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holly321 · June 2017

*As always, not guaranteed to be flame free.

holly321 · June 2017

I can't stand my neighbor across the street. She is really nosey and judgy. I have literally never had a conversation with her the 8 years I lived her. Well, she calls the cops on all the neighbors for everything. We know she has called the cops at least twice on our dog. She is a beagle she barks. When she starts, she is made come in. But the two times, there were extenuating circumstances. One time, DD spilt food all over the house, then DS had gotten sick on himself. If I brought barking dog in, she would have eaten an entire box of cheezits.

Anyway, the last week or two, I have been leaving her out to bark, since we are moving.

SkilledSailor · June 2017

My periods are ridiculously painful. After three years together, my H knows me well enough to know this pain is real and not exaggerated. So he's super helpful on CD1 and 2. My confession is that I milk it a little. It's the one day a month he goes above and beyond and does everything for me and while the pain still sucks, it's kinda nice that he suddenly does all of his chores right away and brings me my favorite treats.

lurvleybunchococonuts · June 2017

My FFFC is that there's something with the combination of the timing of when I take my PNVs + if I have coffee that results in having a good AM poop. I've taken my PNVs on a caffeine free day, not so good. No PNVs on a coffee day, not so good. PNVs in the afternoon on a caffeine free or on a coffee day, not so good. But PNVs in the morning + caffeine = legit good poop. It's science (at least for me). Also I have the sense of humor of a child, so poop is funny.

pebbledam · June 2017

My FFFC is I'm pretty sure I've already shared all my juicy confessions with y'all.

vflux33 · June 2017

@pebbledam Yeah me too. After those 1 or 2 FFFC after dark threads, my well is dry.

icecubeinthedesert · June 2017

My FFFC is that I've always worried that I'm cursed to not have children. My basis for that worry? I am the oldest child, and in both of my parents' families, the oldest child didn't have kids. Pretty sure birth order has nothing to do with fertility, because, like, science, but I've been thinking about it since I was probably 10.

adirat · June 2017

icecubeinthedesert said:

My FFFC is that I've always worried that I'm cursed to not have children. My basis for that worry? I am the oldest child, and in both of my parents' families, the oldest child didn't have kids. Pretty sure birth order has nothing to do with fertility, because, like, science, but I've been thinking about it since I was probably 10.

@icecubeinthedesert I've had this irrational thought too. None of my dad's sisters had kids. What if (our last name) women are cursed?!?!

hedgepig · June 2017

FFFC: Every week that this thread doesn't go after dark I get super disappointed. Not that I have anything juicy to add, I just love reading what everyone else is doing.

looeeze · June 2017

I have the ability to work from home some days (like today!), which is great. Except I get almost no work done on the days I am home because I hate my job and have been avoiding doing real work because I don't think my work ultimately matters anymore.

wishiwaspreggo · June 2017

I had a horrible fallout with my best friend three years ago. She married a homophobic pastor. I know a lot about her reasons for this and I don't blame her for that but she lied, lied, lied, and lied some more. Her dishonesty (and failure to own up to it) is ultimately what destroyed our friendship.

Anyway, I have a secret Facebook account I stalk her from. She blocked me and my wife on our regular pages. I keep watching it hoping to see a pregnancy announcement because, really, that's pretty much the only reason she married this swine. I always figured she'd pop out the 4 kids she wanted and then leave him when she came to her senses.

Over 3 years and still nothing. Part of me wants to reach out to her because I believe she's experiencing infertility and she probably needs support which I can't imagine she's getting from her religious friends who all have 5+ kids each.

But I'm too bitter. I hate that I still care.

elisek · June 2017

For me, "I just sent the email" always means "I totally forgot and will send it in the next 2 minutes."

I'm not sure this will get the "after dark" session started, but when I was in high school I thought the amount of CM I had was a result of too much self-pleasure. Like my body was expecting to be ready to go because I'd started a pattern of it! I had NO IDEA it was related to fertility and ovulation and felt a fair amount of shame about it. Got to love shame over being a totally normal adolescent girl!

pebbledam · June 2017

@wishiwaspreggo - Sucks about your friend. I had a friend (not super close to, but we had many mutual friends) that "went back" to being straight and stopped talking to everyone. I used to FB stalk her, but I guess I finally did give up hope that she would come to her senses.

