had her sister's email on there, THEN texts me "Oh she never checks her email, send it to DH's cousin"...why dont you just tell your sister to check her email? I just can't. His cousin is our friend on FB & Insta and is well aware of the pregnancy, it's meant to be sent to the adulting family members...I have begun ignoring her texts.