@elisek - I was a little late to the masturbating game. I was probably 16 before I masturbated and probably 20 before I started to understand that being wet sometimes was normal. In high school, I definitely thought something was wrong with me! I'm not sure if that's a lack of sex ed or just normal teenage insecurity.

Oh, and I grew up in the bible belt, so we were taught abstinence-only education. *TW* Our valedictorian was 4 months pregnant when we graduated, so it obviously worked.

*TW*

petethecat · June 2017

My FFFC is that I lurk, no stalk, the IF thread hard. Like, peeping Tom in the bushes hard. Sometimes I love tit, but I seriously restrain myself because I know I don't "go there" and I don't want it to look like I'm trying to butt in. I really want to love tit more and sometimes even comment when something exciting or sad happens, but I don't because I remember that some of the IF ladies don't post much outside of that thread, so it's possible that some of them don't "know" me.

If any of you guys are reading this, know that I've been following all of your stories closely and cheering each and every one of you on hard. Your strength, knowledge, and humor in the face of everything is amazing.

jenotontx · June 2017

pebbledam said

Oh, and I grew up in the bible belt, so we were taught abstinence-only education. *TW* Our valedictorian was 4 months pregnant when we graduated, so it obviously worked. *TW*

I live in Texas now and I fully intend to have very open discussion with my kids about all things that includes sex and bodies and science. So let's just say if the topic comes up I won't be holding this educational conversation back from any little friends that may be over. Sorry not sorry.

JennyColada · June 2017

@elisek my "Oh I was just going to do that" really means "thanks for doing that so that I don't have to get up".

wishiwaspreggo · June 2017

JJMNO1616 said:

pebbledam said

Oh, and I grew up in the bible belt, so we were taught abstinence-only education. *TW* Our valedictorian was 4 months pregnant when we graduated, so it obviously worked. *TW*

I live in Texas now and I fully intend to have very open discussion with my kids about all things that includes sex and bodies and science. So let's just say if the topic comes up I won't be holding this educational conversation back from any little friends that may be over. Sorry not sorry.

YES!!! Indiana here. I had a friend who grew up in a small town and he told me the way his health teacher taught them about condoms was to set up a tennis net in the gym, throw ping pong balls at it, and explain sperm and diseases filter through the "pores" of the condoms so they do little to protect against STDs or pregnancy. Abstinence-only thinkers probably cheer because hey, kids won't have sex if they know they can't keep themselves safe!

Wrong. They still have sex but they do it without condoms, because why pay $10 for a box of rubbers if they don't work anyway?

I had to teach a few friends how to put on a condom properly by demonstrating with a banana.

And my son will have a no-questions-asked box of condoms in his bathroom that I'll keep stocked for him. Because I know he'll have sex. But I do NOT want to become a grandma in my 40's.

elisek · June 2017

@pebbledam & @wishiwaspreggo
I grew up in STL, so not exactly the Bible Belt (the bottom 40% of the state is Bible belt IMO) but I did go to a Christian private school through 8th grade and we def were taught STDs could get through condoms. *TW* We were also taught all BC was an abortifacent. *TW* I absolutely still have trouble with allowing myself to enjoy my sexuality as a result of some of those teachings, especially about the total lack of allowance for female sexuality.

@JJMNO1616 - I am so with you on that. I want to share all the safety and consent wisdom possible. I also plan on sharing reasons why DH and I regret some of our sexual history. Me because my first time was to try and hold together a terrible relationship with a bad guy who I was worried would break up with me if I didn't give in. DH because he felt like he couldn't leave a relationship that wasn't working because they were each other's firsts and he felt guilty that he wanted to break up. I want both sides represented: that sex should be a mature decision with open communication in a consensual relationship that has no pressure to engage, and also that having sex with someone doesn't mean you lose part of yourself or your value if that relationship ends.

drifting...
I remember somewhere online I read a comment from someone about how we should talk to young people about drugs and I've always loved the honesty of this approach. Usually kids hear drugs are horrible and you might get hurt or OD or get addicted or whatever, but then they try something like pot and they don't get hurt or addicted, they just feel good. So then it can turn into a gateway when they realize the warnings were overblown. The commenter insisted we should instead say that drugs are really really good. They make you forget about all your problems and all you feel is floating happiness. They're so good, that you forget to eat, forget to go to school or work, forget to brush your teeth. All you end up caring about is that good feeling. You stop caring about your friends or your interests or your family or your passions and goals. Your entire life ends up disappearing because all you want to do is feel good. That is why they are so dangerous.

KariAnn323 · June 2017

@kbamomma33 I'm so glad I'm not the only IF stalker

[Deleted User] · June 2017

On the topic of IF thread stalking I actually REFUSED to even open that thread until I started going through testing because I had this irrational fear that if I allowed that to be a possibility in my head it could actually manifest. Highly scientific fear.

I can't remember if I already shared this confession, but whenever we have MCM threads I always add men of color because if I don't it's almost always only white dudes. I feel like a lot of women in our culture sometimes aren't necessarily NOT attracted to non white men, but often don't even think of it as an option. So I like tempting all of you with super hot non white dudes.

SkilledSailor · June 2017

@antoto Haha I love that you add men of color. I don't think I've seen a MCM thread yet but my H is Chinese. And then my celebrity crush is Taye Diggs. That's one handsome man.

doxiemoxie212 · June 2017

I grew up in the bay area, so we had quite a lot of sex education, but none of it really talked about pleasure. Like, I definitely knew how birth control worked and how condoms worked and how effective they were, etc., and we never had teachers or parents really discourage sex, but... sex isn't just mechanical. Here are the things I wish young people were taught about sex in addition to pregnancy and STI prevention:

Wait until you're in a committed, loving relationship with someone you're deeply attracted to not because God will smite you if you don't but because sex fucking blows if you don't. It hurts the first time and the second time, and if you're like me, it still hurts the 15th time because if you lose your virginity and then wait 6 months before having sex again your vagina doesn't like sex yet. If you're in a committed, loving relationship with someone you're deeply attracted to maybe you'll keep having sex every few days until your vagina is fine with sex and you'll save yourself literal years of thinking you hate sex.
If you don't know how to make yourself orgasm you're not going to have an easy time showing someone else how to make you orgasm. BUT even if you know how to make yourself orgasm, it might take 100 times for you to figure out how to orgasm with a partner, and that's fine. Keep trying!
Expect and demand orgasms from your partner if you are making them orgasm. Don't just be honored to witness their pleasure. Your partner sucks if they don't care that you're not orgasming.
Maybe ease up on the porn not because there's anything inherently wrong with porn but because sometimes it can desensitize you and make it harder to find sex IRL with a real live human a turn on. Try using your imagination.
Also, maybe bang that reaaaaaallllly hot guy you're dating at 16 even though it will definitely end when you both go to college because if you don't you might wonder what it would've been like for the rest of your life (sorry, that one might be specific to me).

petethecat · June 2017

antoto said:

*snip*
I can't remember if I already shared this confession, but whenever we have MCM threads I always add men of color because if I don't it's almost always only white dudes. I feel like a lot of women in our culture sometimes aren't necessarily NOT attracted to non white men, but often don't even think of it as an option. So I like tempting all of you with super hot non white dudes.

lulu1180 · June 2017

@antoto Maybe you should start a MOCCM next week

wishiwaspreggo · June 2017

@elisek - Sorry that happened to you. My brother is still recovering from spiritual abuse. His church made him ashamed of himself for being attracted to women. Apparently having sexual attraction towards the opposite sex constitutes as lust? In any case, he stopped dating for years because he had impure thoughts. I don't know much about the church he went to but I guess it was strict enough that they shamed unmarried young men for being heterosexual. That's just crazy.

@doxiemoxie212 - 100% agree!! We focus on teaching mechanics and safety for sex, but not the reasons people have sex beyond procreation. There is much more to it.

zwink1 · June 2017

@antoto, I'm right there with you. I almost always toss Charles Michael Davis up there... I mean, I could come up with a new man crush, but why? Most of the time, people haven't seen my man crush yet and it gives me a good excuse to search through some pics!

I guess, in the spirit of this conversation, my FFFC is that I lost my virginity to someone I had just met earlier that day....oops. Part 2: I don't regret it. At all. He was a sweet guy (also a virgin) I was a lateish bloomer (18), and we kept in touch for quite a while afterwards...and definitely hooked up again. All in all, it was fine in my book.

izza2 · June 2017

I love anal sex.

There, we have some after dark now.

lurvleybunchococonuts · June 2017

@izza2 me too, but not all the time, I default to non butt stuff, but it's always fun

*brown chicken brown cow* and insert wiggly eyebrows

pebbledam · June 2017

@elisek - I grew up in southern Missouri about 40 minutes from Arkansas. I can confirm that it is the bible belt.

Along the lines of what @antoto said, part of me is sad that MCM is only for lusting after sexy dudes. But it's cool, I get it.

[Deleted User] · June 2017

@pebbledam I would fully support a WCW thread!

petethecat · June 2017

I could also get hot for a WCW thread @pebbledam

TravelingCouple · June 2017

kbamomma33 said:

My FFFC is that I lurk, no stalk, the IF thread hard. Like, peeping Tom in the bushes hard. Sometimes I love tit, but I seriously restrain myself because I know I don't "go there" and I don't want it to look like I'm trying to butt in. I really want to love tit more and sometimes even comment when something exciting or sad happens, but I don't because I remember that some of the IF ladies don't post much outside of that thread, so it's possible that some of them don't "know" me.

If any of you guys are reading this, know that I've been following all of your stories closely and cheering each and every one of you on hard. Your strength, knowledge, and humor in the face of everything is amazing.

That's really sweet and brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for your support

antoto said:

On the topic of IF thread stalking I actually REFUSED to even open that thread until I started going through testing because I had this irrational fear that if I allowed that to be a possibility in my head it could actually manifest. Highly scientific fear.

On the same token, I confess that before I was in the whole world of IF myself, all of the medications and procedures were totally foreign and could've been Chinese for how much I understood what they meant and what they were for. Gonal F? IUI? IVF? Progesterone? I had no clue what any of those things were or what they were used for and I remember thinking well, that'll never be me. How stupid.

doxiemoxie212 · June 2017

Also pro WCW

Aurora1973 · June 2017

@pebbledam @kbamomma33 @antoto I KNOW we did a WCW on TTGP like last year, but I cannot find it for the life of me. I remember posting my crushes:

Christina Hendricks

and Rachel McAdams

Image result for rachel mcadams

I'd be down to do that again

Although I guess I kinda just did, haha.

As far as the IF thread lurking, I can't speak for the other ladies, but support is support. I appreciate very much knowing that you guys are out there cheering us on, and if we can be a help or source of info in your journey, so much the better. I personally don't mind love titting and the occasional relevant comment with a lurker warning. You ladies are lovely.

pebbledam · June 2017

Does anyone have a hall pass list with their SO? (That movie was terrible, btw)

doxiemoxie212 · June 2017

@pebbledam DH declared last week that if he ever gets the opportunity to bang Caroline Flemming (from Ladies of London on Bravo, lol) he's taking it. But he just loves her for her dachshunds! It's weird!

lurvleybunchococonuts · June 2017

I'm on down for a wcw!
And another FFFC I've had 2 threesomes, one with two guys & me, and one with a chick, myself, and DH. The one with the other girl was WAY better

pebbledam · June 2017

@lurvleybunchococonuts - I like how the thread stopped at your FFFC.

I guess I've only had one threesome. The other activities would quite classify as such.

lurvleybunchococonuts · June 2017

@pebbledam I know right? Apparently I broke TTGP FFFC. Win?
Is there such thing as too "after dark"?

petethecat · June 2017

lurvleybunchococonuts said:

@pebbledam I know right? Apparently I broke TTGP FFFC. Win?
Is there such thing as too "after dark"?

Um, def no. Cruise a few weeks on back my friend.

lurvleybunchococonuts · June 2017

Lmao, I was still in my three day no posting/waiting period when the FFFC turned into butt stuff 101. I laughed, lurked, and thought "hey look, I'm not the only one!" which helped solidify my thinking that I might fit in here okay.

Upon further thought, I might've just been lurking back a few weeks and getting a feel for the community and coming across that thread is what solidified joining, I don't remember which it was, I like to lurk. And either way butt stuff 101 helped me find all you awesome gals!

Edited to clarify + spelling stupid phone

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